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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Sad and scared  |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 3:31:22 PM
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Last night, the Mister got into a huge fight with his mother over his lack of a job. She insisted he try fast food--even though he's been a vegetarian for over twelve years and most fast food places are not vegetarian-friendly. He's also terrible at customer service (the last time he was in such a position he had a nervous breakdown).
Anyway, he went totally off the rails. He got roaring drunk, slashed the heck out of his left arm, and started pricing guns. Tonight, he's out with the hussy who is chasing after him.
...Help? Please?
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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jan49829
True Blue Farmgirl
2428 Posts
Janet
Winter Haven
Florida
USA
2428 Posts |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 4:12:24 PM
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Oh, my. Ditto what Janet advised. I'll say a prayer for you.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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forgetmenot
True Blue Farmgirl
3602 Posts
Judith
Nora Springs
IA
USA
3602 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 4:20:47 PM
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Alyce, I am definitely praying for you...and for him. Stay safe!
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the belief that something is more important than fear." Ambrose Red Moon |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 4:34:56 PM
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Thanks Janet, Marly, and Judith...I'm more afraid FOR him at this point because he (for some reason) admires Kurt Cobain's suicide. Plus, every time he is around this hussy he gets very stressed so I can only imagine what it's doing to his mental state.
He was doing so well until that fight with his mom. She always seems to push him to take jobs that would be downright dangerous for him.
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 5:48:31 PM
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Maybe he needs help. I don't think it is too healthy to admire a suicide. I would be concerned for myself and for him.
Stay safe.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 6:00:25 PM
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He does, frankly; I've spent years trying to encourage him to seek it. You know that saying about leading a horse to water but not being able to make him drink? This horse won't even leave the barn.
To my relief, he's crashing at an old friend's house. This friend should be able to knock some sense into him (and is capable of taking him in a fight if it comes to that).
I realize now that I should have been more specific when I hoped for an interesting life!
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 6:36:00 PM
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Praying for you both, Alyce. Oh, how overwhelmed you must feel... God love and bless you... Janet's right, though - even if it's him you're most concerned about, you still need to be sure you're safe until things calm down, okay? Is there a good friend or relative you can go stay with for a short while? I hate the thought of you being alone right now, sweetheart. I'd feel so much better knowing someone was there to comfort you and sit with you while you ride out this storm. Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
www.papercraftingwithnini.myctmh.com
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 6:40:40 PM
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Alyce, I agree with Nini. I hope you aren't alone. I also hope you've let someone close to you know what's going on. Take care.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 6:44:48 PM
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Thank you Nini...unfortunately, my family is an hour away. I do have friends I could call if need be--but right now, Mister is an hour in the other direction while he calms himself down.
He'll be gone for at least a day or two, and by that point we will both have clearer heads. I'm hanging out in here to keep my thoughts positive so I don't give MIL a piece of my mind! (She sometimes really seems to enjoy messing with his head, even though she knows he's fragile. Poisonous, poisonous woman.)
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2012 : 8:54:49 PM
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Marly, I've been keeping them posted. Thanks!
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 05:42:11 AM
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Alyce-
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your Mister. I am keeping you and yours in my prayers. I am going to email you my number if you need something I am only about 45 minutes away!! Call if you need anything or if you need to talk.
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 06:17:36 AM
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Alyce,
I am only 40 minutes away. We still need to meet up. I will be in FL for the next week but will e-mail you when I get back. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
I am trying to be the person my dogs think I am.
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 08:44:04 AM
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Thank you Lori; if it's okay, I may take you up on that talk this afternoon. 
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 08:44:39 AM
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Thank you Diane. Have a great time in Florida!
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
1511 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 09:04:45 AM
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remember that if he is a threat to himself, you can call 911 and tell them so, he will end up in a hospital for a minnumim of 72 hours, and then he could get the help he needs...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 09:56:57 AM
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Thank you for the reminder, Tina. He doesn't want me to call them, but if his life is on the line I'm not likely to listen.
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
2099 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 10:44:40 AM
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| Not going to go into detail here, but I understand what you're going through. I hope he's able to get help, but look for support for yourself also. Having to live with this kind of uncertainly and worry for a loved one can really mess with your own emotions and your ability to do what you need to. It's not easy. I'll be thinking of you, and hoping everything turns out ok. |
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grace gerber
True Blue Farmgirl
2804 Posts
grace
larkspur
colorado
USA
2804 Posts |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 12:14:11 PM
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Amie, thank you. It's so frustrating because it seems like every time he's doing well, his mother just HAS to poison the whole thing. *sigh*
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 12:15:04 PM
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Grace, thank you. It's easy enough finding him outside help, but getting him to take it is another matter entirely!
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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farmmilkmama
True Blue Farmgirl
2027 Posts
Amy
Central MN
USA
2027 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2012 : 3:05:02 PM
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Alyce, what a storm you are going through right now! And how frustrating to see how his mom can push his buttons. :( Please know that you have a lot of farmgirls thinking of you and praying for you right now. Please keep us updated about what is going on!
--* FarmMilkMama *--
Farmgirl Sister #1086
Be yourself.
Everyone else is already taken.
-Oscar Wilde
www.farmfoodmama.blogspot.com
www.thehmmmschoolingmom.blogspot.com |
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MrsRooster
True Blue Farmgirl
1168 Posts
Amy
Seabrook
TX
USA
1168 Posts |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Feb 13 2012 : 07:22:38 AM
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| Alyce- sending lots of prayers your way....please let us know how things are going? |
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Feb 13 2012 : 07:29:09 AM
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Alyce, it sounds like he does need help--and you need to help yourself. It's an unsafe situation to be in, no matter how much you love and want to protect him, the old cliche is true--he can't love you if he doesn't love himself. I'm sure his mother knows how to wind him up, but that's such an overt reaction that I feel like there is instability in other ways.
I'm sure I'm overstepping here, but I wouldn't let him come back unless he gets the help he needs. Life is WAY to short to be on a crazy ride like this one--take it from someone who's been on it before and finally jumped off!!!! I did this for many years with a man and I finally had to realize that I contributed to his issues by allowing him to hurt himself and seemed to somewhat enable him. Oddly enough, when we separated, he really cleaned up and got his act together--initially to win me back, but later, thankfully, it "stuck" and he's a happier person.
"Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile..."
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Edited by - FebruaryViolet on Feb 13 2012 08:16:01 AM |
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
1511 Posts |
Posted - Feb 13 2012 : 08:44:07 AM
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I'm sorry, but after reading and posting on both of your topics about your "mister", I think you might be handleing a keg of gunpowder in a forest fire, you might be in a no win world, stay safe...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: Sad and scared |
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Sad and scared
