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Parenting & Farm Kids:  Trouble Conceiving  |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
 Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:01:45 PM
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My husband and I will celebrate our 10th anniversary next month. We always considered having kids but for a long time it just didnt feel right for me and my husband was okay with that. About 2 1/2 years ago we decided it was a more likely possibility and I went off of hormonal birth control to allow my body to adjust to its natural state. I am overweight and while I havent lost any pounds I have increased muscle, decresed fat and lowered both my blood pressure and my cholesterol through exercise. About 8 months ago we started actively "trying" to get pregnant. It hasnt happened yet and I am starting to get more and more worried with it. My doctor told me it could be a year before we got pregnant. I'm okay with it if it doesnt happen but the emotional toll each month is getting to me. I spend all month wondering if this is the month - and then my period comes and I get really depressed. I'm not really sure which kind of response I am looking for. Just needed to get this out I guess. Thanks for listening.
Farmgirl Sister #17
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:24:46 PM
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(((HUGS))) Julie, I can't imagine how hard it is to wait like that. I'm so sorry you're having to go through the waiting game. I pray it happens soon for you! And we will be here to rejoice with you when you make the announcement :)
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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Angel.Doc
Farmgirl at Heart
4 Posts
Bernice
Winter Haven
Florida
USA
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Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:25:06 PM
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Try going to a chiropractor. It has been a huge help to many couples. Both you and your husband should go to increase your chances. Also, you many want to stress less about it. I know several couples that finally gave up and adopted to find they were pregnant. I hope that helps.
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TeaPriestess
True Blue Farmgirl
76 Posts
Dionne
Duluth
Georgia
USA
76 Posts |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:40:50 PM
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((Hugs)) I had the same issues with conception as you are. It was so agonizing to think 'maybe this is the month' and then have it not be. It's really tough. Try to be gentle with yourself when you do get your cycle. Think that your body is creating an even more healthy space for your child to live in. I found that doing yoga helped me in so many ways while I was waiting to concieve. Hope this helps.
"Tea is drunk to forget the din of the world."- Tien Yiheng
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CynthiaT.
True Blue Farmgirl
55 Posts
Cynthia
Alpena
Arkansas
USA
55 Posts |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:50:45 PM
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Julie, I have been where you are. And in fact, I'm still there. I had tried for 17 years to get pregnant when I finally gave birth to a beautiful bouncing 9 lb 9 oz baby girl almost three years ago. But, let me back up a little.
I started trying just after I got married, when I was 18. (I am now 38 - as of today in fact... it's my birthday!) Needless to say, I went to several Reproductive specialists from Virginia to Hawaii only to be told that there was no reason or was told of things like I had PCOS and then was told that I didn't from another doctor. (My first husband was in the military. We were married for almost 12 years.)
After I left my first husband I gave up "trying." Then I met my current husband. (We've been married seven years as of last month.) We began trying to conceive immediately after getting married. After we had been married almost two years we decided to look into adopting a baby. About six months later we adopted our son, at birth, in Southern Arkansas. When he was 13 months old, I found out that I was pregnant. I was in shock after trying for so long and then Wham! I get pregnant when I wasn't even trying. As a matter of fact, I had gained weight after my son arrived and I lost my sex drive. So I was lucky to have gotten pregnant because we were lucky if we had sex once every couple of weeks!
Then at the beginning of last April, I got pregnant. But we lost the baby at the very end of May (when I was 6 weeks along.)
We are trying again to get pregnant. I looked back to both pregnancies and realized that I got pregnant when I wasn't trying and when I had just started trying to lose weight. So I am trying something new this cycle.
If you ever want to talk about it, email me and I'll send you my phone number and we can talk.
I hope that me telling you my story gives you hope.
Cynthia
Farmgirl sister # 852 |
Edited by - CynthiaT. on Jun 18 2010 5:55:14 PM |
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Mama Jewel
True Blue Farmgirl
435 Posts
Jewel
Sweet Peas Farmette,
Bend, OR
USA
435 Posts |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 9:01:05 PM
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Julie, I went through infertility for six years & went through a lot of treatments & laproscopy & found out I had blocked tubes (from endometriosis) & wouldn't be able to conceive. It was emotionally very hard & there are still times that can be hard, but I have four precious children that we have adopted (God's timing: every 4 yrs) & I feel so blessed & thankful. It's certainly not how I pictured things, but God has plans and I when I look into each of my four dear children's eyes, I love them more than they'll ever know. I just want you to know that you're not alone and through this sisterhood, whenever you need to talk, we're here for you & I pray that however your family is put together, it will be a wonderful, bonding, beautiful time of celebration.
Love...always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Cor 13:7
Farm Girl Sister #1683 Living Simply & Naturally
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knead2garden
True Blue Farmgirl
359 Posts
Ashley
Spring City
TN
USA
359 Posts |
Posted - Jun 20 2010 : 05:06:16 AM
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Sending hugs to you....
~Ashley
#1677
"In the end we will conserve only what we love; we will love only what we understand; and we will understand only what we have been taught." -Baba Dioum |
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LouisvilleMom
True Blue Farmgirl
246 Posts
Kathryn
Louisville
KY
USA
246 Posts |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 2:21:16 PM
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Julie I am so sorry. I cannot count the number of friends I have known who have struggled with infertility. I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you must be feeling. I will keep you in my thoughts sweetie.
SAHM mom to four great boys.
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
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Ms.Lilly
True Blue Farmgirl
826 Posts
Lillian
Scotts Mills
OR
USA
826 Posts |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 6:53:35 PM
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Julie-You are most fertile (ovulating) 10-13 days after you start your period. I have been through this and I know it is much easier said than done, but just RELAX and enjoy all of the fun you are having trying.
Lillian |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 8:53:02 PM
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We have been charting, taking temps, checking mucus etc., etc., We've been to the doctor and all the tests say we shouldnt be having any problems. Thats the problem. We SHOULDNT be having problems. 2 1/2 years is a long time. I know we werent "trying" for about a year and 3/4 of that but we werent "not trying" eaither.
Farmgirl Sister #17
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TeaPriestess
True Blue Farmgirl
76 Posts
Dionne
Duluth
Georgia
USA
76 Posts |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 8:53:03 PM
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Julie~
Just thinking about you today and saying a prayer that you are feeling better and remembering that you are loved.
"Tea is drunk to forget the din of the world."- Tien Yiheng
Yay I'm Farmgirl Sister #1690! |
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CynthiaT.
True Blue Farmgirl
55 Posts
Cynthia
Alpena
Arkansas
USA
55 Posts |
Posted - Jun 22 2010 : 08:08:36 AM
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Lillian, not all women are most fertile days 10-13. It all depends on their cycle. For instance, my most fertile are days 13-16. But I don't ovulate until day 17 and my cycles are 31 days long.
Julie, have you tried using ovulation predictor kits or a Clear Plan Easy Fertility Monitor? I love the monitor because it tells you when your best chances of conceiving are. They are a little pricy (around $200 - plus another $50 for the test strips-- which is for 3 months supply.) You can buy them at Walgreens. My doctor swears by it. She conceived her two children using it.
I too have done everything under the moon, with the exception of IVF (which we were about to do right before we found out about our son.)
Julie, are you doing the bbt temp? Did you know that by the time that your temp rises that it's basically too late to conceive because you have already ovulated? Don't "save up" the sperm because you want to have a fresh supply to fertilize the egg. Make sure that you are drinking plenty of water because it helps you cervical mucus, which in turn helps the sperm to get where it needs to go.
I know that it's a tiring thing to go through, but the worst thing that you can do is stress over it. And trust me, I know that's easier said than done.
But I'm here if I you have any questions. Has your hubby been checked?
Cynthia
Farmgirl sister # 852 |
Edited by - CynthiaT. on Jun 22 2010 08:15:50 AM |
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LenaSassafrass
True Blue Farmgirl
69 Posts
Leanne
Hamilton
Montana
USA
69 Posts |
Posted - Jun 26 2010 : 10:53:16 PM
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Julie I totally am feeling your pain. I have a 3 year old son and we began actively trying 2 years ago for our 2nd after being off of depo for 3 months. It is such a hard journey especially when the doctors haven't a clue as to why. Relaxing is so hard...I gave up charting because it made my depression even worse when I knew it had all been timed perfectly. I hope and pray that you WILL get pregnant..the wait will so be worth it! Email me if you ever need it.HUGS
Maizy-brownswiss/jersey
Sassafrass-06/20/10 |
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Jun 27 2010 : 08:05:09 AM
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I was told at 13 I'd never have children. I was very upset. When I got pregnant at 17 I had to keep the baby. It was my miracle child. Then, after my husband and I was married 2 years I was pregnant agian! We were thrilled! Now I had 2 miracles and was happy beyond belief. Then, 8 years later we were discussing my sisters issues gettin pregnant and all of a sudden realized that I was many months late myself. After 2 pregnancy test we realized that miracle #3 was on it's way! I truly believe that gettin healthy and not 'tryin' as much as enjoyin is the key. It will happen when it's supposed to and there's not a whole lot a person can do to force it sometimes.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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yasmine
True Blue Farmgirl
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yasmine
wappingers falls
ny
USA
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Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 05:11:09 AM
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| hugs....try, along with prayer to our creater, God the father, doing a gluten free -sugar free diet....., do meat, vegetables , and fruit ..no dairy and sugar.... try it for a couple of months. it cant hurt! I regulates lots o stuff in your body! |
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36paws20hooves
True Blue Farmgirl
161 Posts
Danielle
Weirsdale
Florida
USA
161 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 02:39:00 AM
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I am one of the "I'm tired of trying babies". My sister is 10 yrs older than I. My parents gave up and *BOOP* there I was. I have heard that from others as well.
I'm so busy I don't know if I just found a rope or lost my horse! |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 06:07:31 AM
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Yeah my husband's co-worker was on a waiting list to adopt for 12 years! finally got the baby they were waiting for, and his wife got pregnant! So they have 2 kids now. lol :)
My dad and step mom also had a lot of problems, with fertility drugs they have 3 children, through adoption they have another 6!
My sister has PCOS, she has pretty much decided to just adopt and not worry about it. She said she really don't care how she gets kids as long as she gets some! :) And she's not worried about not being able to actually conceive children.
However, I am of both camps. I always wanted to be pregnant at least once just for the experience! And then adopt a bunch. So I can see both sides of the fence on infertility.
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doglady
True Blue Farmgirl
435 Posts
Tina
Howard
Ohio
USA
435 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 06:25:44 AM
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Both you and the hubby should stop drinking all caffine - if you drink it - as caffine has been known to interfere with pregnancy. Tell hubby to wear boxers too. These two things really work. Good Luck!
Tina
You can tell your dog all of your secrets and they'll never say a word!
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star-schipp
True Blue Farmgirl
942 Posts
Starletta
Middletown
Indiana
USA
942 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 05:45:43 AM
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I have always had success with the "taking your temperature' method. Start taking your temp with a digital thermometer in the morning when you wake up and BEFORE you get up. Keep a chart. You will see an increase your temp and them a drastic drop in your temp - this is a sign that your are ovulating and should be able to conceive if you are "exposed" to sperm. (sorry, didn't no any other delicate was to put it!)
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Lanna
True Blue Farmgirl
330 Posts
Lanna
A little town in Idaho
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Posted - Aug 28 2010 : 2:03:30 PM
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Originally posted by willowtreecreek
We have been charting, taking temps, checking mucus etc., etc., We've been to the doctor and all the tests say we shouldn't be having any problems. That's the problem. We SHOULDN'T be having problems. 2 1/2 years is a long time. I know we weren't "trying" for about a year and 3/4 of that but we weren't "not trying" either.
That's what I was going to ask - whether you have yourself a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I guess luckily I haven't had this particular problem (quite the opposite - blessing and a curse), but I have heard of folks making dietary changes that helped. Like laying off ingesting so many preservatives, caffeine, aspartame, etc.
I do have a few acquaintances that started the adoption process, and either were thisclose to a referral, or had brought the babe home when they 'magically' conceived on their own. I have no idea how or why that worked, but it is a neat story.
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Lanna, mama to three little monkeys and growing a new little sprout - born at home in a creative place Feb 2010 |
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Beverley
True Blue Farmgirl
2707 Posts
Beverley
atlanta
Michigan
USA
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Posted - Aug 28 2010 : 7:07:04 PM
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julie, has your husband been tested for his sperm count? Maybe it is low?
Folks will know how large your soul is by the way you treat a dog....Charles F. Doran
beverley baggett Beverley with an extra E...
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karend26
Farmgirl at Heart
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Karen
Tampa
FL
USA
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Posted - Nov 01 2010 : 5:19:41 PM
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Yeah, the waiting is tough. I'm on month 8 of trying now. I have been just trying to enjoy the process as much as possible. Would love to know how you're doing!
Karen
www.yourcervicalmucus.com
Karen
www.yourcervicalmucus.com |
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buggysmum
True Blue Farmgirl
110 Posts
Shelly
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Posted - Nov 06 2010 : 6:50:15 PM
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I am going through the same thing. It is heartbreaking. I started acupuncture and herbs a few months ago...hopefully, it will help. Wishing you the best of luck.
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
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Posted - Nov 07 2010 : 3:28:29 PM
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Julie, I think you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. Try and relax and not fret so much. I know that sounds so hard to do. But, you and your husband have a wonderful life together. Try and concentrate on that. The fact that you have each other and have been so happy, that is a good thing all in itself. Enjoy all the things you love to do together, the freedom you have to come and go as you please, your home, friends, family. In other words try and think happy positive thoughts and I think the stress will ease on you. This exact same thing happened to my niece. Finally she just said, if it happens it happens, if not then I will be happy anyway. She has polycystic ovaries and really didn't know if she could or would get pregnant. She too was and is overweight. She did get pregnant but developed gestational diabetes bad enough to have to use insulin everyday. She has a little girl 6 yrs. old now, but, they choose not to try again.
You are certainly not alone in this.Alot of women suffer with this. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all so easy for all of you. I just hate to see women let this take over their whole life. It is so depressing and distressful, I can only imagine. But try and enjoy the life you have and all the good things in it and who knows? Maybe by taking the stress and worry off yourself every month you will get a surprise one of these times.God bless you honey.
Hugs MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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buggysmum
True Blue Farmgirl
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Shelly
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Posted - Nov 08 2010 : 6:00:55 PM
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The irony seems to be that there are soooo many things that one can try to improve the chances, but all of them add additional stress or at least anticipation. For example, I was reading so many things about what one *should* and shouldn't eat that the very simple act of eating was becoming stressful....none of this helps, of course. I don't know what the answer is but I am open to any suggestions. Mary Jane, I thought what you wrote to Julie was beautiful and true.
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