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A Farm of My Own:  Well starting over can be a good thing  |
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 3:51:09 PM
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I've decided to let my house go and told the stb ex to go ahead and sell it as I'm tired of him using it as a weapon to control me. So, now I'll be starting over from scratch. Which has me thinking it's really not that bad since I'd been wanting more property so I can have animals, anyway.
So, now I'm finally dreaming...chickens, miniature Jersey, maybe some angora goats, too. I just want a small cabin or cottage with two bedrooms so I can put my kids up when they come to visit and a sewing/craft room. Small, so I don't have to spend a lot of time cleaning (I have much better things I'd rather be doing) and have enough room to plant EVERYTHING I want. A large greenhouse, like the one MaryJane shows how to build but with several more panels to make it longer...
I'm looking already. I'm not ready to buy yet, but I have to keep my eyes and ears peeled around here as the good deals tend to go fast. I still want to be within walking distance of town so I don't have to spend a ton of money on gas and vehicle maintenance. Besides, I don't even have a vehicle, yet.
I am so excited over all the new prospects and possible opportunities in front of me. I can hardly wait to get started!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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gentlewoman farmer
True Blue Farmgirl
66 Posts
Judy
Bakersfield
Ca
USA
66 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 4:41:27 PM
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Good for you!!! As women we seldom get the chance to start over when we finally know what we want to do. Go for it. Have you thought of renting for a while? Sometimes that gives you time to really look around, You can always move the animals, or transplant an important rose bush. You can do anything you want to do now. God Bless you.
Be good to yourself and be good to this earth.
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 4:52:28 PM
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I am going be renting for a while as the stb ex is still living in our house (it was far easier to leave than to try to make him leave). Renting for a while is fine with me while I look. I don't want to rush into anything because I want to make sure I get what I really want. It's getting a bit late in life to get into anything that I'm not going to be totally happy with, even if it requires serious work on my part. I'm still 20 years from retirement, so I still have a good chance of having it paid off by the time I retire. Which is a very important goal for me.
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 5:15:06 PM
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I am proud of you. Now whatever lilfe you build will be yours, and you will feel a freedom you deserve. Let the baggage go, and go forward.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
Psalm 51: 10-13 |
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chicken necker
True Blue Farmgirl
509 Posts
Sherry
Eastern Shore
Maryland
USA
509 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 5:28:47 PM
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Wishing you the best, Lisa! Sometimes starting from scratch is the only way to do something true.
FarmGirl Sister #123
Crafty Bay FarmGirls Chapter
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way, you're right." Henry Ford |
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Buffalomary
True Blue Farmgirl
199 Posts
Mary
Caldwell
ID
USA
199 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 6:02:25 PM
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Congrats! I can definitely relate to what you are saying and feeling. I let my ex buy me out, mainly because I had no desire to stay in Tucson. I am buying where I am currently at, although it is not exactly what I had in mind (can't have all the animals I want), it is still mine and I can have my garden and chickens. I still have hopes of getting my acre but that is not where my life is at this moment. Have fun finding your new place! 
Buffalomary
Farmgirl Sister #293
You can take the farmer's daughter off the farm but you can't take the farm out of the farmer's daughter!!
Please visit me at my blog: http://buffalomaryscorner.blogspot.com |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 6:12:11 PM
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Good for you, Lisa. Sounds like you've got a plan. I love the cabin idea, and the animals, too. Have fun planning this next chapter in your life. I wish you lots of peace and happiness as you go forward.
Kris
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. Maori proverb |
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
6418 Posts |
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whispering pines
True Blue Farmgirl
428 Posts
patricia
sedro woolley
wa
USA
428 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 6:22:26 PM
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I did the same thing almost 9 years ago, I wish you the best of luck. Hope all of your dreams come true.
"Greetings from the Gateway to the North Cascades." |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 8:37:07 PM
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This decision was yet another huge weight off my shoulders. I feel so much lighter and happier already! This is going to be fun!!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
[size=1]My apron website:
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Buffalomary
True Blue Farmgirl
199 Posts
Mary
Caldwell
ID
USA
199 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 8:48:32 PM
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Ah sista, the best is yet to come!! 
Buffalomary
Farmgirl Sister #293
You can take the farmer's daughter off the farm but you can't take the farm out of the farmer's daughter!!
Please visit me at my blog: http://buffalomaryscorner.blogspot.com |
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Mother Hen
True Blue Farmgirl
604 Posts
Cindy
Peck
ID
USA
604 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 9:29:17 PM
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Lisa Marie, you are a brave girl! You can do it. My dad has a motto "If you want something, ask everyone you meet, eventually you will get what you want". I do this added with a lot of prayer.
I prayed for you to find what you are looking for.
I think we need to start a new motto here:
A FARMGIRL CAN DO ANYTHING!!
I like it. I'm going to start using it, you can too!
Cindy
I will bless the Lord at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth. Psalms 34:1 |
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Laura Marie
True Blue Farmgirl
419 Posts
Laura
Rancho Cordova
California
USA
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Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 10:37:39 PM
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Lisa congradulations...starting fresh is sometimes the best thing to do...no old memories and you get to create all of your own! Let the fun times begin!
Farm Girl Hugs!
Laura Marie #369
www.lauramariedesign.com
"It's not the size of the farm but the size of your heart!"
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 04:15:14 AM
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I like it, too, Cindy! We farmgirls CAN do anything! And, Laura, that's why dd and I decided it best to let the house go. Too many memories that we didn't want so, this is a good thing in more ways than one!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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Edited by - lisamarie508 on Feb 09 2009 05:14:07 AM |
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AuntPammy
True Blue Farmgirl
488 Posts
Pamila
williamstown
wv
USA
488 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:01:05 AM
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I am so happy for you!! I hope you get everything you want and discover even more along the way. You go girl. Blessings.
"Keep your face to the sunshine and you will never see the shadow." Helen Keller
www.auntpsalmostheaven.blogspot.com |
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Especially For You
True Blue Farmgirl
541 Posts
Tina
Watkinsville
GA
541 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:30:42 AM
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GO GIRL !!!!! Lisa I don't know your sisuationbut from the huge weight that was lifted off your shoulders that was the right way to go. I will send lots of prayers for you! If you need anything to start over with let me know. I will do the best to help. When I left my dirt bag of a husband I had lots of people offer to help me, I was at the stage of embaressment, but now I wish that I had let them help me. So hugs and prayers.
Tina~Farm Girl #455
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:35:04 AM
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(((((Lisa))))) sending you a big hug filled with the very best of wishes that all you are dreaming of comes true!!
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt |
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 06:15:44 AM
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Tina, I appreciate the offer, but I really have everything I need at the moment. I got a lot of help from all my friends here who wouldn't take no for an answer! I have a roof over my head, my dog, enough furniture, clothes and dishes to be comfortable and a decent job to hold it all together. I'm feeling really confident that I will find what I want/need. The really important part is that I'm happy and I have dreams and goals again. Dreams that I can work toward and fulfill without dragging someone kicking and screaming behind me (literally!).
I'm so looking forward to building new gardens and having my own little mini-farm and building (if necessary) and decorating my new home the way I want without a lot unnecessary and useless "stuff" that has to be cleaned, dusted, moved around, etc. No matter how much work it takes to get there, it'll still be fun!
I sure appreciate all the encouragement and hugs back to all of you!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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Miss Bee Haven
True Blue Farmgirl
4331 Posts
Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
4331 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 07:23:10 AM
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Congratulations on letting go. That takes more strength(and wisdom) than holding on.
Farmgirl Sister #50
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?"
'Br.Dave Gardner' |
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Ingrid
True Blue Farmgirl
432 Posts
Ingrid
BC
Canada
432 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 10:02:36 AM
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I started over 10 years ago with three kids, 5, 3 and not born yet, and even when times were tough it was better than what it was. It took about five years to get to where I wanted to be, working, owning my own home, and back on my feet. It was worth every moment.
Good Luck to you.
Ingrid
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 10:33:59 AM
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Lisa, I wish you all the best. Sounds like good things are coming your way.
Hugs!
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/
An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
Edited by - Lainey on Feb 09 2009 10:35:40 AM |
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
2648 Posts
Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
2648 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 8:47:49 PM
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Whoa!!! He just slammed on the brakes and I think I smacked my head! Mediation was today and it did not quite go the way I had thought/hoped. I'll have to post the rest over in Family Matters as it pertains more to that than farm dreaming.
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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Sandra K. Licher
True Blue Farmgirl
1106 Posts
Sandra
Horseshoe Bend
Arkansas
1106 Posts |
Posted - Feb 10 2009 : 06:12:23 AM
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Lisa....I went through the same thing about 15 years ago but I kept the farm but wish I hadn't because of memories, debt he had incurred that I ended up taking on....yada yada yada.....I think you are doing the right thing....a fresh start for you and fresh dreams to keep you going. I hope things work out just as you wish and if you ever need support please email me or post and we WILL be there for you! MJ's farmgirls are the best problem solvers in the world and it costs nada unlike a lot of solutions which seem to have a price tag attached! Good luck girlfriend and I will check the other topic.
Sam in AR..... "It's a great life if you don't weaken!"
Farmgirl Sister #226
www.farmgirlsam.blogspot.com |
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janiee
True Blue Farmgirl
820 Posts
Janie
Shawnee
Oklahoma
USA
820 Posts |
Posted - Feb 11 2009 : 12:12:15 PM
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Way to go girlfriend! I am so happy for you! I hope everything goes like you want it to and find many new blessings along the way!
Hugs
janiee
farmgirl #390 |
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iloveprims
True Blue Farmgirl
154 Posts
TRACY
Phillipsburg
NJ
USA
154 Posts |
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