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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
 Posted - Oct 16 2005 : 3:49:50 PM
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Yeah, I'd like to give him a piece of my mind...but he is a real creep and I avoid him at all costs! I try to avoid confrontations, especially with hot shot lawyers like that....
If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. |
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sock_heaven
Farmgirl in Training
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Clare
True Blue Farmgirl
2173 Posts
NC WA State
USA
2173 Posts |
Posted - Oct 16 2005 : 4:02:41 PM
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Meadowlark, The sheriff would be your buddy in disturbing the peace cases... and she/he'd do all the dirty work for you and probably be polite. You pay taxes, and thus his/her salary, so feel free to call them. Don't be a victim to his jerkiness!!! 
Hope life gets better soon for ya!
May the sun bring you new energy by day, may the moon softly restore you by night, may the rain wash away your worries, may the breeze blow new strength into your being, may you walk gently through the world and know its beauty all the days of your life. ~~Apache Blessing
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Fabulous Farm Femmes
True Blue Farmgirl
792 Posts
Diane
Lakebay, Tacoma
WA
792 Posts |
Posted - Oct 16 2005 : 4:11:34 PM
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Meadowlark, I hear you. We have the same problem with our neighbors, they have loud music -loud drunks -loud teenager parties till 4 am most every weekend.The kids even get into their trucks and drive around their 3 acres thru the woods-at 4 am- whoopin it up. We have talked nice to them till we are blue in the face,and my husband IS THE SHERIFF!!..doesn't do any good. Those kind of people just take their slice of cake out of the middle and always will, to hell with everyone else.
My solution has been to sleep with a fan on high in my room the nights they are partying, and ignore them. They LIKE messing with people, so the more negative energy you expend at their cost the better they seem to like it. |
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asnedecor
True Blue Farmgirl
1054 Posts
Anne
Portland
Or
USA
1054 Posts |
Posted - Oct 16 2005 : 4:27:21 PM
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Men who don't think women know anything about mechanical devices. I work for a company that I answer the phone to provide technical help, first thing out of most men's mouths is can I talk to the technical line (thinking I'm the receptionist). You called an 800# that is direct to the technical line, why would you think it's the receptionist? Then there are the ones that have the gall to ask for a man - I trained most of the men in my department.
"Second star to the right, straight on till morning" Peter Pan
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greyghost
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
Lynn
Summerville
Georgia
USA
650 Posts |
Posted - Oct 16 2005 : 6:52:57 PM
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Anne, I hear you!
I know a LOT about remodeling. A little to nearly everything about anything construction related. So I go to Home Depot, ask a question, have my own solution just want to bounce it off someone. And these guys refuse to look at me! They find another guy they work with, talk to them, they talk to each other and I say "what about a tapcon?" and they discuss it between them!
Or I ask what the best router is... same thing. Find another guy, who refuses to look at ME. Hey, I'm the one USING the tool here, I want to get one that isn't going to freaking DIE on me in the middle of making kitchen cabinets.
I finally decided not to let it bother me, to laugh at it. It is THEIR problem. THEY are obviously not comfortable with a woman who knows more about 5V telephone wire than they do. THEY obviously do not want to think that a woman knows what a tapcon IS and can suggest it as a way to attach a pedestal sink to a wall, instead of the wingy thingies that were in the box! THEY don't want to think a woman can do it, or it makes them uncomfortable. Their problem, not mine.
I am WOMAN, hear me ROAR!!! |
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Park Avenue
True Blue Farmgirl
57 Posts
Michele
Paradise Valley
Alberta
Canada
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Posted - Oct 17 2005 : 07:06:24 AM
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Anne, I hear ya about men thinking women don't know anything. My 17 yr old daughter works in the shop at Walmart, changing tires and oil. A guy actually refused to have a girl work on his vehicle. All that they had working in the shop were girls, so they ripped up his work order, and told him to go to Canadian Tire to have his oil changed.
Good for them!!
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Park Avenue
True Blue Farmgirl
57 Posts
Michele
Paradise Valley
Alberta
Canada
57 Posts |
Posted - Oct 17 2005 : 07:09:52 AM
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Sorry Sock-Heaven....I don't know your name.
I know you weren't commenting on my spelling and grammer! LOL
Michele |
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greyghost
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
Lynn
Summerville
Georgia
USA
650 Posts |
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asnedecor
True Blue Farmgirl
1054 Posts
Anne
Portland
Or
USA
1054 Posts |
Posted - Oct 17 2005 : 6:51:57 PM
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Now you guys are making me laugh - I have had some of the same experiences at Home Depot, but not at my local hardware store. There they have the old guys behind the counter and they respect a woman who knows what she is looking for. I do have to admit that at work I have customers who won't talk to anyone but me, they tell the guys the don't trust them and want to talk to Anne because she knows what she is doing. So it is not always bad.
"Second star to the right, straight on till morning" Peter Pan
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Judes
True Blue Farmgirl
156 Posts
Jude
OH
USA
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Posted - Oct 21 2005 : 5:05:42 PM
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| I'm writing this because I can't vent in real life! I told myself I wouldn't do it (complain), but I can't keep it in! Annoyance #1 is a lady who came into the store today. She said she was shopping for a friend. My boss went to help her & showed her a few beautiful peices of jewelry...handmade, glittery, pretty...and said "would she be into these?" To which the lady replied "oh no, she lives on a farm. She's not into much of anything" in a very condescending voice! ARGH! Then continued "what do you buy for a farmgirl with no interests or sense of style?" Maybe it's the farmgirl in me, and the beauty in all of you..but I about lost it on her. I wanted to reach into my messenger bag and hand her Mary Jane's book. Or shout what do YOU know about farmgirl style!?!? I was so mad, I had to go to the basement & break down cardboard boxes. I'll skip #2, because I feel a little better already. Thanks for listening! ~Judes |
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asnedecor
True Blue Farmgirl
1054 Posts
Anne
Portland
Or
USA
1054 Posts |
Posted - Oct 21 2005 : 5:12:31 PM
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Judes -
Oh my - apparently the woman does not get out much and lives in her own little and I emphasize little, world. She apparently has never met anyone like the girls on this site. Sorry you had to meet someone with such a narrow mind and view on life and people in particular.
Anne
"Second star to the right, straight on till morning" Peter Pan
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LadyCrystal
True Blue Farmgirl
593 Posts
Alicia
Rhode Island
USA
593 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 02:51:54 AM
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I didn't know where to put this post but I had vented about this process and some of the women who treated me badly.
I wanted to let everyone who understood and supported me here that I
FINALLY GOT MY PROMOTION!!!!!! and I got a prime position that I didn't think I would get.So Thanks for allthe support I recieved.
Alicia
http://fromcitytocountrygirl.blogspot.com/
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 03:55:35 AM
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| i can honestly say that there just isn't much in this life that 'gets my panties in a bunch' .. life is so grande and precious .. and i believe that most people are truly good-hearted .. i know there are those out there that have some sort of mental illness .. either born with it or 'learned it' through lack of love or mis-treatment .. that cause them to do unloving acts .. (and not for a moment do i excuse the behaviour of mean-spirited acts) .. but the 'little things' are all just part of human nature .. or thoughtlessness because we were not taught loving values or ways of coping with life .. or how to live life honorably .. but each and every one of us was, at one time, an innocent babe .. and something happened along the pathway of our lives where we went astray. i believe profoundly in the teaching of 'not casting stones' in someone else's direction. just because we do something that seems pretty 'stupid' to others does not mean we are not a good person. i've discovered an amazing 'peace' in this thing called 'life' by choosing to be very tolerant of 'things' that people do and say. and hope that others will look at me and my 'human frailties' in the same way. oh lordy! don't mean to get all 'pollyanna-ish' here .. but these are truly my beliefs ... and just think upon it ... when we allow something that someone else does/says to 'get to us' .. we have handed them the victory .. because WE have allowed judgement into our lives and now WE are the 'upset' ones. oh .. and do not for a moment think that these feelings keep me from trying to 'right injustices' and work toward solutions to war/hate/poverty/and all the ills that abound .. i just truly save my energy for the 'bigg'uns'!!!!!!! xo, frannie |
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BlueEggBabe
True Blue Farmgirl
417 Posts
Susan
PA
417 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 05:29:07 AM
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Congratulations Alicia!!
You deserve every sweet moment attached to this promotion.
Way to go!!You must be feeling so great today.
Thanks for letting us know.
www.feedsackfarmgirls.blogspot.com
"If more of us valued good food, cheer and song above hoarded gold,the world would be a merrier place."
J.J.R.Tolkien |
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
1818 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 05:50:41 AM
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| Alicia -- Great news! A big Farmgirl wahooooo to you! |
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 10:06:56 AM
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Alicia!!! You ROCK farmgirl!!! I am so proud of you! Thanks for sharing that great news!
If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. |
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Eileen
True Blue Farmgirl
1199 Posts
Eileen
USA
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Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 10:24:23 AM
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Congratulations Alicia!
Eileen
Songbird; singing joy to the earth |
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Meg
Moderator/Farmgirl True
974 Posts
Meg
Idaho
USA
974 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 11:27:35 AM
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| Congratulations, Alicia!! Wonderful news! |
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 3:19:59 PM
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I got a call this morning and it was our neighbor saying our Dexter bull harry was in his pasture fighting with his BIG bull. I swear these Dexter bull are a pain....they are so small and want to woop the bigger bulls all the time. Harry crashed through the fence and went after the other bull. Fortunatly DH is home so he goes and gets the cattle trailer and takes it over to neighbor who is waiting with his 4-wheeler. (We arent on the best terms with this neighbor) Dh runs and tries to corner Harry but Harry isn't concerned with what DH wants...he wants to fight the other bull...who is really doing a number on Harry! DH is cussing and getting knocked down by Harry and all I can do is quietly laugh as I watch DH tangle with this bull. Dh is a big guy...and strong...and seeing my 6'3''240 lb. husband try to wrestle this Dexter is quite the sight! Well..he finally got the bull loaded up in the trailer...and is so furious with him he says..I am going to eat him now...and he calls our meat packer. I told DH that the bull is just protecting his little herd and doing what is natural. DH also lost his phone in the process... Now he intends to take the bull to be processed the end of Dec. 
If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. |
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thehouseminder
True Blue Farmgirl
361 Posts
USA
361 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 3:48:07 PM
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EEEWWWW! Meadowlark, that's horrible. Here's hoping your husband cools off and changes his mind!
Lucinda
When we were young, there were moments of such perfectly crystallized happiness that we stood stock still and silently promised ourselves that we would remember them always. And we did. --Holly J. Burkhalter , "Four Midwestern Sisters' Christmas Book"
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 4:07:21 PM
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He's an ole Kansas farmboy and has tangled with too many bulls in his lifetime I'm afraid...it takes a lot to get him mad...and a bull that destroys a fence and trashes his expensive cell phone is one of those sore spots with him. We already have a lot of meat frozen...we don't need more!!!! 
If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. |
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thehouseminder
True Blue Farmgirl
361 Posts
USA
361 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 4:10:42 PM
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On the topic of people assuming we can't do something simply because we are girls....
In early September, while on a stay-at-home and get caught up "vacation," I decided I would clean the fabric softener dispenser in my clothes washer. It is located at the top of my aggitator and I had noticed that a thick layer of softener was forming around the top of the washtub.
Girl, was that ever disgusting! I've cleaned up better looking cat vomit. The cup was filled with softener, mold, and clumps of lint. YUCK! Anyway, when I was ready to fit it back into the aggitator, I noticed some mold or mildew UNDER the seal in the middle of it. Obviously, water was getting in where it didn't belong. I pulled the seal which consisted of a domed plastic disk with an O-Ring fitted around the outside edge. The O-Ring immediately flew apart.
I knew it would be sort of hopeless, but I headed to the local hardware stores, three of them, with disk and O-Ring in a Ziploc. No luck. They only wanted to sell me a new washer. With a sigh, because my day was quickly slipping away on this one "small" problem, I headed to a local store which sells and services large appliances. I wanted to give them my business because they are near my home and locally owned.
I entered the store, closely followed by a big, strapping handyman type, and went up to the counter. I gave the sales person the make, model #, and serial # of my washer and advised that I needed a new O-Ring for this particular seal. To illustrate, I handed him the disk and broken ring.
He said, "You need tubing."
Big Handy Guy butts in and says, "Girls can't fix stuff like that. You should hire a professional."
I ignored Handy and said, "It's an O_RING," drawing out the "O" to make my point.
Handy: "You're asking for trouble if you try to do that yourself..."
Salesman blinks and repeats, "Tubing."
I turned to Handy and pointed out that while it is true that I am missing one clever attachment that he undoubtedly has, I AM possessed of a matching set of opposable thumbs and they seem to be a lot more useful.
Then, I pointed out to the salesman that tubing by its' very definition is hollow and invited him to examine my O-RING. At that point he shrugged, looked up the part, retrieved one from his magic closet, and I was on my way.
Sheesh!!! Why does it always have to be such a battle? Why is it so hard to believe that I know what I need? Is it because I'm female? petite? freckled? clean? What?
Phew! I feel better now
Lucinda
When we were young, there were moments of such perfectly crystallized happiness that we stood stock still and silently promised ourselves that we would remember them always. And we did. --Holly J. Burkhalter , "Four Midwestern Sisters' Christmas Book"
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
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Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 4:17:12 PM
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Lucinda!!!! Alls I gots to say is you ROCK woman!!!! High Five and thumbs up! 
If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. |
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BlueEggBabe
True Blue Farmgirl
417 Posts
Susan
PA
417 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2005 : 4:31:51 PM
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HAHAHAHA!!!
what a great story....
I am never good at coming up with a quick slam dunk like that one Lucinda. Great comeback.
I just get mad
and puddle up
like a..
a..
a girl
snicker.
I like that there bull story, too , Meadowlark.
Now that's a man for ya.
If it ticks you off..
by gully,
KILL IT!!!
www.feedsackfarmgirls.blogspot.com
"If more of us valued good food, cheer and song above hoarded gold,the world would be a merrier place."
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Edited by - BlueEggBabe on Nov 03 2005 4:34:06 PM |
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