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Across the Fence:  A Place for Venting....  |
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Whimsy_girl
True Blue Farmgirl
576 Posts
USA
576 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 3:56:36 PM
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My rant is against PMS in general!!! thanks to the kids being right after one another and breastfeeding as long as I did I've been free of that whole thing for over 2 years... well.. It's baa-aaaaack!! Man I have been just a hair trigger away from throwing a ring tailed fit for the last 2 days.
My poor husband has been wondering what my problem has been and of course I thought I was completely justified in being mad at him for totally insignificant little things.. I can't even recall what set me off each time but when it did he had hell to pay... poor thing.. it's a good thing he hates his job so much otherwise I don't think he would come home tonight. I don't remember being this crazy in my pre-child days... I guess I should ask him.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
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greyghost
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
Lynn
Summerville
Georgia
USA
650 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 5:56:28 PM
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No, toilet paper should come from the bottom of the roll. It looks neater than having that torn end hanging in front.
Hello, my name is Lynn, and I am a neat freak. |
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:02:09 PM
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Just had to write to vent. For the past three days there have been surveyors working on our property. I called my landlord to ask about it and all he would say is that they were surverying the neighborhood. Nothig else and I could tell he wasn't going to give me any other information. As I was leaving to go to VBS today I stopped one of the surveyors to ask what was going on. He was real tight-lipped but said that they were surverying for such and such corporation (I forgot the name). He said that they are surveying from the top of the hill behind us, across the street, and down to the river. That would be a distance of about 3/4 of a mile. Our place alone is 5 acres, the neighbors across the street have 1 acre, and across the street the other way there are about 6 manufactured homes that each have 1/2 acres lots. Then our landlord owns a piece of property that he rents pasture and barn out that goes down the hill to his house which overlooks the river. I would say about 10 acres total. Everyone is a land owner except for us and one other retired lady that owns her manufactured home but rents her property from our landlord.
I asked the surveyor if they were checking out the land because of the proposed extension of the urban growth boundaries for La Center (I was fishing for info). He just got a funny look on his face but I didn't say a word and just waited until he would give me an answer. He said that the property is being developed but wouldn't say for what. I felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I held it together for 3 hours while I was at VBS then ran into a lady whose dad is one of the property owners across the street. I just started crying right there in front of the church! I told her I felt like our landlord had been lying to us all along. She said no that wasn't the case because this land deal has only been in the works for about 4 months!! We've only been here 5 months today! I then tried to talk to our neighbors across the street but when I brought it up they changed the subject. So evidentally the developer has told them to keep everything under wraps.
This doesn't totally surprise me with a proposed Indian Casino is in the process of being developed up the road if the Indians can get reservation status granted. If that doesn't go through then it will be light industrial that will go in. Our place will probably be a retail outlet of some sort as La Center doesn't have a grocery store. Of course our landlord is not going to tell us he selling the land because he wants to continue to collect $950 a month for rent until he gives us notice to move out.
I am just so angry about this whole thing I can't see straight. What makes me the most angry is that once again there are pieces of land that have lots of room and heaven forbid that they should stay that way. It just has to be developed to either put houses on it that are about 10 feet apart or some retail mecca. When we took this place I thought of it as my home and planned on being here for quite a while. We have just gotten Steph settled in the schools and she has made good friends. I had plans drawn up for my garden, a small building for a shop, etc. Something last week kept bugging me, like a voice in my ear, saying not to go ahead with my plans because it might be sold. I'm glad I listened to that little voice! The town is small and there are few rentals. Those that are, are usually out of our price range, going for $1000 a month or more. So I have no idea at this point what we're going to do. I just need to catch my breath and settle down first.
"If you are lucky enough to have a garden, you are lucky enough!" |
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Clare
True Blue Farmgirl
2173 Posts
NC WA State
USA
2173 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:36:58 PM
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Kay, I'm sorry for your upsetting day. I know how that can put one in a tail spin.... but, please, remember that your greater good and promising future is waiting for you. You may have to think outside of your usual boundaries to find it, but rest assured, it is there. Be still and know.
**** Love is the great work - though every heart is first an apprentice. - Hafiz
Set a high value on spontaneous kindness. - Samuel Johnson****
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BlueEggBabe
True Blue Farmgirl
417 Posts
Susan
PA
417 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:39:32 PM
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Ha!! I love the toilet paper debate.
I am an "over the top" girl simply because its easier to find and dispense when I stumble in there in the dark during the night to pee!
I am not even going to describe the horrific day I had.It was that bad! Every day leading up to today has been increasingly stressful and
emotionally volatile at my house. Whew!!
Its seems that everyone is suffering through this. Possibly there is something planetary going on besides the full moon. This seems extra intense!
When everyone is settled, I will go out and ponder that big old orb and try to center myself.
Sue
"If more of us valued good food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world place."
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Edited by - BlueEggBabe on Aug 19 2005 6:43:36 PM |
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:43:00 PM
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Sue, Yes there was a planetary event... Mars was at its closest apature to Earth in almost 600,000 years a few days ago. Mars is the god of war...
Being is what it is. Jean Paul Sartre |
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Eileen
True Blue Farmgirl
1199 Posts
Eileen
USA
1199 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:44:43 PM
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Kay,
You have really had an upsetting day. I am sending you a big hug and a hankie for the tears and a song for your heart. As Clare has said, Be still and Know.
Your little voice will give you direction.
Eileen
songbird; singing joy to the earth |
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BlueEggBabe
True Blue Farmgirl
417 Posts
Susan
PA
417 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:47:16 PM
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Mars.......Anger, aggression and attitude........
Yep, it was all here today.
Sigh,
what a rough one.
Is that catawba wine ready yet?
S.
"If more of us valued good food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world place."
J.J.R.Tolkien |
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
2206 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:52:17 PM
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Sue, we have been in tornado warnings all evening and I just don't give a ####. Didn't get to do my grapes tonight. When I get some Catawba brewed up I'll drink a glass for ya...and for all of us!
Being is what it is. Jean Paul Sartre |
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bramble
True Blue Farmgirl
2044 Posts
2044 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 7:32:44 PM
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Nancy and Aunt Jenny__ Obviously the people asking you such shocking and rude questions are not people who either of you are close to. Have you ever tried turning the tables on them and saying something quietly ( so the kids can't hear...) like "Don't you see the resemblence? What a shame you can't see how perfect(the child) is for our family!The rest is ancient history!" or you could always resort to the old joke "Didn't you know I slept with the mailman?"That would set their tongues a wagging and take their minds off the private business of you and the kids!
with a happy heart |
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Fabulous Farm Femmes
True Blue Farmgirl
792 Posts
Diane
Lakebay, Tacoma
WA
792 Posts |
Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 01:30:25 AM
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| Or try my favorite " I know if you think about this again, you will realize that it is not an appropriate topic right now. But I will discuss it with you later if you like" said as sweet as you possibly can be.My nana used to say "you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, but that doesn't mean you can't swat at them anyway"!! |
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verbina
True Blue Farmgirl
231 Posts
randi
n.j
USA
231 Posts |
Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 09:17:58 AM
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| POP-UPS!!!!!!! randi |
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Anne
Farmgirl at Heart
9 Posts
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Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 09:57:32 AM
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Well now, for all the people that are upset about land development, I'd like to say that the best way to fight it is to try to teach more people about the value of land and the traditions of rural life. Then they won't want to buy subdivision houses. . . and I think that this chat forum goes a long way to doing that!
My pet peeve is people who don't signal when they're driving. Who do they think they are, anyway!
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Linda Houston
True Blue Farmgirl
538 Posts
Linda
Lake Charles
Louisiana
USA
538 Posts |
Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 6:29:57 PM
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I agree with the last 4 pages of grips---Mine is rudness!!! I don't know what has happend to manners and considering others. Rudeness seems to be in every age, etc. How about respecting other as you would like to be respected. (or treated)
Linda H. |
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Shirley
True Blue Farmgirl
734 Posts
Shirley
Olympia
Wa
USA
734 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 12:38:06 AM
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People who engage mouth before engaging brain!
Today at the market in Olympia where I sell my soap,comes this women that looked fairly intellient to my table.
Now My soap name is "Dragonfly Meadow Soaps" written on the label.
She says, "you mean you catch dragonflies and grind them up in your soap? i COULDNT BELIEVE MY EARS.I either wanted to laugh rolling on the ground, or say "Sure lady I go out with my dragonfly net and catch them little suckers and grind them up for my soap, thats why the soap smells so good" LOL but I was polite like sellers should be and said the right thing. Untill the next adventure at the market
shirley in Oly who loves dragonflies |
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Shirley
True Blue Farmgirl
734 Posts
Shirley
Olympia
Wa
USA
734 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 12:43:34 AM
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or the people that say
DID YOU MAKE ALL THIS?
when ya want to say, NO JUST GOT A SHIPMENT IN YESTERDAY FROM JAPAN!
that one is probably the worse one for me , like I have my labels all over the place.
OK im off my bandstand now
shirley in OLy |
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BlueEggBabe
True Blue Farmgirl
417 Posts
Susan
PA
417 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 03:42:53 AM
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Shirley,
Just this weekend I had a similiar experience at the farmer's market:
I recently introduced two new "spritzers" to my line, one to relieve sunburn and one to relieve poison ivy. They were attracting some attention, when a woman, more interested in what she might be missing , pushed her way into the booth. After only about 5 seconds of looking around she gasped and loudly said "dear, why would ANYBODY want to buy something with poison ivy in it???? WHO picks it for you??" Everybody looked at her and then at me to see my response.
As politely as I could, I explained in simple terms that the product was used to relieve the itching and did not contain any poison ivy.
Unbeleivingly, she needed yet more explanation....she finally got it and blushed and sort of slinked away.
Yikes! I also get the question at least once a week, "who makes all your soaps, etc. for you" What are people thinking??
I have met the nicest folks when I sell my wares, and I have experienced the most rude, as well.
Geez....
"If more of us valued good food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world place."
J.J.R.Tolkien |
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PJJ
True Blue Farmgirl
95 Posts
Paula
Bristow
OK
USA
95 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 12:39:13 PM
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OMG, thank you so much Shirley and Susan! I so desperately needed a good laugh today -- and your posts delivered the laughs "for sure."
Let's see: "Well, ma'am, I send my children out to pick the poison ivy. After all, why else would I have 'em. They have to earn their keep, after all!."
Since I love dragonflies, too (used to be the name of my bodywork/massage business), I can't think of anything appropriately sarcastic -- but I'll keep thinking about it!
pj
[/size=1]Paula J., with Ty, Cara, Brody, Blue, and Fidget |
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lareyna
True Blue Farmgirl
242 Posts
Arlene
Valley Ford
Ca
USA
242 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 12:59:40 PM
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bramble
True Blue Farmgirl
2044 Posts
2044 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 1:04:53 PM
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Susan and Shirley-- You brought a smile to my face because you made me rememeber all the weekends my friend and I used to sell dried flowers, herbs, and everlastings. We would always get some big burly, surly and RUDE person who would rush up to the table grab the most expensive thing on the table and shout "IS THIS REAL"? I always felt like asking "Real in what sense?" or the best was "Are these DEAD?"
After one very long weekend , my friend muttered alittle too loudly "They were alive before YOU got here"and I think we all could have crawled under the table. Most of the time we smiled and tried to right their confusion but I KNOW we have all had those days when you just want to scream!
with a happy heart |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 1:05:42 PM
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Gals - remember these folks are 1: paying you a compliment in that they are impressed you can make all your products without help. (They know they could not do such a thing), and 2: they want your attention so they ask silly questions. People, in their most irritating moments, can also be silly and dear and fragile. I know, I know, you are saying in your minds "whatever!". ;)
jpbluesky
heartland girl |
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Shirley
True Blue Farmgirl
734 Posts
Shirley
Olympia
Wa
USA
734 Posts |
Posted - Aug 22 2005 : 7:53:05 PM
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Arlene , Thats toooo funny ROFL
JP- sorry but I can tell a compliment when I hear one ,ground up dragonflies in my soap is not one.:)
shirley in OLy |
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greyghost
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
Lynn
Summerville
Georgia
USA
650 Posts |
Posted - Sep 07 2005 : 06:29:17 AM
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I just gotta vent - nobody need read this even, I just gotta let it out.
I feel like a cripple! I have errands to run and I just have to pick which one is the most important in a day because if I do more than that I won't be able to do anything for a few days. Grocery shopping is an ordeal. I can't even go to the bank and post office in one day - even though they are only a short distance apart! I'm a neat freak but with my back hurting so much I can't keep up with it. I can't do more than wash the dishes every day and barely keep up with laundry. It's difficult to fix the bed. I cannot vaccuum.
We're still remodeling the little in-law suite so still living in this disgusting house. If my back had just held out a few more weeks we would be moved into the suite and at least have a kitchen, a clean bathroom and a place to put everything (well, still minimal amount of stuff, it's only 400 sq. ft.). And it would be clean! THIS place - the last people here put carpet in the bathroom and were drunk all the time. The bathroom smells like a urinal no matter how much carpet freshening stuff I put down. I can't pull the carpet up because the floor is rotting underneath and in places I think the carpet is all that's holding us from falling through. The last people had dogs in the house too - but dirty dogs. The place reeks of dog. I love my dogs but I cannot abide "dog smell." Every time I walk in the door it hits me like a ton of bricks. But it's lodged in the stained, dirty carpet and I can't seem to get it out of there. They had dirty hands too - there are handprints on all the doors, doorframes, walls - and the paint is so cheap I cannot get those prints off!
We are "camping" out in one bedroom. Last week we had slugs in here (two). A few months ago there were mushrooms growing in the closet. We have one mini-fridge that since my back is messed up I can barely bend low enough to get in there, and somehow my overworked hubby manages to let BIG MOLD CLUMPS grow in the bottom (how do you let that happen? Ugh!). I DID clean it, but oh I paid dearly for bending over like that! Mold keeps growing on the wall under the window. I've sprayed it with vinegar and it's dead for a while but it comes back. We have no stove, just a microwave. I should be grateful, the folks in NewO would think this paradise to have running water, a microwave and a mini-fridge. I have no place to put anything. Obviously I'm not hanging our clothes in a closet that occasionally sprouts mushrooms. DH never covers things in the microwave so they pop and make a mess. HE won't clean it, even if he had the time. And I wouldn't mind so much if everything wasn't so hard for me to do.
I feel terrible for my husband. He HATES his job. He's burned out on teaching and his co-worker is an unhelpful, complaining, conniving individual who manages to make it so he has to work late nearly every day. When he comes home, all I can do is try to get him to take a short nap before he works on the in-law suite until 10pm every night - because he wants to live like normal people. I worry about him so much -
I hate that I cannot help in the remodel much. I'm not allowed to lift more than 20lbs - on my bad days I couldn't even try to lift that! On a bad day, a quart of milk puts so much pressure on my back I can barely pour it. I know how to do so many things but my back is so bad I spend most of the day flat on the floor. I feel like a lazy bump on a log - there are things that need doing and I can't do them.
We finally got the insurance through my husband's work - but only because he called them and complained and threw a fit over how ridiculous it is that he started work in July and the benes and his PAYCHECK wouldn't start until the last week of SEPTEMBER. What the heck kind of job expects people to work three months before benefits and pay is distributed? A TEACHING job in Georgia. That's what. But I STILL cannot go in for an MRI for at least another month because if I just run in and get one as soon as we have insurance, the insurance company will call it a pre-existing condition and refuse to pay for the MRI or any of the treatments following. So I get to be in pain for at minimum another month. I've been seeing a chiropractor and that helps some but the chiro thinks there is something more going on other than a twisted spine and a herniated disk.
I know this like all trials will end and life will get better. Hindsight is 20/20 and I should have insisted we buy a house that was at least halfway decent to move into. It's enough change to move to another state, for DH to find a job (and wind up hating it), for me to find freelance work (graphic artist, but these days I have to do that work on my back, with a laptop balanced on my stomach!). There is no time to "settle in" and make friends. It's just hard. |
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Clare
True Blue Farmgirl
2173 Posts
NC WA State
USA
2173 Posts |
Posted - Sep 07 2005 : 07:07:04 AM
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Sending you a big hug, Lynn. A heart-to-heart talk with your hubby might help, too.
**** Love is the great work - though every heart is first an apprentice. - Hafiz
Set a high value on spontaneous kindness. - Samuel Johnson****
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Sep 07 2005 : 07:10:54 AM
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Lynn -- I am so sorry that you're feeling so bad and that you have all this mess going on in your life. I'm glad that you came here to vent. It always helps to get things out in the open. I will be praying for your and your husband and your situation.
"If you are lucky enough to have a garden, you are lucky enough!" |
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