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DeepsouthMamma
True Blue Farmgirl
1454 Posts
Autumn
Southwest Louisiana
USA
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 Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 12:59:24 PM
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Girls,
Thank you for offering your forgiveness- it means a lot.
I would like to stay on the forum- and have learned a valuable lesson.
I feel we would all lose if Linda decides to leave but I also understand that being hurt takes time to get over. As Diane mentioned I was just happy with a lovely snapshot and shared it anonomously- that's as far as I thought about it. it's a local website and was off as soon as Linda emailed me. I also erased her pictures from all areas of my computer as an extra measure of repentance. She had some wonderful amish buggies and such and those are my "happy thoughts"(the amish pastoral scenes)
Please pray that this would not offend Linda further-
I think she probably has a forgiving heart and I am willing to let it rest , so as not to overly tax her about the injury.
Thanks for being understanding,
Autumn
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
Edited by - DeepsouthMamma on Aug 07 2007 1:01:45 PM |
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
4309 Posts
Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
4309 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 1:48:35 PM
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In my 44 years, this I do know.... As familes we always have to operate in a certain amount of Grace with each other...........I hope that the measure of a person isnt based on the mistakes, but the way we handle them as well as the amount of Grace we can extend to those that "will" offend.. knowingly or un-knowingly......I would think that none of us have so many friends that we cannot except another..... flaws and all.................Linda, I am so so sorry for your hurt, but please dont leave the forum, it doesnt serve you to do so.. just take what you have learned (and taught) and move forward......Autumn.......thanks for owning it, and fixing it - WOW!!! good for you. I hope you both stay, there is still so much we can all learn from each other.....
Rene'~Farm Girl
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure......" |
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
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Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 5:44:15 PM
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Linda, thank you for sharing your hurt and I am asking that you not leave. If you need time, let us know, but give us all a chance to learn from you. Thank you for reminding me that things here should stay here. Especially from the Amish that do not allow pictures to be taken. Understand please that lots and lots of people don't understand that and you can teach us some things that we need to know.
I personally would have not known that without some of the reading I have done over the years. I as one farmgirl am asking that you give us all a chance.
Amanda, thank you for feesin up to your mistake and for doing all that you did, it takes guts to be honest and truthful when we make a mistake. I thank you for reminding me of those things.
Both of you would be sorely missed, and both of your perspectives are needed here.
You have both taught us a vauluable lesson and I personally hope you continue to do so. If time is needed, let us know, and we will be standing by waiting for you.
Carol Sue
Enjoying life. |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 5:50:33 PM
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Keep checking in hoping Linda has responded. Her silence is deafening . . . is she still upset, will she choose to forgive and move on . . .
Please let us know what you are feeling Linda. We just want to see healing. I know Autumn meant no harm and is truly sorry. I think hearing from you now would be so great. She needs know her humble apology has been accepted. I think in silence it is easy to read more into things than may be here. Please respond. Thanks!
With prayers of healing and restoration . . .
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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_Rebecca_
True Blue Farmgirl
568 Posts
Rebecca
OK
USA
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Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 6:19:27 PM
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Someone would really have to seriously offend me to the very core in order to get me to leave the MJ FG forum. I love it here!!!!!
.·:*¨¨* :·.Rebecca.·:*¨¨* :·. http://boinglink.blogspot.com/ |
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
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Aunt George
True Blue Farmgirl
1476 Posts
Georgann
Midlothian
VA
1476 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 6:45:17 PM
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This is a lesson to all of we farmgirls here. If you do not want a photo shared or posted when sending to a friend....please be a friend and tell the recipient to please not share it or post it online or use it in any way. That the photos are for their eyes only. I know that everyone here would gladly oblige.
Linda, I hope you are reading all of this because there is a friend of yours here who's heart is truly breaking over causing you distress through an innocent act. Forgive and forget is a wonderful gift to give to one another, especially when there is genuine repentance.
Autumn, You have nothing to feel bad about with your innocent and repentant and rectified act. You have done everything you could to make amends....please don't leave. The farmgirls here are so loving and quick to forgive and you do have a good heart! They love and forgive and give of their hearts and hands to so many! Many of us have been the recipients of such kind acts of love that it has brought me to tears many times.....
Linda, please don't leave...but that is up to you and what you feel in your heart too.
Just my two cents,
G
http://auntgeorgeshouse.blogspot.com/index.html
http://auntgeorge.etsy.com
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Buttercup
True Blue Farmgirl
1433 Posts
Talitha
Vermont
USA
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Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 7:47:21 PM
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Oh my! I am so sorry to read this yet am touched by the kindness and love shown by so many here! This is the greatest farm ever!! I do so hope that this is resolved sweetly, I am always so sad when things like this happen, but they do happen in life. "It's not what happens, but what you do with it" I always say...so am hoping good things are done with this. Hugz to all especially those who are sad and hurting!
Loving Hugz,
Talitha
"If we could maintain the wonder of childhood and at the same time grasp the wisdom of age, what wonder,what wisdom,what life would be ours" |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 8:40:58 PM
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I agree with Aunt George . . . there is a "shared responsibility" if Autumn was not instructed not to post the pics. I know I had no idea about Amish not having their photos taken . . . I have certainly seen a lot in Country Living over the years, so I find that a bit puzzling. I could easily see myself making a similar mistake. Not to be offensive, but simply because if I found the picture touching I would want to share it. In a way, Autumn was paying a compliment, feeling the pic was worth passing on. Such a simple error should be so very easy to forgive and move past.
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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Shirlaroo
True Blue Farmgirl
297 Posts
Shirley
Australia
297 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 9:42:24 PM
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As we are all individuals, and we feel strongly about diffrent things, it is only natural that we may offend someone from time to time. I think you are both immensley brave to wear your hurts out in the open. And I hope it can be resolved soon. Who knows, this may even strengthen the friendship between the both of you, as your relationship takes on deeper understanding of one another.
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queenofdreamsz4u
True Blue Farmgirl
3845 Posts
Stephanie Suzanne
Smoky Mountains Tennessee
USA
3845 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 12:50:16 AM
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Hey there Linda,
If you have goodness in your heart, then please choose to move forward. Don't get stuck in any wrong doing or negative act. It will only stay within you and bury itself to surface later and cause you more anguish.
Farmgirl Connection is one of the safest harbors you will find on the internet. The girls are straightforward, honest, kind, supportive, nurturing, encouraging..what more can I say?
I've been in many groups on the internet and they all for the most part have a certain "coolness" about them but FG Connection broke the mold. It is because these ladies really connect with one another and really care about the lives of one another.
You have a choice to be positive or to be negative at any given moment...Please choose to see the positive outcome and stay with us
There really wasn't any malice or disrespect intended
...til next time ~ queenofdreamsz
"hold close your inner child and always listen to the gentle whispers" ~queenofdreamsz
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 06:53:29 AM
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I checked the member list and I think she's already withdrawn.
http://therusticcottage.blogspot.com |
Edited by - therusticcottage on Aug 08 2007 06:54:26 AM |
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DeepsouthMamma
True Blue Farmgirl
1454 Posts
Autumn
Southwest Louisiana
USA
1454 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:04:39 AM
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I am very sorry ladies.
Time for me to move on to brighter topics now.
See you soon in other threads.
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:12:35 AM
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What a shame. I mean, what a shame that Linda didn't stick around to see problem solving at its best--we farmgirls sure know how to mediate! We all get our knickers in a twist at times, and I'm just sorry that Autumn still feels punished. This IS a safeplace for us to be who we are, and since we are all individuals, there's bound to be differences of opinion, and innocent mistakes made. Thank God for that, right?
Forgive, forget. Can't move on until you do.
"She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian. |
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Luzy
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Luanne
Pueblo
Colorado
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:16:13 AM
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Not trying to be judgmental here, but seems like we have a choice to either learn from a situation such as this or dwell on the negative. I hope Linda chooses to be "better" not "bitter" as the saying goes, and joins us again. That's just my opinion AND I'm proud of Autumn for coming forward. I know that must have been tough. Hugs, Lu
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May I always be the kind of person my dog thinks I am.
http://luzy.etsy.com- My etsy store! |
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Linda Houston
True Blue Farmgirl
538 Posts
Linda
Lake Charles
Louisiana
USA
538 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 10:42:26 AM
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I was saddened to see that feelings had been hurt and 2 wonderful women are thinking of leaving us. I can't add more to the wonderful things that have been written, but I truly beleive that Autumn acted in innocence. From our e-mail back and forth, she is truly a wonderful woman with a kind spirit.
As all of you have stated, I have learned a lesson...I don't know how to post pictures,however, I will be extra careful if I ever learn
Again, both of you, please takes deep breaths and stay with us. We need each person on this site so that we can stand together in a world that needs woman such as we are.
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janetinva123
True Blue Farmgirl
363 Posts
Janet
newport news
va
USA
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Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 10:51:08 AM
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pictures belong to the person who took them as copy righted material. unless you have express permission to use a photo then you are in the wrong. you can get some photos from the net that are free or royalty free but even then you have to be careful. i think that when the pics where removed right away went a long way to correct what was done and the apology too. I hope we can all learn what is a copy right and move on with care and trust.
Jc
http://beloved-creations.blogspot.com
http://beloved-creations.com |
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
1210 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 8:45:12 PM
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I'm sorry that this happened and that the former farmgirl who was upset didn't stick around long enough to work through this. I've found, though, in recent weeks that some people don't really want an apology or an explanation. They simply want to chew you out, feel self-righteous about how wronged they are, and nothing you can say or do will make amends. It's unfortunate and sad. Perhaps that wasn't the case here, but we'll never know. I know how you feel, though, because I've been there and know how bad you feel.
Some people search for happiness; others create it.
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celebrate2727
True Blue Farmgirl
989 Posts
Beth
MJF
Farmgirl
989 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 07:38:37 AM
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I have a few thoughts on this whole thing. First I believe Autumn when she says she meant no harm and never thought that it would offend or hurt anyone. I think she did the right thing by apologizing and removing the items in question immediately. On the otherhand, as this was Linda's first time on a forum, her reaction was to simply remove herself from it and that too I understand. I hope as time moves on she will realize what caring and amazing women are here and that we are all human and do make mistakes and that she will return to us. I told her that we are still her farmgirl friends and are here whenever she wishes to return.
blessings
beth
I Can
http://blissnblossomfarm.com
http://lifeatbnbfarm.blogspot.com
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
4877 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 07:47:48 AM
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I have talked to linda too she thought this decision out and decided it best for her and her family to withdraw she discussed it with them and we should be content with her decision as it fits her life and she is the one that has to live in that life. I wish her well in life in all her choices May God bless her and her family with much joy and happiness.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
my bloghttp://sunshinescreations.vintagethreads.com/
my web store http://vintagethreads.com/ |
Edited by - sunshine on Aug 09 2007 07:48:14 AM |
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DeepsouthMamma
True Blue Farmgirl
1454 Posts
Autumn
Southwest Louisiana
USA
1454 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 08:55:47 AM
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Sunshine
Thanks so much for sharing that info. I completely understand her decision- it can be frightening to feel so violated in such unfamiliar territory. Especially when you can not see a face and you really don't know the real people.
PLEASE express this to Linda for me- as I do not want to further insult her by contacting her.
I just hate that I was the cause of obvious hurt by my own ignorance of the territory.
I am learning but sorry it was at the expense of another. I agree we need to respect her wishes to withdraw and let it be.
Tks so much ,Sunshine. I am so happy she communicated this to you and you shared it with the rest of us.
Autumn
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
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smoothiejuice
True Blue Farmgirl
6309 Posts
Jessica
Bloomington
Indiana
USA
6309 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:02:25 AM
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| Wow...I am so, well, wow is all I can say. I mean I have seen pics of my stuff on others websites, and been tickled that someone actually did that, and never thought it offensive. I just figure that is what happens with digital media. Sorry this caused a conflict between you two. Glad to see it resolved, and I am sorry this became an issue. wow! |
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
4877 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:26:33 AM
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autumn when i talked to her I did let her know you had apologized and that the pictures where removed just so you know that was my last email to her have not heard back on that one so I think she knows you apologized but not sure.
take care
sunshine
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
my bloghttp://sunshinescreations.vintagethreads.com/
my web store http://vintagethreads.com/ |
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mkmomus
True Blue Farmgirl
248 Posts
Merle
Greensboro
NC
248 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:33:07 AM
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| I have to say Autumn; I think you have handled this with a great deal of class. In fact, I think every reply was more than tactful and kind. It is a pleasure to deal with woman of this caliber. I am glad to count you all among my friends. |
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EllynAnne
True Blue Farmgirl
108 Posts
EllynAnne
Pueblo
CO
108 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 10:01:11 AM
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Merle, hey! I'm from Greensboro! I'll be visiting next April for an apron presentation. How long have you been a resident?
EllynAnne
www.apronmemories.com
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