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JessyLynn88
Farmgirl in Training
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Jessica
Harwood
Texas
USA
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 Posted - Dec 07 2011 : 11:34:34 AM
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I am 23 (yes only 23) and I am pregnant with my 5th. I get told all the time. "O my goodness how do you do it? I have my hands full with 1" haha the 1st one was the hardest. I had my mom come up when I birthed my first at 17. I was so scared. She only stayed for 3 days, but when she was about to leave I wanted to cry. I felt like I was going to ruin her or break her, or mess her up some how. The 1st night alone was hard, I think I cried as much as my baby did. After the 1st week I pretty well had it down. After the second one not much changed from 2-3 or 3-4. I am use to having little sleep children hanging on me and rude comments from people saying things like you have to many kids, or you are two young to have one kid you are crazy to have 4, (12weeks and not showing yet so Im just going to let them feel like jerks in the end), and you know where kids come from right? Nope, sure dont! Its in the water right (roll my eyes). Just ignore ignorant people and make sure you take care of yourself. You dont do your baby any good warn down and feeling junky.
-JessyLynn
Farmgirl Sister #3675
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 08 2011 : 3:47:13 PM
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Every day seems to bring something different and unexpected. The last few days we've been struggling with the bottles leaking (the couch comes next week to see if we can get him to breast). Hubby cranks down on them to keep it from happening, but at night I can't so a close inspection of the gaskets showed some wear. Today I threw them into boiling water to try to reshape them. SO far, two of the four gaskets have behaved properly with no leaks. This is a great as I have enough trying to keep liquid from leaking out of Junior's mouth. ( A sign that he has a bubble we've learned). He's been great, though at first we thought otherwise, about not eating when he has gas, but it took us a while to figure out why.
The therapist was by today too and had a nice old fisher price toy. Whatever happened to that quality? She told us about one of the antique stores in town that carry older toys, so I may head that direction. It's so easy to fall into buy at Walmart or Target.
Laurie
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Arlene
Farmgirl in Training
23 Posts
Arlene
Lincoln
TX
USA
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Posted - Dec 10 2011 : 10:12:39 AM
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Laurie,
I totally agree about it being easy to fall into the Walmart or Target cycle of convenience. My mother packed away all our toddler toys and I plan to get them out and inspect them for potential use. My only hesitance is that during the 70's, when I was a toddler things were painted with lead paint. I recall a wooden weiner dog toy I had with it's tail on a spring and the legs moved when you pulled him (he was on wheels) I LOVED that thing. I hope it's still in there. I wonder how you can know if they are safe? (I mean, I survived them but the lead paint issue is a concern)
Best of luck with the bottles, sounds like a struggle.
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 11 2011 : 08:26:35 AM
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I heard they are coming back with a lot of those toys we loved including the dog on a pull string. And of course, I noticed at Target they had quite a few wooden toys, so it looks like retailors are getting the point.
Laurie
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2011 : 9:13:43 PM
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Congrats new mamma's.
I can't wait for the coach to come out, I so hope they can help cause it's so much easier then bottles, we always had leaky bottles as well! I never could figure out their problems truth be told. And we had some doozey expensive ones too! (MIL loved buying bottle systems, she was against me breast feeding from the very beginning!)
Any way, as for toys, I like the old ones too. Believe it or not, so far Target has been the best as for wood/old ones, they get a lot of exclusive toys that are remakes of our old ones, the really old ones are expensive at the antique stores here! So far seems the remakes aren't that bad, at least the ones I have bought, I got the phone and a few others. We also really like Ikea, pretty good quality and super cheap/affordable, most are cloth and wood, not a lot of plastic. We love Melissa and Doug and on my FB account it was showing that Amazon has a lot of theirs on sale right now for 10 dollars (ones that are normally 25 to 35 dollars) my kids love them too.
I may be on here spottly for a while, first it's hard to type with no hands, lol one kid I had one hand typing, now with Belle and RJ I have no free hands, they both want to be held, Lela is ok most the time not being held now, but the other two. lol And then this weekend our water was a disaster, no toilets, running water at all, etc. The kids put a lot of rice and noodles down the drains apparently. Thankfully it wasn't MY kids, it was my little sisters! UHG! My brothers and I were like, whew wasn't US! We don't eat rice and noodles, we know it was the little girls on that one! lol
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2011 : 9:14:59 PM
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oh ps I believe you can buy some kind of tester kit for paint problems, if nothing else you can probably google, each toy and see if your toy has some kind of serial number on it, I'm sure if it had anything bad with it that was recalled for any reason you would find it on google.
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 13 2011 : 10:01:20 AM
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Heather that is too funny. I was amazed you were on here as much as you were. I struggle with just one wanting to be held, but then there is the cat who thinks computer time is petting time and likes to sit on the keyboard. I'll blame her for all mispellings.
We've started a new regiment on the breast feeding front, so fingers crossed.
Laurie
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13773 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
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FieldsofThyme
Farmgirl Guide & Schoolmarm / Chapter Leader
4928 Posts
USA
4928 Posts |
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 17 2011 : 08:10:40 AM
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We talked about a video recorder for Christmas, but it will have to wait until next year. There is a little on on the digital camera we are making due with right now.
I really, really would like a manual. My poor niece. I call her all the time, with "Is this normal?" "He's doing this should I worry?" "Why won't he stop crying?" She just laughs at me as no one expected Aunt Laurie to be having a baby at this point.
Thank goodness she just went through it all with her third.
Laurie
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 26 2011 : 4:23:44 PM
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I just read "Baby Wise" a comment from Arlene directed me that way. I wish I had had that book two months ago. Like any parenting advice you have to take everything and make it work for you, but the simplicity of feed, wake, nap has really become a lifesaver and the explanations of various cries. Why didn't anyone tell me that before? You would think as a grown woman I would have a clue, but nope, the only experience for motherhood IS motherhood.
But we are down to only one feeding in the night!!!
Laurie
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Dec 26 2011 : 9:04:13 PM
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That may just be a phase the one feeding a night, many babies especially breast fed babies feed through the night for a loooong time. And sometimes they stop again, especially around teething times they will start again.
I have not read babywise, so really don't know any thing for sure about it, however, I have heard that it is controversial and some of their ideas can be dangerous. Again I haven't ever read it, and in fact only heard about it a few days ago, on another forum, and there was a link given about some dangers in it's way of thinking. I didn't read the links though or anything, I will see if I can find the link for you.
http://www.ezzo.info/
This was the link put on LLL website's message board about it. Again, I haven't read the site, or the book, so really don't have any knowledge about them. But, I will say from the topic at LLL that it came up on, they were discussing CIO, and I do know there has been research for sure done on CIO causing brain cell loss, and it's relation to SIDS, and other such problems. Again I don't know if BW is pro CIO, CIO was just part of the discussion that BW was brought up in.
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
1360 Posts |
Posted - Dec 27 2011 : 10:04:37 AM
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Looked at the link. Interesting. As I said there is so much different parenting advice out there you have to find what works for you. We never got to breast, unfortunately, and our feeding times were always in the 2 1/2 to 3 hour range anyways. For me setting up some type of routine with the eat, wake, then nap has been the most helpful. Some times the times vary, but I find if he is down for at least an hour, he's less cranky. We had many sporadic nap days before and I think those were harder on both of us. And the discussion on crying was helpful.
I don't think I would have liked to have him sleeping through the night at 8 weeks (ok maybe at the time I would have). We are at 12 now and the once a night feeding comes after a long stretch, then a short one which puts us between 6 and 7, a doable time to be getting up.
I do worry about the pacifer use, but sometimes its the only way to get him to relax enough to sleep (we have serious holding breath tantrums). He loses it pretty quickly after he falls asleep. Guess I'll worry about that habit later. For now, happy baby is good baby.
I guess this shows the trouble of a handbook (darn).
Laurie
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