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Family Matters:  Father with lung cancer  |
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
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 Posted - Aug 26 2011 : 6:42:13 PM
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| has anyone had someone with lungcancer thats has survived? my father has it and getting chemo and radiation, they cant' operate he is in week four of a six week treatment radiation five days and chemo one.I just don't know what to do for him. |
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Tall Holly
True Blue Farmgirl
2305 Posts
Holly
Worcester
Vermont
USA
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Posted - Aug 27 2011 : 2:12:00 PM
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I do not know what to do for him either except to talk about the good things you remember doing with him. Cancer is such a deceptive disease. He could go on for years or be gone in months. I hope that he is painfree what ever his path. I hope that you and he settle what ever hurts you may have between you and say what ever needs to be said.
sorry I am not good at predicting the efficacy of medical treatments. There is always hope.
hugs to you
Holly
farmgirl #2499
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embchicken
True Blue Farmgirl
1487 Posts
Elaine
Ocean
NJ
USA
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Posted - Aug 27 2011 : 4:20:25 PM
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Penny~ About 15 years ago my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. He had surgery first- they had to remove one lung and "scrape" the tumor off of his esophagus and heart sac. After he had radiation for about 14 weeks. Three times a week. The radiation made him very tired and he had to stay away from anyone who might be sick (the radiation will lower the immune system). he also had some burning sensation from the radiation - the doctors told him to get Sarna lotion and that seemed to help. I credit his survival to three things: 1. Prayer (and lots of it) 2. He had an amazing attitutde, he was going to beat this and the family just rallied behind him (lots of love and support) and 3. His surgeon and radiologist at Memorial Sloan Kettering. he had a tremendous amount of faith in them and they were straight talkers. He has been cancer free since then.
The best thing you can do for him is pray and be there for him. Even doing small thoughtful acts is a boost. Talk to im. If he wants, let him express how he is feeling. (My dad is not a big talker)
I know you and your dad will be in my thoughts and prayers everyday. Please keep us posted.
~ Elaine
Farmgirl sister #2822
"Find yourself a cup of tea; the teapot is behind you. Now tell me about hundreds of things." ~Saki
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 27 2011 : 9:35:01 PM
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Penny:
Three years ago my sister had lung cancer. She did the chemo, lost all of her hair, got better, but she caught a cold. After that she got worse. She fought a good fight for a year. One morning on her way to the bathroom, she fell and broke her femur. She went through surgery to repair her leg. That was a set back for her. To the end she never gave up. She passes away very peacefully. As her sister, I was there supporting her all the way, loving her, laughing with her, sharing memories with her.
And we prayed together.
I will be praying for you and your dad. God Bless you both.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Aug 28 2011 : 06:38:02 AM
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Penny - I am so sorry to hear of ypour father's illness - I will be praying for all of you. Don't lose hope - cancer research and treatment has made a lot of advancements. Being with your dad is the best thing you can do for him - even if you live far away you can be there through email and phone. You can also have prayers said for him and your family at your church and through the Farmgirl Connection. Also, look into your area and see if there are support groups for families and people going through this - hospital staff will often know who to get you in touch with. We'll all be thinking about you.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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henlady35904
True Blue Farmgirl
295 Posts
Kim
Gadsden
Alabama
USA
295 Posts |
Posted - Aug 28 2011 : 5:15:00 PM
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Penny, all I can say is pray,pray,pray and spend all the time you can with your dad. My friend has skin cancer over 15 years ago, we prayed daily, when we went to the hospital the morning of her surgery, the cancer was GONE! They still removed the tissue around the cancer. She is still cancer free. You and your family are in my prayers. Farmgirl hugs to you!
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2011 : 05:04:12 AM
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| Thanks everyone for your support.He started week four of chemo and radiation today,hes breathing better but the radiation is making him very tired, the best thing is hes right next door to me on the family farm so I,m right there at the drop of a hat,the hard part is I,m the only child,but my husband bless is heart helps out so much. we'll see what this week brings and just keep praying!Thank again Penny |
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
3259 Posts
Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
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Posted - Aug 29 2011 : 8:18:36 PM
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Penny- My prayers are with you. Unfortunately my dad was diagnosed last April with Mesothelioma (lung cancer caused by asbestos) We found the best surgeon etc and traveled to Boston for his care. Unfortunately recovery was not in the plans for him and I lost him just 4 months later in August 2010. During his treatment I pretty much became his caretaker and his "medical" expert. I feel fortunate that we were able to spend so much time together during his illness- he relied on me for just about everything. After his death I wrote a eulogy and one of the things I said was how funny it is that life really does go full circle for when I was just a little girl and needed someone to care for me- he was there. Now that I am a Big girl and he needed someone to care for him I was there. I am happy that I was able to be there for him and will always remember the special moments we shared even at silly things like doctors appts,chemo treatments, hospital stays etc. We truly formed a bond as "adults" that was special and different from that which we shared when I was a child. I pray for you that the chemo and radiation works for your dad. Blessings to you!
Hugs,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.. |
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mickib
True Blue Farmgirl
267 Posts
Michele
Coeur d'Alene
Idaho
267 Posts |
Posted - Aug 31 2011 : 4:15:00 PM
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| Penny, when my dad was diagnosed he was already stage 4 and was not a candidate for surgery. He had chemo but not radiation. He lived for a year and a half after his diagnosis. I am thankful that he lived near me and I was able to spend time with him and help my mom as much as I could. Although I've always spent a lot of time with my parents, I can't say my dad and I were ever particularly close, but it was still a blessing to be there with him for the last few years. So, my advice is just be there, help whereever you can, and pray. I'll be praying for your father and for you. |
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Sep 01 2011 : 1:52:07 PM
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Hi Michele my dad is also in stage 4 .
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Tapestry
True Blue Farmgirl
1223 Posts
Cheryl
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - Sep 04 2011 : 4:00:33 PM
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Hi Penny, I am so sorry to hear of your father's illness. I will keep all of you in my prayers. The #1 thing I tell everyone I know who has cancer..THINK POSITIVE and do not give up. Attitude is such an important factor in fighting and beating this disease. Not everyone does beat it. I lost my mom to ovarian cancer this past Valentine's day but she had 3 yrs post diagnosis and lived to see her first great grandson. I live about 400 miles away from my folks and was able to go stay with them and be close to mom thru her illness. I was very lucky I was able to do that. I realize with work schedules not everyone can. If I can say anything positive about cancer.....you have time. Time to say things you need to say and make decisions together as a family. I got to spend some wonderful quality time with my mom and also my dad. I'd been gone from my home state for over 20 yrs so this time was very special. So ask your dad what he'd most like you to know about his life, his thoughts, feelings and share yours with him. It all means so much and you'll always remember the time you spent together talking over good times. God's Blessings on you and yours during this rough patch.
Happy farmgirl sister #353
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 05:48:22 AM
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Going to the doctors today with my Dad,He is getting so weak from the radiation and his throat is so raw he can't eat anything, he has to use a cane to walk now. the doctors told him he may have to have a feeding tube put in and he absolutly refuses to let them he says he'll starve first. hopefully they can give us some good news today,like no more radiation,he gets one more chemo and then they test to see if its working.
Thanks for all your prayers
Penny |
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henlady35904
True Blue Farmgirl
295 Posts
Kim
Gadsden
Alabama
USA
295 Posts |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 09:44:23 AM
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My prayers are with you, Penny.
Farmgirl Sister #2667 |
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marthajane
True Blue Farmgirl
196 Posts
Anna
Orlando
FL
USA
196 Posts |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 10:05:34 AM
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Hope you dont mind me posting here, I am relatively new to MJForum,
Just wanted to say, its important that your Dad eat or drink to get his calories, if he starves he'll hardly beat cancer, and recover from radiation.
I would think he could survive very well on icecream and milk. There are so many things you can add to milk using blender like bananas or dates that will give him added nutrition.
Theres a weird theory that I dont understand that some people believe in, called starving the cancer. My family would not give my brother anything with sugar in it, and in my opinion he simply starved to death.
Your Dad could also try PAPAYA, its a great tasting fruit, very mild and has been found to destroy cancer cells. You should be able to find it anywhere or if you can order dried, that is very good too. It has a texture just like pureed fruit, or fruit leather but it can often be found fresh and eaten raw.
I hope everything goes well for your Dad. Icecream is good for us, also LEMONADE is so helpful in building the immunity system and keeping germs from invading the body and causing weakness or illness.
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joy lynn
Farmgirl at Heart
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joy
center line
MI
USA
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Posted - Sep 18 2011 : 7:12:09 PM
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Hi my prayers are with you. I know three people with lung cancer...ALL still here too. My aunt is 81 had a lung removed several years ago doing well...a good friend mid 40's diagnosed and is now early 50's yes she has some reoccurences but doing radiation ..had some surgeries but still works and enjoys each day to the fullest. Then our neighbor...had surgery and chemo and is doing pretty good. Tired yes but all are still with us and determined to be as healthy as possible in the midst of all this. Having dealt with cancers in our family you learn the littlest things count the most. Finding things to occupy the mind one of the best helps...plus our faith really makes a difference in how we view things. Hard? Yes Worth it? Yes. Will continue to pray for you and your dad. take care. Joy
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Sep 19 2011 : 05:39:25 AM
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Thank you for the insperation Joy I really needed to hear that! Dad has 5 more radiations this week and 1 chemo and they will test to see how it all has worked.we are all keeping our fingers crossed.
Penny |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 1:58:12 PM
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As someone going through losing a family member to cancer in the next day or so, I pray that God heals him completely! I HATE cancer so much!
The only thing I could really say helped was all the food that friends and family brought over-along with plastic cups and plastic dishes for gueses and visitors to use so my MIL didn't have to do dishes. Just little things like that make the whole ordeal a little easier.
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2011 : 07:46:49 AM
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| Dad has 1 more radiation treatment left thats on Monday,but he has gone down hill sooo fast in the last week I'm afraid hes giving up! I'm not! |
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Cherime
True Blue Farmgirl
1222 Posts
Cherime
Wasilla
Alaska
USA
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Posted - Sep 24 2011 : 08:57:51 AM
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Praying and I am with Megan, I hate that miserable disease and pray against it and ask for its demise daily.
CMF |
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Sep 27 2011 : 05:24:32 AM
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| do you believe they gave him his last treatment and said we'll see you in a month to see whats going on! sunday night we had to take him to the hospital because he was so weak, they gave him two bags of fluid and sent him home. |
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Oct 03 2011 : 05:06:37 AM
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hes back in the hospital as of friday and he may not come back its not looking good.
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Posted - Oct 03 2011 : 08:47:08 AM
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Cancer is evil. Praying for your dad and your family.
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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rksmith
True Blue Farmgirl
858 Posts
Rachel
Clayton
GA
USA
858 Posts |
Posted - Oct 03 2011 : 5:58:03 PM
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Over the years, I have had several residents in the nursing homes where I worked (as a nurse) live way longer than expected by the MDs with lung cancer (and other cancers). My mom was just told on Wednesday that she has cancer in her lung and around her kidney. We go for the biopsy results on Thursday. We have already started a holistic treatment for her (I'm also an herbalist among other "things") and she is feeling better over all. She's already said that she doesn't want to do the chemo/radiation due to the nasty side effects. Hopefully her doctor will honor her wishes (if he doesn't he'll have some serious issues) should she change her mind, I'll support her 100% although in all honestly I feel deep in my bones that a holistic approach is better. Hopefully your dad will pull through, I do wish him well and you also. Remain strong and confident in your love for him. Think positive thoughts. It really does help. Try to have him drink even if he doesn't want to eat anything, you can give him healthy smoothies, ensure, boost, etc.
Rachel
Farmgirl Sister #2753
Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps, if you are not willing to move your feet--Dr. Kioni
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Oct 06 2011 : 05:21:11 AM
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Dad is still in the hospital hes now has a bacterial infection in is intestines they can't get it under control, he will no longer eat, blood presure is extreamly low. hes says he just wants to die! he wants mom and I to bring him home so he can,what do you do this is tearing us up! I hate seeing him suffer so much.I've cryed so much i don't have any tears left.
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
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Posted - Oct 06 2011 : 06:41:51 AM
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Penny I'm crying along with you sweetheart! I lost my daddy 5 yrs. ago from brain cancer. They wanted us to put him in a nursing home but he wanted to stay home. I just pretty much moved in to help mom with him. If I had it to do over, I'd do the same. The little talks and looks and smiles were such blessings to me. And when you couldn't understand what he was saying, I could make out the "I love you too". We knew that the Lord was with us at all times. And after all his suffering, I finally told the Lord that we know its time he go home with him. And it was so peaceful, knowing there was no more pain. And as you said, I hate Cancer, but its a uncontrolling illness, you never know, there are many!!!!! who can survive it. Just try to keep a postive mind. I hope that you can hug on to all the love and prayers coming your way, and that you are in our hearts and minds and prayers. Hug, Brenda
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Penny Dyke
True Blue Farmgirl
93 Posts
Penny
East Palestine
Ohio
USA
93 Posts |
Posted - Nov 30 2011 : 05:34:54 AM
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| Dad finally made it home from the hospital after two weeks,he had his scan to see the results of the chemo and radiation it did not shrink the cancer there is no change.he is recovering from the radiation and can eat good now, but they said there is nothing more than can do and the cancer will spread more than likely to his brain and blood all we can do now is keep him comfortable they have no idea how long hes got.hospice has come in to help as we are keeping him home.thankfully I live right next door I,m their only child. Mom is really having a hard time.Dad will be turning 70 in January.Thanks everyone for your prayers and hugs!Penny |
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Family Matters: Father with lung cancer |
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Father with lung cancer
