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Nanniekim
True Blue Farmgirl
206 Posts
Kim
Arizona
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 Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 1:36:12 PM
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I have 2 sweet grandsons that were just too pure to stay here on earth so they have returned to their Heavenly Home. We have a wonderful cemetery here that lets you decorate the gravesites and leave the decorations up as long as they are off of the grass. We have put solar lanterns, angel statues and silk flowers next to the boys headstones. On Memorial Day we put small flags that we leave all summer. On their birthdays we always visit the cemtery.
Yesterday was one of the birthdays so my daughter and I made our usual visit. When we arrived the gravesites were stripped clean of everything! Sometimes the little angels have been moved to other areas in the cemetery like a little child had picked them up and placed them by the gravesite they were visiting. We just pick them up and put them back where they belong. After a walk around the cemetery, we couldn't find any of our missing items. I would maybe think it was wind but these items have been there for over 5 years.
I'm not mad just surprised. I'm sure those who took the items weren't thinking about how the family would feel when they found the things missing.
Thanks for listening to me vent.
Kim |
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farmmilkmama
True Blue Farmgirl
2027 Posts
Amy
Central MN
USA
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Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 1:40:56 PM
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Kim, I'm sorry that you had to deal with someone being so insensitive! That's terrible! They obviously weren't thinking about the family at all when they took that stuff. People can be so mean. :( Makes me angry. You have every right to vent!
--* FarmMilkMama *--
Farmgirl Sister #1086
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Everyone else is already taken.
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 2:15:53 PM
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Kim, I am so sorry that happened to you! I'm sorry to say that it happens all the time at our cemetery. :( Sometimes even the headstones get knocked over or broken.
Anyway, you sure have a right to vent! Can't believe some people would do even think of doing that.
Hugs,
hannah
Farmgirl sister #1219!
"Lifes not about the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away."
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 4:46:57 PM
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So sad that the babies are in heaven. So mean that people take the tokens from the gravesites. I had this happen to my Dad's grave and I felt so violated by it.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
I ask not for a larger garden, but for finer seeds.
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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melody
True Blue Farmgirl
3320 Posts
Melody
The Great North Woods in the Land of Hiawatha
USA
3320 Posts |
Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 8:33:15 PM
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It happens a lot...How sick is that?
Melody
Farmgirl #525 |
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
3259 Posts
Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
3259 Posts |
Posted - Aug 03 2011 : 8:59:48 PM
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I'm sorry that has happened to you. Its really terrible and I just will never understand how a person could do such a thing. Hugs sent to you. Its just terrible and I'm sorry you had to experience it. Did it seem like the other gravesites were "bare"? Perhaps the cemetery changed the ground rules? I would definately inquire with the groundskeepers.
Hugs,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
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Nanniekim
True Blue Farmgirl
206 Posts
Kim
Arizona
206 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2011 : 5:32:21 PM
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Thanks for all the farmgirl hugs! I really appreciate it.
No, many of the other sites had flowers and decorations. Oh well, time to start gathering some cute Fall things from my stash for the boys. They won't be bare for long.
Thanks so much!
Kim |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2011 : 5:47:01 PM
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Oh! How sad to have lost two grandbabies! How awful that things weren't left as you had put them.
What kind of 'fall things' do you use to decorate them, and could you use some more?
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
Suburban Farmgirl Blogger
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
5602 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2011 : 5:56:16 PM
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Oh Kim! That is so awful! It has happened here too. Truly, what creepy people to steal from a grave 
I'm so very sorry for this cruel crime and for the loss of your grandbabies.
Warm farmgirls hugs to you!
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 04 2011 : 6:39:35 PM
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Kim:
Very sad. When my parents died, we placed brass names on their head stones. The very next day they were all ripped out.
Made me very mad. The second set was also ripped off. We finally got new head stones and carved their names.
Sorry it happened to you.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2011 : 1:47:44 PM
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It's awful,and I'm so sorry that you've experienced the very callous nature of people these days. Can't seem to just leave things be, can they? The cemetery where my grandmother and 3 generations of my family are buried has the same issue. Unfortunately, there aren't many full time attendants anymore at cemeteries, and they don't seem to lock the gates like they used to so people come and go at all hours.
We buy things at the thrift store now and again so that if it goes missing, we didn't have a huge attachment to it. I learned my lesson after I bought my grandmother (who everyone called Little Hare) a sweet cement garden bunny and found it smashed into bits. Broke my heart and made me VERY angry that people can't leave things alone.
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adnama
True Blue Farmgirl
171 Posts
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fargo
north dakota
USA
171 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2011 : 1:54:27 PM
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| The native americans that I am familiar with have a belief that to take things off of a grave site or from a cemetary is one of the most dangerous things that one can do. It invites some terrible retributions that made the woman telling me this shudder. These things are there for the peace it provides to both the family and the deceased, heaven help those that disturb the peace. |
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grace gerber
True Blue Farmgirl
2804 Posts
grace
larkspur
colorado
USA
2804 Posts |
Posted - Aug 06 2011 : 07:23:55 AM
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I am so very sorry to hear of this mindless and thoughtless acts... They had a piece on the news about sprinklers are being stolen from cemetaries because they are copper and can be sold. However, removing personal items is unforgivable. I think there will be a special place for folks like that when it is their turn to cross over. Inge I know of what you speak - several of my native american friends have shared with me their beliefs and as I said there will be judgement when it is there turn.
Do not give up Kim - I would replace the items and give thanks for your love you show to your sweet one's who have passed. Blessings and Light
Grace Gerber
Larkspur Funny Farm and Fiber Art Studio
Where the spirits are high and the fiber is deep
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FieldsofThyme
Farmgirl Guide & Schoolmarm / Chapter Leader
4928 Posts
USA
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Nanniekim
True Blue Farmgirl
206 Posts
Kim
Arizona
206 Posts |
Posted - Aug 07 2011 : 8:56:31 PM
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Thanks everyone. Hopefully whoever took the items really needed them and didn't just throw them away. The only things that were of sentimental value were the 2 angels. My dad had found one when our first little angel passed and then when the second one passed away he searched to find a matching angel. We have decided to replace the angels and not tell my dad since I know he would have a hard time with it. (My parents live in California and my dad has a hard time with that long of a trip.) We have plenty of other things to replace the missing items and will do it this week.
Thanks again everyone for your support. I feel the back pats and hugs as I read your posts. Farmgirls really are the best!
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