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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
2325 Posts |
 Posted - Dec 06 2009 : 08:33:30 AM
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I'm in a bit of a quandry. My oldest DD is getting married next June.
She will be 29 years old by then and is planning on paying for a good share of the wedding herself. Though she is practical in many areas(we will be growing flowers for decorating, and I'll make her veil)the family she is marrying into has more money and different priorities. Her guy's grandmother is paying for most of a fairly lavish reception, maybe $50 per guest. They are inviting family and our closest neighborhood friends, couples we have known for many years. The wedding will be in a city 50 miles from here, so travel is an issue.
But I am unsure how to deal with a couple of issues. First there is the issue of one cousin. He and his wife both live on disablity income, 100 miles away and have no car or money for travel. DD doesn't plan to invite them, thinking it might cause them to think they need to send a gift they can't afford, she can hardly say that their presence is gift enough because that would be beyond their budget too. But she IS inviting his sister and her kids who she is closer to.
Then there are the friends' children. One has 2, both married and the other has 3, 2 married and 1 seriously involved. That adds 10 people the guest list. We have been to the weddings of one in each family. The kids were playmates as young kids but didn't stay in touch. DH says they will understand there is a limit on how many guests, and I worry that it may be seen as "showing off" that her wedding is so different than their small town practical weddings.
Our own wedding was small town and fine
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
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Posted - Dec 06 2009 : 08:39:55 AM
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#1) cousins on disability, I would give them an invite and let them bow out or just send them an announcment.#2)The friends kids, There again I would just send an announcment to, since they are no longer close. People understand more than you think, if you are not buddys, they would realize that an invite would not happen, cause if you do, then it would just seem like you were gift hunting.
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl
4738 Posts
Dawn
Naperville
Illinois
USA
4738 Posts |
Posted - Dec 06 2009 : 2:54:25 PM
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Sounds like a very fair and practical solution to me! Good luck with it all.
Dawn in IL |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Dec 07 2009 : 03:50:04 AM
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I'll second just sending an announcement
No obligations there |
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