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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  My Sis . . . ending my "career" - 09/13/12  |
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cheneygal
True Blue Farmgirl
503 Posts
Suzie
Cheney
Wa.
USA
503 Posts |
 Posted - Jan 03 2011 : 4:05:51 PM
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ceejay, I have to chime in here also, so glad you got your batteries charged, sounds like you had lots of fun, family, farmgirls, etc. So sorry about some of the family issues, but whatever changes YOU have coming this new year, I hope they will make you happy and give you a little more time~~
big hugs and loves~~
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 08 2011 : 6:41:17 PM
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BIL is taking sister back to Denver next week for followup visits with the hip surgeon specialist who did repair surgery in Dec. 2009 and the infectious disease specialist who was treating her staph infection they identified during her surgery.
Please pray for their travels . . . 400 miles one way over at least 3 major Colorado mountain passes. And for her to be in as good as shape as possible. And for her return home and readjustment to go smoothly.
From time to time she engages in reasonable conversation. Sometimes she will laugh. Her walking was already very, very poor, but it is worse. She has terrible balance and focus and usually is a major operation to get her taken care of.
I worked 4 shifts this week (11 hr. shifts) and my lower back and my neck have been in and out of strain and ache . . . I'm off tomorrow then work Monday. They leave Tuesday and I'm off for 6 days.
I am now eligible to receive Social Security retirement benefits. Because I'm not "full retirement age", if I continue to work I will be able to earn a maximum gross income. That means I will be cutting my hours in half. I'm okay with that because I NEED to do that. So, my time in caregiving for my sister will be less . . and I hope that I can make this all "fit together" with part-time income, my hubby's SS benefit, my SS benefit and my PERA benefit.
It remains to be seen if I can still continue to do this work as it is WEARING ON ME . . . emotionally, mentally and physically.
So your prayers in this regard would be appreciated as well.
THANKS SOOOOOOOOO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR PRAYERS and ENCOURAGEMENT!!!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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cheneygal
True Blue Farmgirl
503 Posts
Suzie
Cheney
Wa.
USA
503 Posts |
Posted - Jan 08 2011 : 8:48:18 PM
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ceejay, you certainly DO need to cut your hours, I think it's time to think of you a little bit, and take care of you, a little bit, and leave some of your sis' care to others. I'm sure there is always a question as to whether or not "it will work" financially, but please, think of yourself. I think you may be the type who has always put others before you. Now, it's your turn!! I pray that the trip goes well, that the return trip goes well, and that all works out the way it should, for you, my friend!!! Always thinking of you~~
live, laugh, love |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 09 2011 : 9:10:35 PM
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Just a little addendum:
I had made a statement about family issues and I don't plan to get into the details. I think there was some hope that things would resolve. I know this is very vague, but it's all I can say. The family issues involving MY siblings are ALL centered around my sister that I care for. It is painful and disappointing! And that is only exacerbated by the fact that I do NOT see this changing at all.
The issues with my MIL and hubby's brother and his family are pretty much centered around other stuff. I don't see much hope for any resolution here either. We've tried . . but are hitting a BRICK WALL!!!
Issues with my SIL are of greater concern, but also have the most hope of changing. But this sucks the life outta me!!!
Some days I just want to get my stuff, my doggie and run away!!! I CAN tell you that my hubby, other than being kinda messy in the house, is NOT an issue . . .I THANK THE LORD FOR HIM!!!!
And, I THANK THE LORD FOR YOU WHO PRAY, ENCOURAGE and SUPPORT!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Jan 09 2011 : 10:47:00 PM
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CJ, I am so sorry you are going through so much family issues. On both sides too. I hope you can get things worked all. You do not need this added strain in your life. I will be thinking of you and saying prayers too.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
1900 Posts |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
1949 Posts |
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graciegreeneyes
True Blue Farmgirl
3107 Posts
Amy Grace
Rosalia
WA
USA
3107 Posts |
Posted - Jan 10 2011 : 08:36:09 AM
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CJ - hoping everything works out and that you are able to get some sort of respite, be it through working less or what have you. You are a strong lady - I'll be praying for you
Amy Grace
Farmgirl #224
"use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without"
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
1853 Posts |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Jan 10 2011 : 5:14:49 PM
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CJ, my dear friend, you deserve a break. I hope that you can manage with the cut down hours. I hope you can do something just for you. Maybe we can get together one of these days.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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violetrose
True Blue Farmgirl
960 Posts
Ruth
Epworth
GA
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - Jan 11 2011 : 4:31:28 PM
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CJ, You are in my heart and prayers. Praying for a good trip for your sister, rest for you, peace in your family. You have so much going on in your life - way too much, and so much negative. Praying for positive outcomes, for all.
Hugs and prayers
Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
St. Augustine |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 07:51:13 AM
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They made it safely to Denver yesterday. Why my BIL took the LONGEST ROUTE in Colorado and down the I-70 corridor in the winter . . COLORADO WINTER . . . well it's beyond me. That is the LAST choice I would have made. And my sister got carsick . .
But I'm thankful for God's hand and grace in getting them there.
Her followup apppointments are today and then they head back home tomorrow.
Thanks for your continued prayers!!!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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Mommyswanson
True Blue Farmgirl
463 Posts
Laura
Waukegan
IL
USA
463 Posts |
Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 08:03:01 AM
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So glad they are there safely. Praying that the Doctors have the wisdom needed to help your dear sister. Praying for you to dear girl!!
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
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violetrose
True Blue Farmgirl
960 Posts
Ruth
Epworth
GA
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 3:31:17 PM
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CJ, Glad they arrived safe, sorry your sister got car sick - that is no fun at all. Will be praying for safe return tomorrow. Do they have any answers yet from her follow-up visit?
Are you getting some good rest sweet sister?
Hugs, Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
St. Augustine |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 14 2011 : 09:32:08 AM
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Well, they are home safe and sound. Dr. appts. went well and the infectious disease specialist changed her LONG TERM antibiotic therapy to a different one (has been on one for an entire year).
These follow-ups were for things that can be treated and healed.
As far as her brain injury?? No changes, no real break throughs.
Reality is very REAL!!! Hope remains but it gets harder and harder to hang on to. But, I serve the GOD OF MIRACLES!!!!!
THANKS FOR YOUR CONTINUED PRAYERS AND ENCOURAGEMENTS!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
253 Posts |
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buffypuff
True Blue Farmgirl
1183 Posts
Claudia
Deer Park
WA
USA
1183 Posts |
Posted - Jan 15 2011 : 11:00:47 AM
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Oh CJ, I know that scripture says that He does not give us more that we can bear. It sounds as though you continue to carry alot. God must look down on you in wonder each day. I too as Kristy says, pray for miracles in your life and many rich blessings.
Buffypuff/ Claudia
Farmgirl & Sister #870
"Half of success is the assurance of support along the way." cr
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Jan 16 2011 : 1:13:48 PM
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CJ continueing to send prayers for you and family. Also glad they made it there safely and for a safe trip home. I'm so glad to hear that you will be cutting your hours, you do need your time also. Here if there's anything I can do. Hugs, Brenda
http:///www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
1853 Posts |
Posted - Jan 18 2011 : 5:09:50 PM
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many prayers coming to you dear ceejay
you are remarkable so much to deal with
i know your pain and frustration and pray
for you and your whole family,,
i've been down a similar road a few years back
and there is light at the end of the tunnel..
and you will be rewarded
blessings deborah
http://jerseyfarmgirl.blogspot.com/
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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momdrinkstea
True Blue Farmgirl
180 Posts
Elizabeth
Ozark
AL
USA
180 Posts |
Posted - Jan 20 2011 : 12:01:38 PM
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CJ-
Saying a prayer for strength for you every time I tie my apron strings! :)
My mother cared for my father for many years until he had to go to assisted living.
She was EXHAUSTED, and it started to affect her outlook and her health, too.
So take care of YOU! Stay strong, blessings to you!
-Elizabeth
Stacked Stone Farm
feel free to follow my blog: www.stackedstonefarm.blogspot.com |
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prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
1874 Posts
Linda
Kansas
1874 Posts |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 20 2011 : 12:14:51 PM
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And again, I HUMBLY thank you for your prayers, support and encouragement.
I've cut back my hours (I'm a "senior citizen" now, ya' know. . :) For now it's 10 hour shifts on Mondays and Tuesdays. It was 12 hour shifts on Mon/Tues/Friday.
We'll see.
Elizabeth . . I know EXACTLY what you mean about that changing the "outlook and health" for your mom. I am coming more and more to the realization of that. I NEVER had back issues until I'd been caring for her for a while. I'm hoping that reduced hours help with that. The "outlook" issue?? That is of concern for me as well . . I just ask the Lord DAILY to help me with that. I ask Him to work in the hearts of our siblings . . they need to get a grip on reality . . and in my sis's hubby. He REALLY needs to get a grip on reality.
Anyway, thanks so much!!!!! I'm off until Monday . . trying to get my house cleaned and some reorganizing/sorting done that is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO overdue it's not funny!!!
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13620 Posts |
Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 6:16:41 PM
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It's been good for me to be working less hours and I hope that all the pieces of this puzzle will fall into place so I can continue to have less hours. This has been SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WEARYING!!!!
Hope is harder and harder to hang on to because we don't see any change. I'm trying to find the proper place for KNOWING that God understands and HE KNOWS; where I can rest in the KNOWING even though I don't understand this situation.
My sis still engages is very repetitious and annoying and exhausting behavior, still has very little willingness to help herself (I do believe she has some level of comprehension of how do do this). Helping her is SUCH a physical challenge and everything she does is so very unfocused and unsafe. It's scary! It's very demanding on my physical well-being.
I've journaled memories of her as the person she USED to be in my attempt to help me keep from losing those "pictures" and memories in my memory. Even with journaling that is getting harder and harder to do . . . the CURRENT pictures and state of who is she now is so very vivid and prevalent.
I continue to work as a caregiver but less hours . . . and I continue to hold onto hope!!
THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS and ENCOURAGEMENTS!!!! CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com
From my Hubby - www.aspenforge.blogspot.com |
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
253 Posts |
Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 9:21:02 PM
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Hanf on to hope CJ ! My prayers are with you and Sis. I know how hard caregiving is ,but as someone else stated...you will be rewarded...if not here on earth the Lord will surely bless you in heaven. Hugs to you sweetie !!!
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
Scattered Prairie Gals Chapter
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: My Sis . . . ending my "career" - 09/13/12 |
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My Sis . . . ending my "career" - 09/13/12
