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Across the Fence:  Would you ever remarry?  |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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gramadinah
True Blue Farmgirl
3557 Posts
Diana
Orofino
ID
USA
3557 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 5:09:47 PM
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Short answer for me too.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #273 |
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
4309 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 5:20:06 PM
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ha-ha-ha... thats funny! I am celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this weekend. I have been so blessed. I suppose if I ever faced having to make that decision, I would probably say NO. I am pretty indepedent, and I dont mind being alone... but then again... I have a house full of guys right now ( hubby and 4 boys and 2 male dogs) that should be enough for any girl for a life time :)....
Rene'Groom
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Caron
True Blue Farmgirl
535 Posts
Caron
Orange
Texas
USA
535 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 5:26:14 PM
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I did. I was married for 24 years, then divorced. I was not a good single person, I missed being a wife, caring for a home. Dating was just tragic after all those years. I prayed often telling the Lord of my loneliness and one day He sent me a wonderful fella, better than I could have ever hoped for! We've been married for 9 years.
Caron
"Praise to the Lord, the Almighty, the King of creation".
Farmgirl #254
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9409 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 5:47:24 PM
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If something were to happen to my dh of 27 yrs now, I think I might think about it and would want him to also. I wouldn't want him to go through the rest of life alone if he would be unhappy. I don't want to find out though, we are happy to grow old together and like my parents hopefully be celebrating our 60 something anniversaries. I think they are coming up on their 63rd.
God is good....all the time.
Denise
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jinia
True Blue Farmgirl
152 Posts
jinia
mo
USA
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 5:56:18 PM
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I'm on my second now and no matter what there won't be a third!!!! I love my husband but I sure wish we could afford to each have a small house next to (okay an acre over from) each other. I guess it's been a long week.. |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 6:08:02 PM
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I wish we could have more than one at a time! I always said I needed more. Not for any certain reason but that I need more hands around here. Or maybe I just need more hands. But why can't we have more than one? Certain religions let the guy have more than one wife. I'm just sayin'.
But really, my hubby and I will be married 31 years Oct. 28. I hope we have at least that many more plus some. But if not I want one 10 years younger next time around! I love being married. I would not like it any other way. And I hope the same for my hubby, too. I would not want him to be alone. Poor guy needs someone to feed him.
Jinia, the couple that we bought our house from had the same idea! They were married 51 years. Never had kids. He built a little 500 sq. ft. house just for him to get away from her! Really! I have heard stories about those two. My DD and her hubby are living in it right now. But one day it will be one of ours.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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Niamh
True Blue Farmgirl
140 Posts
Idaho
140 Posts |
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southerncrossgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
631 Posts
Gena
Harmony
NC
USA
631 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 6:24:33 PM
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NO! I am married to my "soul mate", no one could ever take his place. I would be fine by myself. We have been married 25 years. All I can say is, I hope I go first!
"A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes"==Cinderella |
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mommatracy
True Blue Farmgirl
490 Posts
Tracy
My. Olive
NC
USA
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 6:34:29 PM
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A really Loud H*ll No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can You Hear Me In California! I wouldn't trade my DH of 36 yrs. for anything and hope we have many more together. Don't know how I would ever get over not having him in my life. I have cared for his parents when they were sick for many years. Took care of my husband for a year when he could not even stand up. Then two more years trying to get him back on his feet. More surgeries, accident & surgery,on and on and still going on. Kids in accidents with surgeries & bedridden months. I am at the point where if one more person gets sick or in another accident due to foolishness they can go to the rehab center to recover. Fifteen years of being a nursemaid to them all is enough. I have no problem being by myself. I love being by myself. Always have. I like peace and quiet. If a woman marries again then you have another personality to adjust to and extended family to deal with. That in itself is enough to back away. You have to have meals cooked,get dressed when you don't feel like it,chit chat when you'd rather not talk at all,do this do that. No thanks. My husband is so easy to get along with he could care less if I cook or we have a bowl of cereal. If I want to stay in bed till 9 he thinks that's great. I don't but he has no problem with whatever I want to do. I am a very busy,organized,and always put everyone else first so it hasn't made me lazy. Just glad theres no pressure. My DMIL told me one time that when an older woman (over 50) gets remarried she is just asking for a patient! Someone to look after and take care of when they get sick. I know I must sound awful but the thought of having to deal with someone new in my life nauseates me. Creeps me out. And almost always the new extended family, especially the kids, will hate your guts. I have seen this first hand more times than not. No a gazillion times! No.
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 6:46:56 PM
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It would depend on the man. The past four or five guys I have dated, only one came close to consideration.
I would love to be married again, but I also value my independence.
He would have to be pretty patient and have a great sense of humor.
Oh and have his own money. I didn't struggle all of this time to give half of it away if he changes his mind and walks.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
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KayB
True Blue Farmgirl
540 Posts
Kay
Del City
Oklahoma
USA
540 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 7:28:57 PM
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My first only lasted 2 years and then I was married for 15 years. I have been married to Mr. Wonderful for 12 years and plan to stay that way. We were in our mid-40s when we married and I can't imagine life without him. We met almost 30 years ago and I walked away 'cause we both had too many problems back then. But now, I just want to be with DH and nobody will ever take his place.
KayB
Life's a dance you learn as you go |
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
2199 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 7:30:11 PM
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NEVER, NOT EVER
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 8:48:36 PM
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Never been married, but don't you think men are more likely to get remarried than are women? A guy once asked me to marry him but he wanted to keep it a secret (since he was Catholic and hadn't gotten an annulment when his third marriage fell apart). Another divorced guy that I dated ONCE was talking about getting married(to me)after I'd known him for forty minutes. why are some men so desperate to be married? I'd only get married if the guy had a job that required a lot of his time--like being an artist or a writer or some occupation that required a lot of commitment, so he wouldn't depend on me to make his life worthwhile. Maybe some people need to be married, but i guess I'm not one of them. I like the idea of separate houses and separate incomes. If I ever do get married, I'd like to marry a guy like Johnny Cash.
"Dog is my co-pilot"
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 11:04:34 PM
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I don't think I would ever get remarried if Doug died or we had a huge split. Doug and I work well together, even though we can have some spectacular tiffs! LOL I was actually thinking about that today. I would miss Doug so much and I don't know if I would have it in me to go through all that dating and courting again! LOL
On the other hand I think it is great when people are able to find a second chance at love for whatever reason has left them single. I guess if the right guy fell in my lap (assuming the worst and that Doug had died) I would probably give it a chance, but I probably wouldn't activly persue anything. :D
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 03:27:18 AM
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I'm on marriage #2 also. First one only lasted a year and a half.
He tried to kill me. Would hardly call it a marriage
Have been hapily hitched now for nearly 9 years
If DH were to pass, it would be really tough. Small house but lots of land we tend together. The lonliness would be crushing.
Anyone else would have such a high standard to live by it'd be tough though.
I'd probably just get another dog or two and master my rifle skills
Educated men who don't treat women as second class citizens are rare around here.
But I'd never move back to the city either. I actually have nightmares about this
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 03:54:11 AM
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Umm...NO! NEVER AGAIN!
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 04:37:52 AM
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If I could figgure out how to get a divorce (seperated over 2 years, but the legal situation is a mess) I would concider it, but he would have to be something amazing. My first marriage was a 10 year nightmare and there is no way I'm doing that again.
What we write today slipped into our souls some other day when we were alone and doing nothing.
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deeredawn
True Blue Farmgirl
2306 Posts
Dawn
Cordova
TN
USA
2306 Posts |
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Contrary Wife
True Blue Farmgirl
2164 Posts
Teresa Sue
Tekoa
WA
USA
2164 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 06:19:43 AM
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hahahahahahahahahahah......yeah right. Or as I usually say, "Not a snowball's chance in Hell."
Now, don't get me wrong, I have a great husband that I have been with for 35 years, but do it again? See above.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
Planting Zone 4
"Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly." The Dalai Lama |
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Cabinprincess
True Blue Farmgirl
682 Posts
Melody June
Athens
TX
USA
682 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 06:43:03 AM
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Absolutely!! I'm a one man woman and have been for 32 years and I love him with all my heart. But if God forbid something were to happen to him I'd ask God for another to love. I've been blessed with my marriage and I guess I have to much love in me to think I'd never get to share that again. I'm a hopeless romantic! But maybe I'd try a tad bit harder to find one who knows where the kitchen is and how to look in the frig when he's hungry!! LOL
Smiles, Melody June
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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kpaints
True Blue Farmgirl
1564 Posts
karen
cheney
wa
1564 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 08:24:05 AM
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Being from 'back in the day' I would have some hesitation in saying no (as women were made to be married) but that is what I would say. I have done it twice and have been single since the mid 80's even though I have been with two other significant ones. I am very independent and see no reason to have a man in my life. It would be nice to have a companion who had his own place but even that would probably be too much. :D
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 08:26:52 AM
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I am remarried. But I don't think I would do it again if something ever happened to Jus. Probably couldn't but I also think, after a time, a gal likes her space and things the way they are. Like my mom. Daddy's been gone 17 years and she's never even dated. Just doesn't want to...she always says, "I wouldn't mind going out to eat with somebody or whatever...but then they want to come back to your house."
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 08:29:49 AM
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I love my husband SO MUCH! If something happened to him it would be long time after that before I would consider. If anything happened to me I would like him to get married again.
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 08:30:43 AM
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I don't think I would remarry either. I married fairly later in life and it will be 10 wonderful years next month. I can't even imagine being married to anyone who suits me better or who is better to me than my dear hubby.
Farmgirl Sister #25
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An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
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Would you ever remarry?
