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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
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Heather
Texas
USA
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 Posted - Aug 24 2009 : 7:31:26 PM
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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Posted - Aug 24 2009 : 7:46:14 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way and maybe it's time to see a doctor or someone to work it thru. Your last sentence is a bit overboard and that's why I'm thinking you need more help that can be had here. I've known some suicides and had a slight reaction but basically was mad at them for checking out way too soon and depriving the rest of us of their company. But never has it affected anyone I've known (or me) about totally affecting how we see life.
This is far more serious than just talking on a forum will do. Please see someone! Thinking of you!
Winona :-)
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farmallgrl
True Blue Farmgirl
483 Posts
Angela
Westminster
MD
USA
483 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2009 : 7:54:16 PM
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Heather,
It is okay to feel the way you do. Sometimes when a death occurs like this, there are no answers and tooo many questions. Suicide is a devastating thing and sometimes you can feel as if there was something that could have been done to prevent the situation. Not to mention it has happened to someone your age and someone you at one timed shared memories with.
I just recently (2 weeks ago) lost a friend. He was a man I had dated for a short time after my first husband and I split up. I have known him since we were youngsters and we too went through school together. My father really disliked this man and honestly he really wasn't dating material for me.(I have a son) He wanted to control everything and I do not stand for that, however, he was still a good person. He has been a volunteer firefighter since he was 15, he was a police officer for career and he was an army veteran having served in Iraq. He was killed in motorcycle accident just a mile from my house. It was very tragic for me.
Many people say I should not have felt that way because of the way he treated me and my son for that short period of time. But I can not help it. No one deserves death.
Let yourself grieve over this, it will help through. Please just remember that the situation was out of your hands and pray to find peace. Not having known this person in recent days, you truly do not know what was going on. I am not saying suicide is okay, but unfortunately it was out of your hands and they felt as if there was no one to turn to or no where to find help.
Please pray for peace over as I will do for you tonight and every other night.
Angela
Farmgirl Sister #337
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 06:11:20 AM
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Heather,
By the time I came on, the message was erased. But from what everone is saying, it looks like you are in a sad place right now. I am so very sorry. I wish I could do something to put some happiness back into your life. Know that you are being thought of and that you are cared for more than you know.
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
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Linder
True Blue Farmgirl
592 Posts
Linda
Lake Forest
IL
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 07:56:59 AM
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I also read this after your original message but I want to remind people that the reason I come here is to connect with Farm Girls and to share the love.
You are in my thoughts and heart Heather, please reach out again if you need me/us.
Love,
Linder
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"
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deeredawn
True Blue Farmgirl
2306 Posts
Dawn
Cordova
TN
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 08:04:57 AM
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Heather, I see what you were saying in your email. I think that everyone greives in their own way and you need to vent the way you feel is right for you. If it's a doctor then so be it. A friend, a network, whatever makes you feel like you're being heard is what you need to do. I am here for you. You have my email and I think my phone number. Suicide is a warbled tumbleweed of emotions, sort it out, your way, one strand at a time.
Dawn #279
MJ's Heirloom Mavens-QMD
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knitnpickinatune
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 09:01:42 AM
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I didn't see the original post either but have an idea from reading the other replies. I'm sorry you're in a dark area of your life,and I'll echo what Winona said-if you need help to get thru this via a dr or a therapist,by all means do so. Everyone who is here on the planet now is a light,and we need all the lights we can get. You're here for a reason,and getting thru the grief and rediscovering the joys of life seem to be your priorities now. (or they should be!)
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 09:06:26 AM
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I don't understand why some of these posting have been removed. I did not see the original post. I noticed other posts were removed. Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 09:33:03 AM
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Marly, they have been edited out by the original poster, in this case "Heather"
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
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Posted - Aug 25 2009 : 10:03:22 AM
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I'm sorry you are going through a rough patch, Heather, but wish you wouldn't feel the need to get defensive and delete your posts. If you need a shoulder you know we are here to listen and support you.
-Elizabeth |
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Tapestry
True Blue Farmgirl
1223 Posts
Cheryl
Wisconsin
USA
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