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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 12:51:28 PM
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feel like somedays you'd like to go around with a label gun that says "Not My Job" and stick it to different things? That's kind of how I am feeling today. I'd have to stick one of the trash can, one of his shoes, one on the toliet lid in the bathroom. There are other labels I would like to stick places too, such as "Not only my job" and "this wont kill you once in a while". The "Not only my job would be stuck both to the kids diapers and their foreheads. The "this wont kill you once in while" would be stuck to the trailer out front and to the laundry baskets full of clean clothes waiting to be folded.Then, there is the label that states "I AM allowed to do this without interruption." Oh let me tell you, this one would be stuck in quite a few places. The shower for instance, the bathroom door. My dinner plate. My pillow.Oh yes! I am sure I could find places to stick this one!!! Just one day, Just me and a label gun!!
hugs
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
"Certain thoughts are prayers.There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees"--V.Hugo
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Edited by - Sitnalta on Feb 26 2009 12:54:48 PM |
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DaisyFarm
True Blue Farmgirl
1646 Posts
Diane
Victoria
BC
Canada
1646 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 1:22:18 PM
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Oh geez Jessie, I think we've all felt that way at one time or another. I only need ONE label though.."I am NOT the maid service"!!
Di on VI
Farmgirl Sister #73 |
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Contrary Wife
True Blue Farmgirl
2164 Posts
Teresa Sue
Tekoa
WA
USA
2164 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 1:33:00 PM
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Right on. Don't you hate that "taken for granted" feeling. It's something you have to work out, cause it's a deal breaker, for sure. Good luck.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
Planting Zone 3
"Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly." The Dalai Lama |
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22shortie
True Blue Farmgirl
329 Posts
rebekah
sulphur
la
USA
329 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 1:38:23 PM
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Even though you sound frusterated, I couldn;t help but laugh while reading your post. Most of the time we just take care of everything and keep our mouths shut but there are some days when you just have had enough and you realise JUST HOW MUCH you do everyday..and the bad part is...everyone just EXPECTS it! Thats what ya get for being such a good mom/wife na dtaking on the load all the time : )I do hope your load lightens a bit....i feel your pain : )
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electricdunce
True Blue Farmgirl
2544 Posts
Karin
Belmont
ME
USA
2544 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 2:18:44 PM
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I certainly know how you feel, and you are a lucky woman to have such a good sense of humor. It is so hard to be put in a position where one has to nag other people to do small things. Those small things really add up. I love the label idea, it's brilliant. If nothing else it would make you feel better, just to get those feelings out. Being a wife and a mom is no job for the fearful, it's the real deal. Hope you get some breaks soon.
Karin
Farmgirl Sister #153
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22937 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22937 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 2:40:24 PM
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ROFL No kidding!
I took a muscle relaxant the other night because my back was killing me and I REALLY needed a good nights sleep. Guess what- Still had to wake up in the middle of the night to let the dog out!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
6418 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 4:02:46 PM
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Oh boy--YES! YES! YES! I remember a few years ago a lady went on strike about all the jobs she had to do. She set up a lounge chair and table on her front lawn and had picket signs and embarrassed her family to no end. It was on the news and all her neighbors got in on it---I think she got the effect she wanted. If I went on strike out here nobody would ever see me because cars just don't go by much. LOL
Chin up Jessie--we get it. MB
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K-Falls Farmgirl
Chapter Leader
2096 Posts
Cheryl
Klamath Falls
Oregon
USA
2096 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 4:10:05 PM
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Mary Beth, I saw that too.. And could relate 100% > Fortunately I do not feel that way anymore. My kids grew up, all moved away and I divorced their father.. I now have great support from my Husband,,, (most of the time he actually does more around the house than me..) do I feel guilty? Nope.. we have an equal partnership I think we often get confused about who's priority are some things & what is really important...mind you I do my share too...
Cheryl
Farmgirl #309
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2009 : 5:04:12 PM
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hehe..I am so glad that you all can relate. I think I was having a pouty moment because I didn't feel well, and my kiddos were taking full advantage of it. The last straw was when I came in after taking clothes off the line, after having changed three dirty diapers back to back, and then finding the kids had painted my windows with MY Deodorant!!!!
I guess it really is the hardest job we will ever love. I wouldn't trade it for the world, but I sure could appreciate a dry bottom in the middle of the night when I go in there!! lol
hugs and thank you for the encouragement!!!!
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
"Certain thoughts are prayers.There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees"--V.Hugo
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl
489 Posts
Jamie
Locust Grove
Virginia
USA
489 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 03:16:47 AM
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"hardest job we will ever love" -- good statement Jessie!
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." -- Thomas Edison
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 06:38:39 AM
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AMEN!!!
Have a Country Day |
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
931 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 06:55:24 AM
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I was having a day like that yesterday! Some days are just terrible and no one really ever notices what you do until you stop doing it...then it's "where's my work shirt?", "Didn't you go shopping?", etc. It does get better as your children get older and you aren't needed so much, or in different ways at least. Being a mama is hard!
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 07:00:42 AM
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Jessie, you're gonna miss this, girl. They grow SO fast. I get frustrated sometimes when I have all the grandkids and everyone's talking at once and so much is going on. But I think how fast mine grew and now we have grandkids. When did that happen???
Kris
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. Maori proverb |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 07:01:51 AM
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That's thehonest, truth, Elizabeth!! Being a Mom is the hardest challenge I've ever taken on. :)
hugs
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
"Certain thoughts are prayers.There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees"--V.Hugo
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Canadian farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
482 Posts
Lori
Ontario
Canada
482 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 07:34:11 AM
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I have days like that, too. I can't remember the last time someone thanked me for dusting the baseboards...! And boy, do I hate it when they open the fridge and say "There's nothing to eat around here, only ingredients!"
I have my moments when I go on strike, and refuse to pick up dh's glasses, pop cans, etc. It takes a few days, but he does get the hint, only when he can't fit another empty glass on the table by the sofa!
It is definitely a tough, monotonous job, but then I get over it (my mood) and know that I will miss their mess someday!
At least we have this place to vent!
Lori
Farmgirl Sister #183 |
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Mother Hen
True Blue Farmgirl
604 Posts
Cindy
Peck
ID
USA
604 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2009 : 12:27:15 PM
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Jess, I can totally relate. I was even in the middle of painting my bathroom one time when my hubby came in and said "Hon, can you come help me for a minute?", I asked if it could wait cuz I was painting, but it couldn't so I had to wrap my paint brush and tray in celophane(sp?) and go help. My comment to him was I was changing my name!! ..."I'm not going to be "Honey" anymore, she has too much to do"
we laugh about it now, although it was only 2 years ago.
Hang in there "Honey", it gets better (some days anyway).
Cindy
I will bless the Lord at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth. Psalms 34:1 |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 05:28:43 AM
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| When I get upset and my DH is not pitching in I just ask him in the sweetest voice if he could wait for supper that I'm running behind in my laundry, dishes and I ran to the store and didn't get out fast enough long lines, I did get the shower clean did you see it? I keep on talking and talking until he gets up and starts supper. I don't do it often but almost daily I let him know just what a wonderful day I had and thank him for being here when I need him.. He has been a lot more helpful when I thank him and when in front of him to our neighbors how much he helps, he actually helps out more I also like my girlfriends approach her DH always left his socks laying around. So she packed his lunch with a sock sandwich. She said it worked well. |
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Nikkilee_B
Farmgirl at Heart
7 Posts
Nichole
Melrose
Wisconsin
USA
7 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 05:40:15 AM
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I have felt the same over and over. A wife and/or mommy's work is never done and everyone elses' work usually comes first!!
"A person is a person, no matter how small." - Dr. Suess |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 08:37:45 AM
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oh my goodness,a sock sandwich!! My husband wouldn't have known what to do if I ever did that. lol
Creative women you both are.Maybe I am taking the wrong approach with this. OF course, I know last night was not a good approach, but in the heat of the moment, sometimes I forget I am supposed to be the encouraging helpmeet. Honestly, sometimes, I think my motto is I am wife, I am mom, I am woman, I am tired...hehe :)
At least, I can take heart in knowing I am not alone!!
thank you all!
hugs
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
"Certain thoughts are prayers.There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees"--V.Hugo
Stop by my blog for a visit www.messiejessie2.blogspot.com |
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 12:05:46 PM
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I sure needed to read this today. It seems like I have been feeling like this more and more. Glad to see that I am not the only one. (((hugs everyone)))
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt |
Edited by - Marcy on Feb 28 2009 12:08:35 PM |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 12:55:39 PM
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Marcy,
my dear, you are definitly not the only one. It seems weve got a whole farmgirl forum who have been there or are doing it:)
hugs
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
"Certain thoughts are prayers.There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees"--V.Hugo
Stop by my blog for a visit www.messiejessie2.blogspot.com |
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
890 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 10:56:38 PM
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Originally posted by DaisyFarm
Oh geez Jessie, I think we've all felt that way at one time or another. I only need ONE label though.."I am NOT the maid service"!!
Di on VI
Farmgirl Sister #73
AMEN!!!!!!
I am amazed at how lazy teenagers are. 
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Feb 28 2009 : 11:13:42 PM
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Jessie - your post just cracked me up. I have the problem with my 15 year old. I was sharing a bathroom with her and got sick of cleaning up long hair out of the sink, tub, and off the floor every day before I could take a bath. I moved out of the bathroom a month ago and am not cleaning it. I have my own bathroom now and it is hair free. I told her if she wants to have a dirty bathroom to go for it! The other day I heard her in there cleaning and she said "this is disgusting." I just smiled and thought "welcome to my world."
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