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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
 Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 1:44:30 PM
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My dad informed me that he wants to divorce my mother. After almost 52 years of marriage. How do I wrap my head around this one?
Karin
Farmgirl Sister
# 18 :)
www.perfectlittlemiracle.blogspot.com
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
1238 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 1:50:14 PM
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I can't type the words that came into my head when I read your post...it's kind of like holey guacamole!! I don't know how you wrap your brain around that one...whew. I'd be wondering if some sort of dementia was coming on in your dad and he forgot how many years they've known each other--guess that could work against him too?
Hang in there..will be thinking of you.
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
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Edited by - Jami on Sep 23 2008 1:50:51 PM |
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Txfarmgal
True Blue Farmgirl
585 Posts
AK
USA
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Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 1:57:26 PM
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Karin, I sent you an email. My heart breaks for you, your mom, dad and family. So long to be married to just walk away. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. hugs and blessings.
AngiKay-farmgirl sister #301
www.angikay.etsy.com
Heart of TX chapter
Be strong and Courageous. Jos. 1:9
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
1277 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 1:59:30 PM
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Karin, my heart and prayers are so with you and your family. Like you, I just can't wrap my mind around it. If you need anything, or just a sounding board, feel free to email me -- I'll be there to listen!
from the hearts of paradise... |
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Georgiann
True Blue Farmgirl
109 Posts
Georgiann
Seymour
IN
USA
109 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:03:31 PM
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Karin, sending you prayers and peace.
Georgiann
www.oldsweetsong.blogspot.com
Whatever you do, do it with your whole heart
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
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Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:06:34 PM
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My reaction was similar to Jami's -- is there an underlying physical ailment or depression that he's dealing with? Is he serious about divorcing your mother or is he venting?? And has he thought through the physical logistics of being on his own after so many years of marriage? Have you talked with your mother -- does she also want this?
My heart hurts for you . . . am hoping that there is a trusted friend or pastor who can help your parents through this, whatever their decision. And you have many friends here who are sending you strength and light.
katie
www.youaretoocreative.blogspot.com |
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Miss Bee Haven
True Blue Farmgirl
4331 Posts
Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
4331 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:08:18 PM
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My heart breaks for all of you, too, Karin. My mom has been dead for four years and my dad still won't move anything around or sell her old car. I wonder if your dad has really thought about the history two people have together after such a long time. It's beyond sad.
Farmgirl Sister #50
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?"
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dkelewae
True Blue Farmgirl
1310 Posts
Diana
Saint Peters
MO
USA
1310 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:18:21 PM
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Karin-My heart breaks for you and your mom. I too wonder like Jami did if there could be dementia, etc that's affecting his judgement. I'll certainly keep you all in my prayers.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #272
St. Peters MO
Country Girl trapped in the city! |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:28:16 PM
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Karin- I am so sorry for you and your family in this situation! I have no words to express my feelings. I keep trying to type something and it all comes out sounding not quite right. I will be thinking of you and your family often! *hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
1949 Posts |
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Mommyswanson
True Blue Farmgirl
463 Posts
Laura
Waukegan
IL
USA
463 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:34:31 PM
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Karin
You & your family are in my prayers.
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:43:45 PM
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Karin, I, too, will keep you and your family in my prayers. Wow, I just can't even imagine what ya'll are going through right now.
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bushelnpeck
True Blue Farmgirl
262 Posts
Debbie
Sparks
Nv
USA
262 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:50:24 PM
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Heart hurts for you and your family. May clarity and sound advice be yours as you go through this with your parents...grieving doesn't even begin to express how you must be feeling...prayers and comfort to you...Debbie
Farmgirl Sister #324
duty makes us do things, but love, makes us do things beautifully... |
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lilyblossom
True Blue Farmgirl
416 Posts
Donna
Evansville
IN
USA
416 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 5:18:43 PM
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Karin - I am sorry that you and your mother are going through this. Like others have mentioned dementia comes to mind. Maybe you could ask your dad to see a doctor for a check up before he pursues any legal matters.
Donna...true blue KY farmgirl, farmgirl #86 |
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kmbrown
True Blue Farmgirl
459 Posts
Misty
Waynesboro
Pennsylvania
USA
459 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 5:28:51 PM
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| Karin, I am really sorry for you as you are trying to make sense of this terrible news. I really can not even imagine what you are going through. My mom and dad have been married for 31 years and I can't imagine how betrayed and hurt I would feel if one of them left the other. I wish I could think of something to say to make it all better, but since I can't just know I and lots of others are standing by you quietly supporting you in this trying time. Praying for sufficient grace to you and your momma. |
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
4033 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 6:23:17 PM
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Ahhh Karin, I think you are more than likely in shock for a bit and there are no words to say to any part of this.
((((((hugs))))))
Farmgirl #39
www.Quitemoments.blogspot.com |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 7:22:22 PM
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ok well yeah something else definitely is going on. being married for 52 yrs puts your dad and mom both at about 70 yrs of age.
I'd actually set them both down together and find a mediator to discuss what in the heck is going on.
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 9:06:32 PM
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Oh Karin!! I don't even know what to say...I am emailing you right now!!
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
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Tapestry
True Blue Farmgirl
1223 Posts
Cheryl
Wisconsin
USA
1223 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 11:53:39 PM
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Karin I'm so very sorry that this is something you're having to deal with now. I agree with others who question if there may be a health issue driving this? Keeping you in my prayers and bless you during this time of struggle.
Huggzz
Happy farmgirl sister #353
Look for rainbows instead of mud puddles 
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
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Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:46:46 AM
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| What a shock. Karin, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how I would feel if my parents decided to divorce. Even as an adult, a change in that relationship is like the ground shifting under your feet. I'll be thinking of you. |
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Ga Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
2355 Posts
Karen
Meansville
Ga.
USA
2355 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:48:48 AM
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Karin, I will be praying for you and your family. I know that words are not much when you have such a thing on your shoulders but know that God is with you so you will not be left alone.
Farmgirl hugs, Karen
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10 http://farmgirlingastyle.blogspot.com/ |
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neighsayer
True Blue Farmgirl
81 Posts
Shirley
Arabi
GA
USA
81 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:57:34 AM
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Prayers and hugs to you!
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wild daisy
True Blue Farmgirl
503 Posts
Madelynne
Billings
Montana
USA
503 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 10:05:19 AM
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My parents divorced after 37 years of marriage. They needed to because they could not get along after the last kid turned 18 and other issues. Sometimes it's hard to see a family split in two. I have six other siblings and it has split us as well. I try to keep some contact with them but feelings are hard to heal. Keep the door open and things might get a little easier for you. Don't forget the good times.....
Madelynne
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 10:12:17 AM
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Thank you all so very, very much for your words of comfort and your prayers for my family. I am so thankful to have women such as you, who are understanding and compassionate and kind. After pondering this during the night and today, I am much more calm. Without revealing the details of my parent's marriage, I will just say that this is a culmination of years of discord.
My mom does not know. She is coming home Friday after visiting her sister for the summer. My dad is going to give her a chance, to see if her attitude and behavior have changed towards him. If not, he is prepared. I'm pretty sure that she has been as grateful for her time away as he has. There is a reason we call them The Bickersons. Not funny, but if you don't laugh.......
I do not feel it is my place to try and alter my dad's decision, but I have voiced my perspective on both of their behaviors over the years. My dad took it well.
Thank you again, sweet friends.
Karin
Farmgirl Sister
# 18 :)
www.perfectlittlemiracle.blogspot.com
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Edited by - Mumof3 on Sep 24 2008 10:12:37 AM |
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