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Across the Fence:  The Straw that broke the camels back!  |
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 11:59:29 AM
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We are not moving! After living out of boxes for almost 2 months we are now faced with the task of unpacking everything! I am in shock, I have hurt kiddos. To top it off the owners of the house were clients that we have now lost and they were the leasee's of the office hubby was going to sublet so he lost the office too.. Thank God- He had our backs..
It is all a long story but suffice it to say we both felt little checks in our spirits that something was not right a week or 2 ago. The people who own the house we were going to rent were giving jeff office space at their office/house (where they are moving to). jeff was getting his space for free in exchange for the work he was doing for them. We were told we could start moving stuff over the first of August- that day came and went, we kept getting the run around. then 2 weeks ago jeff went into work and then an hour later he called me to pick him up they had asked him to leave. They had realized that they just didn't have the room after all. So jeff was working from home- slower internet and losing money daily. Stress level is high. Monday she calls and says that jeff can rent an office that was their old office building- they are locked into a lease so they might as well get some money back out of it. This week it has been one thing after another- no keys, no air conditioning, sorry can't start moving stuff over to the house yet, dsl not hooked up and so and so on.. to top it off she asked me to watch her son this weekend- after I said yes she informs me that it is for 4 days and 4 nights. arggg...
phone/dsl is supposed to be up and running by yesterday morning but it wasn't. last night I call her and tell her the phone isn't working (she says that she set an appt up with the phone company for today), I tell her the air conditioning isn't working- she tells me that she will call the air guy, I try to pinpoint a day we can start moving stuff in- explaining that we have much to do and were promised we could start moving in before the end of this week. She agrees to one week before the first.
jeff is over at the hot office this morning waiting and waiting. He puts in a call to the owners- trying to find out when the phone guy will be here and what about the air.. the guy goes offffff on Jeff. He proceeds to tell Jeff that I am a bully- pushy.. that I hurt his wife's feelings. that they should be responsible for the air conditioning it isn't their building (they are on the lease- we don't even have the name and number of the owner- so yes they are responsible). And that we don't need to move in early- it should just be out of this one into that one- so they are not going to be pressured into getting out of the house before the 1st.. (these are people who said we could move in the first of Aug.. and again told jeff we could start moving stuff over by the end of this week). Jeff was shocked as he heard my whole conversation with his wife and thought I had been too nice. He wanted me to pin point a date to move in, an exact time on the phone and air conditioning guys and I had not. And this is the same woman who has been having me watch her son without so much as a thank you. and I agreed to watch him for 4 days and she never offered to compensate me or at least provide some food- or thank me. argggg...
So jeff said to him that we are not moving into their house.. he went balistic.. cursing at jeff that he didn't give a you know what. he was yelling at Jeff.. Jeff then told him that he was packing his stuff up and he wouldn't take their office either. that was met with lots of cursing on the other guys part. Then Jeff told him that it was good that this all happened now rather than later. which is true.
I am sooo frustrated.. jeff told me he has felt for 1 month that something wasn't right but he wasn't clear enough in his head to deal with it- it sure would have saved me a ton of work and stress if he had. Now all of that work was in vain.
So here is where I tell you how God had our backs. Jeff went to our current landlord- we can stay here. She is happy we are staying. She knows these people and said it was good that we got out now. and we don't have to sign a lease so if in 6 months we have the money and find a house in MO we can move without breaking the lease.
Then jeff went over to see the lady who owns his old office. He got his office back instantly with free 2 weeks rent, no deposit and she is hooking up the dsl for him. So we have a home and a office.
I am just so hurt. Truly if you could have been a fly on the wall you would be just as shocked as I am. I am not confrontational. Jeff told him that we were not pushy just wanted to know when- no one would give us an exact answer.
I have a boat load of work to do and no new house to do it in. What a let down.
thanks for listening to me vent. 
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
1008 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 12:35:17 PM
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Oh Debra, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, but, like you said, God had your back!! At least it was brought to light what HORRIBLE people you were REALLY dealing with before you got sucked into an even WORSE situation you might have not been able to get out of easily. Sounds like those people have got some SERIOUS issues. I can't believe they expected you to watch their kid for free, then pulled all their crap and STILL asked you to watch their kid--- and for FOUR DAYS AND NIGHTS??!!! What NERVE!!! It just baffles me how some people can be so callous.
I know a few others who HAVE gone through similar situations, and all I can say is this-- take a deep breath, thank God for keeping you from an even WORSE situation, and try to make the best of things. Not always easy, I know, but there's not much else you can do. Except have a GOOD CRY!! Which would probably help. It always helps ME! I wish you the best Debra. Take care of yourself and do something fun to take your mind off of it. Hugs ~~~ Tracy
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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herb19355
True Blue Farmgirl
321 Posts
Debi
Danielsville,
GA
USA
321 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 12:36:37 PM
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If there is a bright side to this story... think of the housecleaning you managed as you were packing up to move... and now you can arrange things just the way you want!!! (Keep smiling... our hearts are with you!)
Debi |
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2899 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 1:06:19 PM
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| Wow Debra you have really been through it, but Like you said, God saw what you needed & provided |
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
4309 Posts
Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 1:07:03 PM
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Debra,
WOW~ I suspect that you will look back on this in time and see that somehow it was all "right" but in the moment.............how are the kids doing now that the shock is wearing off?
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl #185
"Despite the gardener's best intentions, Nature will improvise. ~Michael P. Garafalo
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 1:12:04 PM
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Sheesh! What's with those people?? You are, my dear, certainly waaay better off without them in your lives -- personal and professional.
And I'm so glad you can stay where you are and that your husband can get his old office back.
So sorry for your disappointment . . . but think how disappointing it would have been -- to say nothing of the financial risk -- had you actually gone through the moves and THEN had problems with the landlords.
Chin up, dearie! Your house will come.
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 1:19:35 PM
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Debi, I wish I could say that the house had gotten a good cleaning.. we hadn't gotten to that point- we did declutter- true- got a whole dumpster out and tons of stuff to freecycle. But we have been living out of boxes for 2 months. There just wasn't enough room to really get any real deep cleaning done and have it stay clean :-) especially with the 5 boys! lol but I can be thankful that I decluttered..
Rene, the boys are happy- we just got a quadrunner- here we have 5 acres of desert for them to ride on. at the new house they would not have that. Eimilee on the other hand was quite disappointed. She cried. but I will make it right for her.
Katie.. we are thankful.. I can see God's hand in everything. So I am thankful.
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 1:28:40 PM
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Debra- It sounds like those other people were not thinking at all what ramifications there actions were having on you. It does not sound pushy at all what you were asking, and it sounds like your current situation is much better all around. *hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 2:26:49 PM
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Everyone has said what I'm thinking. I think the lady just knew they were going to pull something sinister and wanted to make you the bad guy so they could feel better! Yep, sorry people are in this world.
Glad things have worked out.
Winona :-)
When you lose, don't lose the lesson!!
http://goneriding.wordpress.com/
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 2:34:24 PM
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Debra, these people were not on the up and up I believe. You are better off without theis deal for sure. It is amazing that you got to keep your present home and Jeff's office too! God surely was watching your back. I am sorry that you had to go through all the packing and all the stress of the situation,that must of been very trying for both of you. There will somehting better ahead. I am sure of that.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
1238 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 4:37:50 PM
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Oh Debra...so sorry...but I am now curious...did you end up watching their kid???? Sorry, but they sound like meanies and I had to ask! I know you know this already, but everything works for the good and it sounds like this whole thing just saved you a whole lot of future heartache, even though you're bummed at the moment, not nearly as bad as it could have been, huh? Unpack girl and put everything in a new spot so it feels like a new place.
Jami in WA
Okay, so now I have a blog. http://woolyinwashington.wordpress.com/ |
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 6:13:02 PM
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Oh, Debra, I'm so sorry things fell through. I feel sorry for their son. What a terrible example they are for him. :(
I'm glad things worked out for you in the end.
Karin
Farmgirl Sister
# 18 :)
www.perfectlittlemiracle.blogspot.com
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 6:43:21 PM
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I am so overwhelmed and emotional tonight. I know in my head that this is for the best. But in my heart I feel taken advantage of, used. Thrown away. I am exhausted as we spent 2 months packing and now I have to unpack. I have lived without all of my crafty stuff for a long while because I was too busy packing. The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach literally.
This has been such a hard year on us. I finally felt like we were fitting in and feeling settled a bit and then wham! I suppose it will just take some time to get over. I will be going tomorrow to get my hair permed. So I will get a little bit of pampering. then I can start unpacking afterwards.
thank you all for the encouragement. And someone asked if I am still watching their son. No.. now if they show up tomorrow with him anyway.. I will go ballistic! :-) the crazy thing is he made it sound they were getting tired of us for sometime now- then why ask us to watch their child for so long or at all? All we wanted was a direct answer- we were the only ones to have anything to lose here. We needed an exact date of when we could move in. We needed the air conditioner fixed and we weren't on the lease to contact the owner.. Neither wanted to give us a direct answer- then to turn it on us. If they wanted out they should have told us. It is stressful moving- and they weren't hurting for money- so they didn't need to get a renter into their other house right away. I would have understood if they wanted to back out.
anyway, I can't change it. And I know it was for the best.
thank you again gals!
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 7:53:38 PM
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Sounds like you need a bit of pampering...and without crafts for 2 months? Girl, that's real sacrifice (no pun intended!). I think you're more hurt about him talking "smack" about you than you are about the lack of the move...it's hit you in the heart where it hurts more than anything. I say, move on and consider the source. They sound like real meanies and had to laugh when I asked if you were still watching their kid...I think they might be just that BOLD...ya know? I have a motto...I rid myself of joy-robbers and quickly...good riddance to them! Put up the silver cross like they are vampires and play keep-a-way!!
Have fun perming.
Jami in WA
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 8:59:52 PM
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Debra:
You did the best thing by putting it in God's hands. Even though, I'm sorry y'all had to go through that mess. Live and learn, as they say.
Marly |
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 07:55:17 AM
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It would have been very bold for them to show up here child in tow. I wouldn't put it past them though. I had a fitful nights sleep and my back is killing me now. I have an injury from an epidural- whenever I get completely stressed I get pain where they put the shot in my back and it radiates up my spine into my neck and shoulders. arggg...
I have been in constant prayer since last night. I pray that the Lord takes this heart ache from me soon. I have spent some time thinking about how I am going to decorate this house as I have acquired more furniture in anticipation for the move. So I am going to have to do some rearranging!
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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Contrary Wife
True Blue Farmgirl
2164 Posts
Teresa Sue
Tekoa
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 08:35:03 AM
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Debra, just let it all go. Just keep focusing on what you're going to do with the house now and make a comfy nest for your family and yourself. Have you ever noticed that the people who are the first to take advantage of someone are the first to yell foul when they think someone is taking advatage of them? You're right to run far, far away from those people.
Be strong, take a deep breath and go on.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
"Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly." The Dalai Lama |
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mommom
True Blue Farmgirl
854 Posts
Susan
Lancaster
Pennsylvania
USA
854 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 08:47:43 AM
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| I hope you are doing better today. Keep praying. I'll be praying for you and your family that he gives you all the strength to put things back where they belong in your home and that soon you will all be able to rest. Hang in there, Joyfulmama, and stick to your guns about that little guy. These people sound warped to me! Susan |
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 6:17:12 PM
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Hubby took me out for breakfast then to a garage sale where I found a plaque that used to hang in my childhood home you can see it here:
http://cgi.ebay.com/2-Vintage-Homco-Home-Interior-Faith-Love-Wall-Plaques_W0QQitemZ270264690478QQcmdZViewItem?hash=item270264690478&_trkparms=72%3A552%7C39%3A1%7C66%3A2%7C65%3A12%7C240%3A1318&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14
And God knew which one I needed most- the one that says faith.. for a quarter! I also got a pretty vintage plate and candy dish, a pillow that has a tea pot and tea cup on it. says good friends, good times, warm heart.. or something like that. all for a few dollars. then off to get my hair done.. did that and came home. the kiddos reorganized the livingroom and unpacked all of our movies. I hung up a couple of embroideries, put all of my dollies out there.. It looks right nice. So that room is done. the diningroom is clean and the hutch has been put in it's new place. my teacup shelves have been rehung. Tomorrow we will tackle the family room, kitchen and the rest of the diningroom- and my bedroom. then I will take the rest of the unpacking slowly. I just wanted to get the main rooms done first and as fast as I could as we were all tired of living out of boxes.
Thank you all for your prayers. I am trying my best to let it go. I told jeff I just want to start saving as much money as we can and move to MO in the spring. then we will be there in time to put in a garden.
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 7:25:08 PM
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Sounds like things are getting better for you Debra! Such a huge change when you have been planning on something is quite a shock to the system, but I think you are handling it great!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
Put your pin on the farmgirl map! www.farmgirlmap.blogspot.com |
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 17 2008 : 08:01:35 AM
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Debra...that's a can-do attitude! Sounds like a super day and the new finds for the old home will make it feel a little newer in addition to the furniture rearranging. I think you're getting out of your slump because you're thinking of new options and looking at the brighter side of things...answered prayer huh? Have a great day today!
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
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joyfulmama
True Blue Farmgirl
1175 Posts
Debra
Silver Springs
NV
USA
1175 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2008 : 08:58:27 AM
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Thank you Jami. All you can do when you have littles who count on you is make it better. Can't stay down for too long- your kiddos need you. My hubby came to me last night and thanked me for making the livingroom so homey.. how sweet is that. I will be taking pictures this week and getting them up on my blog- I haven't taken pictures in a long while of all the treasures I have found. And we have gotten new bar stools, and the cutest step stool/chair/ironing board in one!! that was definitely a treasure.
I appreciate all of your prayers. I am still in my heart hurt that they did this too us- knowing how much we were looking forward to renting their home- how much the children were looking forward to it. But I can't change them or this situation- so there is no need to keep fretting over it.
Blessings, Debra
"Your life is an occasion, Rise to it." Mr Magorium..
http://myvintagehome.com
http://woolieacres.net
http://modernmanna.org
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
1238 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2008 : 11:11:16 AM
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I was thinking exactly the same thing, that it's important you at least put on a happy face for the kidlets...you're so right...they see how you handle disappointment and hurt and learn so much from it. They are seeing you are a pick yourself up and brush yourself off kind of gal and that is something that will stay with them forever. Way to go!
Very sweet of your hubby to make a nice comment on the house. I'll look forward to seeing those pictures! Keep your chin up.
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
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mommom
True Blue Farmgirl
854 Posts
Susan
Lancaster
Pennsylvania
USA
854 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2008 : 11:28:22 AM
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| I hope you are having a pleasant Sunday! It's a beautiful day outside here! Hugs, Susan |
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The Straw that broke the camels back!
