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Barnyard Buddies:  23 years is such a long time...  |
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Miss Bee Haven
True Blue Farmgirl
4331 Posts
Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
4331 Posts |
 Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 2:55:47 PM
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My dh and I lost our 23 year old cat, Big Al, this morning. I feel like somebody hit me hard with a very large piece of petrified barn siding. I'm reeling, and I don't know which way to fall. This is one of the hardest things ever for me. My life can be measured in those 23 years - almost the time we've lived in our house - the time my dh and I have been married - my son's life - we got Al when Doug was 5; he's now 28 and getting married in October. I don't know what to do with myself. I went to an auction this afternoon just to get out of the house. I almost passed out from the heat, but it was better than having to think or go home. I'm trying to think of someplace else to go right now, anywhere but home.
Farmgirl Sister #50
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?"
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
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Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 2:59:25 PM
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Oh Janice, I'm so sorry about Al. I know we've talked a lot about our pets, and our kitties--how each one is near and dear to us. What a long and wonderful life, but with those milestones that you mentioned, I'm glad he was there each and every step. Our pets leave a void like none other...I'm glad you got out of the house (and glad you didn't pass out) but give yourself the time you need. You and I both know it's alright to cry like a baby over our...well, babies.
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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dkelewae
True Blue Farmgirl
1310 Posts
Diana
Saint Peters
MO
USA
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Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 3:15:31 PM
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Janice I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved furbaby. They really are like one of our children and they leave such a hole in our hearts when they cross the Rainbow Bridge.
Diana
St. Peters MO
Country Girl trapped in the city! |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 3:24:49 PM
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oh Janice sweety...I'm sending you a great big hug.
so very sorry.
wow..23 yrs..most kitties only live 15 ...so big Al gave you 8 yrs more than the average kitty..what a blessing to you I know.
I know that you have lots and lots of fond memories.
As Jonni mentioned..it is perfectly o.k. to cry..wish I was there to lend you a shoulder and to give you a great big hug in person.
it is always hard to lose anything that we love..be it pets, people..anything..loss is hard..so do cry..and talk as much as you need to..we gals are here to listen.
I'm glad that you did not pass out..it has been so very hot outside lately..so do try to keep cool, and with crying and the heat..do try to get something to drink..we want our sweet Janice to stay healthy too.
(did you find anything at the auction? getting out of the house sometimes does help, but having a big cry out and letting yourself release those emotions is so helpful too..I know it hurts like the dickens, but you will be o.k...trust me..it takes time..any loss does..but the sun will shine again..but for now..allow yourself a bit of crying and grieving...all will be well again soon it just takes a little time is all, and do know that we care and love you gal..great big cyber hugs headed your way)
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~
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Sandra K. Licher
True Blue Farmgirl
1106 Posts
Sandra
Horseshoe Bend
Arkansas
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Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 4:21:47 PM
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Janice my heart goes out to you....it is SO hard when they have been with you and part of your life and history for so long. Just know this...he was loved and well taken care of and happy or he would not have lived that long....you were good to him and he loved you as well or he wouldn't have stuck around as long as he did...that was one loved feline! Here's to Big Al and the family that loved and cared for him for so many years. Hip Hip Hooray! Bless your family for giving him such a wonderful life. Hugs and loads of sympathy at this time.
Sam in AR..... "It's a great life if you don't weaken!"
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electricdunce
True Blue Farmgirl
2544 Posts
Karin
Belmont
ME
USA
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Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 4:34:21 PM
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They sure do capture our hearts, especially the old troopers. Sorry you lost your kitty, it is losing a family member, they are such special beings. He certainly had a long healthy life and was cherished, can't ask for more than that...
Karin
Farmgirl Sister #153
"Give me shelter from the storm" - Bob Dylan
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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Farmtopia
True Blue Farmgirl
1465 Posts
Zan
New York
New York
USA
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Nancy Gartenman
True Blue Farmgirl
9093 Posts
Nancy
West Seneca
New York
USA
9093 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 05:13:16 AM
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Janice,
How sad, but what a long life for a kitty. Isn't it hard? I won't get another pet after I lost my last kitty. She was only 12. I still miss her and its been five years. They are so funny aren't they? Hope you are feeling a tiny bit better today, its takes a while to get past that sinking feeling, they are such a big part of our lives.
NANCY JO
www.Nancy-Jo.blogspot.com |
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Ms.Lilly
True Blue Farmgirl
826 Posts
Lillian
Scotts Mills
OR
USA
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Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 06:45:38 AM
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Janice- I am sending out a BIG HUG your way. Our animals play such a big role in our lives and it is so hard when they leave us...cherish the memories.
Lillian |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 09:35:49 AM
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Janice...I am so sorry to hear about your loss!! It does take awhile to get over for sure..if we ever do. I had a 22 year old cat named Sylvia, who died about 7 years ago now. I still think about her all the time. Our oldest cat now is 12. It is hard having two elderly dogs and one older cat..it makes me nervous!! I wish I were there to give you a hug! hang in there...
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 12:01:01 PM
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That's an OLD CAT...I have never heard of one living so long! What a joy (and a fixture) in your life and know you'll miss him. So sorry to hear of it. Hugs.
Jami in WA
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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hattah
Farmgirl in Training
48 Posts
Margaret
Maine
USA
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Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 07:41:18 AM
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hi miss bee haven
I am so sorry about your kitty. I have always had cats and I miss having one now. 23 is the ancient of days for kitties. I think that our pets are the Guardians of Being as E.Tolle said. We are never more ourselves than when we are with them. They ask nothing but they give sooooooooo much. It hurts when they leave us.
MY nana always had dogs (and cats) and now she is 95 with early Alzheimers and do you know what she does???? She feeds all her old doggies. I can account for at least six. She calls them her kids. I hope if I am ever that old those are the things that come to visit me.
I truely believe that nothing and no one is ever really gone from us.
peace
hattah
"Never spend time with people who do not respect you."
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 07:44:39 AM
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Hattah, that makes me cry--in a very good way, about your gran. When my old dog passed, I thought I would, too--my mother found a piece of jewelry for me made by a gal in San Francisco with a quote that said, "Though I am gone, I have merely changed form and now I run through the heavens" That made it better--not all the way, but I still think of her running up there, whole of body and no more pain.
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Miss Bee Haven
True Blue Farmgirl
4331 Posts
Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
4331 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2008 : 2:06:13 PM
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Thanks to all of you for the cyber hugs and sympathy. It's much appreciated by Al's heartbroken mom.
Farmgirl Sister #50
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?"
'Br.Dave Gardner' |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2008 : 4:05:13 PM
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Janice, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. They become such good friends and it is always so hard to lose them. *hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
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