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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
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Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
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 Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 3:18:20 PM
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Rae,
I just now got up to speed on this thread. Will keep you and your family in prayer.
hugs,
God is good....all the time.
Denise
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tea_lady_tammy
True Blue Farmgirl
1485 Posts
Tammy
NE
USA
1485 Posts |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 6:18:52 PM
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Thank you Julia for praying for each of us. It is such a blessing to know that we have others praying for us. Rae I am so glad to hear that things are better for you. enjoy tonight. Rest is good for your soul.
Blessings and hugs
Tammy
Tea is like being in the stars with God.
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knittinchick
True Blue Farmgirl
1854 Posts
Megan
Wisconsin
1854 Posts |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 8:46:02 PM
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Rae, I'm glad that your FIL is doing better. The power of prayer is pretty amazing sometimes.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 12:56:54 AM
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I wanted to thank everyone for the suggestions and the prayers. I had a long talk with my DH about the MIL interference and he didn't believe me at first. After talking to practically half our families he decided to watch and make a note everytime she asked for help with something she had always done for herself before or when she interfered with the children or us. After 3 days the whole page was covered! He went to her and sat down to talk to her with me there to keep him from caving. It was horrible and loud and long! She finally admitted she did it because she wanted him to pay more attention to her than to me. I had felt all along it was on purpose but couldn't prove it. She said she was jealous that our girls chose us over her, especially when they chose me. He was livved! He demanded that she agree to building a place for her on the back side of the house that was seperate fromus. He also made her agree that she would leave the kids to us completely unless they were doing something that would hurt them and we weren't around. He then made her agree to having to ask to join if we were talking or doing something together and said I was the one who gets to say yes or no. Then he told her that she had to sit on his left side no matter where we were. She threw a fit about the car rides together because it puts her in the back seat. He told her that as his wife I come first so that means I'm "up front" in his life and his car. He also told her that if she was going to insist on this certian variety of vegetable or that certian variety of fruit she could grow her own. He actually told her the garden was mine and she should stay out of it. I couldn't believe my ears! He flat stood up to her and told her I was handling our life in just the perfect way for us. Then he told her if she couldn't handle her finances any better than she had been that she was gonna turn them over to us and he'd put her on an allowance because we weren't going to keep paying her bills so she could shop and run up her credit cards on silliness. Then he informed her that he was dropping the kids off and taking me to get some things I needed for the garden and that she'd have to fend for herself for dinner we'd be out late. As we were getting ready to leave he turned to her and told her she wasn't shopping with us anymore either since she critisized every choice I made at the store. If she wanted to shop she could take herself instead of going with us. Then he tookthe whole family out for mexican since we couldn't do that with her with us. After we left the kids with my mom we went shopping for gardening things and he said he wanted to go back to church and that the day before church he would flat tell everyone no to anything they wanted help with so we could be sure to get everyone ready and in bed early enough to get up the next day. I bawled like a little baby and he apologized over and over agian for what I'd had to go through for the last 16 months. I feel so much lighter that before. I never thought that this could happen. I really thought 'my' life was over. Now I actually have hope! I even stopped and prayed for a family I was reading about here on mjf in a thread about foreclosure today. It was tight lipped and uncomfortable and very, very short. I am still not able to lay it all out on the line in prayer. I am scared of God right now. I know I haven't done anything right in the last 16 months and I can't bring myself to face it all yet. I guess I need the right push. I thought about writing it all down and then just praying over the letter. Does that sound stupid? I just can't make myself start rehashing all this to Him yet. I feel horrible about that. I do credit God for leading me to this forum and for keeping my DH from losing it when I went to him. He's not the most open minded person where his mom is concerned. This time he was. He doesn't even seem to be acting any differently towards me since all this happened. I feel like there is a light at the end of this tunnel and I think I can see it!
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1498 Posts
Rae
MN
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Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 04:18:10 AM
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God certainly blessed you with your husband!! I am so happy that he can see what has happened. It will take time but put it all in God's hands  and he will show you the way.
Also please pray for my SIL, Anty, as she goes through this very hard time and loss in her life.
Rae
FIL still doing good!!
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
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Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 05:07:32 AM
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Oh Angela God is hearing you. He knows exactly what your thinking and what is in your heart. Through all the prayers he is working miricales. He loves you and knows that you are struggling to let it all go, but he's right there beside you. He'll keep showing you the way and we'll all be praying that you will be able to give it all to him. I am so happy that DH has seen how things have been and this has brought you all back to being a family. God was answering your needs when he brought you here where you felt safe enough to open up. God Bless you sweetheart, it gets me alittle mushy just knowing that you want God in your life. Prayers will continue for you and your family.
HUGS~~~Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9329 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
9329 Posts |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:31:17 AM
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Rae,
Glad to hear your FIL is doing good!
Keeping your SIL in prayer.
hugs,
God is good....all the time.
Denise
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1498 Posts
Rae
MN
1498 Posts |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:45:13 AM
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Spoke too soon, FIL went backwards last night so will go after work today and see what is what. Keep prayers coming please. They give hubby and I strength.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:52:38 AM
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Rae prayers are coming your way. This has to be a very trying time. Prayers for FIL and SIL.
Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
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knittinchick
True Blue Farmgirl
1854 Posts
Megan
Wisconsin
1854 Posts |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 10:30:15 AM
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Angela, prayers sent for your new phase with your husband and God. Rae, I hope your FIL and SIL get better soon! Prayers sent for both of them.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
At heart, I am both a sassy city girl and a down-home country gal. |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
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Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 7:35:30 PM
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Prayers being sent to all of you wonderful ladies!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Apr 18 2010 : 9:38:33 PM
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Well, it's been a week since I posted about my DH and the MIL situation. I was so scared that it was gonna all blow up and affect my marriage. It hasn't. It seems to have actually opened his eyes. He now stands behind everything we talked to her about and adds to it everytime she tries to interfere in a new way. He has been a little more affectionate towards me here lately than he normally is. He said he had a lot to make up for and he really wants me to see it. Our house is becoming a rather happy place. My DH has been saying a prayer at every meal we have together and our youngest is trying to imitate him. It is so sweet to hear her gibberish between 'Dear Lord' and 'Amen', which is all she can say clearly most prayers. I had to laugh out loud yesterday at her though. It was a very clear prayer that everyone heard. She said "Dear Lord. Daddy cooked. Amen" I just lost it! My oldest daughter looked at us and asked "does she know something I don't know about dinner?" My DH said it was a prayer of thanks not of fear, but I found it hillarious and am still chuckling as I type this! She has said this prayer a few times before I think, but I couldn't swear to what she said. This time the whole room heard it! I am making an effort to pray more often, but it is still hard. I do feel as if I'm recovering somewhat and I am going to try to move forward. I have 3 girls who need to be led in the right direction and it's my job to do that. Thank you to everyone for giving me a place to rant and support. The ideas and reading suggestions are very helpful. Thank you all.
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 01:37:35 AM
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Angela I am so happy to hear that things are working out for you and you beautiful family. God Is Good! He hears all your thoughts and prayers and he's right there beside you. Let him guide you sweetheart! Your three little girls sound so sweet and I can just see them at their dinner table all in prayer. What a wonderful site.
Rae, my dear friend, I am so sorry that all of this is continuing for you. Stay strong and as you know the Lord will be guiding you.
My prayers are continuing for you both that all will work out.
HUGS, Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1498 Posts
Rae
MN
1498 Posts |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 03:54:30 AM
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Hello all! I appreciate the continued prayers. It seems to be one thing after another for my FIL. My SIL is going to be contacting the VA about a skilled living arrangement for him. He at this point can not take care of himself. It is so sad as things were really turning around last week and then the major set back. His poor body is worn out and tired so appreciate prayers for him and our family, especially the hubby.
With God all things are possible and have to trust in his plan, hard as it is at times.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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Posted - Apr 29 2010 : 10:31:50 PM
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Well, I am still struggling with a few issues. I still haven't opened my bible and started studying agian yet. I have been making a consciuos effort to pray more often. I have prayed a few times for my MIL and our whole situation, it has been difficult but it seems to be helping. I even found myself standing in my garden today looking around and praying that God would help it grow for my family. I wasn't consciously wanting to, it was more instinct. It felt natural. I just wanted those of you who have offered advice and prayers to know, I think I'm pretty much facing the right way, now it's time for me to start walking. Thank you to all of you for helping to pull me back up and for pointing me in the right direction.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1498 Posts
Rae
MN
1498 Posts |
Posted - Apr 30 2010 : 04:27:15 AM
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Angela I think most of us have struggled as you have for one reason or another with our walk with God. You aren't alone and prayers out for you and your family.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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knittinchick
True Blue Farmgirl
1854 Posts
Megan
Wisconsin
1854 Posts |
Posted - Apr 30 2010 : 2:46:36 PM
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Angela, personally, I believe that's how prayer should be. It shouldn't need to be anything structured, otherwise you'll be bored and then won't want to do it. In my opinion, sometimes the best prayers are the ones that are spontaneous and are in your own words.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
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