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Holidays:  Gift for an elderly neighbor who just lost her dh  |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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 Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 08:26:15 AM
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Hi all--I've been racking my brain trying to think of something--even just a token, for our neighbor, Betty, who just lost her husband. She is 79, and has everything (she's a gourmet cook, goes to France a lot, etc....), but I spoke with her a couple of evening ago because she is cleaning out her fridge and always sends goodees over to the dogs...because of grief, she doesn't have any appetite. I feel like cookies or something like that would be sort of pointless....
what can I do?
"She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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Hideaway Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1553 Posts
Jo
Virginia
USA
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 09:43:27 AM
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Jonni,
Your time may be the best gift you can give your neighbor...take the cookies and your own teacup if you have too, and spend a little time with her. It may be that she needs prompting to eat, especially if she was used to cooking for her DH and may not feel like "it's worth it" to cook and set down to a solitary table by herself. So maybe she would even invite you to lunch, or to dinner, where you could have a short visit and ensure she has a meal and/or someone to cook for once in a awhile.
Jo
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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 09:51:28 AM
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Oh my yes, your TIME and your EAR:) Just imagine the stories she has from travelling and being old :) Could be priceless or if you are "pushy" take a camcorder and record it and give it to her or something. I'm just thinking how this could be precious more than any "gift" ever to her! and you :)
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true." |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 10:27:47 AM
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A sister, a friend, someone to listen, make a warm batch of muffins and let her talk...grief is a terrible thing to deal with and a good pair of farm girl shoulders is what she needs. Maybe see if you can go shopping with/for her and help her find little bits of food to eat. Sometimes it's just that all she can think of is cooking for two :/
Wishing you joy in small things and peace in your heart
Annika
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juliet79
True Blue Farmgirl
112 Posts
Heather
Worland
Wyoming
USA
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 10:57:47 AM
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| Take her out for a drive to look at beautiful homes decorated around your town. That way, she can get out of the home, which is sometimes useful when someone is mourning. Then, take her to a cute cafe for some pie and tea or coffee. That way, when you go over to her home the next time, you can talk about all the lights, wreaths, and open the door for more conversation. I hope she starts doing well soon. You are kind to be thinking of her. |
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peggysue
True Blue Farmgirl
267 Posts
Peggy
Tulsa
Oklahoma
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 11:09:45 AM
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time and a good shoulder to cry on is probably the best gift you could give her.
Life is too short to be narrow minded. |
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nashbabe
True Blue Farmgirl
687 Posts
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2890 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
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Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 11:41:40 AM
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Jonni
After meeting you & seeing what a sweetie you are, I would have to agree that you are the best gift of all. If you & Justin come out here anytime soon, maybe you could give her a small potted cedar.. (if that whole thing works) |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Dec 05 2007 : 12:29:11 PM
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You all are right about giving my time--I'll admit, it's been difficult--when I get home and get dinner started, it's suddenly 8:00 and then I don't see any lights on. Seems like she's been trying to stay out of the house so she doesn't think about him....I think that's normal....
She's 79, but she sure does like her wine! Maybe I'll get a nice bottle and some good cheese and I'll set over when I know she's in--and not feeling under the weather. Bless her heart, when she called about the dog goodies, she sounded like a little frog!
Heya, Nubidane--same goes for you. You're as sweet as pie!
"She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
http://www.buyhandmade.org/ |
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Holiday Angel
True Blue Farmgirl
444 Posts
Pauline
Sweet Home
Oregon
USA
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Gift for an elderly neighbor who just lost her dh
