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Across the Fence:  What scares you?  |
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Whimsy_girl
True Blue Farmgirl
576 Posts
USA
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 Posted - Aug 08 2005 : 1:45:42 PM
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wasps DO look scary! One was chasing my 1 year old around the back porch yesterday evening and I made everyone come in the house. LOL
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
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CityCat
True Blue Farmgirl
198 Posts
Catherine
Toronto
Ontario
Canada
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Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 5:12:23 PM
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Not all bees and wasps are bees and wasps. There are some insects out there who use the fact that wasps and bees aren't nice to protect themselves. That bee or wasp you're so afraid of may not have a stinger at all! Please see this website for examples: http://bugguide.net/node/view/196/bgpage
I'm sadly afraid of balloons. Yup. I can't be near anyone playing with a balloon. Balloon dump at a dance or something, I've gotta leave. Break a balloon with a dart to win a prize, can't do it. Making balloon animals is okay though. Watching people blow up a balloon and then manhandle it to tie the knot, painfully creepy-crawlie sensations start.
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greyghost
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
Lynn
Summerville
Georgia
USA
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Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 5:53:14 PM
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I'm afraid the government.
*crap, now they're spying on me! Oh wait, they have been for years.*
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Nicole
Farmgirl at Heart
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Nicole
Evanston
IL
USA
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Posted - Aug 19 2005 : 6:55:01 PM
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GHOSTS! Can't even hear other's ghost stories or come near scary movies...
My mom thought our farm house was haunted when I was young..
Now I see the secret of making the best person: it is to grow in the open air, to eat and sleep with the earth - Walt Whitman |
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verbina
True Blue Farmgirl
231 Posts
randi
n.j
USA
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Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 09:28:02 AM
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| the goverment,i agree with lynn. ghosts are ok but i dont want to see them in the dark |
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lamamama
True Blue Farmgirl
255 Posts
Melanie
CA
USA
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Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 09:55:18 AM
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Lucinda, your story brought tears to my eyes, too........ Thank you for sharing that. What a blessing you are, & will be to each other. I wish you all the best.
My little phobia relates to dying too early to see my children grow up. I had my kids late in life (my 40s), & am also a single Mom. So I worry that I won't be around to take care of them, & see them grow up - to see what kind of men they will turn out to be. It has turned me into a hypochondriac - something I never was before. And being a Nurse, I can certainly imagine the worst possible diagnosis, with any little symptom. :)
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showmemom
True Blue Farmgirl
166 Posts
karen
carthage
mo
USA
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Posted - Aug 20 2005 : 10:32:48 AM
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my main fear is that i'll become incapacitated somehow and will be really dependent on others. don't get me wrong, i have a great husband and kids that would take care of me but to be in that situation is just the worst possible scenario for me.
i worry that the disease i live with (lupus) will attack my brain and i won't know my family or have some kind of psychotic episode and then they'll take my nursing license away and i'll be penniless and homeless...see how this stuff grows by leaps and bounds!!
talk to you later-
karen
Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.
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PJJ
True Blue Farmgirl
95 Posts
Paula
Bristow
OK
USA
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Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 09:44:35 AM
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That my newly ex-husband and his "new love" will take my children away from me.
That I won't have the resources to raise my children as I would like.
Financial issues.
That the "new love" will convince my children they love them more and the kids should live with them.
Gee, I'm a mess! :)
pj
[/size=1]Paula J., with Ty, Cara, Brody, Blue, and Fidget |
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TheSoapMaven
True Blue Farmgirl
691 Posts
Susan
LA
USA
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Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 11:16:48 AM
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This is a great thread. I am so touched by the posts and your willingness to share. I have a little plaque that says "You cant scare me, I have six kids!". Pretty much the truth. I do fear the government to an extent. I fear the draft coming back. I fear we will always be at war now.
I am not actually afraid of rodents (rats, mice) but I hate them. HATE. Snakes, have owned one. Spiders, I have a tarantula so in general not afraid but am afraid of black widows. I have found so many in our little barn and the man that built this house was bit once and nearly died. Bugs...they all serve a purpose I know. For those who hate/fear wasps...they are the only natural enemy of the black widow, there's a good point. HATE fire ants, cant see why they are here.
I am not a worrier. My poor mom is and I feel so sorry for her sometimes because she just cant seem to NOT worry. So I kinda made up my mind not to what if my way thru life. I challenge the things I can, and the things I cant change I try not to worry too much about.
I am afraid of heights. I had to get on the roof to help my beloved re-roof our house. He didnt realize how afraid I was until I broke down in tears trying to make myself climb back down when we quit for the first day. And we live in a single story house! Having said that, I did go 25 ft up a ladder to save my cat Seamus. He had been bitten by a poisonous snake and I suppose he was just delirious and got as far as he could away from the snake. There was no one else to go get him and I knew he would die if I didnt. So there I went. I don't know if I cried more over his injury (he's fine now...bit him directly in the eyeball but he didnt lose it, though he is not able to see very well out of it) or over having to go up the ladder.
Susan
Proprietress of Dahlem's Soapworks http://www.thesoapmaven.com
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Clare
True Blue Farmgirl
2173 Posts
NC WA State
USA
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Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 11:44:50 AM
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Paula dear, that inner voice whispering all those ugly things in your ear is a detriment to your health (and sanity). Tell it to go take a hike! Your kids love you unconditionally and you will never loose them, wherever they may be. Bonding that takes place in motherhood (or fatherhood, for that matter), is never undone if one keeps on being a good caring person. REFUSE to give your ex and company any power over your thoughts from this moment forward. You have a flotilla of powerful, unafraid farmgirls who are walking right along side you. Remember this.
As far as my fears, y'll mentioning bridges brought back one of mine. I have to drive across a bridge daily. I'm okay as long as I don't have to stop on the bridge for traffic delays. I can feel every motion and movement of its' infrastructure and it gives me the willies... that along with the fear of deep water... and I'm a mess by the time the traffic starts up again. 
**** Love is the great work - though every heart is first an apprentice. - Hafiz
Set a high value on spontaneous kindness. - Samuel Johnson****
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Whimsy_girl
True Blue Farmgirl
576 Posts
USA
576 Posts |
Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 12:17:36 PM
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Wow this tread really took off.. guess what I ran into yesterday?
A couple of these http://hobospider.org/ These are responsable for my fear of spiders in the first place and I moved right into their natural habatat! When I was a kid my mother owned the house across the street from the house we just bought. The house was so full of these things that my mom ran around with a flyswatter in her beltloop..They have a bite that can put you in the hospital and the way she would go white and scream every time she saw one must have traumatized me enough as a kid to do the same thing as an adult.
20 years ago this place was a lot less developed so silly me I thought that now there were a few more lawns and a few less fields thise buggers would have moved on.. Nope!!! they usually start snooping around in the fall and I saw 2 in the last 12 hours and it's only august :(
I'm not as bad with the naturally occuring outside spiders.. while they give me the shivers and the thought of walking through a web makes me feel ill, I don't wish them all to be gone I know they have a purpose and they are facinating in their own nasty little way.
They don't invoke the fight or flight response that these awful creatures, that should never even exist on gods green earth do.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
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MeadowLark
True Blue Farmgirl
2206 Posts
USA
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Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 12:53:12 PM
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Paula, You have THE greatest power on earth on your side...YOU gave those children LIFE...nothing on earth can ever change that! And LOVE... you are strong and invincible woman!!!
Being is what it is. Jean Paul Sartre |
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Whimsy_girl
True Blue Farmgirl
576 Posts
USA
576 Posts |
Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 1:10:37 PM
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Paula, when your kids are older are they going to look back and say "my mom didn't get me the latest power ranger" Or are they going to look back and say "My mom loved us so much she made sure our needs were met even in the hardest times" There will probably be moments when they try to play the two families against eachother, lord knows my brother and I tried that when we thought we could get what we wanted, but as we grew up, we realized how hard our mom worked to make sure we were alright. She made sure to teach us a lot about character. We learned what kind of a person has it and what kind doesn't. Our mom tought us morals and to be smart about what people are out to take advantage and what ones are genuine. She never had to tell us this but now, looking back and knowing him today our dad hasn't got a lick of character. He is a user, and always out for himself and what others can do for him.
Just raise them to be smart about people, and raise them to be good solid individuals, and even if times get hard while they are too young to know better, remember that if you give them the right foundation, they will know whats what when they get older and love you more for it.
There is no one in the world I respect more than my mother. She was firm and I never got to go party until I lived on my own, she didn't apporove of any of the boys I dated, she forced us to listen to Dr Laura in the car instead of the radio.. god we hated that.. and thanks to her I married my husband who is exactly what she wanted for me, the exact opposite of my Dad.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
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CityCat
True Blue Farmgirl
198 Posts
Catherine
Toronto
Ontario
Canada
198 Posts |
Posted - Aug 21 2005 : 1:38:39 PM
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I'm not normally afraid of spiders, but here is a story. Some years back I was field collecting. I had to tromp into an area carrying a bunch of gear to a site about a hundred feet from the nearest road. I was carrying all my stuff and was about 20 feet from the car, and I had just started to get into the brushy undergrowth stuff when I walked through a huge spiderweb, about 3 feet wide. My hands were full, and I couldn't really brush the web away, and I was thinking, "Gosh, that was a big spiderweb... I wonder where the spider is..." Then I looked down at an arm. I think it was my left. It was there, hanging out, probably wondering where its beautiful web just went. I went berserk, flinging all my equipment in every direction, and bolted for the road. When I made it back to my car I was finally able to calm down. The spider was then long gone, as was all my collecting equipment. I then spent an agonizing hour trying to recollect everything from the dense underbrush and was able to find almost everything. For the most part, I love observing spiders and try never to kill any, but if anything (spider, bug, person) approaches me without my first seeing it, I will always jump and flail.
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