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newmomma327
Farmgirl in Training
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Tabatha
Michigan
USA
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 Posted - Aug 20 2007 : 8:42:15 PM
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Oh dear 
My 5 year old step-son has discovered "himself". I've tried to ignore it but the child is literally laying on the floor face down w/ his hands "there" ALL THE TIME!
I haven't said anything and I don't want him to be uncomfortable or feeling like he's doing something wrong or anything but I'm a little nervous w/ kindergarten starting up.
Is this normal? I've told my husband maybe he should say something but he doesn't know what to say either!
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Aug 20 2007 : 10:57:32 PM
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I have a grown nephew, who when he was five got the nickname "Scratch" because if you asked why he had his hand down his pants (he ALWAYS DID) he would say he was scratching an itch.haha. As far as I know he outgrew it.
Seriously..a 5 year old is way old enough to understand that it is not proper to do that in public. Just explain to him that he needs to not do that because, for one thing other people don't want to see it, and for another thing there is the germ problem..remind him that is where potty comes from and we wash our hands after going..so hmm....not a place to be feeling all the time..just not okay to do in front of others. I never had a real problem with this with my boys (I have 5) but a couple of them went through a time where they got reminders now and then to please stop. (not in front of anyone so they would be embarrassed) Good luck. Don't be afraid to just explain to him that it isn't a good thing to do!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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Edited by - Aunt Jenny on Aug 25 2007 10:30:52 PM |
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BotanicalBath
True Blue Farmgirl
1014 Posts
Elizabeth
Ohio
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GaiasRose
True Blue Farmgirl
2552 Posts
Tasha-Rose
St. Paul
Minnesota
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Posted - Aug 21 2007 : 08:00:48 AM
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Originally posted by BotanicalBath
I would just tell him that people dont do that in public, and if he want to he has to go into his room in private.
That is what we said to Grace when she became interested. DO NOT tell him it is bad because it isn't, just tell him he needs to be private about that.
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_Rebecca_
True Blue Farmgirl
568 Posts
Rebecca
OK
USA
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2007 : 4:37:29 PM
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| My nephew had this problem, at that age too. My mom is raising him, and she kept thinking he would outgrow it, but it continued. So one day at the store, my mom pulled him close, and quietly told him to look at all the men in the store. And then asked him (this was while his hand was in his pants) if the other men had their hands in their pants. He said no. She said you're supposed to act like them, so you shouldn't either. Killed it....... he hasn't done it since! |
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2007 : 5:26:53 PM
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I help out a lot in kindergarten it is amazing how many little boys have this problem they also seem to like playing with their chest parts as well. I always just told them that this wasn't the proper place for that and they would have to discuss it with their parents if their was a proper place for that. I know this doesn't help you but I wanted to let you know this was a conversation I had about 4 times a week with differnt kids after about a month they all stopped thank heaven. Now if I could figure out a way to have kindergarten little girls pants not show the top of their bum when they sit on the floor I could be rich. Or at least not go crazy trying to get all the little boys
not drop their toy cars ( which their not supposed to have) down the back of little girls pants ( along with rocks and bugs and grass and dirt don't ask it just seems to happen)
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
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Edited by - sunshine on Aug 25 2007 5:30:18 PM |
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farmgrlchick
True Blue Farmgirl
439 Posts
Theresa
Columbus
Montana
USA
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Posted - Aug 25 2007 : 5:58:39 PM
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I would just tell him that people dont do that in public, and if he want to he has to go into his room in private.
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That is what we said to Grace when she became interested. DO NOT tell him it is bad because it isn't, just tell him he needs to be private about that.
Amen to that! I have two sons, neither were overly obsessed with this. Just nicely say he needs to be private about that. The other thing is in front of company, ask the child to come with you and privately remind him about what you talked about. Don't embarrass the child in front of others. I think that's respectful.
Now on a lighter note, My kids loved the books by Tedd Arnold called "Parts" it always cracked them up. When I saw your post it made me think of this book first thing.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/104-8800563-9728740?initialSearch=1&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=parts&Go.x=19&Go.y=9
Farmgirl Blessings,
Theresa
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Edited by - farmgrlchick on Aug 25 2007 7:26:33 PM |
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sleepless reader
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
CA
USA
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Posted - Aug 28 2007 : 10:58:45 AM
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Maybe he'll grow up to be a major league baseball player! They seem to always be scratching and adjusting themselves!
I used to work in a pre-school and this is not an uncommon thing. All part of growing up, just as learning when and where to be this way are part of growing up!
Life is messy. Wear your apron! |
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FarmGirl~K
True Blue Farmgirl
512 Posts
Kelly
TX
USA
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Posted - Aug 28 2007 : 12:53:19 PM
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I didn't have an issue with my son doing this, but one day when my nephew discovered where his parts were, my sister told him to "stop playing with that, its not a toy"... he quickly said. "oh yes it is"  She never made a big deal out of it as most boys & some girls go through that, but she did share that story with me. I just got a good laugh out of that!
"Work as if you were to live a hundred years, pray as if you were to die tomorrow." ~Benjamin Franklin~
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Aug 28 2007 : 3:43:06 PM
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| lol Kelly. Reminds me one day I was taking my nephew to preschool. He said or did something (can't remember what) that made me say, boy have you lost your mind? He grabbed him bottom, and then promptly said, no it's still there! Where he got that it was there, I do not know! We never said anything to that effect! lol But, it was funny! lol |
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FarmGirl~K
True Blue Farmgirl
512 Posts
Kelly
TX
USA
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Posted - Aug 29 2007 : 12:47:44 PM
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Funny Heather, only thing I could possibly think is maybe he thought you said behind instead of mind. Kids are so cute.
I was grocery shopping the other day & a little girl asked her mom about the wax in her ears. I started to giggle & looked at the mom, she smiled at me as she was trying explain that she meant that she hadn't been listening. We always have to watch what we say don't we? Even with the older ones. 
"Work as if you were to live a hundred years, pray as if you were to die tomorrow." ~Benjamin Franklin~
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2007 : 4:32:32 PM
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| lol You are probably totally right Kelly, I never thought of that! I bet that is what he thought! lol |
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Vintage Redhead
True Blue Farmgirl
233 Posts
Kaylyn
Saint Charles
IL
USA
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Posted - Aug 31 2007 : 4:21:40 PM
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Goodness...my oldest DS seemed to be permanently connected there for a while!! The other one: not so much. We just told them pretty much what everyone else has. They grow out of it.
Oddly enough though...both of my boyz discovered their noodles the same day they learned what the remote was. Coincidence? Nope...I'm starting to believe that scientific proof of Penile Channel Control is out there somewhere, just waiting to be studied. ~ K
~ Kaylyn ~ (Living in Suburbia with a FARMGIRL Heart!)
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Aug 31 2007 : 6:37:04 PM
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BlueRoseMama
True Blue Farmgirl
51 Posts
Val
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Posted - Sep 10 2007 : 12:42:57 PM
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Originally posted by BotanicalBath
I would just tell him that people dont do that in public, and if he want to he has to go into his room in private.
This is what we do too... we say that there is a reason those are called privates and we moved them to their own spaces if they wouldn't stop. The phase was always very short.
Val
Val ~ I am a whole food cooking, swing pushing, boo-boo kissing, paper crafting, breastfeeding, creative sewing, attachment parenting, woodworking, guitar playing, gardening, constantly reading, artistic and lovely full time, granola lovin' mama to my three sweetlings, Alex (7/20/96), Cyan (7/13/01), and baby Logan (1/22/07).
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juliet79
True Blue Farmgirl
112 Posts
Heather
Worland
Wyoming
USA
112 Posts |
Posted - Sep 21 2007 : 09:24:30 AM
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Well, this isn't a PROBLEM, but rather a teaching opportunity. Let him know that his body is amazing and that it can change as he gets older, (ie, he has grown up a lot since being a baby in diapers.)
Just let him know that there are times that he shouldn't touch his privates, and there are times that are appropriate, like when he is alone.
This is also a great time to talk to him about appropriate touching with others. He is naturally interested in his body, and it's the PERFECT time to talk to him about not touching others there and what he should do if someone touched him.
My son is 6, and as all kids, including girls do, they touch and ask questions why we look the same or different. I have taken these opportunities to let them know that no one is to touch them there, and that it is their body. They are to tell me or a teacher if something inappropriate is done, and even the doctor can't touch their body without mom or dad being there.
I think this is important because he is idenifiying his body, and should not be scolded, but just encouraged to time alone! |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Sep 21 2007 : 1:16:55 PM
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Heather-
I didn't think about tying this in to talking about what can and can't be done with others. What a good idea!
Alee
The amazing one handed typist! One hand for typing, one hand to hold Nora!
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
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Posted - Sep 21 2007 : 10:38:31 PM
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My son had this "issue" for a while too. Ironically it was about the same time as his kindergarten check up. The doc noticed he was a little um, red/chafed down there, and of course started in with the is anyone touching you questions. My son looked at the doc like he was nuts and said. No, I just like to play with it. or something to that effect. (I could almost hear him prefacing that with a duhhhhhh)
The doc told him to take it easy, he will need "it" for a while, and wouldn't want it to wear off.
I was crying because it was sooo funny. My son must have thought that doctor was sooooo dumb.
He would "scratch" in public, until I got tired of it, and kept escorting him to his room with a reminder that we do that in private. He will grow out of it, mine did. Now I have to worry about him and girls....thank God he is shy.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
Edited by - kissmekate on Sep 21 2007 10:41:18 PM |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Sep 22 2007 : 6:09:21 PM
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| That is hilarious Kate! lol haha |
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