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Across the Fence:  My mom was here! Missing her now...  |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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 Posted - Jul 12 2014 : 2:59:24 PM
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Hi Farmsisters,
Missing my mom.  She flew home today after a week. Seems like she just got here and I should be making dinner while she sits at the table and visits with Audrey. It was the longest we have gone without seeing each other (not by choice, it was due to finances, health, and schedules). I never imagined when I moved up North from Texas over twenty years ago that I would not spend holidays with my family or see them often, though I am blessed that we get to speak on the phone every day. I love that she was here for Audrey's twelfth birthday, and that we all had such a great week. My DH is a doll for all he did to make his MIL's trip memorable. 
When Audrey and I dropped her off at the airport, I must have cried buckets. Audrey tried to be brave but cried too. When she was little and we dropped my mom off at the airport, she would shout from her little car seat, "Nana! Nana! Don't go, Nana!"
DD and I caught a movie this afternoon at our town hall theater to lift our spirits. The dogs are now confused and looking for my mom.
My mom doesn't always understand me completely. She is more into mall shopping than I am, but she paid me the best compliment by saying how much I remind her of her mom, with my gardens and flowers and sewing and chickens, and we have always been very close. We had the best time, and I made sure even if we were out all day that we sat down on the porch and had a cold glass of iced tea and chatted in the afternoon. Today I got sad when I sat there, as the rocker was empty. It is so hard when relatives have to go home. :(
If you are lucky enough to live near your mom, hug her and visit often!!
Farmgirl Hugs,
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
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Dorinda
True Blue Farmgirl
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Dorinda
St. Cloud
Florida
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2014 : 6:41:12 PM
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Oh so sorry Nicole that you are feeling sad today! My Grandson flew from Montana in April. He was here for about 10 days. It had been over a year since I had saw him. We had a lot of fun together. At the airport he would not let me go. We both cried. It was stormy so his plane got stuck sitting there on the runway for 2 hrs. I had already made it back home . He called me from the plane and begged me to please let him stay with me. He kept saying I love you Grandma over and over. He is only 3 yrs old. It broke my heart. I still hear his voice in my head begging me. I told his Mother to let me come back and get him. But she would not let me. It is so hard to watch your family leave when you know you will not see them for a long time. But I pray a lot and put my trust in God that he is watching out over them. And I will see him again. Cherish the memories you made with your daughter and Mother. I don't know if you got any pictures while she was visiting but if you did maybe you could make a scrap book with your daughter. She could look back at the pictures and remember the fun time you guys had together with her Nana. That's what I did for my Grandson. He loved looking at it when he got it in the mail. Maybe your Mom would enjoy a few pictures also. Praying that you will feel better tomorrow and the days to come.
Seize The Day!
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
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Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
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Posted - Jul 13 2014 : 7:33:37 PM
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I understand you missing your Mom even more after that wonderful visit.
My Mom passed away 8 years ago. Oh, how I wish I had the chance to visit with her again! We lived only about a hundred miles apart but now I wish I had gotten over to visit her more often when life seemed just too busy. Keep up those phone calls and cherish that time too!
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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Red Tractor Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Winnie
Gainesville
Fl
USA
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Posted - Jul 14 2014 : 04:40:12 AM
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Visits from our family are always so intense and brief that we are unaware of all of the emotional energy that is pouring into every second. WE know they will only be here for a short while so we try and put as much as possible in everyday. When their time is up, we have been going 90 to nothing for days and loving every minute. Their leaving suddenly halts what has been weeks of anticipation and then a week of visiting. The let down is HUGE! I think too that in some small way, we realize that our moms are not here forever and that our times together are numbered. Age has a way of staring back at you and the realization that time is marching on sort of nags at your heartstrings in a vague way. So know that you are not alone in finding yourself swept away in a flood of tears. All of us who have lost our moms know the stunning sting we felt at goodbyes.
I am glad you had such a wonderful week together and hopefully it won't be a long time before another visit can be planned and enjoyed!
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
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Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Jul 14 2014 : 04:55:26 AM
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Awww... I'm so happy to hear you had such a special visit with your Mom, Nicole! It's definitely hard saying, "Until next time...," especially after just having made such wonderful memories together. But those memories are what bind the heartstrings tight while we're apart, right? :) I suppose half the fun is looking forward to that next time, and planning the things you'll do to make it even more special. My Mom is only six hours away, but, sadly we don't get to spend holidays together very often. Life is busy, but we do our best to try to get together at least once a year. Every time we DO get together, though, we try to do something special that's just for us, usually taking tea at a fancy new or favorite tea room. It has become tradition, and we giggle a lot, talk about life and family, catch up on things we've done since we last saw each other... It's just such a nice time, and has really brought us much closer over the years. We don't get to do it nearly as often as either of us would like; but when we do, it's the greatest thing. And I just love that she looks forward to it as much as I do! :) I love how your Mom admired the things about you that reminded her of your Grandmother... What a lovely gift - from her to you, but also from you to her! Such a beautiful thing for both of you to treasure! Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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Posted - Jul 17 2014 : 7:03:34 PM
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Thanks so much, farmgirls. You are all so correct. The last evening she was here, we called my brother on speaker and we all laughed so hard, I had tears running down my cheeks. It was great to be reminded of the good times way back when, and to share the treasured stories with my daughter (even the totally off the wall, funny ones).
Farmgirl Hugs,
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
Farmgirl of the Month, January 2013
Suburban Farmgirl Blogger
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