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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Ladies I desparately need your thoughts and prayer  |
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EastTXFarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
731 Posts
Victoria
Farmgirl #549
TX
USA
731 Posts |
 Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 6:17:17 PM
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I would normally not air my dirty laundry but at this point I am so devastated that I just need some support. I am sitting alone in my home for the first time in 17 years and have just gone numb. Here’s my story…My dad died 3 weeks ago. He and I were very, very close. I am a daddy’s girl. It was sudden and very unexpected. I spent 3 days in the hospital with him and then the next 3 days helping my mom get affairs in order. The 3rd day after my dad died I was so happy to get home and unwind. I sat down in my recliner, kicked my feet up, and let out a sigh. My husband was sitting in his chair next to me. He turned to me and said “I’m no longer happy with you or our marriage” I was in shock. We had been together for 17 years and had what I thought was the perfect marriage. We never argued, we did everything together. He was my best friend. I didn’t know what to do. After some talking we decided we would try to figure it out. I thought surely we would be able to work this out. Then Saturday while I was at work I received a text message from him say “I’ve moved out, you’re on your own”. A text message after 17 years, I get a text message. The sad part is 6 months ago he didn’t even know how to text I taught him. My heart is just broken. He gives no reason. He has never done anything like this before. Today I filed the petition for Divorce and just feel so numb. I am a very strong person and I know I will get through this but it sure does hurt. Please just say a little prayer for me. I'm not really scared to stay out on the farm by myself but it is way out. My closest neighbor is about a half a mile away. And if anything did happen nobody is close enough to know about it. Just pray that God will keep me safe and put his angels on extra guard.
www.facebook.com/victoriascottagebakery
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auntsmelly
True Blue Farmgirl
559 Posts
Jenny
Pitman
NJ
USA
559 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 6:37:24 PM
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I absolutely will be praying for you during this time. I am so sorry to hear about all that you are going through.
I believe that if God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Something is waiting for you- something wonderful.
Please hug yourself for me.
If the only prayer in your whole life was thank you that would be suffice. -Meister Eckhart
Jenny, Blessed Sister #4359
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jan49829
True Blue Farmgirl
2428 Posts
Janet
Gladstone
Mi.
USA
2428 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 6:45:43 PM
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Victoria, I am so sorry that you are going through all of this so suddenly. Sorry that you lost your dad so suddenly too. I am sending out prayers and hugs for you. Know that you have a lot of sisters here that support you and will help you get through this. Please keep us posted. Hugs and prayers,
Janet
Farmgirl Sister #3340
http://hardatworkcrafts.blogspot.com
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wildflower17
True Blue Farmgirl
3043 Posts
Judy
KY
USA
3043 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 6:53:20 PM
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Victoria,
So sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time...we are here for you when you need us...my thoughts and prayers are with you...God will never leave you nor forsake you...He will be there for you through all of this...
Hugs!
Judy
"A Falling Leaf is Summer's Wave Goodbye"...
Come little leaf, said the wind one day. Come to the meadow with me and play. Put on your dresses of red and gold; for the summer is past and the days grow cold.
George Cooper
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened...
"Country Girl at Heart...Blessed Beyond Measure"!!!
Farm Girl #5440
Farm Girl of The Month September 2013 |
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
2325 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 7:04:19 PM
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Victoria,
I can see how you would be in shock, especially with the horrible timing of this revelation at such a stressful time. I will certainly be praying for you and for him and what should be for you both.
It seems he should owe you an opportunity for counseling to try counselling, explanation, something. It seems like such a mystery how things could seem so normal and just explode one day.
It may be that he is afraid to try to make it work. It may be that he is in depression from something not really related to your marriage. Sometimes health issues show up emotionally before there is a physical sign.
I believe you are strong and can take care of yourself. I will pray for your safety and feelings of peace if this is meant to be.
Hugs,
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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wooliespinner
True Blue Farmgirl
1311 Posts
Linda
Manchester
Ohio
1311 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 7:18:44 PM
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Victoria I am so sorry. I can't imagine what you are feeling and going through. I will surely pray for you. I live way out and have no close neighbors.I have a friend I call and check in with to let her know I am in for the night after chores. I do this when my husband is out of town. If she does not here from me by a certain time she knows to come and check on me even though she lives 35 min. away. Just a thought to ease your mind. Once again I am so sorry this has happened to you. I pray that you will find peace and safety and come out whole again. Hugs to you.
Linda
Raspberry Run Farm
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Killarney
True Blue Farmgirl
5778 Posts
Connie
Arlington
TN
USA
5778 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 7:33:28 PM
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Victoria, Just know that many, many prayers are coming your way. God cares! and we Farm Sisters care! hugs.
Connie
Imagine....#3392 |
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Simply Satisfied
True Blue Farmgirl
427 Posts
Emily
Montana
USA
427 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 8:13:52 PM
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Praying for you and for amazing strength to get get you through this upheaval of your life. Hang in there.
Emily
Farmgirl # 3591 |
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Cozynana
True Blue Farmgirl
1123 Posts
Kem
1123 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 03:54:01 AM
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churunga
True Blue Farmgirl
3977 Posts
Marie
Minneapolis
MN
USA
3977 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 07:00:39 AM
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I did this exact same thing to my ex-husband. At the time, I really didn't know why I left him. It took about a year to figure out why I left him. He may never be able to tell you why so you may never know. The important thing is to get on with your life and try to live it well. I have had compound losses in my life and have had to learn how to move on. That is the best anyone can do.
We are all here for you.
Marie, Sister #5142
Try everything once and the fun things twice. |
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sherone_13
True Blue Farmgirl
2460 Posts
Sherone
Evanston
WY
USA
2460 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 07:13:11 AM
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Wow.....the text message thing was harsh. I am sending up a prayer that you will feel comforted and safe. Trust in Him, Victoria. All is Well when you trust in Him.
Sherone
Farmgirl Sister #1682
Thirty-One Independent Consultant
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Women are angels. When someone breaks our wings, we just jump on our broomsticks and fly! We are flexible that way! |
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 09:18:00 AM
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Oh Victoria, my heart just aches for you. I am so sorry that you have lost your father and now this. I am praying for the Lord to give you a big hug, to heal your heart and bring you comfort and strength. I am sorry.
Farmgirl Sister #5392
By His Grace, For His Glory
~Sharon
http://amerryheartjournal.blogspot.com/
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 09:36:40 AM
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My heart just aches for you, too, Victoria. I have been trying to find the right words. All I want to do is come down and sit with you so you don't feel all alone. I'm so, so sorry for all you are going through right now. You are in my heart, thoughts and prayers. Love - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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ptroupe
True Blue Farmgirl
1752 Posts
Portia
Johnson City
NY
USA
1752 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 2:44:37 PM
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My prayers are with you...on the loss of your father and the loss of your husband. This seems most unusual. Perhaps he is ill or is going through a mid-life crisis of some sort. You two need to talk to see if there is a way to work on your marriage before jumping right into divorce. Are there children involved? Do you think there is someone else? There could be so many reasons for this. I just hate to see you give up and quit. Do you think he is worth trying to keep? Do you love him? Ask yourself these questions. May God give you peace and understanding.
Blessings,
Portia
Wishing for the country life! |
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lovinRchickens
True Blue Farmgirl
3512 Posts
Kelly
Pipe Creek
Texas
USA
3512 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 3:54:16 PM
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I too am sending up prayers . This is such a stressful time. I am so sorry to hear all has turned upside down for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Farmgirl #5111
Blessings
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EastTXFarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
731 Posts
Victoria
Farmgirl #549
TX
USA
731 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 4:31:29 PM
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Thank you for your prayers and well wishes. Today was hard because it rained all day and was very gloomy outside. Portia to answer some of your questions He is not willing to talk I did try and yes I still love him but I also know myself very well. I don't trust easily and if trust is broken I just don't have it in me to forgive and forget. I know that I would never trust him again and I am not willing to put myself or him through that. I will make it on my own I just didn't think I would ever have to be alone again and never wanted to be alone again. I'm not giving up and quitting he did that for me. Thank you all again and please keep me and all out there who suddenly find themselves alone in your prayers.
www.facebook.com/victoriascottagebakery
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13721 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13721 Posts |
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2943 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
2943 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 6:39:55 PM
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Victoria, I do not know what to say to comfort you, but know that us gals here are praying for you.
Sadly, this could happen to any one of us, so we need to be strong sisters!
I hope you find peace in the small wonders of the day, like a special bird, a sunrise, or even a double coupon!
Prayers for you, yours, and some peace to come!
"We must reject the idea that every time a law’s broken, society is guilty rather than the lawbreaker. It is time to restore the American precept that each individual is accountable for his actions.” – R.R. |
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rphelps4
True Blue Farmgirl
620 Posts
roxanna
westport
indiana
USA
620 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 07:13:03 AM
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churunga
True Blue Farmgirl
3977 Posts
Marie
Minneapolis
MN
USA
3977 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 08:17:26 AM
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We will all gather our individual strength and send it to you. No one who is a farm girl is alone EVER.
Marie, Sister #5142
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ptroupe
True Blue Farmgirl
1752 Posts
Portia
Johnson City
NY
USA
1752 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 08:21:29 AM
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I am so sorry to hear that you do not think you can work it out. But, I will continue to pray that God's blessings, even in this crisis, will abound. He is our strength!!!!
Hugs,
Portia
Wishing for the country life! |
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shanda
True Blue Farmgirl
522 Posts
Shanda
Broken Bow
OK
USA
522 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 09:32:21 AM
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Victoria, Prayers are sent!
I know how you feel, the night I was moving things out of the home my ex and I shared, my father had a major stroke and died. It was very hard to process the grief of losing my daddy (yes, i'm a daddy's girl) and the grief of losing my home and husband. I had to make the arrangements for mom, and help my son (4 at the time) deal with losing his home, dad and papa. I really didn't think I was going to live thru the months that followed. Just take it moment by moment, breath by breath, one foot in front of the other. Talk to God...a lot. And know there are sisters praying for you. I'm so sorry you have to walk thru this, but know that you CAN do it.
Blessings
Shanda
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 10:06:42 AM
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I am so sorry that you are going through this. Know that you are thought of and being kept in my prayers. If you need anything, know I'm here.
Sending you big hugs
Marcy
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
http://marcysworldofcreativity.blogspot.com/
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
922 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
922 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 1:40:27 PM
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Oh honey, I'm so sorry...praying.
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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nndairy
True Blue Farmgirl
3280 Posts
Heather
Wapakoneta
Ohio
USA
3280 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 1:57:51 PM
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My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time. Many hugs too.
Heather
Farmgirl Sister #4701
http://nndairy.blogspot.com/
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EastTXFarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
731 Posts
Victoria
Farmgirl #549
TX
USA
731 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 7:39:43 PM
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Oh the nights are the hardest. During the day I'm so busy trying to do all the things I was already doing and now all the things that he did too. But coming into the house at night is really hard. It's so quiet and I don't have my best friend to tell all the day's events to. I used to look forward to night, kick back in the recliner and laugh about what ever stupid thing happened that day. Now I dread the setting sun. And of all things to have to do today. I've been making a wedding cake. If I had not committed to doing this over a month ago I would have backed out. Imagine trying to get your mind off of a divorce while baking a wedding cake. Thank all of you for letting me have a little vent time. Besides my husband I really only talk to my 2 sisters and I'm afraid I'm going to wear them out so I try not to call them too much. I really don't want to bother them at night but that is the hardest time for me. So getting on here and reading your messages has really helped.
www.facebook.com/victoriascottagebakery
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: Ladies I desparately need your thoughts and prayer |
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Ladies I desparately need your thoughts and prayer
