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ashcordes
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Ashley
Roann
IN
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 09:17:11 AM
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We are in mourning over our beloved fox terrier of 4+ years who was killed on the road this weekend. We are so lost...we just don't know what to do without our little buddy...he was like our first baby. Anyone have any suggestions on how I can help my hubby through this, he is taking it even harder than I am. |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
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Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 09:41:42 AM
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Ashley,
I am so sorry for your loss and know all too well the pain you and your hubby are experiencing.
We lost our dog this summer. Abby was our dog-child. She ran away from hearing thunder and was hit on a bridge about 2 miles away. I feel better about being able to recover a body and have something to bury. Since the accident, I have passed by way of that bridge only once.
Even now my heart is still broken.
Rather than rushing out to find another, give yourselves time to mourn and heal. The grief will sneak up at strange times, the heaviness in you chests will eventually pass.
If you guys took pictures, try going through these to rember the happy times. I made a collage to hang on the wall. Abby's grave sits on a hill that overlooks our house. The spot has zinias planted on it and gerbera daisys. The zinnias will spread everywhere, so to visit the site helps in the healing too
Cry your eyes out if you have to, you'll feel better. And hug each other.
I have been corresponding w/ a breeder and we hope to have a new puppy sometime before the new year.
There will never be replacements for the pets we loose, but the human heart has the capacity to love again too.
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 10:11:05 AM
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Oh Ashley...I am sending a big hug from Utah...I know that heartbreak. It WILL get easier..but it does take time..no help there, sorry. I will sure keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers..it is such a hard thing to go through!
Jenny in Utah Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ visit my little online shop at www.auntjenny.etsy.com |
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verbina
True Blue Farmgirl
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randi
n.j
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 10:39:00 AM
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Time for tears.THEN ANOTHER DOG .Wont be the same but they sure help fill the holes in life. blessing to you and husband. randi |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 10:50:03 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Just like when we lose a friend or a family member we have to go through the grief. Right now it might be to early to think about another dog, but eventually you should consider it. Dogs give us so much enrichment in our lives and the love they give us is so precious. I would be lost without my dog. I think the best thing you guys can do is give each other love and support. |
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Tina Michelle
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Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 10:59:20 AM
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it actually might help for both you and your husband to create a memory scrapbook together. Seriously..it might sound a bit strange..but it really is therapy..and can help in the healing process. If you take the photos you have..sit together..look through them..cry and talk together and create a special memory album.
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jo Thompson
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Jo
the mountainside of the Chugach
in Alaska
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 11:21:03 AM
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A RESCUE dog, my son just recued a purebred boxer that is just adorable and "grateful", she is approximately a year old, had been allowed to breed, puppies were lost and she was given to my son from a shelter. Her name is Molly, she is adorable. How many people become exhausted from the teenage years you have to go through with a dog. We have labs because we hunt, but I would take a rescue dog in a heartbeat for a pet......... Take your husband to a shelter to save the life of another dog......... jo
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Mumof3
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Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 12:53:27 PM
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Ashley- I am so sorry to hear about your dog. I love Tina's idea about a scrapbook. It will surely help to bring back the happy memories that you feel are out of reach at the moment.
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Norma
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Norma
Texarkana
AR
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 1:24:26 PM
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Ashley, I send my deepest condolences on your family's loss. There is no hurt quite like this one. I, too, think the idea of a scrapbook of your baby will help. In time, the pain will ease, I promise. Nothing will ever replace that particular baby, but I wholeheartedly agree that finding you another baby is a great idea - for the puppy's sake, and for yours! I want to share with you a poem that my pet sitter sent to me when I lost a pet she'd cared for....
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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Woodswoman
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Jennifer
Altamont
NY
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 3:49:41 PM
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Hi Ashlee,
I'm so sorry for your loss. When I lost my buddy Jackson a few years ago, I also made a scrapbook. I cried alot while I was doing it, but it felt good to look at all the pictures, etc. as I was doing it. I also made a little garden for him where I put his ashes and a pretty stone for a headstone. A few months later, I started walking dogs at a local animal shelter. I wasn't ready for another dog yet, but it felt good to be with dogs, and to help out dogs that didn't have a real home. A few months after that, I adopted one of the dogs from the shelter that I got to to know while I was there (Zena). She is an older dog whose people brought her to the shelter when they got divorced. She is 11 now, 9 when I adopted her. While doing all of those things did help, I think what helped most of all was time. I've gotten to the point where I can remember him with happiness and gratitude for our time together, and it just doesn't hurt the way it did at first. Best wishes-my thoughts are with you. Jennifer |
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Libbie
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Anne E.
Elsinore
Utah
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 8:52:40 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your little guy, Ashley. That is so hard. More (((hugs))) from Utah.
XOXO, Libbie
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Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
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Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 10:37:32 PM
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Ashley -- I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet doggie. It is so hard to lose an animal, they are like family members. You need to allow yourselves to grieve over this loss and when you feel ready, think about another dog. Sending you big hugs.
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Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 04:55:57 AM
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Ashley, So sorry to hear of your loss, I know the pain all too well, but rest knowing you gave your dog a good home full of love. And I must agree with a rescue dog when the time comes. When we lost our beloved Bubba, our vet suggested rescuing a dog when we were ready. So I checked on the internet and after many searches for our breed of choice ( English Mastiff) I fell in love at first sight when I spotted Lou. He's eyes spoke to me, so we started the adoption process and soon we were on our way to Nashville to pick him up! No one wanted this dog that was labeled " trouble" but I knew he was meant to be ours. Lou has been the best medicine, he's such a big baby and makes our home happy again! Good luck!
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ashcordes
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Ashley
Roann
IN
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 05:27:39 AM
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Thanks guys for all the hugs and sweet notes....I'm really thinking we're going to have to get a new dog sooner than I thought...my husband is having a really hard time with this...he goes out to his grave each night when he gets home and talks to him and he won't come to bed at night because he says he just lays there and thinks about the dog. I don't know what else to do for him besides getting him a new dog to transfer some of that love to. As I've never been in this situation before I just feel lost...I'm grieving as well but feel as though I have to put my grief aside so I can pull him through his. |
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Erin
Texas
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 07:23:31 AM
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My husband didn't want to see any pictures of his dog, or anything that reminded him of Fraser, but we did purchase a tree which we planted out in the yard in his honor - maybe that would help your husband (perhaps a dogwood?)
That said, I have pictures of Fraser which I am saving for later on... a few years from now, I'll make a collage and frame it or something like that, but for now, I'll just hang on to the photos and keep them safe.
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jo Thompson
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Jo
the mountainside of the Chugach
in Alaska
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 08:44:21 AM
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Erin, I got my lab Sophie for my then fiance who had a brain tumor...... she arrived two days after his funeral. She saved my life and went on to be a wonderful dog..... I don't think you need to wait. Just take your time when you're looking, it is a terrible thing to lose an animal or someone you love. You aren't replacing your other dog, no dog will, but that grief will have a place and home for that energy. I had a mini schnauzer that was hit by a car on christmas day when my ex-husband took her jogging without a leash! Her name was Elsa and she had just turned a year old, it was so, so hard. I thought I never loved a dog so much, but my lab Sophie is the light of my life.
It's good we love them so much.........
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Annab
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Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 10:16:31 AM
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If I could offer a bit of friendly advice, you might not want to rush out right away.
A friend did just this when she lost her dog, and this "replacement" was constantly being compared to the other dog. My friend's void was not filled the way she had anticipated.
I have to agree as well. Even 3 months later for us. And yes, we NEED another dog in the family, but I wonder even now what this other puppy will be like.
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Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 11:29:28 AM
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Ashley, Many condolences to you and your husband. When I lost my best friend three years ago, my wonderful vet gave me information about grief counseling for pet loss. I didn't take advantage of it, but I should have. Maybe if you check with a local vet, you could get some contact information.
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michele
farmingdale
n.j.
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 6:30:09 PM
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Ashley, I am so sorry about your dog. sending big warm hugs your way.
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Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2006 : 11:31:22 PM
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oh ashley honey .. i'm so sorry to hear about your little dog. gosh, we had BOO for about 15 years .. he just died of olde age complications .. but it was SUCH a sad loss .. and we often tell BOO stories and laugh. I don't really have any solutions for sadness other than to just remember the good times you did have with him. That's what we did. xoxo
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Past Blessings
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Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
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Posted - Oct 20 2006 : 11:10:56 PM
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I am so very sorry. We lost our two year old cat very suddenly to a liver disease this May. We were devastated and our 3 boys were a mess. We went to the local shelter and got a darling kitty that same day. It certainly didn't make us forget our sweet "Struedel" but the new kitten gave us things to smile about and brought sunshine in a dismal time. I still get sad thinking about Struedel, but the kitten, Truffle Extra Dark, has brought a new joy that really helped with our healing. Even our dog, Tilley, who thought she was Struedel's mom, was able to "love on" the new kitten, as was our 8 year old cat, Crumpet. To be able to celebrate a new life while mourning the passing on a loved one, seems to bring a sense of peace. I also think the scrapbook idea is fabulous. When the vet put Struedel to sleep, after we knew it was hopeless, they made an imprint of his paw in clay which we decorated and the kids will hang on our Christmas tree for years to come. Tears are healing, so don't be afraid to let them fall. Love and blessings to you! Brenda
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Posted - Oct 21 2006 : 11:30:07 AM
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Ashley, May you somehow, somewhere find peace and strength. It is so hard, I know. Many here are thinking of you...
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