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Parenting & Farm Kids:  ditching the pacifier  |
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
1360 Posts
Laurie
Montrose
CO
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 Posted - Feb 19 2013 : 8:48:18 PM
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Any hints? We started giving him the pacifier to help him with transitions at about 3 months, and now he is so dependent on it for sleep if he looses it I'm up at night replacing it and loosing sleep.
Laurie
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SandraM
True Blue Farmgirl
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Sandra
Coldwater
Michigan
USA
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Posted - Feb 20 2013 : 09:01:42 AM
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I used a pacifier will all six girls and they gave it up by 6-9 months on their own.
Sandra
www.mittenstatesheepandwool.com |
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LeighErica
True Blue Farmgirl
306 Posts
Erica
PA
USA
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Posted - Feb 20 2013 : 09:34:48 AM
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It was a long process for us. First, I stopped the pacifier at nap time by rocking them, and reading them a little book or singing to them. It took a few days till they didn't need it at nap-time. Then I started a night time routine of the same thing....warm bath, cuddle in blankie and rock and read or sing or both....as they started to drift off...I laid them in the crib or bed...and if they couldn't go back to sleep...I would gently rub their backs or head till they started to drift off. It was harder to break them of the pacifier during the night time routine...but it eventually paid off. And I didn't stop the rocking right away once they didn't need the pacifier because it was a special time with them. Hope you can find a routine that works...this too shall pass...mine are now 22, 20 and 14...it does happen:) Erica
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shanda
True Blue Farmgirl
522 Posts
Shanda
Broken Bow
OK
USA
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Posted - Feb 20 2013 : 09:47:53 AM
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I'm kind of old school with my children. I just took it away, and after a few days of fussing everything was fine. My kids are older now (21 and 15) and I see no ill affects like running after a baby with a paci to grab it...lol
My sister did it differently. She and her husband made a game of it, and every day they would take the paci and cut a small bit off, with their daughters in on the fun. Then when the paci was to small, the girls threw it away (at a time they were ready) and the family did a happy dance at the trash can as a fare well to paci.
I guess there are many different ways, so do what is best for you and good luck!
Shanda
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - Feb 20 2013 : 10:28:13 AM
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we started little too, just during the day, would say we couldn't find it or something and she seemed ok with that, but we would still give it to her for sleep, then little by little started taking it out for bed....she took it much better then we thought, she was pretty attached to it!
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
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Laurie
Montrose
CO
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13620 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2013 : 1:50:32 PM
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Ceejay, I'm not saying this is always the case, but studies show that preemies are more likely to want a paci (actually need one) then others. And also become more attached to them. My DD2 was the preemie the one that was attached to it. DD1 nor DS ever took one. Neither of them were preemies.
If I remember right Laurie's little man was a preemie.
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KathyC
True Blue Farmgirl
583 Posts
Kathy
Gastonia
NC
USA
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Posted - Feb 23 2013 : 7:58:59 PM
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Laurie
Not much help here but my daughter was about 18 months old and was also attached to her paci, she called it her umba. I have no idea where that name came from either. Well she got sick and had some sores in her mouth and she put her umba in and started to cry, took it out and said it hurt. I told her since it hurt her why didn't we just throw that thing away. She took it and put in the trash and never asked for it again. About a year later we were visiting friends and they had a soft baby doll, just about the size of new born baby sitting in a rocking chair. My daughter walked up and looked at the baby doll and Ruth handed it to her to play with. Daughter climbed into the rocking chair and held the baby so sweetly and started to rock her. She had been so quite I looked over and had not seen the paci on a ribbon around the baby dolls neck but she was rocking the baby and sucking the paci. Looked so cute I wish I had had my camera with me.
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KatyDid
True Blue Farmgirl
66 Posts
Kate
Warwick
RI
USA
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Posted - Mar 15 2013 : 2:28:26 PM
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Laurie, like Shanda and her sister, my mother had no qualms about getting rid of my pacifier - she noticed I was getting dependent on it, so she cut it up with some scissors and then showed it to me and said "look, it's broken!" and threw it away...No more pacifier! I'm sure I was not happy about it, but I guess it effectively got it out of the way!
Farmgirl Sister #4527
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Lanna
True Blue Farmgirl
330 Posts
Lanna
A little town in Idaho
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Posted - Mar 30 2013 : 01:44:02 AM
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My oldest two boys had a voracious need to suck, and mommy just couldn't handle it 24/7, so we had pacifiers - one of my first times of eating my words as a parent. ;) Around 2yo is when they either all got too busted to use anymore (my oldest would bite holes in them, we just didn't buy any more), or with my second, we told him only babies needed pacifiers, and could he give them to his brand new baby sister? (she didn't use them, but still)
Your solution is going to depend on your children and family.
But. I preferred my children to have a pacifier that eventually went a way to thumb sucking. My sister and I sucked our thumbs until 6yo and 8yo - and you can't take thumbs away! Our overbites definitely show off all those years, too. The two years of pacifier use while simultaneously nursing I think worked better for my boys than the thumb sucking did for my sister and I.
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Lanna, homeschooling mama to four little monkeys that still try to jump on the bed |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Mar 30 2013 : 09:01:50 AM
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Laurie: My niece was trying to ditch the pacifier from her son, and they were at our house one day. Mike loved my outside cats. We were outside chatting with the cats one day, and I asked Mike if he'd like to give his pacifier to Mrs. Izzee, one of my outside cats. He shook his head yes. He never asked for the pacifier after that. We literally put his pacifier next to Mrs. Izzee. Mike just smiled.
Good luck.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Apr 01 2013 : 08:30:36 AM
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Every child is different--our Violet stopped using hers about 5 months. I kept putting it back in her mouth and she kept spitting it right back out, so I just stopped and she never even balked. She's never been a thumb sucker, either, so maybe it's just not her thing.
My nephew Max, however, used his up until his 3rd birthday. They ended up tying it to a helium balloon and made up some story about how other children needed it, so they were going to send it to them via balloon, and didn't he feel special? I don't know that he bought it, and they seemed to lose some sleep after that, but I think that you simply have to make the decision and stick with it. He eventually got over being without it.
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
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Laurie
Montrose
CO
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