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Family Matters:  Son has a new girl friend!!!!  |
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Dorinda
True Blue Farmgirl
1023 Posts
Dorinda
St. Cloud
Florida
USA
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 Posted - Mar 04 2012 : 5:26:43 PM
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I think I told you a while back that my youngest son broke up with his girl friend of 4 years. I was so heart broken. We were so close. She was like a daughter to me. She called me the other night for the first time in a while and cried and cried on the phone. My heart ached for her. Anyways he has a new girl friend whom I do not care for. I know you are not suppose to judge a book by its cover butttttt she has 2 lip rings and tattoos. She has a Steven King Tattoo on her arm. I think she has a dark side to her. She only likes creepy and bloody movies. YUCK! I made a really great meal to night for dinner and she would not eat it she had my son go get KFC for her. I thought it was rude. His old girl friend loved my cooking and always shared in the kitchen with me. I miss her. My DH saids I am not giving her a chance because I was so close to his last girl friend. Thanks for letting me vent a little. Maybe this is a little out there but I can't stand to look at her......
Seize The Day!
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Mar 04 2012 : 5:50:48 PM
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Maybe get to know her from the inside; her heart, mind, soul. Good luck.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Emily Anna
True Blue Farmgirl
863 Posts
Emily
Fort Atkinson
WI
USA
863 Posts |
Posted - Mar 04 2012 : 6:48:35 PM
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| I can understand the way you feel. His ex was a part of your life for a long time and it sounds like you two were close....so of course it's going to be hard and you're not going to be as open to this new girl. She's completely different and not what your used to. I know it's easier said than done, but try to get to know her for her and not what she looks like. They always say that 1st impressions are the most important, but in some circumstances I don't believe that. It can be awkward meeting parents for the 1st time and maybe make you act in a way that you normally wouldn't. I do agree that her having your son go get her KFC is pretty rude......very rude actually. I hope your son said something to her about that when they were alone. Good luck....I hope everything works out. I'm sure it will one way or another! |
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Ruby V
True Blue Farmgirl
220 Posts
Ruby
Chilliwack
BC
Canada
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Posted - Mar 04 2012 : 11:33:57 PM
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Wow! I don't blame you for having an instant dislike for the new g/f. I think a mother's instincts are usually pretty right on. Refusing to eat the dinner you prepared is bad, but then to eat KFC instead, and right in front of you too, that is way beyond rude. Who'd want someone like that raising their grandkids! {laughing}
But you do have to tread lightly. It sounds like she already has your son jumping thru hoops, if he's running out to get KFC for her. And you know how kids are, if he feels like you don't like her, he might stick with her just to try to prove you wrong. Hang in there and keep us posted on how it's going! Good luck!
Ruby ~ Sister #3597 |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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Posted - Mar 05 2012 : 05:04:34 AM
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I agree with Ruby! She seems very rude and selfish. I don't think she is ever going to join you in the kitchen and maybe that's is a good thing. You do have to be very careful though, she can put a wedge between you and your son. I had a similar situation with my DS's previous girlfriend of 5 years. I could do nothing right...I didn't cook the right foods, I looked at her the wrong way, I breathed the wrong way, etc. I just road the storm out and finally he saw the light and ended it. He was married last Sept. to a wonderful woman!
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countrymommy85
True Blue Farmgirl
898 Posts
Krystle
MT
USA
898 Posts |
Posted - Mar 05 2012 : 9:17:54 PM
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Wow. Eating KFC instead of a home cooked meal? That is totally rude. When I go to people's houses and they have a regular meal set out (I'm gluten free) I eat what isn't gluten free without making a huge deal out of it because 1: I don't want to hurt the host/hostess' feelings 2: I can always eat later if I haven't already eaten it's not like I'm going to waste away eating a few hours later than normal and 3: when someone makes a home cooked meal it is because they care and it was a lot of effort and I don't want to be little that effort or make them feel guilty. Just because I eat differently than other people doesn't mean they have to cook specially for me. It's hard enough to cook for guests as it is!!! So, with my circumstances there is no excuse for being rude like that, even if she did have an allergy there is no reason to be stuck up about it either! I'll be praying it all works out for the good for your family!
Mothers are those wonderful people who can get up in the morning before the smell of coffee. ~Author Unknown
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countrymommy85
True Blue Farmgirl
898 Posts
Krystle
MT
USA
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AmethystRose
True Blue Farmgirl
254 Posts
Rosemary
Huntingdon
PA
USA
254 Posts |
Posted - Mar 05 2012 : 10:53:02 PM
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Maybe he is in a rebellious phase, and he needs to learn her shortcomings for himself. |
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FARMALLChick
True Blue Farmgirl
978 Posts
Lora
Alexandria
IN
USA
978 Posts |
Posted - Mar 06 2012 : 09:38:58 AM
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Be just as sweet at you can stand to her. That's the way I was with my m-i-l. She didn't like me because we weren't townies and I wasn't flashy like she was. She finally gave up trying to get dh to dump me. We've been married for 19 years. He no longer speaks to her now though, because of other reasons.
Lora
If it ain't red, leave it in the shed.
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Mar 07 2012 : 3:49:42 PM
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Sorry to hear the new girlfriend is giving you grief. The KFC thing was VERY rude of her - there is no excuse for that. However, I agreed with the other post - better shower her with pleasantries and keep a smile on your face when she's around or she could cause friction between you and your son. Let's all hope this is a phase and she's a "rebound" and he was attracted because she is so opposite of his last girlfriend. If she's a rebound, it won't last more than a few months.
I feel bad for sounding judgmental, since I don't know this person, but if she is as bad as you say, I hope she won't be around your son long!
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Mar 08 2012 : 06:45:49 AM
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These girls can have a lot of influence over our boys. Tred carefully and keep the communication open with both without being tough on either, I know, almost impossible. But, you don't want this to be his last girlfriend!!
good luck
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Cherime
True Blue Farmgirl
1222 Posts
Cherime
Wasilla
Alaska
USA
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Posted - Mar 14 2012 : 08:30:31 AM
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Boy been there done this one. It is hard. My DS's latest forced herself in after he and borderline personality disorder wife divorced. His ex turned miss nice-nice face to all outside and was a raving horror inside. So, he was hurting and the new one took massive advantage to get a place. She has alcohol problems to the point of the law having to be called. But lately she has started to calm down and cut back on the booze. As long as she treats him good, ok by me. But I do go out of my way to be reasonable and nice. I do not need to make him unhappy. So hang in there and do a lot of tongue biting and pray for her often.
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