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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
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 Posted - Feb 23 2012 : 11:06:03 PM
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Ladies, I have to vent and I could also use a little advice. I was recently invited to a baby shower for my cousin's daughter. While I do love the daughter and her new baby dearly, this side of the family always has some drama going on. To be honest, I really didnt want to go, but since my son stayed home sick the day before, it pretty much cemented my decision (The baby was born premature and while the Dr ok'd the party, he did say if anyone had been exposed, they shouldnt come.)Not to mention that this baby isnt needing a thing since my cousin's ex wife (the new grandma) had already bought close to $600 worth of baby stuff! I used the day to get stuff done and run a few errands since my son was feeling much better and had someone at home with him. Well, the ex wife started her drama as usual and someone made the comment that they wished they had "stayed away like Stephanie did". Now, my aunt(cousin's mom)and my cousin's ex wife are angry with me because apparently I think Im too good for them. Yes, I didnt want to go, but if my son hadnt been sick I would have gone anyway. Neither will speak to me now, which is ok with me, but it is upsetting some other family members, particularly my 84 year old grandma. This is exactly what I wanted to avoid. Ugh!
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
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mudpony farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
57 Posts
Jo
USA
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 07:29:19 AM
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Stephanie
Wow! It sounds like your relatives are wildly overreacting! You made a responsible decision not to bring potentially harmful germs around the new baby and they're ignoring this fact for an excuse to be catty. This kind of intentional drama is so frustrating! Whether or not you actually wanted to go is none of their business.Don't let them make you feel guilty for taking precautions. |
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Emily Anna
True Blue Farmgirl
863 Posts
Emily
Fort Atkinson
WI
USA
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 07:52:27 AM
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Stephanie, they sound like the type that even if you did go, they still would have found something else to complain about. I don't know why some people have to have drama follow them every where they go. In circumstances like this, I say do what you need to do to make you comfortable. It's sad that it's upsetting your grandma, but you can't control how other people act. In some situations it's good to bite your tongue to keep the peace, but when it comes to people constantly being dramatic and caddy.....forget about it!
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 09:16:13 AM
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Sounds like drama to me. Hope your son is feeling better.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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FarmDream
True Blue Farmgirl
1085 Posts
Julie
TX
USA
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 09:34:20 AM
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If anyone asks, calmly restate you didn't go because your son was sick, and you're not going to be dragged into some drama. Then change the conversation to something else. They'll get the hint. Take the high road and don't get sucked in.
~FarmDream is Farmgirl Sister #3069
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marlee
True Blue Farmgirl
1650 Posts
Marlene
DeRidder
Louisiana
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 4:24:54 PM
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Stephanie, I know what your talking about. Do want you need to do and dont worry about anybody else.People that have to have drama,you will never please them no matter what you do. Dont get sucked down to their level.I can tell you it will drain you. I was always worried about hubby's family of the drama troupe is what I called them. Now I just let it roll off.
Marlee
God is the painter, he paints the picture. And his son builds it, for he is the Master Carpenter! |
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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
566 Posts |
Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 5:32:56 PM
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Thanks for the support, ladies! I think the main thing is that I am just plain tired of this happening. The ex wife has had mental health issues in the past, but I think when she gets like that, it's mostly for attention. My aunt, I don't know. She has three sons and they are all liars and thieves. I think she can't handle anything that even remotely feels like criticism towards her or her family. Oh, well. Hopefully everything will calm down before Easter.
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 7:43:41 PM
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Surely even grandma would understand preemie+sicky=BAD! So if it upsets your grandma that you didn't go can you explain to her that was the reason? But, quite frankly it's just rediculous! I have family like that too, I dropped them, kicked them to the curb and life is so much sweeter with out them. It's just not worth it. I have friends that are a lot better to be around.
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
985 Posts
Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - Feb 25 2012 : 09:16:47 AM
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Tell it to them like it is. You were exposed to an illness and didn't want the baby to catch it (premie or not). If you feel obligated to get something for the child who now has everything, get him/her a savings bond. $25 will be $50 when it matures.
Patience is worth a bushel of brains...from a chinese fortune cookie |
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