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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
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 Posted - Feb 08 2012 : 4:42:47 PM
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That's sweet of you to say, Alee. I don't really feel like anything special, though. I just hope it works! I'm going to give her and her little ones such a good time at the Botanical Gardens next week, she will never want to sleep all day again! I hope, too, it will wear her girls out and they will sleep all night. If she will let me help her get them moving during the day, I think she would be on her way to changing this. Maybe she's just given up trying because she's just blind-tired. If I can remind her what it's like to be "normal" again, it might also give her the courage to enforce nighttime sleep with her kids.
Everyone cross their fingers and say a little prayer for her! I will let everyone know how it turns out next week!
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
566 Posts |
Posted - Feb 08 2012 : 5:33:43 PM
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Suzanne, you really are a true friend. I hope everything goes well.
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
- Dalai Lama |
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Sharon Denise
True Blue Farmgirl
211 Posts
Sharon
Temple
TX
USA
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buggysmum
True Blue Farmgirl
110 Posts
Shelly
110 Posts |
Posted - Feb 10 2012 : 12:00:29 PM
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| What an awesome idea. You are what a real friend is really about. I hope that all goes well and that you all enjoy the day together. Keep us posted. |
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buggysmum
True Blue Farmgirl
110 Posts
Shelly
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Posted - Feb 16 2012 : 10:11:13 AM
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| What happened with the day at the Botanical Gardens? How did it go? |
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Feb 16 2012 : 11:46:42 AM
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Hi Everyone!
I am happy to report that the Botanical Gardens trip was a huge hit, and even when she tried to hint we should leave, I distracted her (and her girls) with more activities. They all stayed awake and I must say she looked happier than I have seen her in awhile!
I also convinced her to start doing the weekly preschool dance/tumbling classes with us again AND told her I wanted to plan another outing where I would do the driving for next week and she agreed to that! I am SO happy!
I did tell her that I thought getting out during DAY would be key to not living like this anymore, and I was surprised when she didn't get defensive, but actually agreed with me.
My 4 year old and 1 year old were happy to see her girls again, too, and we all had just a great time.
I guess my plan of forcibly showing her all the daytime fun she's been missing might just work.
I told her, too, that I just wouldn't accept her cancelling on plans with us anymore just because she is tired or afraid her girls will fall asleep. I am more than willing to drive.
I am really just hoping that the beginnings of a change I saw today will continue.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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MrsRooster
True Blue Farmgirl
1168 Posts
Amy
Seabrook
TX
USA
1168 Posts |
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Feb 16 2012 : 2:41:37 PM
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I just hope this is a turning point for her. I think she really must have been ready to try getting out of her rut and coming out with us reinforced that. I hope she keeps it up. I know she may have setbacks, but I hope things will steadily get more normal for her and her family again!
I am planning more "won't take no for an answer" outings with her over the next few weeks.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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Sharon Denise
True Blue Farmgirl
211 Posts
Sharon
Temple
TX
USA
211 Posts |
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Feb 17 2012 : 7:13:17 PM
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I was amazed that it worked out so well. I really do have to think she was already in the direction of wanting things to change, she just needed a bit of a push.
I'm really just hoping it keeps going like this.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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buggysmum
True Blue Farmgirl
110 Posts
Shelly
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Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 09:20:14 AM
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| Awesome! Great to hear how well it went. You are a true friend. |
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 12:42:55 PM
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We've been on another outing with them and brought over lunch to their house and stayed for a playdate. After each of these she told me her little ones SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT! And so did she! She was shocked, but happy, and I think she's been realizing that throwing themselves into daytime activities has great results. I just hope she doesn't slip back into old habits.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 6:47:27 PM
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Good! Happy ending...
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Feb 24 2012 : 7:51:35 PM
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That's awesome, however, if old habbits resurface, she may want to look into things to make sure it's not a medical condition.
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Feb 26 2012 : 10:32:05 AM
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I'm trying to keep an eye on them and I'm hoping things are more "normal" on days we haven't been with them. I have been reluctant to ask her about other days, just because I don't want to "rock the boat" now that she seems to be taking positive steps away from the detrimental routine she was in.
It's nice to have her back among us "daytime" people, though!
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
566 Posts |
Posted - Feb 27 2012 : 10:15:46 AM
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That's fabulous ! Here's hoping she keeps it up!
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
- Dalai Lama |
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Dusky Beauty
True Blue Farmgirl
1108 Posts
Jen
Tonopah
AZ
USA
1108 Posts |
Posted - Mar 02 2012 : 11:54:00 AM
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I'm glad she's been so receptive lately and willing to try to have a life.
My concern with how the whole problem began was that she was letting the children make the decisions and run the house, and if she was setting up that dynamic it was going to continue to be a problem forever, not necessarily just the graveyard hours debacle. Hopefully the situation is extreme enough that she won't be tempted to "go along with what the kids want" ever again.
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“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.”
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