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Across the Fence:  Are you Shy or Outgoing ...  |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 6:30:13 PM
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... when it comes to meeting new friends?
(I'm one of the Outgoings). I'll start a conversation with someone just about anywhere! Tell us a story of meeting a new friend somewhere unexpected.
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 6:47:40 PM
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When I was younger, I was extraordinarily shy. I would hide behind my mom, avoiding anyone who wanted to talk to me. At Christmas, my parents always had a huge open house. I would hide under an afghan in the borning room, listening to everyone having such a happy time, reading a book and then I would fall sound asleep there! I was fine as long as I did not have to talk to any of them.
It wasn't until about 10 years ago that I finally broke out of my shell and felt comfortable talking to people at the spur of the moment. Now, you can't stop me! I have 38 years to make up for! 
You know, I haven't thought about that for a really long time. Thanks, Frannie. You've helped me to see just how far I've come!!
Karin
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medievalcat
True Blue Farmgirl
256 Posts
Cynthia
White County
Arkansas
USA
256 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 7:27:08 PM
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Hmm I use to be pretty outgoing, into drama and renn fairs, I loved making people laugh. I'm now pretty much an introvert when it comes to face to face meetings. It takes me awhile to open up. I went through a traumatic experience in '97 that really changed me. I miss my old self...but I have hope that it will come back out! One baby step at a time!
Cyn
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today." President Roosevelt |
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
4877 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 8:01:50 PM
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I think I am outgoing my family when I was a kid thought I was an introvert. As I was always making something so people thought I was stand-offish at family functions. I just like making stuff. I have no problem speaking my mind and getting my opionion out there ( gets me in trouble but that to passes). I think I have more acquantiances than friends at the moment because in the last 13 years I have moved 6 times hard to keep relations when you move so much. But I am not shy I think my husband is less shy than me he is real out going.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
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Edited by - sunshine on Aug 25 2006 09:04:40 AM |
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berries
True Blue Farmgirl
475 Posts
gloria g
Florida
USA
475 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 8:08:17 PM
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Yes, as a child I was shy. Didn't want to stand out, hated to have to speak in school, but it wasn't until I went to work at a pre-trial detention center for men that I learned not to be shy. Now, I don't meet a stranger, speak to everyone, smile and speak my mind! And yes, like you sunshine, sometimes it get's me in trouble. But it does pass! I'm very out spoken now! And like to talk to others!
love, hugs, and strawberries, gloria g. Richards, TX
strawberry fields forever and ever! |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 8:08:51 PM
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I am not shy, but I hate being the center of attention. I tend to always find someone to talk to..and I will talk your leg off..but I don't like to be up in front of people or have everyone looking at me. I have met wonderful people by being outgoing.
My husband is VERY outgoing. I seem quiet compared to him!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ visit my little online shop at www.auntjenny.etsy.com |
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daffodil dreamer
True Blue Farmgirl
805 Posts
Jayne
Hamilton
Victoria
Australia
805 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 8:14:26 PM
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I think I'm probably similar to Jenny, OK one on one or in a small group, but public speaking, no way!! When I was younger, I was shyer, took me until well into my 20s to open up a bit. I suppose I'm still shy in that I won't impose my company on anyone - I'll nearly always wait for them to make the first move. I probably miss out on friendships that way, but I just can't push myself forward.
Best wishes to all,
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abbasgurl
True Blue Farmgirl
1262 Posts
Rhonda
USA
1262 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 9:26:15 PM
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I'm very shy Frannie ;) My husband says I have the "talk to me face...like a friendly dog". Should I be insulted? LOL He says some pups give a look and everyone stops to pat their head. That's me, I talk to everyone I meet. Sometimes more well received than others! LOL
Rhonda
...and I will sing at the top of my lungs, and I will dance, even if I'm the only one! |
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Horseyrider
True Blue Farmgirl
1045 Posts
Mary Ann
Illinois
1045 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 08:59:19 AM
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I'm more of an extrovert. I watch and wait and see what needs to be done to make things happen. I'm a natural leader and facilitator, and I make things happen. I enjoy guiding people toward what they want and helping them reach their goals.
I used to teach on the college level. I would stand up and lecture for two hours and forty-five minutes at a time and do it with very few notes. I used to wonder how I could know how to make the lecture exactly fit the time needed, and never be more than a few minutes off. It worked every time. I don't mind getting up in front of people and talking; it's just another thing we do to communicate. I have high self acceptance so if I make a mistake I don't mind much; everyone flubs stuff and it's okay, the world still turns.
I love watching how groups interact, how the different personalities each bring something to the table, and what the results can be. I love drawing people out and listening to their contributions, and watching them light up as they're put into play.
I think Frannie's the same kind, because she thinks of many interesting topics for posts.  |
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Nance in France
True Blue Farmgirl
1438 Posts
Nancy
St. Laurent de la Salanque
France
1438 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 09:28:08 AM
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| In my family, out of the three of us kids, my brother and I are outgoing and my sis is the opposite. I used to be such a "ham" as a kid, and I only occasionally hesitate to strike up a conversation with a stranger. When I was in my 30s though I suddenly developed stage fright to be up in front of a group of people. I remember when I was about 35 I was carrying my stereo out of the house to take it to be repaired. A couple was walking down the sidewalk and asked "Oh, do you live here?" to which I replied with my family's trademark sarcastic humour "Nah; I'm robbing the joint." I did stop and chat with them and turns out they were interested in buying a house in the neighborhood! I told them how great a place it was, etc. and when they moved in a month later, I brought a fresh loaf of banana bread with the recipe. We've been friends ever since. The wife even mentioned that the other day, saying how they thought that was such a nice thing to do, and they munched on it for several days". Really made me feel good to hear that, and when I DO get a case of shyness I try and make myself think of the possible great friendship I might be passing up without even realizing it. Nance |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 11:28:40 AM
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karin .. i was very shy as a child too (at times) .. and i honestly think that as i got older .. i became bolder just because i didn't want to be so shy.
cyn .. darlin' .. just DO it! i was shy and discovered that when i opened up .. everyone around me did too. i think it's way more fun to be 'out there'. and i've met so many wonderful friends by just extending a hand.
sunshine .. i too, always kept busy doin' something .. loved it when others would join in too.
jenny and jane .. i can remember when i didn't want to be the 'center' of attention .. and oh lordy me oh my .. i now THRIVE on it!
rhonda gurlfren .. you just keep that sweet puppy face on .. i'm sure it's one of your endearing qualities!
mary ann .. i do think i'm a lot like you .. had to work to get there .. especially when speaking in front of crowds .. and now .. i'm a 'performer'!!
i think the important thing is to 'be yourself' .. and let your own style come through .. be it quiet or outgoing. honestly and self-confidence are what i think draw
people to these traits in a person.
nancy .. my brother and i are the 'hams' in the family and yes . my sweet sister is more the shy one .. although .. god love her .. she WILL speak her piece when she feels there is an unjustice done.
i think being shy is just fine too! xo
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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medievalcat
True Blue Farmgirl
256 Posts
Cynthia
White County
Arkansas
USA
256 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 5:21:40 PM
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Frannie,
You are such a dear! Thank you for the encouragement!
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today." President Roosevelt |
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mommom
True Blue Farmgirl
854 Posts
Susan
Lancaster
Pennsylvania
USA
854 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 7:18:52 PM
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Linda Houston
True Blue Farmgirl
538 Posts
Linda
Lake Charles
Louisiana
USA
538 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 7:58:11 PM
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| I am definitely outgoing.....My husband says that I would talk to a post if it had a hat on!! As I have grown older and maybe wiser, I find that I love to listen almost as much as running my mouth. |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Aug 25 2006 : 8:53:05 PM
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ohhh you gurlz are so right .. listening is indeed as important as talking. i love to listen to others' stories! (ha! like tellin' one too!) oxoxo
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2006 : 12:37:19 AM
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I am definitely outgoing. I love to talk to people and learn about them. One time we were flying to IL and had to change planes in Denver. After we got on the second flight my husband said "I can't believe you talk to so many people. You know where they're going, who they're visiting, how many kids they have, etc." The exception to that is if I have to walk into a room full of people I don't know -- like being a new member of a club, church, etc. Then my shy side pops out and I'm terribly uncomfortable.
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LadyCrystal
True Blue Farmgirl
593 Posts
Alicia
Rhode Island
USA
593 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2006 : 06:59:29 AM
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I am very shy. I get very uncomfortable in big groups. I am ok with a few people but it takes me a while to open up. When I was a child I was worse. I would hide behind my mother. I liked playing alone compared to with friends. So I got picked on a lot as a young child. In my job I talke to people all day and I am ok with it but it is because I am on the phone. It is strange how the anonymousness of the phone opens me up.
My husband on the other hand can talk to anyone. He has made friends anywhere. I tease him because were ever we go he know someone.
Alicia
http://fromcitytocountrygirl.blogspot.com/
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connio
True Blue Farmgirl
535 Posts
connie
springtown
texas
USA
535 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2006 : 09:41:32 AM
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Hey Farm Girls!!!
I was quite shy until I was about 30, but when I started doing LOTS of public events for libraries, I overcame the shyness. Now I am just like Kay. Everyone always remarks that I talk to everybody and that people tend to tell me "every detail" of their lives. I think that each person has an interesting story. I still feel shy when I walk into a group that I don't know, but I really think that I hide it pretty well.
Connie
Texas Farm Girl
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theoanne
True Blue Farmgirl
282 Posts
teddie
CARROLLTON
GA
282 Posts |
Posted - Aug 26 2006 : 6:29:24 PM
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Well girlfriends...to listen to everyone here I would never think any of us are shy (tee hee) We sure can talk up a storm.
I'm a definite talker but only in a very small group or 1:1. I am shyer and shyer the bigger the group gets. I definitley DO NOT like to be the center of attention. As for talking in front of a group you can forget it. Well.. If the group is under 7 yrs old I would be okay.
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katiedid
True Blue Farmgirl
601 Posts
Kate
West Jordan
Utah
USA
601 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2006 : 08:43:42 AM
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I am definately not shy, and it is easy for me to make friends...but sometimes I don't want to be the center of attention.
When it comes to sharing my "true" feelings and thoughts I tend to be pretty reserved. Especially when it comes to things I feel strongly about. I realize that some people would think my ideas and oppinions are kind of "out there" So I usually keep them to myself...especially around my family. I like to keep the peace, ya know.
I think I must have an approachable face or something, because lots of times strangers tell me their life stories and deep dark secrets??? I also find lost pets and children alot???
One thing I have learned, whether you are dealing with family, friends or strangers..."You get more bees with honey!"
Kate
http://theknifemakerswife.blogspot.com/2006/07/knifemakers-wife.html |
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santa_gertrudis_gal
True Blue Farmgirl
198 Posts
Kim
Groesbeck
Texas
USA
198 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2006 : 12:19:42 PM
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I'll use my loving DH's quote, 'Get Kim talking by saying hi to her!' 'nough said!.
Kim
Heaven is a day at the ranch with my Santa Gertrudis! |
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Celticheart
True Blue Farmgirl
811 Posts
Marcia
WA
USA
811 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2006 : 8:15:13 PM
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I'm not really shy but I am an introvert. I'm very happy spending time alone. In a group I'm one of the listeners usually but not afraid to speak up and give my opinion if need be. I'm very much a people watcher and learn alot by observation and listening. Now my DH......he's one of those people that's never met a stranger. Geez......I can't even send him to the store. It takes him forever to get back.
Marcia
"I suppose the pleasure of country life lies really in the eternally renewed evidence of the determination to live." Vita Sackville-West
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Krisathome
True Blue Farmgirl
90 Posts
Kristin
Iowa
USA
90 Posts |
Posted - Aug 27 2006 : 8:27:35 PM
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I can be very shy but I'm not afraid to sing in front of a large group...but ask me to speak.... I use to be accused of having a chip on my shoulder because I was afraid to talk to people.  Not true just too scared. |
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Lynn B
True Blue Farmgirl
113 Posts
Lynn
Derry
NH
USA
113 Posts |
Posted - Aug 28 2006 : 11:03:34 AM
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I'd have to say I'm somewhere in the middle. An outgoing introvert (does that make sense?). I don't have a problem starting a conversation, but ususally try to listen more than talk. Guess it's my training as a therapist. I have done group therapy and don't really mind talking in front of a small group of people, but a large group? Ugh! I definitely love meeting new people, but really love my quiet, alone time as well. It just seems to settle my mind and refuels me!
Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused.
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Muttley
True Blue Farmgirl
67 Posts
Heather
A tiny town
Oregon
USA
67 Posts |
Posted - Aug 28 2006 : 1:07:36 PM
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I think I am a little of both. When I was little, my family says that I could walk into the room of the Yacht Club where we used to live, and know everyones names, kid's names, boat's names, where they lived and everything all in about 20 minutes! I was quite the social Butterfly, and I still am. I am a little shy when I go to Summer camps and things when my friends arent there and I have to start all over, and find new ones. But eventually it gets easier. I love talking to people, and hanging out with my friends. Introductions are always a little awkward, but then the relationships that are built, are totally worth it!
Heather
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other word would smell as sweet." -Shakespeare |
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