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Cherime
True Blue Farmgirl
1222 Posts
Cherime
Wasilla
Alaska
USA
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 Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 08:09:06 AM
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There's a lyric from a 60's song, "you don't know what you've got til it's gone." It is so easy to rub each other raw and language can be the biggest abrasive around. After my first marriage ended I determined that there were only a couple of things worth fighting with my friend and new DH. Lots of times I drove the hour to work lamenting his lack of.....got it out of my system that way and determined that when I got home he was forgiven for whatever it was. That worked for us. We hardly ever fought and I think that he had that mindset as well. We were determined to make it work.
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 8:05:22 PM
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Thank you so much, girls. I love that we have a place to open up and share like this. It’s just so important. So important.
You know, Julie - that one sentence really does say it all for us. At times it was very difficult to trust and believe we wouldn't abandon each other. It really was a test of faith, but even in the darkest moments the chord of commitment remained strong. It was our "marital lifeline," if you will. Believe me when I say, it took a long time for me to understand that I really could trust our commitment despite our circumstances. Once I realized it was really, really, real, I started to face all of our marital challenges a lot differently. It takes time, but it's worth the struggle to get there. :)
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
www.papercraftingwithnini.myctmh.com
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FarmDream
True Blue Farmgirl
1085 Posts
Julie
TX
USA
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Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 9:06:42 PM
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Yes, Nini, when you can nurture the FREEDOM of not being abandoned instead of the FEAR of abandonment, then you can truly soar.
~FarmDream is Farmgirl Sister #3069
Live Today, Cherish Yesterday, Dream Tomorrow
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 9:09:47 PM
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Well said, Julie! Well said! :)
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
www.papercraftingwithnini.myctmh.com
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