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Across the Fence:  What Did "35" Do to You?  |
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NixKat
True Blue Farmgirl
288 Posts
Kathleen
CT
USA
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 Posted - Oct 06 2011 : 1:50:02 PM
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Jessie you are so young.... and according to Women's Health magazine, women born after 1970 have a life expectancy of 80.8 years, that means officially you won't be middle aged for another 5 years. Like many of the other ladies I was too busy to notice the birthdays fly by, the only ones I paid attention to were the "tens" and that was to celebrate that I had arrived at that certain age. Before 35, I was busy raising 3 little girls and going to college at night. At 37 there was an oops! and I became a grandmother! I was, and still am glad to be young enough to play with my grand-kids. At 39 I decided to lose weight and get fit, and go back to school. At 41, I graduated college and my youngest graduated high-school. At 46, back to school for a new subject and job. At age 50 I met this really handsome guy at work and I thought to myself, oh man, if only I were 15 years younger. Turned out my age didn't matter to him, he was 37 and all the women at the office were trying to get his attention. We have been together since 2001 and married for 7 years. Next May I finally get to file for my pension, I will be 62.
Except for my babies, all the best events of my life happened after age 35. Please, don't be so busy worrying about the birthdays, they will keep coming no matter how much you grieve and because you will miss out on all the fun you could be having.
Another "old lady" having the time of her life! Enjoy life and your day!
{{{hugs}}}
Kathleen...... Farmgirl Sister #3447 |
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smiley
True Blue Farmgirl
650 Posts
lea
pea ridge
arkansas
USA
650 Posts |
Posted - Oct 08 2011 : 5:21:39 PM
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Wildcrafter
True Blue Farmgirl
340 Posts
Suzanne
Seattle
WA
USA
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Posted - Oct 08 2011 : 5:26:11 PM
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Oh JessieMae. You're gonna be fine, honey. I'm 51 (and a half! ha ha). Thirties were when I really decided who I was and my forties helped me to get to the woman I am today. I buried my mother at 45. Went through 2 divorces in my forties. 30s? Piece of cake! 40's were quite the ride and to tell you the truth, I was never happier to close that chapter and move into my 50s. So far, I've been loving my 50s! I have lots of grey hair and get compliments all the time...not just from women, but from men which really has surprised me. I never was able to conceive and that is a grief, however, I have many students who call me mom, one of my farmers market helpers brought her 8 week old daughter to the market today for me to hold. I'm little Olive's 3rd Grandma. I'm also a 3rd Grandma to a student's little 5 month old boy as well. I am blessed in so many ways. My advice to you is to count your blessing each and every day. The more you do this, the smaller the black cloud gets until it's gone. Do service for others. Love and let people love you. As you get older, you settle down. Sure, there are aches and pains - I'm feeling some right now - sure, there are bumps in the road and tragedies. BUT! You keep on living and moving forward. You just don't know the destiny God has for you and the doors He's opening even right now. All is well, my darling. All is well.
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Dorinda
True Blue Farmgirl
1023 Posts
Dorinda
St. Cloud
Florida
USA
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Posted - Oct 08 2011 : 5:54:57 PM
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Jessie you are so young........Don't fret yet. I loved my 30,s and 40,s. And now here I am 50!
I became a Grandma this past year that did not turn out so well for me. I lost my grandson when he was 8 months old. She ran away with him. But I am surviving the situation. Just remember God will never give us more than we can handle. I know I will see him one day again. Anyways you have so much life in front of you. Enjoy everyday and moment of it. Do not let any one still your joy for one second of your life. My MIL is 84 yrs. old and still drives , Volunteers, and would still be mowing her own yard if my DH would let her. She is a jokester and loves to laugh. She saids the secret to life is to never sit down that once you sit down it is over. She has an identical twin sister who lives in Nevada. She flys out there all by herself to visit her. She is a hoot! She still gets out and weeds her flower beds and works like the dickens in her yard. I can't keep up with her. My great grandmother lived to be 106 yrs. old. She lived by herself on a ranch until she was 102 and then she moved in with my grandmother. Life is what you make of it so don't get depressed because that is not good for your health or mind. Celebrate your life every day. So Happy Birthday to you. Cheers! Do something fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seize The Day!
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knittingmom
True Blue Farmgirl
665 Posts
AnneMarie
Edmonton
Alberta
Canada
665 Posts |
Posted - Oct 10 2011 : 5:12:14 PM
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35 is so not old neither is my 39. I feel much more comfortable with myself at this age and am glad that the early 20s are over with.
"There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world"
"The things that matter most are not really things after all" |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2011 : 10:37:08 AM
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Okay, I'm turning 40 soon. I remember my parents having these awful "Over The Hill" Parties when I was a kid. When I turned 35, I got the little pot belly I had lost at puberty that I had as a kid. My hair is greying, I get arthritic...but you know what? SO what! Think about it...can't stop a birthday and the alternative is a lot worse! Stop worrying about aging. There's other things you CAN control to worry about, right? Do something really nice for yourself on your birthday. Sending farmgirl hugs...
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2011 : 10:55:37 AM
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Oh goodness Jessie, don't go feelin' old just yet!You have most of your life ahead of you still! I had to think a minute to remember what I was doing at 35. I was still very much a goth-punk (still am in many ways =P) I had purple and black hair and worked in an indie music shop =) I'm 51 now and most days never think about my age. Except for an arthritic knee and lousy eyesight, I think of myself as a much younger woman. You need to make sure that you learn to love yourself as you are at whatever age. Life is a canvas and experience, sorrow and joy are the paints, You are the artist of your own life. As you continue the natural progress of your life, you need to become more and more attuned to your body and it's needs. Celebrate 35! Take yourself out to a fancy lunch! Do something that you've always wanted to do. Be alive in the moment!
Luv and hugs!
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
http://thegimpyfarmgirl.blogspot.com/
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Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
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Posted - Nov 08 2011 : 7:11:55 PM
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Nope, you can still have a child at even 37 or 39 .. It's possible these days if you are basically healthy. I'm 31, 32 in March... SHUSH !! LOL.
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Nov 09 2011 : 03:56:49 AM
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41 and still wearing sizes 8 and 6. (althought gravity has taken over a little)
Don't let it get you down in the least...........it will if you let it and if you STOP moving, you will
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Wildcrafter
True Blue Farmgirl
340 Posts
Suzanne
Seattle
WA
USA
340 Posts |
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JessieMae
True Blue Farmgirl
702 Posts
Jessie
Raleigh
North Carolina
USA
702 Posts |
Posted - Nov 09 2011 : 2:21:45 PM
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Well - inspired by you all - I made a few changes, and I'm feeling a little better.
I treated myself to a new hairstyle, which provided a surprisingly effective self-esteem boost. It motivated me to get up in the morning and spend some time on my appearance, and when I look good, I feel good. Wearing grubby sweats is like an invitation to lay on the couch, whereas 'real' clothes make me want to get out and about.
I also realized that I was caught up in a unhealthy cycle of being depressed, overindulging in sugar, then having a sugar crash and ending up more depressed, and so on and so on. So I cut sugar out of my diet. I'm just now starting to get back to equilibrium, but already I can tell the difference.
And I really did some soul searching about the whole baby thing and found some positives hidden among the negatives. Never having a baby isn't all bad: I've been able to live in places that were really exciting but totally inappropriate for kids (like a loft apartment in a converted warehouse in the Cleveland Flats), I've been able to move whenever I got wanderlust, I've been able to drink beer and watch 'R' rated movies in the living room whenever I wanted.... In exchange for having a baby, I had an awful lot of fun instead. I'd kind of forgotten that part.
I'm also trying to change my point of view so I don't equate growing older with approaching 'the end' of something.
Jessie Mae
Farmgirl Sisterhood #134 |
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knitnpickinatune
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
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Posted - Nov 11 2011 : 09:13:23 AM
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If 35 is old then if I choose to believe that,I'm doomed. I'm 48. 
I got divorced at 35,my mom came abruptly back into my life and I moved out of state. It was a very turbulant,upsetting,and a time I would never want to re-live. However- the age itself never bothered me,it was the events and the fact that for the most part,I was not in control.
That being said,yes,I have the signs of aging too-my hands look older,I'm getting a "waddle" under my chin,my nose is bigger,I have wirely gray hairs all over my head,and I no longer have the super slim figure I sported in my 20's. And I gained a titanium rod in my lower right leg from a very bad fall in water.
But you know what? It's just physical. That's it. Who we are and how we choose to feel determines an awful lot-including how we look. Last night on the news a health reporter was talking how the simple act of smiling and having an upbeat personality takes years off the face. One of my Cowgirl books quotes a cowgirl who said something like "if you have a spunky,upbeat personality people won't care about how old you are" Nor will they guess correctly-many people guess me to be in my late 30's to very early 40's.
If we want to live a long time,the simple fact is we're going to get old but just physically. That's it. Remember the heart and mind are ageless,and how "old" you decide to be is really up to you. 
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homsteddinmom
True Blue Farmgirl
441 Posts
Brandee
bullard
tx
USA
441 Posts |
Posted - Nov 12 2011 : 05:24:09 AM
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Age is just a number, if you want to claim that number its up to you, but just because the calendar says you are 35 doesnt mean you have to be!
Homesteading Mom in East Texas. Raising chickens, Rabbits and goats here on my farm! |
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Bellepepper
True Blue Farmgirl
1207 Posts
Belle
Coffeyville
KS
USA
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Posted - Nov 12 2011 : 10:10:18 AM
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Time to put on your big girl panites ladies. I am 72 and still do everything I ever did. Slower mind you, but the same things. Every year the garden tiller gets heaver and it takes me 2 days to make a batch of salsa. But last summer I canned potatoes and chicken for the first time. I always grow a new vegetable in the garden and take at least 20 things to the county fair. Every winter gets colder and every summer gets hotter. You conpensate. The bad thing about being older is all those kids. Three kids all married, 12 grand kids, half of them married and 9 great grandkids (and one on the way), Makes for a big crowded and expensive Christmas.
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Farmer Judy
True Blue Farmgirl
433 Posts
Judy
North Aurora
IL
USA
433 Posts |
Posted - Nov 12 2011 : 10:55:11 AM
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35 can be the newest chapter of your life. I got married to my husband at 32 and had my first child at 36 and second at 38. I have had new careers start and parents die. 35 is what you make it. You can start your own new chapter, meet new friends, start new hobbies, have more children, it's not too late. Make a new promise to yourself to take care of yourself better, eat healthier and execise. You have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck
God bless,
Judy
Born a city girl but a farm girl at heart!
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9364 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
9364 Posts |
Posted - Nov 12 2011 : 2:02:37 PM
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Oh my goodness, I didn't realize that I am old at 49 or that 35 is considered middle age. Here I thought I was still young and almost middle age. :D I have longevity in my family. My great uncle was 105 and I have another uncle who is presently 94 and and aunt who is 91. My parents are still living, they are only in their 80's. I have never thought of myself as old even though I have been through menopause already.
As for children, I know women in their forty's who have had children. My sister didn't have her first till she was 37. She chose that he would be her only one though. Our Pastor's wife who is in her mid 40's has a year old baby same as my middle daughter who is 28. My goodness there is plenty to do. Life is hardly over for you or even on the downside yet. It's not over till it's over and I am living it to the fullest until then. We were given life to enjoy and each new season has its new beginnings! Personally, I have been thinking about school again. :)
farm girl sister#43
http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
O, a trouble's a ton or a trouble's an ounce,
Or a trouble is what you make it!
And it isn't the fact that you're hurt that counts,
But only--how did you take it?
--Edmund C. Vance.
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Wildcrafter
True Blue Farmgirl
340 Posts
Suzanne
Seattle
WA
USA
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Posted - Nov 12 2011 : 5:24:09 PM
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Originally posted by Bellepepper
Time to put on your big girl panites ladies. I am 72 and still do everything I ever did. Slower mind you, but the same things. Every year the garden tiller gets heaver and it takes me 2 days to make a batch of salsa. But last summer I canned potatoes and chicken for the first time. I always grow a new vegetable in the garden and take at least 20 things to the county fair. Every winter gets colder and every summer gets hotter. You conpensate. The bad thing about being older is all those kids. Three kids all married, 12 grand kids, half of them married and 9 great grandkids (and one on the way), Makes for a big crowded and expensive Christmas.
Belle
You're my kind of woman, Ms. Belle!
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