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Dusky Beauty
True Blue Farmgirl
1108 Posts
Jen
Tonopah
AZ
USA
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 Posted - Sep 26 2011 : 08:16:19 AM
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I recently started getting back in touch on facebook with one of my old best friends. She married a guy she dated for a couple years in high school, then they broke up and I guess got back together a few years ago.
She's pregnant with her first child and mentioned the fact that they are on the outs, and he's not at all happy about the pregnancy.
I don't know what to say at all to lift her up. I'm certainly not falling into the trap of bashing on the guy, I'm not convinced he isn't going to make a complete about face once he sees that baby girl look at him. As I understand it that's "the moment" for bonding dads.
I don't really know what to say to her to cheer her up that will come off as sincere, or what to say that she really needs to hear right now.
I'm praying her stupid hubby sees the light, anyway.
"The greatness of a nation and it's moral progress can be judged by the way it's animals are treated." ~Gandhi
http://silvermoonfarm.blogspot.com/
"After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you're full of bull, keep your mouth shut.” ~Will Rogers |
Edited by - Dusky Beauty on Sep 26 2011 4:08:01 PM |
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njaw09
True Blue Farmgirl
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Annie
NJ
USA
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Posted - Sep 26 2011 : 5:11:40 PM
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| Just ask her if she needs anything and let her speak out of her own terms. Sometimes words can harm more...action is much more appreciated. If you and her lived closed by hang out with her and pamper her or surprise her with some kind of goodies and say "thinking of you". Goodies don't have to be for an occasion it can be for no reason at all too. Never talk or bring up the husband unless she is the one. |
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Dusky Beauty
True Blue Farmgirl
1108 Posts
Jen
Tonopah
AZ
USA
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Posted - Sep 29 2011 : 7:04:32 PM
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She works nights stocking at WalMart and gets off in the morning. I got her number and am going to start calling her once a week after I put kids on the bus, just to listen.
"The greatness of a nation and it's moral progress can be judged by the way it's animals are treated." ~Gandhi
http://silvermoonfarm.blogspot.com/
"After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you're full of bull, keep your mouth shut.” ~Will Rogers |
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Acelady02
True Blue Farmgirl
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Penny
Washington
GA
USA
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Posted - Sep 29 2011 : 9:13:46 PM
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Jen, I think that sounds like just what she really needs, someone to talk to...good luck
(((((Hugs All)))))Penny
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