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Across the Fence:  Christmas blues...  |
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melody
True Blue Farmgirl
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Melody
The Great North Woods in the Land of Hiawatha
USA
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
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Laurie
Montrose
CO
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 Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 06:42:47 AM
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Chin up Melody. Some seasons are like that for folks. There are aspects of it all that get to me, but I try to remember the parts I like best. The giving and sharing. The family time (and we have moments that aren't the best). This year I will be with the BF's family. I'll miss my niece and her crazy rabble-- the kids enjoying themselves, the cooking that my 9 year old grand-niece and I did last year, and that she asked to continue this year. Find something you really enjoy and insert that into the season even if it isn't holiday related.
My cousin and her dad don't celebrate anymore since my aunt passed and that was 10 years ago. It can be an emotional time. Find a good book.
Ok, I've rambled. {{hug}} and give yourself permission to be ok with your feelings.
Laurie
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pnickols
True Blue Farmgirl
808 Posts
Patricia
Parma
Ohio
808 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 07:16:59 AM
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| me too, have gotten to the point where I just don't like this time of year. it seems to magnify family issues, personal problems, money...I just don't enjoy myself anymore |
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Catherine L
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cathy
Newton
Texas
USA
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Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 07:42:14 AM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one. I have gotten where I don't like this time of year either. Our daughter and her family come flying in and then out trying to get to everyone's house. I feel pressured to by gifts for people and some have an expected amount to spend. I would rather buy gifts all year when I find something special for someone than a Christmas.For months everything is working up to one day and then when it is over it is a bit of a let down. It is supposed to be Jesus's birthday, but it's hard to see it.
~Catherine~
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star-schipp
True Blue Farmgirl
942 Posts
Starletta
Middletown
Indiana
USA
942 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 07:44:07 AM
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Me too....way too much pressure and I can't seem to give myself permission to slow it down
We can do no great things; only small things with great love - Mother Teresa
Star - farmgirl sister #1927
Master Food Preserver |
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nut4fabric
True Blue Farmgirl
885 Posts
Kathy
Morgan Hill
CA
USA
885 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 07:54:09 AM
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Me too. For us it was always all about family getting together and with the exception on my evil MIL we all get along great, but now we are all in different parts of the country and getting together like that doesn't happen anymore. Would rather go to bed the day after Thanksgiving and wake up in January when it is all over. Really glad to know that I am not the only one!!!!
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 07:54:54 AM
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I'm kind of blue too...We are not having much of a Christmas it turns out. Everything is about travelling to various family members homes and I'm just not looking forward to it this year...winter travel is not my cup of tea...Chin up ladies, things will get less hectic soon.
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Palouse Prairie Girls Chapter
http://palouseprairiegirls.blogspot.com/
http://prairiegirlsjournal.blogspot.com/
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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treelady
True Blue Farmgirl
2309 Posts
Julie
Medina
ND
USA
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Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 08:08:51 AM
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I struggle with that alot. I sometimes have to force myself to get the decorations up and like this year I don't go all out. I enjoy the baking and creating christmas gifts, but it is hard to put on a happy face all the time. Christmas seems to start earlier every year according to the stores and media and I think we all suffer from burn-out being exposed to it for 4 months out of the year. Hang in there Melody and know we are here with you.
Julie
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melody
True Blue Farmgirl
3318 Posts
Melody
The Great North Woods in the Land of Hiawatha
USA
3318 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 08:27:11 AM
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It just seems like we have forgotten what it is all about...I am estranged from my parents and siblings and with every ad, Christmas jingle and tv show just seems to compound this image of family unity and harmony. For me, it brings up heavy feelings of sadness and frustration and guilt and on and on....
Christmas carols bring me to tears and the thought of actually braving the crowds can send me into panic attacks.
Don't even get me started on exchanging presents after reviewing "lists" that are detailed down to the very last detail of what is expected.
I just want to climb into bed and sleep until it's all over.
Melody
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 09:03:20 AM
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I did not decorate this year and I am only gifting my kids and their spouses and my Mom. I was feeling like something was missing, but after I read Rebekah, the City Farmgirl's blog, I feel better. I am going to Christmas Eve Mass and having my son and his fiance and my Mom for dinner on Christmas night. I miss my DD terribly this time of year, but was down there for five days last week. I get so sick of the hurry and spend and the stress the media and stores throw at us. I am going to watch "It's a Wonderful Life" that movie always makes me feel good.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 09:45:21 AM
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I get that way sometimes, and I can get pretty bad about it. We used to get together at my grandmas and the whole family was there, all 64 of us! Now it's just my folks and sisters and our families who get together at my folks house. I hate that my kids aren't gettin the same things I got to do and enjoy as a kid.
I hate the commercialized way the holiday has turned.
I hate the gimmees that every kid seems to get.
I want my homemade Christmas back!
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2010 : 2:17:00 PM
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Hang in there everyone. We are almost at the end. Start a big countdown clock in your head and think "at this time on Sunday it will all be behind me." Enjoy what you can and give yourself a break for feeling how you do. Feelings are feelings. They aren't right or wrong. They just are.
I know we can't all stay away from those we would like to stay away from or be with those we would like to be with. And all our family dischord is just pronounced this time of year because every one else wants you to think their family is normal. (that's a laugh - who's normal?)
But, girls we are CLOSE to the end and you can pat yourself on the back and be proud you made it through!!
Love you for admitting this beautiful season is less than perfect for you, too.
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pnickols
True Blue Farmgirl
808 Posts
Patricia
Parma
Ohio
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Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 05:46:07 AM
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| it makes me feel a little better knowing others struggle with the outrageous expectations of this time of year,and I think I will try and follow your advice marianne, it's almost over |
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Simply Ann
True Blue Farmgirl
163 Posts
WI
USA
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Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 11:09:44 AM
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I think we all get a little blue, it's not like the big Walton get together they portray on TV, but we should be thankful for what we have and what Christmas really is.
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 1:11:13 PM
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Does everyone else feel as foolish as I do about complaining after hearing about our sister with the five y ear old son with cancer? Please cancel my boo hoos and replace them with a thank God. Why do such things happen to our innocent children? It really shook me up and made me look at everything differently.
I do hope you all are doing ok. I know my problems are minor but I don;t mean to say that yours are, too. We are almost there with our countdown and back to "normal"
Marianne |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
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Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 1:24:48 PM
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I hope that everyone can enjoy at least one peaceful moment this Christmas. I have a pate' in the making and a pound cake to bake and feel at home and peaceful for once!
Hoping that everyone makes it through the rest of the Christmas/New Year season unscathed. Hugs to all of you.
Let us all keep Elizabeth and Jacob (The young boy with cancer) in our thoughts and hearts this Christmas.
Love and Light
Annika
Sister #13
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Palouse Prairie Girls Chapter
http://palouseprairiegirls.blogspot.com/
http://prairiegirlsjournal.blogspot.com/
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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Penny Wise
True Blue Farmgirl
1903 Posts
Margo
Elyria
OH
USA
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Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 2:35:46 PM
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i've been struggling more each year and this year had to simply not decorate.. my kids and grands are all in ohio and i can't get there in the time i have off -or the money for gas-so i mailed their gifts and will talk to them on the phone--i guess i'm missing them more since we moved up here last year at Christmas time.
i realized last nite that when i wake up tomorrow morning (Christmas) it will be the first time ever in my life that i have been alone in the house (my dogs are here!)..there has always been someone in the house-my parents and brother, grandparents, aunt and uncle and cousins (many holidays at their house!), roomie, hubbys and kids...i know that this is by my choice and yes; i will walk up the hill to my mom and brother's for presents and food and family--it's just kindof a growth thing i guess.....
thx for listening....
melody...i spent one Christmas up in menominee....lived along M35 on the Bay....it was interesting but easy to be sad -so far from everything and dreary and cold!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hugs!!!!!!!!!!!
Farmgirl # 2139
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melody
True Blue Farmgirl
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Melody
The Great North Woods in the Land of Hiawatha
USA
3318 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 2:56:14 PM
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Penny,
The weather here can be very dreary-cold-and gray during our long, long winters. It is a real challenge for me because of the lack of sunshine. I have cyclical depression and of course the intelligent side me understands that spring always has and always will follow winter, but when the winter is so harsh I find it harder to deal with as I get older.
It was so nice to hear from other girls about depression this time of year and how there is more out there than one realizes.
Thanks for the response and take care dear girls-Happy Christmas!
Melody
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
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Posted - Dec 24 2010 : 9:52:22 PM
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I too am dealing with the Christmas blues...infact...BIG time  ! This is my first Christmas without my dear husband. My kids chose to go to their inlaws leaving me alone ! Yeah...I'm hurt ! But they can fit me in for New Years Eve ?! Who cares ! lol ! Sorry I am on my pity pot and it is not becoming at all ! I have been in tears and trying to get a grip on things. I think that reading Elizabeth's posts about Jacob have stirred up a lot of memories as my husband went through the same type of surgery. He had the chest tubes,pain etc. It does however make me very thankful that my son is 30 and we never had to walk the road Jacob is now. So...just writing this has helped somehow. I am off to write in my journal,pray and cry myself to sleep . Hugs and blessings to you all ...thanks for listening !!
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
Scattered Prairie Gals Chapter
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Penny Wise
True Blue Farmgirl
1903 Posts
Margo
Elyria
OH
USA
1903 Posts |
Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 05:40:57 AM
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kristy........i'm sending a special sister hug to you.......
Farmgirl # 2139
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dutchy
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 06:31:01 AM
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Yes me too. Since mother and 4 months later my big brother passed away. And it gets "worse" every year it seems. Marianne you are right about our farmgirl sister and her little boy. That does put it in perspective somewhat.
Still, when I got home from church this morning and saw my empty home, I started to cry, felt sorry for myself. Just the thought of being alone did it. Now am feeling better PTL.
Hugs from Marian/Dutchy, a farmgirl from the Netherlands :)
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melody
True Blue Farmgirl
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Melody
The Great North Woods in the Land of Hiawatha
USA
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 07:42:16 AM
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I am not making light of a child who has cancer and instead "moaning" about a very serious chronic seasonal affective disorder that is extremely debilitating to the person who suffers from it.
I cried when I read about our farmgirl sister and her little boy and I take that very seriously-Marianne---There simply is no comparison and I will be the first to admit it.
My prayers are for the little boy and his cancer and for all the farmgirls on this forum and throughout suffering from SADD.
Melody
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
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Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 07:44:50 AM
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Kristy I just emailed you. Praying for a good day for you! And Marian you are also in my prayers, my dad pasted 4 yrs ago and it is with me all through the season. I miss him greatl as I well know you are to. Prayers girlfriends, brings miricles and blessings. Hugs, Brenda
http:///www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
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Annika
USA
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 07:57:49 AM
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Melody, I certainly didn't mean for you to feel that I was making light of you, SADD is a serious disorder and turns your life upside down at times. I have family members who suffer from it and it hurts to see them so depressed. I suffer from Anxious Depression and know how debilitating depression is. I hope that you are doing ok. Thinking of you especially today...
Farm sister hugs
Love and light
Annika
Sister #13
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Palouse Prairie Girls Chapter
http://palouseprairiegirls.blogspot.com/
http://prairiegirlsjournal.blogspot.com/
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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Penny Wise
True Blue Farmgirl
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Margo
Elyria
OH
USA
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 09:04:53 AM
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melody...i don't think anyone thought that you were making light of anyone's illness...or that anyone felt you were wrong to be feeling how you are in comparison to that (gosh i hope i said that right!!!!!!!) ---the holidays truly have become a time for someone to get the blues-whether it is depression or SADD or simply the blues- so many of us have had the Norman Rockwell /Martha Stewart ( i love them both ) Chrsitams shoved at us as well as the glitz and glamor and noise of all of the stores....and many many of us have gone thru serious life changes...death or divorce or illness, seperation from loved ones for whatever reason...and sometimes we can feel that way even surrounded by loved ones- i know that i have!...oh gosh i feel my foot getting close to my mouth cuz i am not sure that i am making sense.....no one took your feelings as "moaning"....
i'm going to stop trying to comfort now cuz i'm not sure it's working!!!!! i just found out that the pkge i priority mailed to my grands in ohio never made it-crud!
Farmgirl # 2139
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
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Posted - Dec 25 2010 : 6:05:01 PM
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Melody, I am sorry my message upset you. I did not mean it to offend anyone, let alone you personally. I did not know of your SADD and I don't discount it at all. I was meaning that in my life, I felt like I had a big wake up call to be thankful I was not walking that road.
Again, my apologies. Hope you forgive my mistake.
Marianne |
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Across the Fence: Christmas blues... |
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