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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  I need all the prayers I can get.  |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
 Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:36:57 AM
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I work at an investment firm. Needless to say, the job is stressful. But, recently, my co-workers are berating me, talking disrespectfully to me, and treating me like a 2nd class citizen, because I'm the newest (and the youngest). I'm the admin support, so I do SO MUCH, and, I know they know that, but, I think they berate me to keep me from looking elsewhere for employment.
I have a stellar resume and skillset, and recently had two job interviews, which I should hear about next week.
Today, I was yelled at and talked to disrespectfully, because my printer is malfunctioning, and I should know how to fix it for it to print correctly-and I went to the restroom and cried. Its the most ridiculous things they get upset about because it's a high-stress job, and a high-stress time for us right now-(ie: me needing to leave early, and telling them a few days before, because I need to get STITCHES out of my FACE-I haven't taken one sick day or vacation day yet this year, and I've had 4 doctors appts. since Jan, or getting upset because yahoo isn't displaying correctly on someone's computer, or yelling because someones labels printed crooked), and I'm just to overly-sensitive that it really gets to me and hurts.
I need prayers that I'll get one of the jobs I've interviewed for, or at least have the strength to not get hurt by the yelling and the attitudes. I've never been one to raise my voice, and having been in an abusive relationship in the past, yelling really is an emotional trigger for me.
Thank you ladies.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:42:06 AM
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prayers sent deary!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:45:04 AM
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And, I really have been taking this to God, trying to see if I'm just acting like a victim; I've been asking him to heal whatever I did to hurt the relationship with my co-workers.
But I've realized, they've treated me like this since the beginning. I'm asking God to show me the lesson that he's trying to teach me, so that I can be blessed in finding another position.
I've had so many WONDERFUL jobs before, I've been so blessed, and this job just makes me feel horrible and worthless.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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mommatracy
True Blue Farmgirl
490 Posts
Tracy
My. Olive
NC
USA
490 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:46:30 AM
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I will never understand why people are deliberately mean. My sister has suffered at the hands of a shrew in her office for many years and it has been devastating. This woman has spit at her, broken her transcription machine on purpose, and took away her fall bonus of $2,500 for the past ten years just because she could. She is the office manager. I will pray for you and pray that you find employment elsewhere. I think there is an especially hot spot in hell for people like that.
Tracy
www.cottagebythebay.blogspot.com
~Trust in the Lord...but row away from the rocks~ |
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Marcy
True Blue Farmgirl
2701 Posts
Marcy
Tiverton
Rhode Island
USA
2701 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:46:43 AM
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Megan,
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Also sending you big hugs. Hope things turn around for you soon. No one deserves to be treated like that. If people would learn to be kind and respectful of others, what a wonderful world we would live in.
Take care
Know you are thought of
Hugs
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
http://marcysworldofcreativity.blogspot.com/
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gypsy goat
True Blue Farmgirl
673 Posts
mary jo
michigan
673 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 12:57:53 PM
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megan- i really hope you can get out of there-i have been in an abusive personal relationship it is so hard. my heart really goes out to you. i will keep you in my prayers- hold on you will get thru this
whatever you are be a good one-abe lincoln |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 1:32:13 PM
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Let me say that my DH is NOT abusive in the least-he's my prince charming!!! My ex boyfriend was-and, yelling was just the start of it, every time, so, that's a trigger for me. I've worked to try and overcome it, but, it's so hard. I just don't understand yelling, don't respond to it, and don't feel it's nevessary. Especially at the workplace. I KNOW I do a good job, and my DH thinks she might feel threatened by me, as I'm taking over some of her responsibilities, and just, in general, getting more recognition than her. She's also been getting reprimanded for using her cell phone for personal calls during work hours and missing client calls, facebooking at work, etc. etc. So, I think it's coming out towards me.
It just tears me apart to actually have to spend 8-5 with this person. She's totally irrational. I don't want to take it to our boss, because I don't want to be seen as a "tattle-tale" or a "complainer" but, I'm getting to the point that I think it's better that I leave. If enough people leave because of her, maybe the boss will get the point. I'm just so disturbed by her treatment of me.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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cgonyer
True Blue Farmgirl
220 Posts
Cindy
Petersburg
MI
USA
220 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 2:25:39 PM
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Megan ~ your blog is great. My prayers are with you - take care and stay positive!
~Cindy
Farmgirl #1273 |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 3:38:08 PM
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I'll say prayers for you. I was also in an abusive marriage, they are bad. This husband is a keeper tho. If you can maintain your cool and I know that is a very hard thing to do, just look the person in the eye's and say Why are you yelling at me? It just may change things a little but I hope you get the jobs you really want.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 6:01:51 PM
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Megan, I hope you get a different job! Stress can really wreak havoc on our bodies and minds. You just have to feel bad for those abusive people. What miserable lives they must lead. Sometimes it's just easier to be happy. You will be in my prayers tonight.
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Why not go out on a limb, that's where all the fruit is! "Mark Twain"
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
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jsparks60
True Blue Farmgirl
61 Posts
June
Greene
NY
USA
61 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 6:28:30 PM
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Megan, I'm praying for you and hoping that one of the interviews pans out for you. Please stay positive!
Farmgirl #1401
'Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be' - from 'Simple Gifts' |
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msdoolittle
True Blue Farmgirl
1145 Posts
Amanda
East Texas
USA
1145 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 8:24:08 PM
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Megan, time to ditch the job and move to the farm ;0) Seriously, NO job on Earth is worth suffering abuse. It is an abusive relationship. Time to move forward :0)
Sending you some FarmGirl Strength as well as the Johnny Paycheck song, "Take this Job and Shove It"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FarmGirl #1390
www.mylittlecountry.wordpress.com |
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
2325 Posts |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 8:35:31 PM
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I hope you get one of the other jobs but it is a dangerous time to give up on a job without other options.
If you don't, I'd say tell the boss. What sense does it make to protect the abuser, to suffer or to leave a job in difficult financial times? It may be that she has tormented others in the past and this might be the time to end it for yourself and any other vicitms she has chosen.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
2914 Posts |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 9:41:39 PM
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I once had an abusive co-worker who was so bad that I wouldn't go in the walk-in freezer (I worked in a hospital kitchen) on the nights she was closing for fear she'd lock me in there (and she's the type who would have). I finally went to personnel and complained because she kept telling other people she was going to "bop" me. I told personnel I'd see a lawyer if it didn't stop. Moral of the story: she left and got a job somewhere else. I'm still at the hospital, in a better job. No one deserves to be abused, but sometimes if you stick these things out, the situation resolves itself. and it probably wouldn't hurt to tell someone higher up. good luck.
cindy
"There is more to life than increasing its speed". Mahatma Gandhi
Visit my blog at http://www.farmerinthebelle.blogspot.com/ |
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Sheep Mom 2
True Blue Farmgirl
1534 Posts
Sheri
Elk
WA
USA
1534 Posts |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 10:01:54 PM
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Nobody has the right to yell at you. If they have a problem, then they can speak to you respectively and you will fix the problem. I know you need the job, but perhaps the lesson is to stand up for yourself? I know you have issues, perhaps now is the time to face them?? I don't want to give you any wrong advice, but living in fear is not a way to live. I hope you will find a different job but if you don't and have to stay there, just remember "No one can hurt you without your permission" - Elinor Roosevelt said that and she is right. I agree with Cindy - tell someone if the behavior continues.
Blessings, Sheri
"Work is Love made visible" -Kahlil Gibran |
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farmmilkmama
True Blue Farmgirl
2027 Posts
Amy
Central MN
USA
2027 Posts |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 05:12:51 AM
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I really hope one of those other jobs opens up for you. Spending 8-5 with people who treat you like that is a terrible way to live life. I agree that you should tell your superior about the way you're being treated (unless your superior is part of the problem too) because sometimes these bully type people act they way they do because they can get away with it - people protect the bullies. I have you in my thoughts today and I hope this situation is resolved quickly!! Please keep us up to date and what happens!! I can't stand people who are mean just because they think they can be.
--* FarmMilkMama *--
Farmgirl Sister #1086
Be yourself.
Everyone else is already taken.
-Oscar Wilde
www.wakeupstartlearning.blogspot.com
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 06:17:58 AM
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Father God, I pray that you will give Megan peace in the work place. That she will be respected by her co-workers and will work to the best of her ability and be satisfied with her efforts. I pray for favor that she would get the job that best suits her dreams and talents and skills and that she would LOVE what she does. In Jesus' name, AMEN!
For what it's worth, Megan, I had stitches in my face once and didn't have the time to schedule an appt. to get them out, so I sterilized some nail clippers with lots of alcohol and snipped them right out myself LOL! Worked perfectly and I didn't have to go make a doctors visit and pay a co-pay for it either :)
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:16:26 PM
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Tomorrow is the day that I'll hopefully hear about ONE of the interviews-I'm not trying to get my hopes up, but I've been on my knees about it. I've also been trying to seek out what the "lesson" is to learn here. When I started at this position, the two interviewers (the two that are the WHOLE problem) warned me about the CEO, and how volatile he was-he's never, EVER been anything but respectful and wonderful to me. It's so comical that they warned me about him, and yet THEY are the ones who are irrational and volatile.
Unfortunately, this company has a very high turn-around due to the yelling and abuse that goes on, and has also been in litigation over it. I just hope that I can move onward and upward in a timely fashion. I've tried "Killing them with kindness," and, while it bides the time, something always blows up.
We'll see.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:17:31 PM
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and sorry for the dp, but, thank you all SO much for your prayers. It really does mean a TON to have supportive friends!!!
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:38:43 PM
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I'll be praying for you Megan! I hope you get the job you want.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - Apr 26 2010 : 12:06:41 PM
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Thank you guys-keep 'em coming! I called the place today, and they said that one of the interviewer's family members had passed over the weekend, so, they hadn't made a decision yet due to him being out-they said probably later this week-I'll be so anxious until then! I sent another follow up email (I sent one the day after the email) basically expressing my condolences, and asking if there were any questions I could answer, and referencing a few things we had talked about in the interview.
I'm praying like mad right now about it.
I'll go from an hour + commute (each way!) to a less than 20 minute commute, at a really great place, in a beautiful building, with some really laid-back people. Your prayers are appreciated!!!!
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Apr 26 2010 : 7:57:42 PM
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oh so sorry to hear that Megan. You will be in my prayers!
Hugs!
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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Faransgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
895 Posts
Beth
Houston
Texas
USA
895 Posts |
Posted - Apr 27 2010 : 07:03:03 AM
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I recently had a boss at a Non=Profit organization. She was the VP once when she didn't know I could hear her I heard her tell someone that it was ok to yell at people because it always got you what you wanted. After months of being afraid to pick up the phone if she was on the caller ID I took the situation to the BOD. They fired me of course. Since that 5 of their 8 employees have quit and one more is interviewing for a new job. I totally believed in the organization and it broke my heart to be fired but no one has the right to yell at or berate anyone else. I think the lesson you may be suppose to learn from this is that - no one has the right to treat you disrespectfully and by allowing it you are disrespecting yourself - so your lesson would be respect yourself.
Farmgirl Sister 572
When manure happens just say "WOO HOO Fertilizer". |
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barnagainkristin
True Blue Farmgirl
465 Posts
Kristin
Utah
USA
465 Posts |
Posted - Apr 27 2010 : 6:20:08 PM
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Megan,
So sorry about the rotten people you work with. I have been shocked by what people will do so many times and I will never get used to it. I guess when you're not that kind of person it is hard to understand where they are coming from or why they do what they do. Thank goodness you are not like them! Hope things work out for you with a new job that is much better and you work with nice people. Happy you have farmgirls to remind you how many good people there are in the world. I wish you well.
barnagainkristin
"Others Before Self" |
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walkinwalkoutcattle
True Blue Farmgirl
1675 Posts
Megan
Paint Lick
KY
USA
1675 Posts |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 05:11:35 AM
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Well, as an update, I got the job in Paint Lick! So, instead of commuting an hour, I'll be commuting 10 minutes! More money, salary, casual dress code, flexible schedule, 100% paid benefits-it's just AWESOME! I put in my two weeks notice last week @ work. This friday is my last day. And I tell you what, this week is dragging by. I've gone through 4 temps for my position. They all say they can't work with my co-workers, that there's too much to do, and too micromanaged. LOL.
I just need to make it through till Friday.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 05:42:23 AM
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Congrats Megan! Sounds like a great deal and a big weight off your shoulders!
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: I need all the prayers I can get. |
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I need all the prayers I can get.
