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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
 Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 11:00:52 AM
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Teresa, I will definitly check out the WW thread, didn't know there was one going.
Lillian, I am no longer at the church where my husband pastored. I made a move last summer to be closer to my family. I am still getting to know people in my new church, but they have been very kind to me. I don't talk much about Dale there as they didn't know him, so it feels odd to me to share things about him. As I get to know people better, I will probably come easier.
You girls are the best!
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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AsiyahK
True Blue Farmgirl
113 Posts
Asiyah
New Jersey
USA
113 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 11:19:05 AM
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Speaking about your husband is a way to keep his memory alive. I've never met you or your dh but the poignancy of your words make me wish I had.
You do what you need to do to grieve and to remember. Any woman would be blessed to love and be loved as you have.
(((Hugs)))
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acairnsmom
True Blue Farmgirl
1319 Posts
audrey
cheyenne
wy
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Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 4:10:57 PM
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Good grief (literally!). You're hubby passed away very recently in your way of thinking. My sister's hubby passed over 10 years ago and it's still fresh for her. You are still in morning and your words and posts will reflect that. If that person can't handle your grief they need not respond to your posts. Some people have a hard time with other peoples sadness, it makes them uncomfortable. That is fine, but they don't need to add to your emotional state. I'd say they just aren't mature enough in this area, they will in time understand the need to speak of lost loves. In Jesus' words "forgive them for they know not what they do". Brush the critism off and let the other's who understand now, help you back from your sorrows.
Audrey
Toto, we're not in Kansas any more! |
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JoyIowa
True Blue Farmgirl
273 Posts
Joy
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Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 4:22:33 PM
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You just keep lovin' us other farmgirls!!! I get soooo much from this place, it sometimes just takes my breath away. A thought I agreed to pass along about 25 years ago when my dad died: The conversation went something like this:
Mark: Wow! You must have really loved your dad.
Me:Yeah! He was the best!
Mark: I know
Me: (Looking up in disbelief) How can you say that? You never knew my dad.
Mark: No, But I can see in you, the love he had for you.
The conversation went on a bit and then: (This is the part I agreed to share whenever I can)
Never apologize for crying for a loved one. Rather think of each tear as a piece of him/her that was left with you. Sometimes memories, thoughts, looks, but sometimes a daisy, a cloud, or even a fork, but all valuable.
Now when I cry, I just think of all the good. And tell those that tell me it's not normal to cry once in awhile after 25 years to go jump in a lake.
If it's not illegal, unsafe, or immoral, why not try anything once? Who knows? You may come back for a second helping! |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 6:01:35 PM
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Whoever posted that you "offended" them for talking about your hubby, should apologize to YOU.
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE |
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solilly
True Blue Farmgirl
726 Posts
Lillian
Williamsburg
Virginia
USA
726 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 6:33:41 PM
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I'm with Nicole. She is so right. Love and hugs Lilly 
learning the life I always wanted. |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
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Mikki
True Blue Farmgirl
1510 Posts
Mikki
Austin
Indiana
USA
1510 Posts |
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AsiyahK
True Blue Farmgirl
113 Posts
Asiyah
New Jersey
USA
113 Posts |
Posted - Apr 13 2010 : 6:04:58 PM
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Originally posted by Julia
Wanted you all to know that the 'offended' and I have made amends. Your sweet posts helped bring it about. All is well on the homefront. Thanks!
Yay!!!
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Apr 13 2010 : 8:43:23 PM
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Good to hear Julia. Then the offender has a heart. I will pray for her. We can all make amends. Good for her.
Hope you have a wonderful day tomorrow.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
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dandelionhouse
True Blue Farmgirl
205 Posts
Debbie
Plymouth
Mass
USA
205 Posts |
Posted - Apr 15 2010 : 08:39:49 AM
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Julia,
My mother in law just lost her husband of 65 years... They met before world war 11.. it was a wonderful love story from the beginning and they contined to love one another all the years of their marriage in sickness and in health just like they promised they would!
As we put together 9 different memory boards depicting the many chapters of his life, we chose to do a special one just for ROMANCE... there were so many photo's of " just the two of them" from the beginning to the end... We all miss him, and I know she will always miss him deeply....
Continue to heal in what ever form that takes for you... and know he is " still" with you...in your heart for ever!
Best to you!
Deb~
Thanks for your little post on my HOME WORDS page on my little blog!
so sweet of you to stop by and leave a note for me...
I do have a thing for Picket Fences for sure!!!
Deb~ www.deborahjeansdandelionhouse.com
" home is where we all craft the life of our dreams." |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
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dandelionhouse
True Blue Farmgirl
205 Posts
Debbie
Plymouth
Mass
USA
205 Posts |
Posted - Apr 15 2010 : 09:43:52 AM
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I think we are always being prepared for things we have no idea about! Joys and sorrow's alike... It is our one constant lesson in learning to KEEP THE FAITH!
Keep your eyes and heart wide open and the joys will far out weigh the sorrows every time!
Many blessings and dandelion wishes!
Deb~ www.deborahjeansdandelionhouse.com
" home is where we all craft the life of our dreams." |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Apr 15 2010 : 2:17:14 PM
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Glad you and the "offended" have settled things. But, "the offended" as you so politely call her, chose to be offended. You owe no apology for her selfishness . . . A chip can only be on your shoulder if you allow it to be. Being offended is a choice and we can and should chose not to be. I get so tired of people that want us to do the egg shell dance . . . hey we farmgirls want to use our eggs for baking great goodies for our families . . . not for tip-toeing on the shells!
Hugs & Blessings,
Brenda
Come visit my blog at http.//www.pastblessings.blogspot.com |
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1505 Posts
Rae
MN
1505 Posts |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 1:05:10 PM
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Julia I enjoy your posts so just keep on a writing. By the way girl how are you doing???
I have been busy wrapped up with my life
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 2:44:48 PM
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There are not too many folks on this board more sincere, honest, and loving than our dear Julia. So glad things are better! Julia walks a path of faith and forgiveness, and I so admire it.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 3:06:14 PM
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Very glad you hear it Julie!!
Hugs!!
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 4:08:45 PM
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Oh Jeannie, you are so sweet, thanks for the kind words! You're the best!
Rae, I am well, always one foot in front of the other, always holding tight to the Lords hand. He is good. My arm is healing well, the Dr. is very pleased with the progress I have made with the amount of damage done to the arm. A wedding in Sept, 2 new grands in Oct. The sun is shining... thanks for asking!
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
#440
http://www.iglitteredthecat.blogspot.com/
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