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dutchy
True Blue Farmgirl
4427 Posts
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 Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 11:04:46 PM
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YAY to all US true farmgirl sisters. Love how we show support to all the widows, divorced, happily married, never married friends here. I never married but lost my mom and big brother. And yes I too miss them heaps, some days more than others. And yes I too want to feel free to talk about them if and when I want. SO please Julia (and others) share your stories here.
Hugs from Marian/Dutchy, a farmgirl from the Netherlands :)
My personal blog:
http://just-me-a-dutch-girl.blogspot.com/
Almost daily updates on me and mine :)
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patchworkpeace
True Blue Farmgirl
478 Posts
Judy
Jackson
Michigan
USA
478 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 04:33:59 AM
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Julia,
We love you the way you are and wouldn't want you different. Somebody must have been having a bad day. Please keep being you.
Judy
Success is measured not by the position one reaches but by the obstacles one has to overcome to reach it. Booker T. Washington |
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JojoNH
True Blue Farmgirl
1984 Posts
Joanna
Dunbarton
New Hampshire
USA
1984 Posts |
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 04:51:51 AM
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Julia no apologies needed here, I love reading your writings. They are so sincere and from the heart. And that is how a farmgirl lives, from the heart! Please continue with your posts. Whoever is offended, as Lisa and the others have said, can move on where they don't have to read what they don't like. I think people like that have been offensive people all their lives and are just jealous of the love and sincerity that you have. And there is a huge group of ladies, that love and care for you and want you to know that we are all here for you, as we know you are for us. Us TRUE farmgirls stick together.
HUGS~~~Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Tn.Earthmama
True Blue Farmgirl
451 Posts
Phyllis
Englewood
Tennessee
451 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 05:15:57 AM
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| Julia, I don't post very often but wanted you to know that you sure have never offended me. I thought the reason we were all here is to support, encourage and be kind and loving to each other. you seem to exemplify those qualities as far as i can see. please don't let this get you down. blessings Phyllis |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 08:56:31 AM
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I am so totally overwhelmed! With tears in my eyes, I thank you all. In a couple of emails to farmgirls, I made mention I didn't intent to make this a big deal, I just like being at peace with all, which is why the post. Please don't be angry on my account. With such love expressed here, who could be hurt by one. You girls are amazing!!!!
One of the reasons I love it here is at times, like today, when I am feeling a bit lonely, I can click a button and up pops many friends!
My daughter went up last night to pick up her fiance' at the airport, then they stayed with his folks for the night, they will be here later this evening. But I don't like being alone, still getting use to that. Even though they will be here later, last night seemed to drag on, and it feels like hours till they will be here. Saturdays were always work in the yard days with my hubby. He was not a sit in front of the tv guy, and as he was in the office during the week, outside is where he wanted to be saturday morning. If he were here today, he would be out tilling the garden so that I could plant. Or we would be re-tarring the shed roof, as it leaks, or maybe he would want to build something out of the old fencing that is piled up behind the house. I am amazed at what he did around the house, that I never paid any mind to. Now my honey do list is growing, and I am trying to find the energy and desire to do it. I have 2 things to accomplish today, but wanted you sweet, wonderful girls to know how much you are loved by me. Hugs all around.!
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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http://www.myfeetaredirty.blogspot.com/
http://www.iglitteredthecat.blogspot.com/
http://www.glitterandgrunge.com/ (turner hill studio)
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 09:48:29 AM
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Do you at least have an inside lovable dog to keep you company?
It's in no way like human companionship but it at least some thing to talk to have it not be so completely silent.
I bet the emptiness pulls your heart sometimes |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 11:06:35 AM
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Julia:
Thanks for the lovely post this morning. I hope you have a busy, wonderful, happy day today. Anna mentioned having a lovable dog, I agree. But, as a cat lover, a cat or two would be nice. I have one dog and two inside cats, four outside cats. They bring such joy!!!! They make me smile every day. And, at times, we all chat with each other. LOL. Take care sweet friend. Sorry my post last night was a bit harsh, but I was a bit upset.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
5602 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 11:15:59 AM
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Sweet Julia, if I had a way to cover the miles, I'd ask you to join me with my fellow palouse prairie girls tomorrow at our little gathering =) You are a lovely woman going through the very hard process of grieving for a lost loved one and mate. If there is anything I can do to brighten your day ever, please email me and ask *HUGS* I'm always here to talk to.
I hope that you have a wonderful weekend, knowing that your fellow farm sisters love you as you are.
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Palouse Prairie Girls Chapter
http://palouseprairiegirls.blogspot.com/
http://prairiegirlsjournal.blogspot.com/
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 11:19:37 AM
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Julia, I enjoy your posts too. I'm sorry someone didn't appreciate your posts because I think we can all learn from each other and encourage each other. I know after my mother passed everyone was so kind and really helped me get through a rough time. Big hugs to you sister!
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/
An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 12:42:15 PM
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I am sorry that you feel the need to apolize. I have enjoyed your posts and this site is wonderful for people to share their feelings and stories. Please don't ever stop. (((BIG HUG))) to you.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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vintagediva1
True Blue Farmgirl
1251 Posts
Michele
Brighton
Michigan
USA
1251 Posts |
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delicia
True Blue Farmgirl
917 Posts
delicia
cincinnati
ohio
USA
917 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 2:31:27 PM
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I have not been a member here very long but, am sorry that you were hurt. I think that losing a spouse would be a terrible grieving process and have no clue that is something that you ever truly get over. It is sad that words hurt us so deeply but, hope that you will read the post and be uplifted by the kindness and generosity of the wonderful women and friends on this web site.
delicia |
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birdie71
True Blue Farmgirl
254 Posts
Robin
Glendale
Arizona
USA
254 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 5:51:38 PM
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Julia,
I agree with all the other girlfriends! Goodness girl, the loss of your husband!? Where's the love and grace? Oh wait...here! The connection is what this is for. My mama (ceejay) posted on my behalf before I ever became a farmgirl! I can't tell you how much I have appreciated the love and prayers! I love it! So I will keep praying you through! HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG!!!
Robin
Farmgirl Sister #1301
Farming in the Sonoran Desert? Hmmm?! |
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solilly
True Blue Farmgirl
726 Posts
Lillian
Williamsburg
Virginia
USA
726 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 6:14:08 PM
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Julia, I am crying for and with you. One should be very happy for one who can say good things about a spouce who has gone on to another life. Anyone who is hurt by you is proabily hurt by everyone. Go on do those things your husband would do. It might take some thinking and a longer time to do them but just have the faith that your husband is with you, helping and telling how all the way. Some time when someone dies we become stronger in many ways and who is not to say that our loved one is with us all the way still. We are sisters to hold up not tare down. You need us and we are speaking out. If you ever come to Virginia look me up we have lots of room. Lilly 
learning the life I always wanted. |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 8:38:21 PM
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I am not a big indoor pet person, though next spring I hope to have chickens. I do have a beautiful grandson and 2 grandbabies due in Oct. I reckon, they are my indoor pets of choice.
I like what you said Lillian, 'when someone dies we become stronger in many ways...' I very much agree with you. I have become a stronger person, simply because I have had too. Taking on the role of head of the house and main bread winner, I have had to do things, my sweet hubby always did. He was a wonderful provider. He was a pastor, he didn't make big money, but we always had what we needed, never went hungry, never missed a payment, and never in debt. So much of what I do, that he did, I find I do the way he did, because of watching him do it. I guess I paid more attention than I thought. He was a good teacher, and because of him I am a stronger person today.
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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http://www.myfeetaredirty.blogspot.com/
http://www.iglitteredthecat.blogspot.com/
http://www.glitterandgrunge.com/ (turner hill studio)
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2010 : 8:53:56 PM
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Dear Julia,
I am sorry that someone was offended. I find it hard to believe that your posts would do that.
I cannot even begin to fathom the loss of a spouse and my heart and prayers go out to all of you wonderful ladies who have. I too enjoy reading your posts (although I have not been on too much lately). I find it encouraging seeing you and the other gals moving on and healing. I am praying for your heart to be comforted by our Almighty Father.
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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Edited by - Calicogirl on Apr 10 2010 8:54:58 PM |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
2199 Posts |
Posted - Apr 11 2010 : 4:13:49 PM
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Julia, I hope you will join us at the thread about Widow Women, and post some of your stories, cause I started it because of you, and you deserve apologies from whoever it was that hurt you, with their completly cold remarks.
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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solilly
True Blue Farmgirl
726 Posts
Lillian
Williamsburg
Virginia
USA
726 Posts |
Posted - Apr 11 2010 : 6:57:17 PM
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Love to you Julia. Do not the church women stand with you on things? I understand if they do not. People go there own way when the shepard is not there to lead them rightly. HUGGS LIlly
learning the life I always wanted. |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
1599 Posts |
Posted - Apr 11 2010 : 9:42:57 PM
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I've never been offended by your or anyone's remarks on here. The truck driver is coming out in me right now as I don't understand that if someone doesn't like someone's posts, don't.read.them. Fairly simple, I should think! There are plenty of posts on this board to pick and choose what you'd like to peruse.
Personally, I feel it's pretty d*mn tacky to pm or email someone about how selfish they are for posting about a real, heartfelt feeling. I'm not a widow but have lost others in my family and surely it's therapeutic to write/talk to other farmgirls. You have to work it out! Don't hold it in!!
For some 'venting'-type of entertainment, please read my blog, http://lostadventuresintrucking.blogspot.com .
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 03:32:43 AM
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True, true
If somebody doesn't like something, they aren't being forced to watch read or participate.
So what's the problem!? |
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sewsweet
True Blue Farmgirl
172 Posts
Carol
Canada
172 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 07:47:25 AM
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It's important to speak from the heart. If you can't do it here, I don't know where you can. Keep sharing your memories and thoughts about your DH. There is nothing offensive about doing so. Shame on the person who would complain about such a thing, I can only assume they were having a bad day and took it out on you because their comments make no sense.
Hope you are feeling better about things now.
Take care,
Carol
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Apr 12 2010 : 10:37:32 AM
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Where you are, we will meet you. And right now you are going through grief, and I have been blessed by the way you have so lovingly expressed your feelings. It touches my heart. So, hang in there, lean into the Lord, and stay here among friends - even if we have never "officially met". We are girlfriends in God and farmgirl friends here on MJF. :)
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
Psalm 51: 10-13 |
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
1900 Posts |
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Across the Fence: I owe you an apology |
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I owe you an apology
No apologies are needed we are all friends & Sisters here. . . cannot imagine who was offended. . . They can simply choose not to read your post. I love reading what you have to say!!!