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lovingewe
True Blue Farmgirl
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marlyn-neleh
norwood
Ontario
Canada
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 Posted - Apr 04 2010 : 7:31:16 PM
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Every time something good happens around here and we are highly praised by someone my husband will say how "we" did it.
Normally it is something I have done to change things but I let it slide. Even if it has taken me a lot of time and effort. It is still a "we" project.
Two months ago hubby came home with tickets to see a sporting event. He said it was for "we" (us). So I assumed it was for the four of us (at home) because there were four tickets.
Today at lunch the 18 year old asked if dad had he asked this other person and his 6 year old son if they were coming?
Huh! I thought this was for "we".
Apparently I'm not part of the "we".
I am frustrated because he spent a lot of money ( we can't afford) to go to this event and I'm not going ( nor youngest daughter but she doesn't want to).
Frustrated because we never go out, and now he is going with another guy and his son.
Just frustrated tonight. Blowing my horn!
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
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Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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Posted - Apr 05 2010 : 05:55:35 AM
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I have felt this way a few times, I just don't know what to tell you. Maybe you and your daughter need to have some "we" time. Men, they are always trying to steal our thunder.
Why not go out on a limb, that's where all the fruit is! "Mark Twain"
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
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Posted - Apr 05 2010 : 06:00:57 AM
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I agree with Diane. Sounds like you and your daughter need to have a "we" time! Sorry that you feel the way you do. Have you talked about it to your hubby? Sometimes men are just dumb and not on purpose. I think they have little brains that don't have common sense when it comes to the feelings of the women in their lives sometimes. And like I said, it usually is not intentional and if you express how you feel, a good guy will go, "Oh (with a very confused look)...I didn't know I was doing that or making you feel that way." I hope that you can knock some sense into him LOL!
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
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Posted - Apr 05 2010 : 06:20:29 AM
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I think it's just a lost cause! They don't know how to reason out what they are thinking. I'd say, that you and daughter go out and have a great day! Do you ever find that when you ask them "Why or What do you think?" the answer is always "I don't know!!" With that dumb look on their face. Like what in the world is SHE thinking. I think those are the only words in my DH vocabulary! Thats because its easier than having to do the thinking process. Do any of you have husbands that can carry on a nice conversation???? You may want to talk to him about it, but I hope you have better luck than I do. If there is one goof thing in the creation process it would be that men are lacking in understanding women. You'd think that they would eventually catch on. Oh boy am I on a row, touchy subject here! Good luck and I'll pray that you come to a satisfing solution.
HUGS~~~~Brenda
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Apr 05 2010 : 09:59:16 AM
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Sometimes my hubby says things like he was invited to so and so's house. Not we but him. I hate that. Or his friends are going on a bike ride and he's going to join them. Sometimes it hurts my feelings. But I get over it. I really don't think he realizes what he's saying.
Yeah, I'd just go on and do girl stuff then. Let him take the boys and do guy stuff. They'll get lonely.
Kris
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msdoolittle
True Blue Farmgirl
1143 Posts
Amanda
East Texas
USA
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Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 2:10:23 PM
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Oh Siobahn, how I laughed when I read, "Sometimes men are just dumb and not on purpose"!!!!
Lovingewe, when I read this: "Apparently I'm not part of the "we".
I am frustrated because he spent a lot of money ( we can't afford) to go to this event and I'm not going ( nor youngest daughter but she doesn't want to).
Frustrated because we never go out, and now he is going with another guy and his son."
I wondered if you have said this directly to your husband? It's true, men can be so 'duh' sometimes, but they won't know they've hurt your feelings unless you express them candidly. My vote is, you tell him what you've said here, word for word, and then tell him you want a Date Night. A few years ago, my husband and I would have a regular Date Night, almost always once a week or so to get reconnected with each other (minus kids!!!) Now, when the girls go to school, before we go to work, we will go and eat breakfast together and talk. It's a lot of fun and we both enjoy it! OH! and I meant to add that Date Nights should be worked into your budget. We are on the 'Dave Ramsey' plan, so now I know where every dollar goes, but I always am sure to have a little mad money to spend on things like Date night(or breakfast) :0) It doesn't have to be much!
Adventures in Homesteading!
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Edited by - msdoolittle on Apr 09 2010 2:12:31 PM |
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