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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
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 Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 5:50:21 PM
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I just wrote a blog post about this over at my blog www.trenchesofmommyhood.blogspot.com I really think that too many people feel entitled to everything they want, instead of working hard for it. I think it will get worse as the generations change because so many young people are handed just everything! What are your thoughts? Would love to hear them here or on my blog!
-Elizabeth
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Claude09647
True Blue Farmgirl
761 Posts
Claudia
Our Dairy Farm
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 7:28:48 PM
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I can agree with you. I'm only 22. I was raised that if you wanted something, you have to work for it. If we wanted a special toy and it was not christmas or our birthday, we had to do little chores around the house for a dollar until we got enough money to purchase whatever we wanted. We appreciated that toy that much more are respected our toys. Something that did bother me was When my sister and i were in high school, (We went to a high school that was grades 7-12 and there were only 300 students... SMALL SCHOOL) Well, when we both turned 16 we got cars. Hers was 4 years old when she bought it and mine was only 2 years old. We were told we were spoiled by so many people and that mommy and daddy bought our cars for us. We saved for our cars and we both got jobs at 16. We worked after school and didn't do sports. Mom and Dad didn't even help with the down payments of our cars. But we still got blamed for being spoiled. We still drive newer cars and like nice things and we still get them, but were not in credit card debt... don't owe any family members money...(Like so many of our friends do) and we both have full time jobs and are not at the bars blowing our money. We dont just go shopping to buy the new "IN" thing. We work hard for our money and our toys and so many of our friends STILL think that mom and dad give us money. I just dont understand that part, do they forget that a weekend at a bar is usually 60 dollars. If they take that and times that by even 3 ( For 3 weeks in a month) there is 180 dollars. That could be a car payment for a car. I guess my generation just doesn't see the big picture on life. I can completely understand where you are coming from with the " I really think that too many people feel entitled to everything they want, instead of working hard for it." And they find reasons to make the people that work for what they have guilty because they dont have anything but a big bar tab and fancy clothes that won't be in style next years anyways.
Sorry, I think i may have went on a little bit of a rant, but I can understand where you are coming from and especially my generation of the I WANT I WANT, but don't want that full time job and would rather go on food stamps and welfare. ( I don't have any problem with anyone on either of those, I just have an issue with my generation that is able to work and choose not to because its easier to sit on their butts all day.)
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
931 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 7:54:38 PM
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It's funny that your friends think your parents must help you out. Is must be because you are doing so well and they aren't and instead of realizing they could be with some careful budgeting and spending they just blame it on something else!
I was raised the same way. Anything extra I wanted as a child/teen I had to EARN. Whether it was babysitting or selling something of my own on Ebay to get a little extra money. So every single thing I bought I valued because I had bought it with my hard earned money. I am only 27 so am part of the "Me, ME" generation but just raised completely different.
It's really scary to think how the older generation in 50 years (us!) will be if no one ever learns that we are not entitled to anything...that we only deserve what we earn!
-Elizabeth
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
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Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 8:02:11 PM
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Claudia, that wasn'a rant...you are very wise for the short amount of years you have had on this earth, your Mama and Daddy should be proud, they raised you well.
My kids were raised pretty much the same way as you, if they wanted something, they worked for it. They raised steers for people who did not have the pasture for them, goats , sheep and hogs also. They helped build neighbors pens and coops and anything else that they could for money. They all bought their own cars and pick-ups, along with motorcycles. When they were younger, they worked to buy their bikes. Neither my husband or I , nor my kids ever had anything handed to them, we all had everything we needed, and alot of what we wanted, but, that was not frivulous(sp?) items. They all grew up to have all that they needed,houses, cars , and are able to go out to dinner if they want, or take in a movie. We all learned, that you don't miss what you never had, TV's, video games, etc, etc. Its a shame that alot of kids these days think its abuse not to have it all, lol.
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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Mikki
True Blue Farmgirl
1510 Posts
Mikki
Austin
Indiana
USA
1510 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 8:31:11 PM
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Elizabeth, You've got that right!!! My husband had it rough when he was growing up, so he's been bad about spoiling our last two children. Our first two went thru hard times with us, so they didn't get everything they wanted. I am proud of our children, they are very loving and appreciative. But I agree about too much stuff, and they need to learn. Things in life are not free.
~~Blessings, Mikki Jo
"Courage is being scared to death... but saddling up anyway" ***John Wayne
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
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Posted - Dec 17 2009 : 03:33:01 AM
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Claudia,
This is me standing up and applauding!!
Good for you! I wouldn;t loose a WINK of sleep over what others say ESPECIALLY when you bust your butt for the things you have most wanted.
Brother and I were also raised up with not only saving, but tithing to give back to the church.
Neither one of us has the bad debt, and we can thank our folks for instilling the good habits.
Growing up we had those star charts to help earn allownaces.
I too agree-- the youth of these days is spoiled ROTTEN! Get it now, and make OTHERS pay for it later
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herblady55
True Blue Farmgirl
3470 Posts
Judy
Louisville
Ohio(Stark Co)
USA
3470 Posts |
Posted - Dec 17 2009 : 9:29:44 PM
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I was raised the same as the rest of you. I had a baby-sitting job when I was 12 at 50 cents an hour and it was all year round. I did that until I was 17 and I bought my own school clothes, supplies and whatever else I needed. I even bought my older sister things because she didn't have a job. We lived so far out in the country that there were few jobs of any kind. I just lucked out getting mine. I even loaned my parents money when Daddy's plant went on strike. Boy, If you don't think that made me feel good. :-) I was proud as a peacock. lol Mom always tells me how proud her and Daddy were of me. I grew up on the straight and narrow and watched my P's & Q's as well as my pennies.I was and still am a "Saver." and proud of the way I was raised!
Judy
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brightmeadow
True Blue Farmgirl
2045 Posts
Brenda
Lucas
Ohio
USA
2045 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2009 : 3:56:55 PM
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According to my 76-year-old father, all you need is food, clothing and shelter. According to my 3-year-old grandson (who learned from Yanni?) all you need is a food in your belly, the love of your family, and a song in your heart....
I think I like my grandson's version better...
You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands - You shall be happy and it shall be well with you. -Psalm 128.2
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knittingmom
True Blue Farmgirl
665 Posts
AnneMarie
Edmonton
Alberta
Canada
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Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 11:33:27 AM
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I completely agree, it seems our society has mixed up "wants" with "needs" and that's why our economies are in the situation they're in (I'm Canadian). Just look at commercials that we're bombarded with (i.e. the Loreal catch phrase "I'm worth it"). Sure you're worth it but not on perpetual credit. (Sorry I'm ranting a little there). Our society has a serious case of stuffitis.
Credit is convenient but it has certainly blown away the ethic of saving for something and paying cash (the old fashioned way).
I'm 37 and my parents always provided for our needs, we had a loving home, enough clothing and food and we had things to play with but we certainly didn't have all our whims given into.
Brightmeadow your grandson is right in singing the Raffi song, that's all we really need.
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
1277 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 2:06:38 PM
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This post comes just moments after my college-age stepson, who is visiting, asked me to go by the grocery store and buy things like fresh sage, rosemary, fennel, shallots and a few other items that I don't normally buy, that are out of my budget, and this kid has a credit card from his mother, who is married to a doctor, and my ss is just too tight to spend his own money. Uh, I guess y'all know what my answer was. Yep. Something very similar to 'get a job'.
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Old Spirit
True Blue Farmgirl
1498 Posts
Rae
MN
1498 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 2:54:57 PM
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One big problem is so many younger people have never heard the word no. They always get what they want and don't have any understanding of working for it or there are people without. I see it everyday at work.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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