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Across the Fence:  Telling Your Kids The Truth?  |
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country lawyer
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
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 Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 10:08:01 AM
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 10:12:53 AM
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Well, my little one doesn't even KNOW that gentleman, yet, but I was about 9 when I finally decided (after a couple of years of speculation) that he wasn't for real. It was July, and I walked in to the family room to ask my dad, who was watching the golf match. I simply said, "dad, is Santa real?" And he said, "......no, Jon, he isn't. But this will crush your mom, so please don't tell her I said as much." Mom was VERY fond of the magic of Santa!
So, I walked away, feeling really, really sad, but then went along with the magic anyway for years after :)
Musings from our family in the Bluegrass http://sweetvioletmae.blogspot.com/ |
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AuntPammy
True Blue Farmgirl
488 Posts
Pamila
williamstown
wv
USA
488 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 10:26:36 AM
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Well, my children are 25, 21, and 17 and I have always told them that Christmas is a very magic time of the year. I have told them that Christmas has always been a very special time of year for me and that I hope that they will feel the same for all their lives. I get my husband and children so excited that they share in the wonder of it all with me.We bake cookies and attend church concerts and programs and visit the park where Santa stops every year...is this the confession you wanted to know about?!!!Hugs and blessings, Pam
"Keep your face to the sunshine and you will never see the shadow." Helen Keller
www.auntpsalmostheaven.blogspot.com |
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
1900 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 10:38:40 AM
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..with my girls when they were little (now 25 and 22 yrs old), I have told them from the begining, about the true story of a very real man named St. Nick. His history was worth knowing. We still hung our stockings up and we each secretly put little things in there through out the Christmas season. On Christmas we made a special birthday cake and had a birthday party for Jesus.
Karrieann ~ Farmgirl Sister #766
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Edited by - Karrieann on Dec 04 2009 10:39:29 AM |
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knitnpickinatune
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
1140 Posts |
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Hosanna
True Blue Farmgirl
466 Posts
Hosanna
Alton
Virginia
466 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 11:37:43 AM
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My parents never told us he was real. We always knew Santa was like a fairytale. And we knew mom and dad bought our girts on Christmas. I don't feel deprived at all.
My sister told the neighbor kid when he was about 4 that Santa wasn't real; and boy did his parents get mad!
Then my littlest sister told her best friend when she was about 9. The girl was very upset; and so were her parents!
Today, I love the vintage images of St. Nick (or Santa.)and buy them when I find them.
www.happilyeverafterhosanna.blogspot.com
www.thewindofheaven.blogspot.com
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 12:06:13 PM
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I figured it out in about 3 or 4th grade when I realized that Santa had the same handwriting as my dad! I found the whole Santa tradition as a kid fun, wonderous and enriching. I wasn't too bummed to realize that Santa was actually mom and dad, but I think I would have been if they had come out and said "Time to end this" so to speak. I like the self-discovery way the best.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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LakeOntarioFarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
933 Posts
Brenda
North Rose
NY
USA
933 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 12:21:59 PM
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What truth about the red-clad you know who?!!!
A few days ago I was at one of my daughters. I was playing a game with 6 year old Ella, and 3 year old Jonah. Jonah and I were on the same team. Ella asked(this was a true or false game) "Is Santa Claus real?" Jonah and I both shouted "yes" at the same time!
His mom and dad have tried to tell him (they believe in total honesty with their children) that Santa is not real, that Daddy is Santa Claus, but do you know he just emphatically does not believe them!
As for me..... when I was 6 years old, I was woken up one night, and my mom brought me downstairs where she and my dad were having a party. There, to my delight, was Santa Claus, come just to visit me. I sat on his lap and told him my Christmas wishes, then went back up to bed.
Of course he's real! ;)
Brenda
FarmGirl # 711
If you rest, you rust. Helen Hayes
http://theviewfromhere-brenda.blogspot.com/ |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 12:22:10 PM
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My sons are 28 & 29 and they know they better believe in the man in the red suit because they know mom could never afford to buy them gifts for Jesus birthday.
They tried to tell me they found the gifts in the attic one year, of course they did, did they really expect Santa to be able to stop at every house. He always dropped the gifts off early to the ones he knew have been good all year. They even tried to tell me that my hand writing looked the same as Santa. Well yes I said God is not Santa, God remembers everyone's name where Santa needs a little help thats just one more reasons moms are so important.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
6418 Posts |
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Futters
True Blue Farmgirl
608 Posts
Michelle & Ashley
CA
USA
608 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 12:46:20 PM
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Ummmm, what are you trying to say???
I tell my 17 year old that if she stops believing, then presents will probably stop! Guess what? She still believes. (Okay, she at least she tells me she does.)
HEE HEE!!!!
Have a good day!
Michelle
Farmgirl #760
Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.
http://thetatteredquiltcottage.blogspot.com/ |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
5602 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 1:03:08 PM
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I figured it out when I was very young...My parents simply didn't do holidays. Somewhere along the line I came to believe in the love and charity that is Saint Nick, or Father Christmas all on my own in spite of my hum-bug family.
My wise paternal grandma once told me the Santa meant love, and as long as you believed in love
Santa was with you and spoke to your heart....so at 49 I still BELIEVE in the spirit of Santa =)
So hear is a tea toast to magic, miracles and love! I was quite young when she said those words to me, but it still works =)
Cheers!
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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LakeOntarioFarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
933 Posts
Brenda
North Rose
NY
USA
933 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 2:42:21 PM
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See, Virgina, there really is a Santa Claus.... :)
I know I am absolutely no help at all about the original question being asked here.
Brenda
FarmGirl # 711
If you rest, you rust. Helen Hayes
http://theviewfromhere-brenda.blogspot.com/ |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 2:48:39 PM
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We always new that Santa claus was not real from the time we were little.
Hugs,
Channah
If you can dream it, and if you are willing to put forth the work and effort, you can have anything you envision. |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 4:08:41 PM
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It felt kind of weird when I spent a christams eve with my brother and his family and we ate the cookies and tried to leave a mess of crumbs. Brother drank the milk. Funny the looks that abounded between the adults when he pointed out the eaten cookies the next moring.
I still feel a little "magic" closer to the time, and perhaps that's the Christmas Spirit. |
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Firemama
True Blue Farmgirl
1731 Posts
Amanda
Medical Lake
WA
USA
1731 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 4:19:06 PM
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Santa isnt real? Uhoh... ; )
Mama to 2
FarmGirl# 20
People can only make you feel inferior with your permission, and you dont have my permission......
Dont let the chain of love end with you.....
http://myfarmdreams.blogspot.com/
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 4:33:48 PM
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My parents told me when I was 12 although my friends had been saying it for years. I refused to believe it and even now there is a part of me that still believes. Every year I STILL get a gift from santa under the tree. He has the same handwriting he did when I was a kid and it has been 10 years since I lived at home and I live 14 hours from my parents so i know they arent sneaking under the tree at night.
Farmgirl Sister #17
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www.willowtreecreek.wordpress.com
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
2199 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 5:42:06 PM
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My kids are 29 this month, 31, 33, and 36, plus the two grandkids that live here also and they are 5 and 6. Yes they all still beleive in Santa, cause I've always told them that the day they stopped, thats when they would get underware for Christmas, lol.
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 5:50:52 PM
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Who said Santa is not real? Really!!!! I saw him last year coming down the chimney.
I will never not believe in Santa.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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laurzgot
True Blue Farmgirl
1705 Posts
Laurie
Alvin
Texas
USA
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Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 6:04:00 PM
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My children are 27,25 and 22 years old. Mrs Claus still signs every gift To____ Love Santa My children know that Christmas is sooo special to me and they still beleive in the The Jolly Old Man and Mrs. Claus. And the meaning of what Christmas is all about. Oh I still believe and I'm pushing sixty.
Laurie
suburban countrygirl at heart |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Dec 04 2009 : 6:43:35 PM
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Laurie:
Did you get snow in Alvin? I'm still waiting here in SW Louisiana.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Carrie W
Farmgirl Legend/Chapter Guru
437 Posts
Saratoga Springs
New York
USA
437 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 11:58:21 AM
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I never got into talking about Santa with my kids...couldn't get into it at all. I love the season and the decorating and the gifts. I love that we can celebrate Jesus' birthday as a nation (despite the ACLU) so I don't need to do Santa. We do talk about Sanata, and joke, like "Time for bed, Santa is coming..." but my kids just know that it means that they need to give mom and dad room to do their thing. I guess Christmas isn't about Santa for us.
Carrie
www.totallykadeshfarm.blogspot.com
Farmgirl Sisterhood #147
Tis better to weep at joy than to joy at weeping--Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing |
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laurzgot
True Blue Farmgirl
1705 Posts
Laurie
Alvin
Texas
USA
1705 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 2:35:32 PM
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Marley, I have beensooo busy just got to the post and yes we had snow in Alvin and it stuck to the ground for a little while. My almost two year old grand daughter was catching snowflakes on her tounge. It was so cute.
Laurie
suburban countrygirl at heart |
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Claude09647
True Blue Farmgirl
761 Posts
Claudia
Our Dairy Farm
Pennsylvania
USA
761 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 6:51:30 PM
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I think i was around 9 when my dad told me he wasnt real. Than my he was relieved that he didn't have to drink the warm milk we put out for "santa" the evening before because mom made him just so it looked real! I was bummed when i found out, but i can just laugh now because my dad is safe from the warm probably spoiled milk.
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Faransgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
895 Posts
Beth
Houston
Texas
USA
895 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2009 : 8:37:14 PM
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Hi Laurie, I keep my horses in Alvin, I live in Clear Lake, As far as the man in the red suite being real, well, my kids learned about St Nick in Scotland where he is referred to as Father Christmas and wears a long green coat. They have a problem with the fat man in the red suite. But, they know when they stop believing then there are no more Father Christmas gifts and no more stockings. They still all hang their stockings and my husband and I get stocking. They are 21, 22 and 23 and about 4 years ago strange things started showing up in the stockings that the Father Christmas that I know didn't put there. So maybe now I believe again. Where else would those things come from if not from Father Christmas. I love my daughters and those little added things in the stockings are extra special because of who put them there.
Farmgirl Sister 572
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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