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Mamarude
True Blue Farmgirl
107 Posts
Anna
Durango
Colorado
USA
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 Posted - Jun 01 2009 : 3:31:38 PM
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My boys are 11 and 7, and fight constantly. I wouldn't mind so much except that my 11 year old is 5'2, 135 pounds, and my 7 year old is barely 40 pounds so he ends up getting hurt a lot. How do you keep your kids from fighting? It makes me so angry I want to tear my hair out, it seems like an abnormal amount of fighting and bickering.
Cherian
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Jun 01 2009 : 3:51:58 PM
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I heard a statement that I loved. Do not put your children in time out, instead put your children in your time. Turn off the tv and bake a cake with them or clean out the garage with them. Tell them as long as they can't behave instead of yelling and fighting at them as it causes you a lot of stress you can't handel. That you will all do something together, they need to learn to talk out their problems. If they don't have control of their feeling now they will have more problems later. Tell them you love them to much to watch them lose control of their emotions. I had my children move rocks. I would decide I didn't want the rocks here but I needed them here instead.
Your children will only do as much as you allow, so don't allow it.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Jun 01 2009 : 6:15:03 PM
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And age will help. Me and my older brother fought like cats and dogs till around high school, one day we woke up and just didn't fight. By, the end of the day my parents asked if we were ok! lol haha We rarely if ever fought again after that. Neither of us know what happened! lol
But, ironically same thing with my little brother and sister (13 and 14 years younger then me) they used to fight a lot too, then one day just stopped, and rarely ever fight any more either. Now my younger brothers fight a lot...I think it will stop soon! lol haha
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Jun 02 2009 : 07:46:20 AM
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Diane is so sweet. I had another way of dealing with them. Told them to team up because I was the one they should watch out for...worked quite well. They would go off and scheme and play and see me as the warden or the wicked witch, whatever you want to call it. "I'll get you my pretties!!!" *Cackle*
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
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one_dog_per_acre
True Blue Farmgirl
1572 Posts
Trish
Sandpoint
ID
USA
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Posted - Jun 02 2009 : 11:06:44 AM
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My step-brother is three years younger than I, and my mom would put us on what she called The Buddy System when we would fight badly. That meant we had to do EVERYTHING together. This included playing, TV, making our own meals, and chores. She would make us busy all day with extra chores. It always brought us together, and kept us peaceful for days after.
Trish
Make cupcakes not war!
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JessieMae
True Blue Farmgirl
702 Posts
Jessie
Raleigh
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - Jun 02 2009 : 11:20:58 AM
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My sister (who is just 13 months younger than me) and I used to fight like cats and dogs. One day we were fighting in the back seat of the car, and my dad turned around from wherever we were going and took us instead to the police station. I remember me and my sister were so shocked we stopped fighting immediately. My dad got out of the car and spoke to a policeman who happened to be in the parking lot. As the policeman approached the car, Jaqie and I clutched onto each other and sobbed. He was very stern and told us what happens to "bad girls who hurt other children." I don't remember hitting her or being hit by her (although we still had some pretty loud arguments) again.
Jessie Mae
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Mamarude
True Blue Farmgirl
107 Posts
Anna
Durango
Colorado
USA
107 Posts |
Posted - Jun 02 2009 : 4:22:44 PM
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I like Diane's idea, I have been adding extra chores to their lists, but making them do the chores WITH me, and all of us together seems like a great idea. Taking away tv/screen time is punishing Mom, and making them spend time in their rooms is too easy. My 11 year old acts like he's 15 half the time, he's already getting the teenage attitude big time, and he's as big as I am. Maybe moving rocks and mucking more stalls is the way to go!
Thanks!
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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