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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
 Posted - May 10 2009 : 12:15:00 PM
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A great mom because she had such a great sense of humor and knew how to roll with the punches.
She lived in the Philippines during the Japanese occupation and suffered greatly, lived most of her life with a chronic health condition, taught me how to be a good military wife as she raised three children while my dad served two tours in viet nam and during that time learned to drive and earned her citizenship. Never missed a band or choir performance unless she was in the hospital. Taught me to be proud of my phlippino-japanese heritage, to never give up and always hope for tomorrow.
Love you momma.
How is/was your mom the best?
Merry
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - May 10 2009 : 12:52:44 PM
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That's beautiful, Merry!
My mom is the best because she had the gumption to find out which foods I was allergic to as a kid through trial and error (my type of allergies does not respond to testing). She has always been loving and supportive- especially when it was a bitter pill to swallow about my allergies. She's creative and just being around her makes you want to be creative as well. She's wise and always has wonderful advise and has a shoulder to cry on when needed. I love my mom and am so proud to call her one of my best friends!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - May 10 2009 : 1:00:15 PM
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She sounds awesome!
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
1008 Posts |
Posted - May 16 2009 : 12:03:34 PM
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I can honestly say that I MISS my mother, despite the kind of mother she was. She was NOT the "Mothering" type. But still, she was my mom. I do have to say that 2yrs before she died we became very close FRIENDS. Something I never thought would happen, but which I will ALWAYS be grateful for.
Today (May 16) is the 13yr anniversary of her death and it's a rather hard day for me AND my siblings. It's especially hard for my two younger brothers who were just 14 and 7 when she died. My older sister and I were already grown with families of our own by then (I was 25), but it was still very hard to lose her.
All in all, my mother was an amazing woman. She was only 47 when she died, but she did A LOT of living in her short lifetime. People LOVED her. She lived hard (but in a GOOD way! Never still-- Like a Whirling Dirvish (whatever THAT is? LOL!!), she PLAYED hard and, she was the first person there whenever anyone needed her (as long as it wasn't one of US). I would never have known all that if I hadn't made the effort to get over all the hurt growing up as her child and got to know her as another WOMAN. She really WAS the best. And I miss her.......
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
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Posted - May 16 2009 : 1:59:52 PM
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I am sorry for your loss Tracy.
My Mom is still with us but unfortunately has Alzheimer's. She isn't really bad right now but it's going downhill. It seem that the roles have reversed somewhat.
My Mom did everything for my brothers and I. I can remember being in a Thanksgiving Play in grade school. I was going to be a Pilgrim so she made me an outfit. Last minute I decided to be an Indian. Did she complain? No, she made me a beautiful Indian outfit and even let me wear an authentic beaded necklace my uncle had given her years ago. I lost a couple of beads (I loved that necklace!) but she didn't get upset with me.
She used to spend quite the bit of time bundling us up each winter to play in the snow. No sooner were we outside, when we had or wanted to come in only to find Hot Cocoa with a dollop of Marshmallow Fluff and Soft Molasses Cookies coming out of the oven.
She was very active in scouting because my brother's and I wanted to be in scouts. There were not many available to volunteer and assist, so she jumped right in. Both of my brothers are Eagle Scouts and I am a First Class Girl Scout (equivalent to Eagle) because of her determination.
She got her GED at age 65 :)
She is always there to help serve and help out any way she can, and bless those around her with her encouragement and homemade goodies :)
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - May 16 2009 : 2:10:49 PM
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Tracy you are an amazing woman yourself to overcome and become friends with your mom, not everyone can do that.
Sharon what wonderful memories you have! Alzheimer is an awful disease, it takes our loved one long before they die, your mom sounds wonderful.
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - May 16 2009 : 2:13:57 PM
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My mom was a tender soul. She had a fantastic sense of humor and loved to kid. She was smart with words, had a very insightful nature about people and knew about a person pretty soon after meeting them. She had the gift of discernment, and sometimes it could be quite irritating, because she always knew my motives and thoughts!!!! She loved babies, her family, and loved to sit on the porch and visit with neighbors. She loved having friends. She was the caretaker of my grandmother for 6 years, and then the caretaker of my fathers for 7 years, as they had strokes and parkinsons. She vowed neither one of them would ever see the inside of a nursing home and they didn't.
We always said to each other that when one of us passed, we would try to give the other a sign. My address growing up was 1143 N. 4th. I cannot tell you the number of times since she died that I have looked at the digital clock, or at a sign on the road......and there is the number 1143. It took me a long time before I got it. Once after my granddaughter's dance recital, which mom always was there for when I was a little dancer, I got in my car, and guess what the clock said? 1143. Now when it happens, I say Hi mom, I love you.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
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Edited by - jpbluesky on May 16 2009 2:14:50 PM |
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - May 16 2009 : 2:22:19 PM
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Oh jeannie, what a wonderful sign! Isn't it funny when you just know?
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - May 16 2009 : 8:28:36 PM
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Yes.....I just knew without a doubt, but felt bad it took me so long......I apologized to mom for being so thick headed.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
Psalm 51: 10-13 |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - May 17 2009 : 09:58:23 AM
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My mom is my best shopping buddy. I'll forever treasure our shopping forays to Raleigh and Chapel Hill.
She does so much for other people
She was a huge advocate for me and my brother when we each struggled to get through school
I pleased me to no end when she and my dad decided to move closer to my brother and me. It not only enables us to get together frequently,,,like for shoping dates, but its just a huge relief to know the day something major happens, i'll be able to drop and run at a moments notice.
Until then, we continue to enjoy our visits. |
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
1008 Posts |
Posted - May 18 2009 : 08:00:24 AM
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Thank you Merry (and Sharon!) for your kind words, though I'm not so amazing. I made myself a promise --YEARS ago-- that I would not look back on a lifetime of regrets, and forgiving my mother, while there was still time, was one of those things I HAD to do. I'm not sorry I did it. My sister, on the other hand, still makes excuses and says that I had more opportunity to be with mom than SHE did. Yeah, she can think that all she wants if it makes her feel better, but deep down she knows that she could have done more to change their relationship. She and our mother were (and ARE) too much alike-- selfish, self centered, etc..... but, like with our mother, I love her despite herself!
While I'm not the GREATEST mother on the planet, I've tried very hard not to be like my own mother. For the longest time I thought I was a failure-- it's so hard to be a good mom when you never had a good example for yourself (apparently there was a "Pattern" with the women in our family-- SCARY!!), but, as my three boys grow into adulthood, I'm so happy to say that I give myself a pat on the back every now and then at how WONDERFUL they are turning out! A mother couldn't be more proud!!!!!!!! By the Grace of God we've made it through, and my boys are so fabulous! ~~~ Hugs ~~~ Tracy
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
Posted - May 30 2009 : 5:54:28 PM
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I just went to Fredericksburg, Texas, with my mother and had a wonderful time visiting a winery and the wildflower farm as well as shopping til we dropped. She is absolutely by far my best friend and I adore her. She is strong, loving, unselfish, beautiful, and a survivor.
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - May 30 2009 : 5:59:50 PM
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What a beautiful picture!
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
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Ingrid
True Blue Farmgirl
432 Posts
Ingrid
BC
Canada
432 Posts |
Posted - Jun 01 2009 : 1:04:54 PM
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My mom taught myeself and my three sisters and one brother to be proud no matter what. Hold your head up and just be proud of yourself. Always put your best foot forward, never dress or appear sloppy and smile. That was the best part.
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
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deeredawn
True Blue Farmgirl
2306 Posts
Dawn
Cordova
TN
USA
2306 Posts |
Posted - Jun 06 2009 : 08:39:03 AM
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I can't type here. I miss her so much. I can't believe 2 years has gone by since she died. Nice thread though... Oops, already crying!
Dawn #279
MJ's Heirloom Mavens-QMD
http://harvestthyme.blogspot.com
~the only thing for certain, is uncertainty~ |
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - Jun 06 2009 : 09:24:28 AM
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I tear up everytime too, don't worry, I think we all do!
Hugs
merry
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets how much the heart can hold."
Zelda Fitzgerald |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Jun 06 2009 : 4:27:47 PM
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Mother's Day is a trial for me. I cry at the drop of a hat (another saying mom always used)
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
Psalm 51: 10-13 |
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deeredawn
True Blue Farmgirl
2306 Posts
Dawn
Cordova
TN
USA
2306 Posts |
Posted - Jun 07 2009 : 06:42:58 AM
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My mom was...not the greatest mom. She never let me in the kitchen to learn how to cook because I would make such a mess and used just about every bowl, spoon and pan we had. She was a great guilt tripper. She had a back hand faster than lightening when I mouthed off! She was 4'11" of dynamite.
However, my mom stood up for me in the worst of times. Bailed me out of so many difficult situations. Was an awesome sewer. Not clothes, but she made the most wonderful dolls. I strive to be HALF that good with a sewing machine! She had a quiet sense of humor and could cuss like a sailor. She never stopped trying to find true love...even if it meant marrying three very wrong men. When she got sick, she was so strong, never complained until the end, and if it were anyone else, they'd given up a long time before. She lost her eyesight, both legs and ultimately her life to the complications of diabetes, but never her love of chocolate! After her death I dreamed "THE DREAM" about her. I know now that I was her whole life and she loved me more than life itself. I know she is proud that I've gotten back to the earth and am making (trying) a living farming and crafting. My mom was beautiful. In the 70's she wore this wig as many women did then, and she had the best body....she was smokin hot! Mom was a rebel, and always looking for fun. I remember taking her to a cowboy bar when I was in my 20's and she knocked back more shots than.... I dont know.... I remember hauling her out to the truck and telling her next time she had to be good. She'd watch my kid while I took off rodeo-ing...or she'd come with to watch me ride. She instilled a love of horses in me at a very young age. She taught me to love books. She taught me how to live...
Dawn #279
MJ's Heirloom Mavens-QMD
http://harvestthyme.blogspot.com
~the only thing for certain, is uncertainty~ |
Edited by - deeredawn on Jun 07 2009 06:44:13 AM |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Jun 07 2009 : 11:17:37 AM
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Brooke:
I loved your message, and the picture of you with your mom says it all.
Great picture, I'm sure you will treasure it.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
1277 Posts |
Posted - Jun 09 2009 : 06:11:36 AM
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My mom is a 4'11" tornado! She is the greatest woman, though. She loved her children with all her heart, probably because she had a mom who just wasn't there and didn't care. If daddy grounded us, we could go to mom for reprieve. Sh plays the dulcimer, the autoharp, the tin whistle, has taught Adult Literacy as a volunteer for years, did the Sunday School teaching bit, is a wonderful friend to others, and is kind and generous beyond belief. She's been there through thick and thin, held strong through the death of her oldest daughter and husband, has supported DH & me in buying the farm and learning a new lifestyle, even bought a tractor and now tells everyone her new boyfriend's name is 'Elvis' (that's my 2,200 lb. Hereford bull!!!!). She mentioned the other day she wants an Oreo cow for her very own, now DH & I are beating the bushes looking for a Belted Galloway for mama for Christmas this year. Whoo! I can find 'em, but not anywhere close to Louisiana!!!! But trust me. She deserves it, so she'll be getting it!!!
from the hearts of paradise... |
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