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Garden Gate:  OMG, What Have I Just Gone & Done: Part 2  |
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CherryMeDarlin
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cherry
Odenville
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 Posted - May 15 2009 : 6:37:49 PM
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Ya'll are too, too kind! My little garden seems to be taking care of itself really. Or maybe it's all that talking I've been doing to the little fellas!
That would be way too funny, Nikki, if you could pull that off with the banjo! I'll be your camera-woman, hiding behind a tree recording the reactions. That is if I could keep from snickering! We'd make a butt-load of money!
Yeah, tax man is, like, from another planet weird. Several of my friends know him. One's even related somehow.
Tractor Supply's where baby girl got her baby ducks. I'll post a pic! Ya'll're gonna get so tired of my picture posting! Hee! Hee!
I just got a Barbara Kingsolver book from Paperbackswap. Prodigal Summer. I can't wait to read it, but first I have to finish the one about the archeologists who discover Jesus' remains in Joseph of Arimathea's tomb. Can't think of the name of the top of my head, but interesting. What does "AVM" stand for?
Well, my FIL gets around Odenville! And he knows EVERYbody and ALL their business! If your FIL is ever at Jerry's or Exxon, then he's probably seen him. You can't miss him if he's driving through town. He's the one with a dozen cars lined up behind him 'cause he drives so slow so he won't miss anything, usually in the big orange truck or the butt-dragging Dodge! Fortunately for us he doesn't have the tech-skills your FIL has or he'd be doing the same thing!
I'm not fond of cutting okra either. But I sure love a plate full of it fried up in cornmeal!
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
"A thing is as simple or as complicated as you make it." --TT Murphy |
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CherryMeDarlin
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cherry
Odenville
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CherryMeDarlin
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cherry
Odenville
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Posted - May 15 2009 : 6:50:31 PM
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Here's the TV watching with baby ducks! Don't remember what that other link is!
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
"A thing is as simple or as complicated as you make it." --TT Murphy |
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NikkiBeaumont
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - May 15 2009 : 7:09:18 PM
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Ohhhhh, those baby duckies are so sweet! I wonder if those are some of the same ones that we loved on while we were there! And your baby girl is so pretty!
You know, in our neighborhood we have a ton of Canadian geese and they always have a bunch of darling, downy babies following them around in the spring, but I have never seen the ducks with any babies. I wonder what is up with that? I feel sorry for the ducks. I wonder if their babies get eaten or if they even have any at all.
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kristin sherrill
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chickamauga
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Posted - May 15 2009 : 7:30:16 PM
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I am so jealous you can post pictures. When I get real internet I'll have pictures all over this forum.
The ducks remind me of when mine were little. You should see the buggers now. They probably weigh 15 lbs each. Good eatin' size, huh? I have never had duck before. Have ya'll? I keep thinking about it but then I look at their cute little beady black eyes and that cute little quack they have and they actually wag their tails, too. There is no way I could cut off a duck head. Then I'd think of the Aflack duck. No way. I guess they'll be around til something else happens to them. How long do ducks live, anyway? If they live as long as my 2 Rat dogs, I don't know if I can handle that. They will be 12 in July. They're like the Energizer bunny, thye just keep going and going and going.
And your baby girl is beautiful. I am glad she likes animals. She would really like my goat kids. Ya'll need to come see them. The hubs couldn't argue with her, I bet. You should get a couple. Hint, hint....
It's starting to thunder again. No rain, just thunder. I hate thunder and lightening at night.
Kris
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CherryMeDarlin
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cherry
Odenville
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Posted - May 16 2009 : 6:41:08 PM
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So, I know there are other forums on here for this kind of topic, but I feel such a kinship with you all on our little garden post that I'm posting it here. My baby girl, and thank you for your sweet compliments, well, she totaled her car last night. Through God's protection, she and her two friends in the car with her weren't seriously hurt. The two young men in the car that hit her weren't seriously hurt. This should not have been. And the more the men-folk stand at the scene of the accident, scratching their collective heads and muttering, "it just don't make any sense", the more I'm convinced that God sent down a big ol' angel at the moment of impact to protect these young lives.
Oh, my God, ya'll I have never in my entire life been so scared. So, so very scared. And I've never, ever had to be so strong and composed. I'm still fighting a MAJOR break-down.
We had just gone to bed when Brian's phone rang. It was Lauren and I overheard "Daddy, I've been in a bad wreck." I went flying through my closet and then out the door. It felt like it took forever to get to town and coming up on that scene with the entire fire department and rescue squad and several police cars was worse than a nightmare. I finally found Lauren when I overheard her crying and saying, "I just want my mama. Where's my mama?" Ya'll. That just bout knocked me to my knees. They had her head wrapped up mummy-style and she was covered, literally covered in blood from head to toe. Her arm was wrapped up, too, but one of her friends, who is also with the rescue squad, was telling me that she was going to be okay, she still needed to go to the ER, but she'd be fine. She was talking 90-to-nothing, telling me what had happened and every other sentence was "I'm so sorry, Mama! I'm so, so sorry!"
They were loading one of her friends in the ambulance and when she saw that, she broke down again. He had been in the backseat and he had come to rest with his head and one arm out the window. He had been knocked out, but Lauren thought he had died. He had blood all over him, but she didn't realize that it was her blood and not his. He suffered a concussion and a few cuts from glass, but other than that, and the soreness from an accident, he'll be fine.
The girl in the passenger seat suffered a slight concussion, and she, too, will be fine.
Lauren has a deep cut on her forehead, hence all the blood. All that blood. All my baby girl's blood. There was so much, it had pooled up in her bra. When we finally got home and I had her somewhat settled, I took that bra to my bathroom and poured a bottle of peroxide on it and was scrubbing and scrubbing and crying and crying and almost, just almost, totally, completely, lost it, seeing all that dirty brown peroxide in my sink.
There was a piece of glass in the gash, about the size of a 5k diamond. It looked absolutely huge on the CT scan. Her left arm is cut up from where she climbed through her window. She has bruises on her legs, the one on her left where her door caved in and hit her, and the one on her right where she hit her console. Her chest is bruised from her steering wheel.
What happened? For all intents and purposes, she pulled out in front of a speeding car and was T-boned. She drives (drove) a Mazda Protege, 4 door. The impact was square on the frame, between the front and back door. A few inches difference and she would have suffered the full impact on her door. All the glass on that side of the car shattered. I can't hardly breathe for thinking about what could have happened. God, Kris, how do you ever let them go? How do you ever deal with your baby needing you and YOU'RE NOT THERE? I can not begin to imagine her trying to get her friend to answer her and her thinking that she'd killed him and I was not there with her. And now, today, she is so consumed with guilt and self-hatred and there's not a damn thing I can do to ease it or to convince her that it was "just" an accident. She keeps saying, "Mama, I could have killed them. Just like that, I could have killed them. And I just knew that Rosey was dead, Mama. He looked like he was dead and he wouldn't answer me." I don't even know what to say to that guilt. I just keep touching her. Lord, to be able to touch her! And tell her over and over that she can't look at what could have happened, but to continuously remind herself that they are all ok. They will all be ok. That God is not ready for them just yet, because I am telling ya'll, it is only by His grace and mercy that these kids are as unhurt and alive as they are! Her car came to rest just beside a power pole, in a ditch, that SHOULD HAVE caused her car to roll.
Today has been a day of ibuprofen and ice packs and endless phone calls and off-and-on naps and hugs and back-rubs and the first time in probably 10 years when I have bathed my baby and gently shampooed her beautiful hair and endless "I love you's" and even more endless prayers of thanksgiving. And still I am fighting that breakdown. I'm still fighting my own what-could-have-beens even as I reassure her own in the most soothing voice I can find, deep down in my heart, grabbed with both hands and gently pushed past my clenched jaw.
So. This is my week-end thus far. I am a much different mama than I was 24 hours ago. I am much more possessive. I am much more paranoid. I am much more clingy. I am much more stronger. I am much more grateful. I am much more humble.
A couple of weeks ago, Lauren had a minor fender-bender. Then yesterday, just hours before this accident, she got a ticket for not wearing her seat belt. Now this. My very, good friend Allie told me that God's trying to get Lauren's attention. That there is something very important He wants her to understand. I can't say for Lauren, but this mama is hearing Him loud and clear. Some things aren't going to be near as important anymore. Other things are going to be vitally important. I will not stop touching my daughter, for one.
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
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Alee
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NikkiBeaumont
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Posted - May 16 2009 : 8:30:26 PM
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Oh, thank God, thank God, thank God! Oh, Cherry! Oh! I am so thankful that she is okay and that no one was severely injured. You have lived through a mother's worst nightmare! You are right, you will be stronger. I think, too, that Lauren has had her wake-up call. Praise the Lord! It sounds like she is going to be pretty sore for a while.
Once my son fell out of a tree and hit the back of his head on a rock. He came running home, bent over, with blood running off of his head, it feel onto the driveway and splashed up on my bare feet and pant legs. Seeing your child's blood is one of the most terrible sights for a parent. I was stunned at first, but then somehow God gives you the strength to do whatever you have to do.
I know that you must be walking around in shock. I will be praying for you and Lauren and your family. I'm so sorry that y'all have been through this, but oh, I am just praising God for protecting all involved! We always have reasons to thank God!
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kristin sherrill
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Posted - May 17 2009 : 01:16:31 AM
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Cherry, I could not sleep and was laying in bed (because my granddaughter, Chloe, wanted to sleep with me) when I heard my computer come on. So I got up and checked in here and this is what I see. Oh my goodness, what a nightmare this must be. And for her to have had the wreck just last week, too. I am so amazed at how things work out. We can't see God's hands but you know that you know that you know HE was all over this! There is no other way to explain how no one was more seriously hurt than to know there was a Higher Power at work here.
This brings back so many memories of my daughters when they were younger. One in particular. Abby, now 28, was out on her 18th birthday. Back then she was a mess. We got "the call" early the next morning. I had just started making bread. It was rising in the laundry room. It was the hospital. They said we should get there asap. That they didn't know if she'd make it. Oh my goodness, the things you think of when this happens. We get to the hospital and go in the room and there's our daughter on the bed all full of mud and her hair was full of leaves and little twigs and she was a mess. She was unconscience. Her right arm was bloody and full of glass. It had been raining the night before and the roads were wet. Her friend was going around a sharp curve and ran off the road into a deep ditch. She was thrown from the truck and with all the rain landed in the ditch that was pretty full. She was under water. The guy was pretty out of it and couldn't find her. But right at that moment an angel came and pulled her out of the ditch. He rarely went that way after getting off work but did that morning. Something told him to go that particular way at that particular time. I wonder who? That's why I say an angel. If it weren't for him she would have drowned. But she did make it. She has an awful ragged scar on her arm. Every time I see it I remember all this. She did not change much after that but I do see her life coming around now, in little ways. But for weeks after that, she was home and I took care of her. Our first grandchild, Chloe, who's here now in my bed tonight, was just a baby then. She'll be 10 May 27.
So I kinda know what you're going through right now. All the things you're thinking. I know the situation's a little different but alot is the same. You just don't know what will happen next and we should all be prepared. I still worry about Abby. She's living here with us again because of her financial situation for awhile. But she went out last night and it's been raining and the roads are wet and I told her to be careful and drive slow and all that. And I pray and ask God to go with her. I know He does. I know He will. But we still have to be prepared.
These are our kids. We love them regardless. I am so glad that your baby girl is going to be ok. I am also glad she has a mother like you.
Hugs and prayers for you all. Kris
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Alee
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CherryMeDarlin
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Cherry
Odenville
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Posted - May 17 2009 : 10:43:18 AM
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"...you know that you know that you know HE was all over this!" Oh, Kris, how so very true! On that terrible trip into town, like yours to the hospital, the words that kept running through my head, my prayer that was more of a demand, more a plea, was "You love her more than I ever can and I love her more than anything so DO NOT let anything be wrong with her!" It's not important whether the situation is the same or not because, as I'm prone to say, it's what's at the root of it that's the same. The same prayer. The same feelings. The same worry. The same fear. And how wonderful that your "angel" chose to listen and respond to that still, small Voice! It all comes down to choices. Somtimes the smallest choices we make have the greatest consequences. He made a choice that night. Maybe it seemed like a small choice at the time he made it and maybe he wasn't even really aware that he was even making a choice, but it had the most wonderful, most fabulous consequence in that he saved your Abby's life!
Since Lauren was so very small, we've tried to bring everything back down and around to the simplest choice. To teach her that she has power in her choices, but that she must be prepared for all the consequences, the good and the bad, of her choices. When she was little and we'd go grocery shopping, I told her she could have one thing. She'd see something and want it and I'd give it to her, but inevitably she'd see something else she wanted and so she had to make a choice. No matter how many times she changed her mind, she left the store with only one thing. Sometimes she wished she'd chosen something else. Sometimes not. When I was bathing her yesterday, she was talking about the guilt she feels. And I told her that God is still in control and that she has to focus on that. And she asked that question that we usually never have the answer for, that we ususally answer incorrectly, she asked "why?" I told her that before we're born, God already has the number of our days written in the Book of Life. But that during that time, we sometimes make a choice that has the potential to shorten those days. I said, "Lauren, you made one of those choices when you chose to pull out instead of waiting. It was such a little choice, but it had the potential to drastically change God's will for your life and the lives of your friends. And so He intervened because He has a plan for you and Katie and Rosey. And because of that, I am able to be here right now, washing your hair, instead of being at a funeral home working out the details of your funeral or beside a hospital bed, praying you'll live." I went on to tell her to make the most of this chance, this life, to not dwell on what could have been, but to plan for what she'll make of it. To not take her choices too lightly. To pay attention to the unseen, to that still, small Voice. That God gave us free will to make our choices, but that ultimately He is truly in control.
Alee, things can change in a just a matter of seconds. All we can do is to be continually thankful. And trust. I have to remind myself of my own beliefs at times, apply my words to my own heart. We have very good friends, our "dirt-bike" friends because we parents have become close because of our kid's friendships formed through dirt-bike racing, and they lost their 12 year old son last March at a race. It was just another race, like a hundred races before, and Foster hit a jump he'd hit over a dozen times effortlessly when in a split second he fell over and another rider landed on him. He died instantly from "cardiac trauma". His little heart took a blow and just quit beating. Just like that, he was gone. Over a year later, it's still so hard to grasp ahold of and believe actually happened. Even now, when we go watch the boys ride, I catch myself looking for him out there in that blur of bikes as they go by. I am awed and humbled by his mother's strength. She downplays it, asking what else is she supposed to do, afterall, she has another son who needs her. I believe the hardest test given to anyone on this big ol' Earth is that of a mother having to bury her child. I'm not dismissing the men. Not trying to minimilize the pain and suffering they go through as fathers. My friend's husband is numbing his pain, and I do not judge that. But, we Mama's, we can't just lay down in our grief and pain. We don't have that luxury. That reprieve. I believe that's why Mary is revered so much. Because we have no choice but to be strong even though we are seen as the "weaker sex". The only way in which we might be weaker is in physical strength because as a mother we hold so very much more on our shoulders than any other being on this planet.
Oh. Goodness. I've become quite philosophical! My apologies! Especially when I should just adopt that same attitude of praise, Nikki! Thank you for reminding me to praise in the midst of my thanksgiving! You three are the most wonderful! How blessed I am to have you brought into my life through this most unlikely of places! Hugs and hugs and hugs to each of you!
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
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julia hayes
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julia
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Posted - May 17 2009 : 12:38:09 PM
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Cherry, I just sent you an email. I hardly know what to say. I'm basking in, "Thank God!" and feeling the immense fragility of it all. I'm sorry, just so sorry this happened. I'm keeping you all close...healing...so much healing your way!! ~Julia
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kristin sherrill
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Posted - May 17 2009 : 5:34:05 PM
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Hey Cherry, how's Lauren tonight? I bet she's pretty sore. I hope she's had a good day's rest. Thank goodness school is out soon. This Friday for Walker Co. I think my other 2 grands get out in 2 weeks in Dade Co.
It had been cold here all day and off and on raining. I didn't get to milk til almost 12 today. I didn't even want to get out and go to church. I know I'm bad, but I don't like driving in the rain.
Kris
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NikkiBeaumont
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Posted - May 17 2009 : 6:17:10 PM
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Yes, I second Kris's question. How is Lauren doing? I have to say that I admire you so much for your composure and eloquence during this very scary time. I am so glad that we can be here for you, being cyber-prayer partners and moral support. This is the exact sort of thing that binds people closer to their faith, their friendships and their real relationship to this world.
Oh, wow, Kris. You know exactly what horror that Cherry has been through! I LOVE hearing stories of those "angels". They just happen to be doing something very different than usual and then they end up saving lives. Coincidence? I think not!
All of these incidents serve to remind me to appreciate the moment and to live in the now that God has given me. It makes me so grateful for what I have. I am so blessed!
Y'all have a wonderful night! God bless y'all!
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CherryMeDarlin
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Cherry
Odenville
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Posted - May 18 2009 : 07:33:38 AM
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You're right, Kris, Lauren is extremely sore. And very emotional. And very introspective. Saturday night, we let her go spend-the-night with the girl who was in the accident with her after her mom promised to keep a close eye on her and not let her go anywhere. That was a tough thing for me to do, but it turned out to be beneficial for her and I knew it was something I needed to do for her and myself. Even still, I texted her continuously! A bunch of kids were there, including Rosey, the boy from the accident. She said that they had a long, deep conversation about the accident and discussed the whys and what-could-have-beens. But I think most importantly, he reassured her continuously and repeatedly that he loves her and isn't angry with her or holds her responsible. She really needed to hear that from him. I kinda wish she and Rosey weren't such good friends because he has the biggest, sweetest heart and would make a wonderful boyfriend. But they've been close friends since kindergarten and there's nothing romantic between them. She has more "friend-boys", as I call them, than "friend-girls". We joke that she has more brothers than any one only child on this planet!
One of her "friend-boys" was out of town at a dirtbike race and it was driving him crazy that he couldn't leave to be with her. Where he was, he didn't have a phone signal and he felt so cut-off. His mom, my very good friend Allie, said that he couldn't sleep for worrying about her. He finally couldn't stand it anymore and made her leave the track and drive until she got a signal so she could find out what was going on. I hated that he was preoccupied with all of this while he was trying to race. But as soon as he got home, he made sure to see Lauren. He said it was more for himself than for her. He just needed to see for himself that she's okay. Oh, they are so good to her!! I thank God for these boys who love my baby so much and worry over her and protect her. I know that Lee, and his older brother Benjamin, would fight any one for her! She's had this boyfriend who isn't always the most respectful and decent towards her and even though he and Lee and Benj are good friends, both Lee and Benj repeatedly tried to talk her into breaking-up with the boy (they are broke-up now, thankfully) and when they couldn't get through to her, Lee took me aside one day and told me that I'm her mother and that I should make her break-up with the kid! I told him that would only make her more defensive and determined to stay with him. So, since he thought he'd got no where with me, he went to Allie and told her that she had to convince me to make Lauren break-up with the kid. Can you imagine?
Thank you, Nikki, but any composure and eloquence I have is straight from God. Several times this week-end, I've come really close to that breakdown and had to reel myself back in. I have to pick-up Lauren from school at 11:00 after her final and then we're going to the impound because she wants to see her car. I'm really going to need some composure then. I know it's going to be extremely emotional for her and I'll have to pull up my boot straps again so I can be strong for her.
I've also had to hold my tongue because there are a few kids who are giving her a hard time. They're being so mean. Saying things like, "Wow, Lauren, you could have killed them!" And worse. Much worse things. Like she doesn't know that and isn't sick to death over it! Kids can be so mean. And they're being mean to a very tender-hearted, caring little soul. She's always been a mother-hen. When she first started going to school, there was a little boy who didn't bring a snack each day and she cried over it and so what could I do? I sent an extra snack every day for three years. Sometimes extra lunch money. One year he didn't have money for a field trip and it tore her up so bad she couldn't sleep days before the trip. So what could I do? I sent the money. Any time any of these boys break a bone at the track, she's right there at the hospital with them. It seems they can't break one without needing surgery and so there she goes to sit with them and keep them company and take them junk food and video games and magazines and fussing at the nurses when they don't respond quick enough to suit her. Her boyfriend I mentioned above was in a really bad dirtbike wreck right after the two of them had broken-up one time before. The break-up didn't matter to her anymore, she had to be there at the hospital with him. He had multiple and compound fractures in one leg and there was one day when his pain meds wore off and they wouldn't give him anymore because it was too soon. Lauren absolutely went off on his nurse. She asked that nurse, "Are you lying in a bed with screws and metal plates in your leg? No! You're not! So you don't know how painful it is and if he says he needs more pain meds, you're gonna give them to him!" Whew! That's my girl!
When they get home, she's right there, too. Still waiting on them hand and foot. Deciding who can see them. Getting them anything they ask for. Helping their moms with housework and laundry and meals.
Just this past Thursday night, she went out to eat with a bunch of her friends and two girls didn't have money for their meal, so what does Lauren do but tell them she'll buy their dinner even though she knows she won't have any money left over for her own. That's the kind of girl she is and it just eats me up that anyone would suggest that she would intentionally hurt her friends! So, you're right, Kris, I'm very thankful school is almost out. She has to go today for one final and tomorrow for another final and then she doesn't have to go back. School's officially out the 21st. All I can tell her is to focus on those surrounding her, supporting her and loving her, and to ignore the ones who are attacking her. That they deserve her sympathy because something in their lives has made them so bitter and mean and she should just be thankful she's not that way.
Thank you, again, so much for your prayers and support! It's truly invaluable! Every time I've come close to my "break-down", I can feel ya'll lifting me up and my thoughts refocus on the good that's coming out of this horrible situation and I don't dwell so much on the dreaded "what-could-have-beens"! Ya'll are a true God-send!
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
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Alee
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kristin sherrill
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Posted - May 18 2009 : 09:24:37 AM
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Yes you are a good mother. I wish I had all the right things to say. I always wanted to be wise like Mrs. Walton or Laura Ingalls. I will be thinking about ya'll later. And does she know that you told all of us about her? I'd like to send her a card if it's ok. SHe's just been on my mind. She sounds like a great person and it makes me so mad when other kids are mean. My granddaughters all have kids that pick on them and even at church. I just want to slap them. She does have a good attitude, though. She'd make a great preacher's wife. Or nurse or missionary. I'm just glad she and all the others will be ok.
Kris
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Thistle Cove Farm
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Posted - May 18 2009 : 4:13:53 PM
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GREAT JOB! May I suggest an epsom salt bath? It's a great way to make sore muscles feel better and, if you buy the epsom salts with lavender added, will make you sleep like a baby.
Sandra @ Thistle Cove Farm ~ God's blessings on you, yours and the work of your hands & heart ~
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Thistle Cove Farm
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Posted - May 18 2009 : 4:46:25 PM
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Ummm...I was responding to the first post but now see Cherry's daughter was in a horrid car wreck. Thank God for His gracious protection over your daughter. It sounds like she's growing from a wonderful girl to a tremendous woman. Children are thoughtless and therefore mean mouthed; the sad part is they, too often, grown into exactly the same adult.
Your daughter is special, as for the mean mouthed kids...pray coals of kindness on their heads -smile-.
Sandra @ Thistle Cove Farm ~ God's blessings on you, yours and the work of your hands & heart ~
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NikkiBeaumont
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Posted - May 19 2009 : 05:25:06 AM
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I hope Lauren is improving greatly every day. I'm sorry that those other kids are trying to make her feel even worse about what happened. Thankfully, the ones who were involved have completely forgiven her. It was an accident, after all. My prayers are with you all. You will come out stronger!
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CherryMeDarlin
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Cherry
Odenville
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Posted - May 19 2009 : 06:56:14 AM
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All of you are so wonderful! Sandra, your suggestion about the epsom salt bath was right on. Maybe you did misunderstand, but it was needed advice for the time at hand. I put some in Lauren's bath this morning. She didn't have the time to properly soak, but we'll be doing it again later today. Thank you!
Kris, I don't know if we ever have the right things to say all the time. I just pray that she knows my words come from a place of absolute love. And your suggestions of preacher's wife or missionary made be smile so big! Lauren can have a problem with her vocabulary sometimes! But it's the only issue I'm having to work on with her, so for that I'm relieved! In the ER the other night, she was aggravating the doctor, more to take her mind off the potential of a needle being stuck in her head than anything, I think, and every time he touched a spot that hurt while he was examining her, she'd say "frick"! She'd said it a half dozen times when he commented that she must really like that word. She told him she was trying to be respectful and not make her mama mad by not saying the word she REALLY wanted to say!
The doctor, Dr. Kitchens, looked like and sounded like one of the doctors from the show "Grey's Anatomy". Lauren loves that show. She kept aggravating Dr. Kitchens that he was too serious, just like this doctor on the show, and telling him that he didn't have to be so serious and mean because he wasn't the one lying in a hospital bed, about to have a needle stuck in his head. (He really was very serious!) He must have got tickled at her or did feel some sympathy for her 'cause he told her he'd glue her head instead of stitching it. Oh! She adored him at that moment!! Then he went and looked at the CT scan. I didn't say anything about the piece of glass I saw because I thought he'd probably popped it out with all of his poking and prodding on the wound. But nope, he didn't and he came back in just as the glue had set and told her he was going to have to stitch it afterall. Now, this child will pass out at the sight of a needle. It ususally took myself and a nurse to hold her for any shots she's ever had to have, so she was not happy AT ALL! He fell off his pedastal faster than you can blink!
Dr. Kitchens had that needle in there, numbing her head up and she's right back to chanting "frick"! Well, he must have hit a nerve or something 'cause she bowed up and hollared, "That hurt like a b*tch!" And he very calmly, and seriously, said, "My, you've got a foul mouth." Oh, that was the perfect tension-breaker!! For some stupid reason, Brian and I looked at each other with something akin to pride on our faces! How so very inappropriate. Very much along the lines of bad-parenting. But at that moment, I knew she would be okay. That we would be okay.
So I smile at your suggestions, Kris. My little, sailor-mouthed missionary. But you aren't far off with the suggestion of a nurse. She plans to be a physician's assistant. She definitely has a nurturing spirit. And she knows I've talked about it to ya'll. At first she was distressed, saying that she doesn't know you. But when I told her that you've helped me tremendously, she smiled and said she understood. I think a card would be sweet and perfect! Our address is POB 713, Odenville, AL 35120. And how so very much I appreciate you!
So, we did go to the impound and saw her car and the car that hit her. I had really psyched myself up for a heart-wrenching break-down from her. She did get teary-eyed, but was strong. Probably stronger than me and Brian. It really hit us hard, the what-could-have-beens, seeing those cars. We always got the police report yesterday. The 32 yo driver of the other car said he was going 45 mph. (And he was alone, despite what we originally thought.) I'll post the pics and let you decide for yourselves. After talking to Lauren, our insurance company has decided to conduct an investigation. Brian and I talked last night and realized that our summer will be peppered with this accident. So, Nikki, we will need that strength. After yesterday, I feel the sharp-edge of anger piercing through my gratitude. I was watching Lauren last night and was trying to focus on that gratitude. Trying to ignore the anger I'm beginning to feel towards this man. She told us that she had asked him repeatedly at the scene if he was okay, and he would only give her a "mean look". I suppose this anger has been birthed because of the situation in general, at the fear I've felt, at the thought that she could have left us in a split-second and I have given it his face because those things don't have a face. But it is there. Please pray for me that I can stand-up to it and won't misdirect it.
But this is a gardening post, right? After I pick-up Lauren this morning from school, I'm going to "work" in my garden while she naps. While I was washing her hair this morning, she said she thinks her body is catching up to the accident. (I thought that was so...so...wise? Somehow?) Maybe we both can find some healing in these most basic of things.
Much love!
~~Cherry~~
http://cherrymedarlin.blogspot.com
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CherryMeDarlin
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NikkiBeaumont
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Posted - May 19 2009 : 1:20:12 PM
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Oh, wow, Cherry! The horror of the whole accident is all bound up in that photo with the blood on the door! I am so thankful that everyone is okay.
I guess the accident report has everyone's explanation of events. If not, you might want to get Lauren and her friends to write down exactly what happened in their own words. It may not be necessary but then again, it may come in handy. I have a whole layout in my scrapbook devoted to all the cars I've owned, the wrecks I've had and my old driver's licenses (sometimes the photo was pretty good!). Ha!
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Garden Gate: OMG, What Have I Just Gone & Done: Part 2 |
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OMG, What Have I Just Gone & Done: Part 2
