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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl

489 Posts

Jamie
Locust Grove Virginia
USA
489 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  11:49:25 AM  Show Profile
I will forever remember this day. Went to breakfast with the family this morning...Came back home about 10am...got a phone call from Mom about 10:05am. My sister's other half has passed away this morning. They are in Maine, we are in Virginia. Dear Sister is with her other half's family, so that's good. But I am sad and mad and upset that I'm not there with her right now. Deep down, I know she will be ok and we will all recover and move on with life from this devestating loss...but my DS has been delt some rough cards her whole life...And I wish I could take on all of her pain. I know that I can't, never could, and never will. I talked to her this morning and told her....I can't even really remember what exactly I told her. i didn't even know what to say. What do you say to someone who just lost the love of their life? God has a plan I suppose. Things happen for reasons. One day...I'll get it..you know...Why God would take someone from this world that was needed so badly? Why? I pray for my sister. I pray for the family. I pray for peace in the hearts of all this special person touched.

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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl

22937 Posts

Alee
Worland Wy
USA
22937 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  11:55:10 AM  Show Profile  Send Alee a Yahoo! Message
Jamie that is so hard! *hugs* I feel for you and your whole family. There isn't much that we can say, is there, when something like this happens? I am sure your love and support means the most to her right now. Maybe just knowing that you are there to listen is what will help her the most?

Do they know how/why he passed away yet? *hugs*

Alee
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl

1238 Posts

Jami
Ellensburg WA
USA
1238 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  11:59:49 AM  Show Profile
It seems it's hard to find the right words to say during times like this, but just saying "I'm here and caring for you" is saying so much. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister and I hope you two can stay in close contact via phone at least. Sometimes it's hard to have in-person company when you're grieving hard...you kind of want to be alone, but having someone to talk to you on the phone can be very comforting.
Jami in WA

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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl

489 Posts

Jamie
Locust Grove Virginia
USA
489 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  12:13:15 PM  Show Profile
I think that DS's other half had a heart attack....very sudden death. Jodi [the other half] complained of nagging heart burn yesterday, and then this morning...early..she woke up, and died.

Thank you Alee and Jami. And Jami....I think you're right. I'll just make sure to stay close by the phone.

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mellaisbella
True Blue Farmgirl

1862 Posts

melanie
living on Anne of Green Gables land
Canada
1862 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  4:32:38 PM  Show Profile
my thoughts are with you as you try to get through this very sad time.

"we must be the change we wish to see in the world"
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl

489 Posts

Jamie
Locust Grove Virginia
USA
489 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  4:52:30 PM  Show Profile
I appreciate the post. Thank you, it is so hard to sit idle and think of my dear sister in these times. I wish I was with her.

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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl

5216 Posts

Sharon
Bruce Crossing Michigan
USA
5216 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  8:16:05 PM  Show Profile
I am SO SORRY Jamie! PLease know that my prayers are with your sister and Jodi's family as well as with you. What a hard thing to deal with. Sometimes we don't know why the Lord takes those we love but His word says that He has a plan for us and we are to trust in Him. Here is a Bible verse that helps me and encourages me in hard times:

Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.

Feel free to e-mail me anytime if you need someone to listen or if you need to vent.

~Sharon

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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl

2401 Posts

Elaine
Waco Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  8:34:25 PM  Show Profile
Jamie, I'm so sorry. Sometimes things don't make sense at all. I'll keep you, your sister, your family, and Jodi's family and loved ones in my prayers. Peace to you all. (((Hug)))

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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl

4439 Posts

Kay
Vancouver WA
USA
4439 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  11:07:15 PM  Show Profile
Jamie, I am so sorry. It is so hard to be away from family when something like this happens. You just want to be there to take care of them. I'll be praying for you and your sister.



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Mother Hen
True Blue Farmgirl

604 Posts

Cindy
Peck ID
USA
604 Posts

Posted - Feb 28 2009 :  11:12:41 PM  Show Profile
Jamie, I'm praying for healing for your family. Yes, only God knows why. I'm sure your sister knows you are supporting her.
God Bless you all,
Cindy

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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl

489 Posts

Jamie
Locust Grove Virginia
USA
489 Posts

Posted - Mar 03 2009 :  09:10:00 AM  Show Profile
Well, I spoke to my dear sister today. She seems very together given everything that has been put on her plate. I'm so proud of her. I told her that I love her and to call if she needed anything. She said she was sorry for not calling and I immediately told her not to apologize. I knew she was busy, has a lot on her mind, lot of things to plan and it's quite alright; to call me when she can. I feel helpless at times, like a fool for not being there. But then after this morning [even though I want to be there] I know she is going to be ok. She is strong and able to oovercome lifes hurdles...no matter how big they are or how much they hurt. This special person is going to be missed...I look around my house and see a little of Jodi everywhere and fond memories to go along with everything. She had picked out special toys to give to Zach that he still plays with, she and Sharon had bought me special cookware for the kitchen. Jodi gave me a special coffee cup when they were moving to Maine [which I am extremely protective of now]; she and I were coffee addicts of the family! :D And so many more things really. Jodi had a myspace. I have gone there and left her messages...I'm not really sure why though...It's not like I will get a reply to any of them. I think it feels like I'm really talking to her though. I miss her.

Thanks for listening to me. I really appreciate it. I don't know what I would do without MJF.

{{Hugs}} Jamie

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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl

22937 Posts

Alee
Worland Wy
USA
22937 Posts

Posted - Mar 03 2009 :  10:41:16 AM  Show Profile  Send Alee a Yahoo! Message
*hugs Jamie* I think leaving the messages on Myspace is a great idea. When people are specialin our lives it really leaves a void when they leave. I am glad your sister is healing. You are a great sister and she knows how much you care about her. *hugs* How are you doing?

Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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julia hayes
True Blue Farmgirl

1132 Posts

julia
medical lake wa
USA
1132 Posts

Posted - Mar 03 2009 :  6:32:00 PM  Show Profile
Jamie, there are no words....

I am holding you close, your sister and her partner too. I've got my candles lit and my heart is wide open. Sending loving embracing thoughts! With grace and peace, ~julia

being simple to simply be
Farmgirl #30
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl

489 Posts

Jamie
Locust Grove Virginia
USA
489 Posts

Posted - Mar 05 2009 :  7:14:34 PM  Show Profile
Thank you so much for all the support. This is a healing process like none other. I spoke to Sharon this evening. She is still in the stage of semi-disbelief of things. Part of her is still waiting for her other half to walk into the room. Deep down, Sharon's mind tells her that Jodi is gone to be in a better place....Her heart is conflicting. We made plans that I will call her tomorrow night around the same time. I hope she continues to talk as I know this is a way for Sharon to heal.

I'm spending my time remembering all the good and fun times we've had together. I've learned so much from Jodi. I am blessed to have had her in my life and forever in my mind.

Jamie

"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." -- Thomas Edison

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