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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 08:37:39 AM
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Ok, girls, for the past two years I have had to be rather vague with what I told you here on the forum. Most of you know the issue with my stbx and understand that for safety issues I have to control what information about me is available on the internet. This past week, he discovered the major thing I did not want him to know, so now I am free to disclose it to you. I still can't say where I am, but atleast I can be open about my current situation.
Last spring, after surviving a semester of school alone with 4 children and a job, I was frazzled. My parent came and picked my children up for the summer and as fall aproached we all agreed that it would be best if the kids stayed with my parents. It was the hardest decission I ever had to make, I cried for a whole week.
Besides the financial problems we were having and my inability to afford good childcare, I was having a hard time emotionaly. After everything my children have been through, they have some big issues and I just wasn't doing a very good job helping them deal with their trauma. My parents on the otherhand have a stability that I don't and the family and financial resources that allows them to care for the children at home and put them back into a homeschool situation. I am now able to focus on putting myself back together emotionaly and spiritualy so that I can make a life for the children and I eventualy.
Last week, Martin showed up at my parents church durring sunday morning service and discovered that my children are there. He isn't trying to take them (thank God), but does visit. It's been really hard on the kids, especially my oldest George who rememebers the most. Martin is still mentaly ill and will not take medication. he denies all of the horror he put is through and it makes George doubt himself and his memories. Unfortuanely, the state of NC wont do anything to keep him away.
One way or another he was bound to find us sometime and atleast in this situation I know that my babies are safe. Since my parents don't have the fear of him that I do, they are far better equipt to deal with the situation than I would be.
Rather long...I know. It's just that I think of you ladies as dear friends and it has been so hard keeping this from you. It is such a part of my life and effects me in so many ways. I often find myself having to edit my posts to keep it from showing through.
I love you all. Thanks for being here for me through all of this.
What we write today slipped into our souls some other day when we were alone and doing nothing.
-Brenda Ueland
http://quilandneedle.blogspot.com/
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Suzan
True Blue Farmgirl
659 Posts
suzanne
duncannon
pa
USA
659 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 09:23:10 AM
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| Ohh, Corinne, (((hugs))) to you - you know we all are here as much as you need us. I will be thinking of you and the kids and praying for you, hang in there - it sounds like you have very good, loving, supportive parents. |
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K-Falls Farmgirl
Chapter Leader
2096 Posts
Cheryl
Klamath Falls
Oregon
USA
2096 Posts |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
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Nance in France
True Blue Farmgirl
1438 Posts
Nancy
St. Laurent de la Salanque
France
1438 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 09:36:55 AM
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| Corrine, parents are wonderful, aren't they? And who better to take care of the children than two people who certainly love them dearly. Take good care of yourself, little by little, things will be clearer and life will be better. Hugs, Nance |
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
6418 Posts |
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electricdunce
True Blue Farmgirl
2544 Posts
Karin
Belmont
ME
USA
2544 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 10:47:54 AM
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Goodness, you have been through the wars! You have taken very good care of your children and it is wonderful that your parents are there for you, and for them. Life gets so complicated sometimes. Take good care of yourself, that is often hard for a mother to remember, especially when you are in the midst of hard times.
Farmgirl Sister #153
"Give me shelter from the storm" - Bob Dylan
http://moodranch.blogspot.com
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yarnmamma
True Blue Farmgirl
4247 Posts
Linda
Clarks Summit
PA
USA
4247 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 11:21:56 AM
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Corrine, I understand what you are doing.
Thanks so much for opening up to us. You know you are cared about and we will support you with words of encouragement and prayers.
((((((huuuugggggssss Corrine)))))))
Linda in Scranton, PA
farmgirl #71 |
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 11:39:59 AM
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Corrine, it sounds like you've made wise decisions for you and your children in this situation. We are here for you and I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Take care.
(((Hugs)))
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/
An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
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pinkroses
True Blue Farmgirl
2350 Posts
Sheila
Virginia
USA
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 5:23:48 PM
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Corrine. you will be in my thoughts and prayers and the kids, too. It does sound like you have made a wise choice for the kids sakes. Your parents sound wonderful. I have had to take my grandkids in several times, so I know what it's like. They are safe and in good hands with them.
Do what you need to do to get yourself in the place you need to be for you and your kids.
Kris
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. Maori proverb |
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 5:45:31 PM
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Thoughts and prayers are with you, for healing of the trauma you and your children have been through. I hope things get better for you and one day you and your children will be together again in peace.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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createmyworld
True Blue Farmgirl
295 Posts
Beth
Akron
PA
USA
295 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2009 : 10:18:19 PM
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Corrine,
Sending you and your family warm thoughts, hugs and prayers... I'm glad that you have such supportive parents to help you through this tough time.
www.createmyworld.etsy.com
"He who works with his hands is a laborer, he who works with his hands and his head is a craftsman, he who works with his hands, head and heart is an artist." -St. Francis of Asisi |
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
4033 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2009 : 02:27:36 AM
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Corrine, I have wondered how you wre truly faring with all that your life has gone through. Will continue praying for you and your family.
Corrine, you are an amazing mother, who did what was right for her children even though it caused you much pain. That truly is the definition of a good mother, doing the best for her children. You, my dear, are one amazing woman. You have lived through a war, moving, loss of everything you knew as it used to be, made the brave choice of allowing your children to be at your parents, knowing they needed the stability and you need the time to heal. Yes, my friend, you are one amazing woman and we are proud of you.
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2009 : 03:14:41 AM
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I'm just glad you and the kids are ok. I tell you, without the support of family, I'd probably be dead or still very unhappy. Parents are the best
And having been in a similar situation as you, I have NO faith in the juducial system
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2009 : 10:18:35 AM
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Thankyou, girls. Your love honestly brought tears to my eyes. Somedays, I get discoraged, but I know that as a whole life is so much better than what it once was. Atleast now we have hope and a future.
What we write today slipped into our souls some other day when we were alone and doing nothing.
-Brenda Ueland
http://quilandneedle.blogspot.com/
http://musingandmuttering.blogspot.com |
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abbysshadow
True Blue Farmgirl
224 Posts
Sherry
Dayton
Nevada
USA
224 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2009 : 12:27:09 PM
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big hugs, corrine..you've made some very hard decisions..hugs again.......,sherry
...I cannot do all the good that the world needs, but the world needs all the good that I can do... |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2009 : 1:43:43 PM
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Keeping you and your family in my prayers- it has to be so hard and you have risen above and made wise choices for our family. Lean on your Farmgirl Friends- we are here for you!
Lori
Have a Country Day |
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homemom
True Blue Farmgirl
1593 Posts
Ruth
Warwick
RI
USA
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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graciegreeneyes
True Blue Farmgirl
3107 Posts
Amy Grace
Rosalia
WA
USA
3107 Posts |
Posted - Feb 24 2009 : 6:47:58 PM
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Corrine - how wonderful for you and your children that your parents have been able to help out in this way. My parents were there for me when I was a struggling single mom dealing with ex-issues too and it has made all the difference for me and my son. I will be thinking about you, good luck with everything.
Amy Grace
Farmgirl #224
"use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without"
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