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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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 Posted - Jan 02 2009 : 6:12:25 PM
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I finally made the connection as to why it has taken me 5 years of marriage to start working on making my house a home. When I left for the military many moons ago, I sold or donated most of the things in my apartment, leaving 4 bins, some furniture and 6 boxes of "stuff" that I absolutely loved at my Mom's- nicely packed and sealed and awaiting pick up after I got to my first duty station. When I returned 9 months later, all my stuff had been picked through and taken, mostly by my sister and my Mom and whomever else. I was F U R I O U S, as I am super picky about my stuff that I buy, Seriously, I like certain things and put a LOT of thought into buying anything- from socks to skirts to picture frames and dishes. I had clothes that took me 3 months of searching, trying on, discouting, couponing to build the wonderful wardrobe I had. I had this pair of pink hi-heels that I can only say for a gal that didn't wear heels, I was truly in love. I know it is NOT about material items but I had some really treasured items and beautiful things that I worked 2 jobs to get and they were just taken and no good explanation was given. I think I held onto that anger and that reflected by me being almost afraid to decorate or shop because of the fear of that happenning again. I put 2 and 2 together and now I can release that fear and move forward. It is amazing what the power of moving on can do for a gal. : ) I am so excited about decorating my little home for me and my family.
Just wanted to share...maybe someone could use a little insight. 
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Jan 02 2009 : 6:41:44 PM
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Heather- I can totally understand how that would devastate you. My family has always been very respectful of my space and things, and yet I am very particular about my things too. I might was the wrong colors together pretty regularly and dry things that aren't supposed to be dried- but just the thought of other people dealing with my things gives me an anxiety attack. So I am sure that if my things had ever been so blatantly violated- it would give me all sorts of things to have to deal with mentally! *hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl
489 Posts
Jamie
Locust Grove
Virginia
USA
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Posted - Jan 03 2009 : 05:03:20 AM
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OMGoodness!!! I would have really been upset about that! I completely understand....I'm glad you had the epiphany! ~Jamie
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." -- Thomas Edison
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
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Posted - Jan 07 2009 : 11:48:43 AM
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Grrrr!!! I'm like you guys too. I tell everybody all the time "Don't touch my crap!" Even if it really IS CRAP!!! It's still MINE, not anybody else's and I feel they have no right to touch it, take it or (heaven forbid!) THROW it away!!! Not without MY permission!
We women give so much of ourselves, it's only fair that we be a little selfish with certain things in our lives. It's all a matter of R-E-S-P-E-C-T as well, something which your mom and sister obviously lack. I would never DREAM of helping myself to someone else's things -- WITHOUT their permission-- ESPECIALLY not family! And my OWN duaghter? Not even if I HAD one! And you being away serving our Country, PROTECTING OUR FREEDOM? THEIR freedom??!! That's just wrong in SOOOOO many ways.
As far as I'M concerned Heather, you have EVERY right to be angry and hurt over their actions. Giving ourselves permission, and allowing ourselves to go through the emotions, and acknowledging those emotions, is the first step to healing a wounded soul. I'm so glad you were able to give YOURSELF permission to do so so you could get past it and move on. Hugs~~~ Tracy
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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