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Family Matters:  I am just being stubborn?  |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
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 Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 09:56:51 AM
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My husband insists on making business phone calls in the house. We are in a 12X30' travel trailer for the moment, so space is tight on a normal day. He wants the children to be quiet when he makes these calls.That in itself is an insane request if you ask me--they are 1 1/2 and 2. What 1.5 and 2 year old are going to be quiet just because someone is using the phone?!?! I think its ridiculous! He is not 100ft from my parents house, in which is my Dad's business office that he is welcome to go over to anytime- 2/7.
Then, if he does go over there, he leaves his paperwork on the dining table and leaves his laptop open. Does anyone know what toddlers do with an open laptop? Its like moths to a flame..they beeline and rip keys off and paperwork with pens is just asking to get written on. Now, its not that I am unattentive, but I think that its hardly right that among trying to keep the children controlled in such a tight space, that I am expected to watch over his business stuff to!
The poor kids are constantly getting yelled at. They can barely move but what they don't touch something of his and he has fits.
Am I being stubborn to think that if he doesn't want them into his papers/laptop/and phone calls that he is should be the one to take care of them?
I can only babysit two kids not a whole layout!
having a insubordinate feeling day,....lol
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Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl
489 Posts
Jamie
Locust Grove
Virginia
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 10:01:00 AM
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I don't think you're being stubborn...I think you're being very realistic. Children will be children after all!.....
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 11:28:52 AM
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I agree- I would be hardpressed to keep Nora out of Doug's things and Nora has already permanently destroyed 2 keys on this Laptop so I know exactly what you mean. If I were you I would call a meeting and just say that the situation can't continue. *hugs*
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Farmtopia
True Blue Farmgirl
1465 Posts
Zan
New York
New York
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 1:24:28 PM
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Hey Jessie. I agree, to a point. I think though, that it's as simple as placing the laptop and papers somewhere out of reach or in a case, or even tupperware basket with a "lock top"...that way, he CAN leave his stuff there, but in a safer, childproofed place.
The phone issue, though, I think you are right in that he can't expect babies to be quiet while he is on the phone. Heck, sometimes you can't get "grown folks" to act that way, either 
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 1:39:46 PM
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Hey Jessie. Sorry you're having a hard time with your hubby. They just don't understand kids in small places in winter.
When we first got married my husband worked swing shift. When we had the kids, I dreaded 3rd shift. We had a little 2 bedroom square house with no doors on any room. So I always had to keep the kids occupied or leave while he slept. It was awful. Thank goodness he didn't sleep all day. But he sure could be a grouch if he got woke up. So I know what you mean. You just have to compromise a lot.
Good luck with your situation. Sometimes it's best to just get it out in the open before it becomes a big mess.
Kris
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Contrary Wife
True Blue Farmgirl
2164 Posts
Teresa Sue
Tekoa
WA
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 1:44:10 PM
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Go to topic "Men". It says it all.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 3:15:06 PM
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heasing there now teresa :)
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Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
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knittingmom
True Blue Farmgirl
665 Posts
AnneMarie
Edmonton
Alberta
Canada
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Posted - Jan 04 2009 : 12:25:07 PM
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Maybe have a gentle talk with hubby. They sometimes forget that it's nearly impossible for children to be quiet, it's simply not their nature. We live in a small space too and sometimes are on top of each other so I hear where you're coming from. However, it is his responsibility to keep his work things out of reach of little fingers. If your dad has told him that he's welcome to use the office space in your parents house, maybe he should consider trying that out for a while. He'll have the peace he desires, he'll be less stressed and the kids can just be kids.
You're not being insubordinate, you're being realistic.
Good luck.
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Bellepepper
True Blue Farmgirl
1207 Posts
Belle
Coffeyville
KS
USA
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Posted - Jan 04 2009 : 4:39:29 PM
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| How about a 8 X 18 ft travel trailer, 3 kids, winter in Northern NY state? He needs to grow up. After all, you did. If he can go to your parents home to do his business, I don't know what HIS problem is. If I had just one more glass of wine, I could tell you what to tell him. |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
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Posted - Jan 04 2009 : 4:48:28 PM
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LOL...some days Belle, it doesn't take any wine for me. :) my goodness, I am feeling for you! NY state is almost as bad as Washington for their dumb snow. Im originally from Saratoga Springs and I really hate snow. Here in Jersey it isn't as bad, but it still comes down. :P
Hugs & pass the wine! lol
Jessie
Farmgirl Sister #235
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn  hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work You don't give up.
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K-Falls Farmgirl
Chapter Leader
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Cheryl
Klamath Falls
Oregon
USA
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Posted - Jan 04 2009 : 4:56:16 PM
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I am with Belle on this.. He CAn & Should do business at the folks. Pack up his butt & office stuff and have the folks give him a work space....* I have not had any wine....But Come on.. Be real.. Those babies are part of the life..he chose. And they do not understand Shhhhhh!because daddyio is on the phone.. Hold your ground farmgirl!
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Beverley
True Blue Farmgirl
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Beverley
atlanta
Michigan
USA
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Posted - Jan 05 2009 : 6:49:52 PM
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He is the adult and SHOULD be able to see he is asking to much of small children and as for leaving his stuff on the dinning table here again he is the ADULT and needs to clean up after himself!!!
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