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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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 Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 06:34:00 AM
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As all ya'll know, I have been doing some intense therapy to work through my issues with my family. Some of this is on my own but I have been seeing a therapist once a month to clarify things for me. Well, lo and behold and yee haw, I had a HUGE breakthrough that literally has let me finally breath again.
My mother is JEALOUS of me. I do not say this with arrogance but with sudden OH my gosh now I get it. Everything she says to me comes from her own jealousy. She actually hates me for living my life my way and she thinks I do not struggle with motherhood, being a wife, etc...that I have it so easy. HA!! Seriously, this blows my mind but finally put the whole puzzle together for me. I now can come from a place of knowing that I am ok and that I am doing things right and that it is HER personal hang up and whomever else she drags along.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Edited by - catscharm74 on Oct 12 2008 06:57:20 AM |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 06:51:13 AM
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Heather- from the things you have posted about your family, that makes total sense to me! I am glad you are finding a healthier place for you to be and nice strong stand point!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 07:03:32 AM
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Thanks Alee. It has helped me to reach closure on this whole thing, at least for myself. I am able to see that I am what I am, I am NOT a bad person nor do I do things that are bad or wrong, just in someone else's mind or ideas of what I should be doing. I can stop over achieving and sit back and enjoy my life. I used to have that little voice in my head whenever I would do something deemed inappropriate by my mother that went off (inappropriate = breathing the wrong way to her) and now that voice has been turned off. I am now using my time to work through certain hang ups by facing them head on but it is actually getting easier to do now that I can do it for myself. AAAAAHHHHH!! The lightbulb went off....YEEEE HAWWWWW!!!
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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NatureNymph
True Blue Farmgirl
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Tracy
Barrie
Ontario
Canada
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 2:58:13 PM
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I'm happy for you Heather. I may not know your circumstances specifically but I know what it is like having a difficult mother. I have not spoken to my mother for 5 years bec of her treatment towards me. I too have been in therapy on and off because of it.
I am glad you have made such a breakthrough. It's definitely a cause for celebration.
Tracy
"Everybody likes to go their own way--to choose their own time and manner of devotion." Jane Austen, Mansfield Park
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 3:02:08 PM
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Well let's all HAPPY DANCE!! YEE HAW!!!
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 5:35:16 PM
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Good for you, Heather! I bet it does feel good.
Hugs, Kris |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 9:23:21 PM
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Welp, good for you!!
Ain't it grand when it all comes together?? The lightbulb come on and you just go "So, that's WHY..."!
Families...either a curse or the best thing that can happen to you...*sigh*
Winona :-)
When you lose, don't lose the lesson!!
http://goneriding.wordpress.com/
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Suzan
True Blue Farmgirl
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suzanne
duncannon
pa
USA
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Posted - Oct 13 2008 : 08:10:51 AM
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| It is such a great moment when you realize they are the ones with the problem, not you...learned that the hard way too. Good for you, Heather! |
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