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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 3:33:01 PM
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Warning : This is a long rant. Forgive me, it's a little personal, I am not used to venting my problems, and keep it all in .. but I can't take it anymore.
I've had enough. I can feel myself slipping downwards, and I am clawing on the ledge not to slip down. Why? You see, for the last year and a half my husband, Adam, has been chasing the dream of a musician. Ever since he was laid off or let go from his job of 4 years (that he never missed a day of), he decided to take his guitar and start a band with my brother Jason, who is a drummer. They are extremely talented. I was going to sing with them... Well, last summer, we never could find a bass player... so it seemed like things were slipping... Jason joined another band, and Adam and I considered doing an acoustic thing... but I never could get myself to do it ...I did record an acoustic cd, though... that I need to continue to go ahead and put onto cdbaby.com . Sigh. Also, in the mean-time, I went to NY, and sang on a stage that famous people played at, and did a tribute to Stevie Nicks. Well, that didn't quite get me anywhere, but I made the most of it and it's something I will always remember. Meanwhile, I think Adam fell into a slump and he didn't do anything ...... just recorded tons of music ...over and over....and played games and basically 'floated'....
I'm getting older. I want a baby. I want a little land and space that I can breathe and put up a garden , have a few animals, and now I want to pursue being a holistic therapist or a Naturopath or whatever you want to call it. I can't chase it anymore. I'm tired. Music as we used to know it is dead for the most part. You have to KNOW someone that can get you there and (for me anyway) you have to be some slutty thing they can mold you into. I'm 28 1/2 already and while that is still young, it's not getting any younger ... and how long is this going to take?
So I was thinking of going to Vegas to be a Stevie Nicks impersonator. I was getting things together and then - BAM - a bass player answers a year old ad and he actually can play worth a flip and turns into a friend - well, the impersonator thing in Vegas is messed up. How can I do that and mess up what they are doing... Maybe it's from God. Ohhhkay. Then I decide to pull out of the band and pursue classes being a certified herbalist and taking that route and I can put out cd's of my cd to whomever wants them through the net and at Fairs at my table.. I just can't do it anymore. Another reality I am wondering is how much they are really going to make ..
The thing that really is grating is that Adam has not had a job all this time. We were on unemployment and savings all last year. The unemployment ran out back before Christmas and we've been on our savings. This is getting embarrassing. I AM getting embarrassed when people ask what's going on with us. We basically make the payments on this condo through his dad and even though Adam gives a check to his dad every month, his dad has been gracious enough not to cash it. I am not one of those wives who nag like crazy and I understand his want to play music - his brother, Trent, died from Cancer who was an unbelievable guitar player and they would've had a band together - it's not possible so Adam feels like he's carrying on. I also understand where he is coming from. I have wanted to sing successfully ALL my life - I've wanted to do this longer than him. I am the one who encouraged him and believed in him that he could play professionally. But I am also realistic too ... How much more can I take? I also don't want later on in life for him to come back to me and blame it all on me that he didn't keep on ... but what is too much? How much more can I go on living on savings? I want to progress in life and I am trying to do it by going on and being a certified herbalist and reiki healer (and I see others doing that too) ... I ALSO am not going to go out there and get a job to support HIM. I do not do that ..I am NOT going to do that. Over my dead body. I am already trying to take care of myself in a way. If I go and have a job, I just feel like I will become resentful. He knows I also always wanted a family.
Not to mention on top of everything that I still have health problems.. even though I have had reiki healing.. - I need to face it and accept that my hereditary disease (which I have, called Charcot Marie Tooth after 3 drs who found it) is not going to go completely away. I had fibromyalgia and I think I took care of that with the reiki. It still gets in the way. I am also eating erratically again. It's the stress I know. I know how to handle that, this is all just frustrating.
I just don't know what to do. It's building up within me and I don't know what to do. Adam would be an absolutely great teacher, maybe of History ... and I know of a college he can go to. He has this wealth of knowledge and he always talks to people about all the things he knows and he does make it interesting. People listen to him. He could teach quite well. I think he'd be better suited for college teaching. I also found out we are eligible to get the 5 acres and a house from the Rural Development program. But how can you yank him out of his chair...... He is a brilliant... a brilliantly intelligent person. He is a very good person too, and when he had a job, he took care of me, and was VERY responsible, never missed a day and was a very good worker. I don't want to give the impression he isn't.
I just feel like I am headed for a nervous breakdown.
I'm really sorry for this long posting but I need to a place to vent where other women can hear me. I try to be patient, and loving and good, and not complain.... but I can't take anymore. What would you do?
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 4:08:03 PM
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Brooke,
Let me just say this~ It sounds like you and Adam are so gifted and have so many things to be thankful for. The only advice I can give as a 45 year old mom of 4 and wife for 24 years is this... Sit down with Adam and get a plan that works for the both of you and work the plan until the plan doesnt work~ then find a new plan....But do it together~ Support him in who he is and give him the oppertunity to support you in who you are. but in order for it to work~ you guys have got to be honest with yourselves and with each other..........SO find a note pad and a pen and write down all your dreams, your hopes where you see yourself in 2 years, and 5 years and 10 and so on~ Ask Adam to do the same then compare and bridge the two....
Then on a seperate piece of paper write down your fears~ because often times we act on the fears more then the plan~ and it comes back to bite us.. the piece of paper that has your fears on it..... keep it by your bed.... and when the confusion starts check to see if your are reacting out of fear~
I was confronted with a question a few days ago that has haunted me.. and matter of fact I will start a whole thread on it because it is an awesome questions~ but here it is specially for you... "what would you do differently today if you were just Brave enough?"
I am sending you positive thoughts and hugs~ I had a lady one time when I was young tell me "remember this darlin' there is life after...... after all this... there is still life................ and she was right!
Do you have a website where we can hear you guys???? I would so love that!
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl #185
"Despite the gardener's best intentions, Nature will improvise. ~Michael P. Garafalo
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 4:09:03 PM
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Brooke- It sounds like a hard position for you both. Have you spoken to him about it recently?
I am not in the music industry, but it seems that most of the discovering/playing happens at night? Couldn't he go get a job during the day and play at night? Also, I know you said you are taking classes along the Naturopath, are those 8 hour a day things? Could you find a part time job to help out?
I don't think getting a job is giving up for either of you, just think of it as moving towards the goal. People enter and exit the work force all the time, so if you needed some extra money now perhaps a job would fit the bill and then you could be working towards your dreams? Perhaps just as you get back on your feet the music dream will pull through for you both?
I hope you two find the path that your lives need to take. *hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
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elphie0503
True Blue Farmgirl
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Samantha
Gilmer
Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 4:16:03 PM
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Brooke,
You know what you want--and you are at the age where you should want those kinds of things...motherhood, becoming home owners etc...does Adam know that this is the path that your dreams are paving? You need to tell him honestly what you see for the two of you; not that you have failed at your combined dreams, but are blossoming more. Once you have laid it out on the table for him, then go from there. Worrying yourself is going to drive you insane!!!!
And you know, if you need us farmgirls then you can always holler!!!
Samantha
www.elphie0503.blogspot.com
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort~~Albright
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 4:19:01 PM
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Rene, thank you... that was very encouraging and I am going to try and sit down and do that ....
well, my music page is on my signature.. the brooke alyson myspace. :) That will lead to Adam's as well as Jason's music.
Alee - the problem is ..all this time he _won't_ get a job and I don't think it's giving up either.. so I am pulling my hair..
I can do pretty good after the herbalist classes here for myself...
and I actually have been doing jobs here and there... I just don't feel he should depend on me financially.... I guess I am somewhat of an old-fashioned type girl.
But thank you both for listening to me... it was a little therapeudic to get this stress off my chest.........
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LivingWell4You
True Blue Farmgirl
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Karen
Hillsboro
MO
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 4:23:40 PM
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Brooke - Here is my perspective from 52 years of living and 13 years of marriage:
Read what Rene wrote and then read it again and again until you're ready to act on it. I'm a big believer of pros-and-cons lists. Make a list of options, then write a list of pros and cons for each one. I've done this on all major decisions and it helps settle all that stuff in my head by getting it on paper. After the list is done and I've prayed over it, I go with my gut. It's been right so far. Most importantly, do this together like Rene said. It will help you understand what each other is going through.
The only thing I would add is getting some counseling. It sounds like Adam took it personally when he lost his job and just isn't willing to put himself out there again. Whether you go together or separately, a counselor can really help you think through things and give you perspective.
You and Adam will definitely be in my prayers every day. Keep us posted and thank you so much for trusting us with your situation. This is an amazing group of women as I'm finding out more day by day.
God bless -
Karen
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 5:22:26 PM
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Brooke- Rene posted while I was trying to put my feelings down in words. She did a much better job! I agree! Also sometimes I know from experience that we expect our loved ones to act in a certain manner or just "get" certain things. Like Rene mentioned- working together on a plan is the first and biggest step in my mind. Perhaps he just doesn't "get" how hard these struggles are on you?
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 8:15:33 PM
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Brooke:
Austin, Texas, has a big musical draw. Tennessee is a musicians haven. I have two music degrees, but they are classical degrees. I didn't check out your page, but I will. If you and your husband want to be in bands and sing, I'd go to Austin, TX or Tennessee. Maybe a move would be good for both of you. You could both get a part time job. I hope things get better for all of you. My prayers will be with you.
Marly |
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 8:21:15 PM
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Brooke,
I took some time this evening and listened to your music and Adams etc.. You guys are very, very talented.. I think it comes down to really being focused on 1) communicating with one another openly and honestly 2) getting a plan that will work for both of you.....
And to the other farmgirls, we can download Brookes music at her myspace... Only 1.50 per song :)...
I am glad you are feeling better Brooke~ it is why we are all sisters so we dont have to go it alone!
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl #185
"Despite the gardener's best intentions, Nature will improvise. ~Michael P. Garafalo
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 10:07:33 PM
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it's a dollar fifty?? I thought I had it on 79 cents... is there a catch and I didn't know it?? lol.
Actually, if you want the real cd in your hands, you can get it from me for 10 bucks plus 2 dollars shipping. It's going to be on www.cdbaby.com soon. :)
Ah! I do know about Austin. You're right, we've thought about that. We talked alot tonight and I feel better about things. I guess I get things all pent up and don't talk about them because I don't want to sound complaining or nagging, but then it ends up being built up .. and kinda "explodes"... which, of course, isn't good ... and I now find out his dad is seriously going to have him work for him so I am feeling better. I apoligize for airing out my laundry here but it was therapeudic.
I also started looking for gigs for them and it seems there might be some. I just got frustrated. I feel slightly embarrassed _now_ for writing such a long post about it all but thank you all for your hugs from afar and kind words.... it's helped alot.
http://maggie.ecrater.com
http://maggiemerch.blogspot.com
http://www.myspace.com/hh_reiki
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
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Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 10:16:43 PM
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Karen, Thank you so much for keeping us in your prayers... I am a great believer in it. Sometimes it's just hard and I get worked up but I need to remember to do so. The first thing I said when Adam was laid off is that "God will take care of us.." I know he will. I just got to keep on holding onto that. Thank you all for lifting me up. It is so appreciated. It might sound silly but the MJ forum has been more of a good thing than I ever dreamed! lol
http://maggie.ecrater.com
http://maggiemerch.blogspot.com
http://www.myspace.com/hh_reiki
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2008 : 10:25:50 PM
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Brooke-
Don't feel bad or embarrassed about it! Sometimes we get so pushed into a corner by circumstance and life that we don't always see the way out. I know it really helps me to talk it out with friends!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl
489 Posts
Jamie
Locust Grove
Virginia
USA
489 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 02:18:25 AM
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I've been reading all this....and I hope everything will be looking up for you Brooke!! {{{hugs}}}
I agree with Alee...This is the one place I would NEVER feel embarassed to post anything like this. This is really the only place I would!! We are women, we understand each other on a different level more than anyone else would in times of distress.
You are in my thoughts and prayers Brooke.
Jamie
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." -- Thomas Edison |
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LivingWell4You
True Blue Farmgirl
1411 Posts
Karen
Hillsboro
MO
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 04:53:36 AM
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Brooke, you were on my mind first thing this morning. I had a couple of other "words of wisdom" to send you but it looks like you are doing just fine. MJs website has been a healing place for many of it so your feelings aren't silly at all. Check out deeredawn's post at http://www.maryjanesfarm.org/snitz/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=22967 (here's the thread in case the link doesn't work - General Chat Forum / Across the Fence / What I have learned from MaryJane!!!!). I hoping to finally have some time today to get some posts out there.
There are so many of us that have found a home here. I'm one of them. It's flipped my world upside down but in a very, very good way. You said "God will take care of us" - this is just one way He's answering that prayer. Love you, girl!
God bless -
Karen
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 05:57:44 AM
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| Brooke, I just found this thread this morning and I don't really have anything to add to the kind advice from everyone else. But I just wanted to say that I've been in much the same situation as you: I learned to play bass in order to supply that missing link so my husband could have a band, I put my own career plans on hold to help him pursue his, I wish he would go out and get a real job now so we could have a family, etc. I know exactly where you are coming from on all those points! I'm glad to hear that you talked it over and that he's going to have some work soon. |
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frannie
True Blue Farmgirl
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fran
bonham
texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 11:06:34 AM
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dear brooke,
first, let me say you have already received lots of great advice here.
but i wanted to add that i am thinking of you and hoping for the best.
my husband and i have connections to the music industry and let me say it has always been difficult for folks to break in and now more than ever. the music industry is very difficult for independents as it is just a big corporation thing...BUT...i think the public is always ready to support good music that doesnt sound formulated.
if music is your dream and passion it can be quite difficult to quiet that voice.
i was in the bluegrass world, before oh brother! and was around to see the rise of the dixie chicks, and was actually friends with the gal who actually started the dixie chicks.
i think originally they were a true grass roots band that created their own way. there are folks who have always down the independent thing and you could check out how they did that.
my observations about the music world is that plenty of folks are extrememly talented but dont get "discovered".
well, by observing the dixie chicks i realized that they werent waiting to be discovered, they had a plan on that as well, which they revised and kept at. they were active in promoting themselves, they had sign up sheets at every gig, and a newsletter(before the days of the webistes).
they originally had more non paying gigs than paying gigs....and sorry to say, they had "day jobs" for a long time before the quit those.
i am sure you know all of this, but ....okay, i think i am blathering now....
these are the concrete things i think we could help with here.
my dh writes pieces and reviews cds for BUDDY magazine, the original texas music magazine, and has for 25-30 years now. the musicians have to have some kind of connection to texas (even if sometimes it just means they have passed through texas!) but in general they like to showcase texas musicians. i am sure he would be willing to review the cd for yall and get you some"ink" as he calls it.
from there who knows he might be able to do a cover on independent new groups and what that is like for young folks in the world of corporate music america. he also has a buddy in nashville who produces his own folks and is a singer songwriter, his name is gary nicholson, google him. they have been buddies since high school. dh might be able to send the cd to gary or point him in your direction.
anyway, i cant speak for country, my dh but i do know i can say that he will review the cd and write up a review, he is always good for that. but writing is his muse and training and he has a day job, so i dont interfere with his muse.
if you want to pursue any of this please email me and let me know.
also brooke, at 57 let me just say. i do think you have become fearful lately, which happens to all of us, but yall are young and life isnt passing you by. i think your husband is lucky he has someone in his life that cares and hasnt given up, the voice of reason, but you cant do it all, and it sounds like with yalls talk that he is gonna step up and participate more. that is good, i think your fear level will go down when you have someone to share the "work" and worry with.
i am glad you posted this thread, because we all have these worries and moments in our life, and when one of the farmgirls fesses up that life isnt all aprons and pincushions it gives us all a chance to be more open and vent with one another.
i am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hoping that when the fear decreases that it will be replaced with a clearer focus on a plan.
at least that is what i have experienced.
fear is a _____, rhymes with witch.
and i have learned the hard way that fear just gets in the way and stalls your dreams.
i am pulling for you and your dreams, which all sound wonderful.
here are the words of wisdom from grandpa freddie b, (my dad)
you may be a bubble off plumb(carpenter talk for just a tad different)
BUT the world needs more folks like you.
love and hugs, from a north texas farmgirl.
love
frannie in texas
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 12:06:52 PM
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Dear Frannie, this means so much to me. I know I've been saying that to these girls, but you girls are somethin' else... Putting me back on track ... I appreciate you (and all of you) taking the time out to write a long post with advice, suggestions, help and encouragement. Today is a much better day and even though I felt embarrassed after writing it, it does make me feel alot better...
and Frannie, if you and your husband can do that, I would really love to pursue it. It actualyl brings tears to my eyes and I appreciate that you would mention it. I guess I have become fearful and for me (not talking about my husband), it becomes tiring after years and years of trying to find a way to 'get there' and I have been trying since I was a kid. It gets confusing when I have countless people tell me how good I sound but then I get nowhere! But I don't mean to complain here... I love bluegrass. You're right about the dixie chicks... I think they need to 'get back' myself... I know they are very talented. Well, I'd be thrilled if your dh could send his buddy a cd. That would be a great help, but even so, just a review would be wonderful and very appreciated. I did look up his buddy's name and wow, he definitely has a resume. lol. He's written for some of my favourites. Ah, hush, I appreciate your blathering. And thank you, too, for your prayers. I'll send you an email.
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http://maggiemerch.blogspot.com
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
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Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
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frannie
True Blue Farmgirl
2246 Posts
fran
bonham
texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 12:28:44 PM
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dear brooke, i certainly understand about the singing thang, but i must admit, i have never been driven to perform.
i actually used to have performance anxiety. i have been a singer all my life and actually started performing at about 6. but as i say i never have really had the performance bug, it is all about the beauty of the music and the words, and message, and i only took up performing again in my late 30s early 40s and by then i knew i wasnt heading for nashville or anything.
but i think if you reread your post you will see that you do want to perform and have since you were a young child. i think you should trust yourself and your talent and put your all into it, even if you and dh get part time day jobs to support your art, then you will know you have tried.
there is always a way to work music into your life if you love it, but first try to make it your livelihood too, if that is what you want, i just never wanted that.
as a non professional singer i have sung in front of 4,000 and on the radio and tv. i have sung for a group that was fewer in number than the band! i have been upstaged by bulls at a fundraiser in texas. (he picked MY solo to finally take a dump on the winning number in the sand lot) talk about loosing a crowd!
i have been backed up by award winning musicians and shared the promo with grammy winning artist...."appearing tonite, the dixie chicks and other bands" yes that would be me, the other band!
i have been recorded by willie and played on his radio station.....in costa rica!
and i have entertained the troops from the viet nam era to the gulf war,,,, they are the greatest audiences, and can be the most honest.
....and as my music mentor lonnie craft once told me,,,, if i put all the money i have made in music together i might get to treat ya all to a good cup of coffee. this from a man who has written over 200 songs and has recordings at the smithsonian, and was in the first bluegrass band that won first place at the first bill monroe bluegrass festival .
so i say, what have ya got to loose, you could make your dreams come true and if ya dont, what a ride. dont give up till your ready to and they can never take the music away from you, it belongs to you and the ONE that blessed you with it, you are in charge of how you share it with the world.
much love to you brooke.
love
frannie in texas
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2008 : 8:53:40 PM
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Brooke:
Never feel embarrassed when you are asking the farmgirls for advice or if you need to vent. I've been here for about two months, and the sisterhood we all share is beyond belief to me. How awesome for us to maybe give you a bit of wisdom or just listen to you. Any time you are feeling down, share with us. We will be here for you or for anyone. Take care. Keep us posted.
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elphie0503
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Samantha
Gilmer
Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 07:47:53 AM
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Brooke~
Are you feeling better?? I went to your music page, and lemme say, you are channeling Stevie like nobody's business!!!! I love As the Raven Flies...so good!
Hope that everything works out for you.
Samantha
www.elphie0503.blogspot.com
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort~~Albright
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Contrary Wife
True Blue Farmgirl
2164 Posts
Teresa Sue
Tekoa
WA
USA
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Posted - Aug 16 2008 : 07:59:46 AM
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Brooke, I couldn't give you any better advice than what you have already re'cd, so I'll just say you're in my thoughts and prayers and trust your gut. The gut is alway right. Good luck.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
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scurran
Farmgirl in Training
22 Posts
Sara
St. Louis
Missouri
USA
22 Posts |
Posted - Sep 04 2008 : 9:48:43 PM
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Hi Brooke. I know this is a bit old but it touched me. My husband has been a professional musician in St. Louis for 14 years. He plays music full time and teaches guitar from our house. He has been very successful at it being that he's worked his way into being a respected musician. But it certainly can be difficult. Things change, gigs get cancelled and there is certainly no constant. But it is what he loves. And I fully support that because I know it is what he has to do not just what he wants to do. It can be difficult but I've always said I'd rather be happy than be a millionaire. It makes us so much more creative!
That being said, there certainly are hard times and one way he helps to supplement the cancelled gigs or slow winters is by teaching lessons. Your husband sounds very good and might want to look it to it. It's a way to do what he loves AND get paid for it. My husband loves doing lessons. And the money certainly isn't bad considering he doesn't even commute! Living in a large city like Houston, he's sure to be successful. And it's steady income.
On the flip side, I do have a regular day job. But he supported himself like this for 8 years before I came along.
And heck, you are wonderful, too. So much talent in one house is amazing! :)
Many good thoughts to you and just know that there are others who have been where you are. You are not alone and as another said...as long as you do it together, that's all that matters. Support eachother and listen to eachother. Being eachother's biggest fan goes a long way...in your career, your marriage and your life!
Best to you!
Sara
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