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Family Matters:  Update on the inlaws/stepdaughter thing...  |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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 Posted - Aug 01 2008 : 10:42:52 PM
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*sigh* It is just the same ol', same ol' after all. His daughter and I had the big talk and I kind of felt like I should keep my eyes open at least for a while to make sure she held up her end of the deal. It didn't take but until the next visit (about 2 weeks give or take) for the undercurrent to come back with her. So instead of sitting at the kitchen table (with hubby there) I said I was going to sit in the pickup with the dogs. My excuse was that it was hot out and I needed to run the engine to keep them cool. It was really a polite way to get out of the freakin' house!!
So after we left I told hubby why I did what I did.
Then just last week we were home and all of us decided to go out to eat. His daughter wouldn't look at me and the one time I caught her eye, she rolled her eyes at me. That was it for me. So I ignored her from then on. The next nite we went out to eat again and this time I made it plain "I'm ignoring you". The strange part was Hubby said he'd noticed it and she's even getting snarky with him so NOW he's going to have a big talk with her during our vaction this month. I told him that was it, I've REALLY had it this time and the chips can fall where they may.
Kind of frosts me a bit...I complain for who knows how long about how they treat me and it's semi-fine with him but once she does it to him, OMG, he has to fix it soonest!
Other than that, tho, I have a very good life and a great hubby. He's just getting a real wake-up call about his family (apparentlyy (sp?) not one of his ex's have ever said anything...) and I think he's even wondering if they had something to do with his ex's leaving (by ex's, I mean wives and girlfriends). I'm sure some of this sounds familiar to him but I'm not pushing that issue. He's hurting enough as it is!
So there is stands for the time being... I don't 'get' my inlaws but I can't fix it so am just ignoring it for the time being.
Winona 
When you lose, don't lose the lesson!!
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chickabella
True Blue Farmgirl
177 Posts
D. A.
Austin... ish,
Texas
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Posted - Aug 02 2008 : 06:18:02 AM
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Good luck, and best possible outcome to you all *hug*.
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 06 2008 : 6:12:28 PM
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Winona:
As I've said before, I went through that. I am so glad it is in the past. The least said is the best said, remember that. Try not to put yourself in a situation where you can be ignored, spoke to harshly, confronted, etc... Put your chin up, love yourself, and pray. Keep me posted.
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
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Posted - Aug 06 2008 : 7:34:04 PM
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So sorry you are having such trouble with your family Winona. I don't have any "Step" children, but in-laws can be just as much of a pain! Though, I have to say that I am truly blessed in that department. God could not have chosen a better family for me to have become a part of-- though that's not to say we don't have "issues" come up every now and then.
A few years back, in fact, my mother-in-law had made me SO MAD I litterally threatened to throw her out the second story window of our house (actaully, it's HER house, which we take care of along with the 22+ acre ranch that is sits on). She thought I was kidding, I said those words in such a calm voice, but I made it VERY clear to her that I was not. In that situation, she WAS being very bossy and pushy (which she can do often!) and she had pushed my last button! I tell ya, I was hangin' on by a THREAD! Lucky for her, she backed off. It's not often the two of us have a tiff, but we both get over those rare moments quickly and soon enough we are hugging and making up. I couldn't imagine having ANOTHER side of my family that is always at each other's throats. MY OWN was BAD ENOUGH!!!!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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keeperofthehome
True Blue Farmgirl
154 Posts
Suzanne
Atlanta
Georgia
USA
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Posted - Aug 08 2008 : 1:23:58 PM
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I have a spawned from the devil 12 year old stepdaughter myveryownself. She is a liar and a manipulator. My husband will see some of it, but he spends very little time with her (she lives in AZ we're in GA) that he kind of let's it all go. He tells me just to get over it and let it go and maybe she'll change in time. I let most of it go because I realize who she is and how is her heart.
Blessings!
~Farrah
www.homesteadblogger.com/keeperofthehome/
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simplyflowers
True Blue Farmgirl
489 Posts
Jamie
Locust Grove
Virginia
USA
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Posted - Aug 11 2008 : 05:36:51 AM
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Oh boy this all sounds so familiar.
This weekend was one with the 10 yr old step-son. He isn't manipulative persay...however, he is a smart butt little boy who never!! does what he is told. I seriously have to step back and realize what needs to be done in these situations...I really need to talk to my husband about some concerns I have. If this boy doen't listen to the little things we tell him now....what's to say he will listen about the big things later on in his teen years...
Jamie
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." -- Thomas Edison |
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Update on the inlaws/stepdaughter thing...
