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Across the Fence:  WHAT ONE FEAR ...  |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
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Tammy Claxton
True Blue Farmgirl
1559 Posts
Tammy
Glen Burnie
Maryland
USA
1559 Posts |
 Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 4:27:32 PM
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My fear that everyone is judging me because of my weight. I know it sounds silly, but being a plus size gal makes me very self concious and I hate it. I've tried every diet on earth, but I am destined to be a plus size gal! I just felllike everyone sees my weight and not the real me - what's inside.
Crafty Bay Farmgirl Chapter
"What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger"
Farmgirl #152
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 5:47:39 PM
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My fear is really a deep seeded issue from childhood I am slowly conquering. I was told I would never amount to anything, that I was stupid and that I am downright crazy and irrational and sometimes, that holds me back from life. Then, when I am brave and jump, I start the self doubting right away. I am learning to deal with it, but it gets almost paralyzing somedays but I know I will be alright. It is the one thing that operates all my other fears and if I can control it or deal with it, I can move through life much happier.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
FARMGIRL #90 |
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homemakerkate
True Blue Farmgirl
143 Posts
Kate
Ewen
Michigan
USA
143 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 6:22:28 PM
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| I have a fear of losing everything, my home, my family. I know that this comes from nearly having my life completely destroyed by a bad guy. One thing I have learned is that there are no guarentees in life and it can change drastically in a second. I am having some difficulty still with being ok with that. I dont like waiting for the other shoe to drop or the rug to be pulled out from under me...but I would say I am getting better about it. I worry less then I used to. I have a tendency to build these invisable walls around my life...I want to trust, but well lets just say I am a work in process. |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 9:40:26 PM
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fear of water/boats/bridges
I tried to get over it when I first married my husband by trying to ride in an 18 ft. Boston Whaler in the Bay..but..I started hyperventilating and white knuckling..it took me about 4 hrs to calm down after that.
I then tried to get into a kayak after that and the kayak didn't even leave the very shallow water by the shore before I hit panic mode.
So yeah..somedays I think it would be nice to overcome that and also learn how to swim..but when you nearly drown at age 9 from going under about 3 times before anyone sees you..it really does something to you.
At nearly age 40 I honestly don't think I'll ever overcome this particular thing unless a real miracle takes place.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~
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Prairie Princess
True Blue Farmgirl
1075 Posts
Jodi
Washington
USA
1075 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 9:58:20 PM
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Mm, a couple fears...and one is right up there with Heather's, and one with yours, Frannie.
The first is the fear of being like my mother...she's bi-polar and big into mood swings and guilt trips and crazy episodes. Growing up was interesting to say the least. I fear that every time I act on an emotion I have, that I'm being like her. So basically overcoming that to the point I can be myself emotionally, without the constant worry that I'm being OVER emotional or psycho.
The second fear is that I may loose someone so near and dear to me. Life would be unbearable if that were to happen.
But ya can't live in fear, it really holds you back.
~Jodi
"Women are like teabags...you never know how strong they are until they get into hot water." Eleanor Roosevelt |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 10:27:51 PM
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I know I am really "different" but I don't really think I am afraid of much..except snakes and I have no desire to get over that. I am happy to live and die and never deal with those icky things.
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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DaisyFarm
True Blue Farmgirl
1646 Posts
Diane
Victoria
BC
Canada
1646 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2008 : 10:34:27 PM
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Aunt Jenny your post made me laugh...I have no desire to get over my fear of snakes either!
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 05:09:55 AM
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Speaking in front of people, and I have to do it all the time. You would think by now that I would have gotten over that one by now, but no, I still get a nervous stomach and break out in a sweat.
Other than that, I'm with Jenny- snakes, and like her, I have no intention of changing. I have a very healthy respect for them, but don't come near me with one.
Karin
Farmgirl Sister
# 18 :)
Wherever you go, there you are.
www.madrekarin.blogspot.com
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sweetproserpina
True Blue Farmgirl
535 Posts
meg
Vinemount
Ontario
Canada
535 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 10:58:20 AM
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Driving
Honestly, it's got to be a phobia or something with me. Logically in my mind I know I can do it, and that everything's fine. I have done it, and done just fine. But I still freak out about it nonetheless. I get panicky and lose all sense.
I'm trying to practice on the riding mower, and wouldn't you know it, I ran over a little tree this morning. *shakes head* but at least my reversing is getting better. :)
"Isn't it splendid to think of all the things there are to find out about? It just makes me feel glad to be alive--it's such an interesting world."
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
2099 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 12:07:22 PM
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I have a bit of a phobia about driving, but I've gotten pretty good at it. Driving a big old car from the 70s, with all it's quirks, has made me much more confident. I was a nervous wreck for years after getting my license, though.
My two big fears are: cancer, and something happening to my husband. I swear, every time he's late coming home I start imagining his funeral. |
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one_dog_per_acre
True Blue Farmgirl
1572 Posts
Trish
Sandpoint
ID
USA
1572 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 3:06:36 PM
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Snakes, I'm always on the look out.
Trish
Farmgirl Sister #91
Make cupcakes not war!
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 5:31:26 PM
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Losing, my husband my daughter or my grandchildren. I honestly don't think I could take that again.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Sitnalta
True Blue Farmgirl
4208 Posts
Jessica
NJ
USA
4208 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 8:49:40 PM
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hmmm..so I guess that leaves me to be the one with the "baby" fear...I would love to not be afraid...(gasp...darest I say it?!?!)...the dark. I hate it with a passion and will do everything I can to avoid its presence.
Really gets on hubby's nerves, but my daughter has found an empathetic ally!
Farmgirl Sister #235
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Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said.
The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug. -- Mark Twain |
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shepherdgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1008 Posts
Tracy
California
USA
1008 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2008 : 10:32:10 PM
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Honestly, I really don't think I'm afraid of anything anymore. I used to have all kinds of weird, quirky fears, but I read in the Bible that "Fear is not of God, but of the enemy.." and so I have systematically conquered all my fears.
Life is good when there is no fear, although I DO hear it knocking on my door now and again, but I just refuse to OPEN IT!! I go through life now like Kathy Bates' character, "Evelyn," did tword the end of the movie "Fried Green Tomatoes" --- "TAWANDA!!!!"
(I am WOMAN! HEAR ME ROAR!!) ~~Tracy~~
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
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country lawyer
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
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Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 03:41:15 AM
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| One biggie. s~s~s~s~s~s~s~s~~~ S~N~A~K~E~S ~~~and I do wish I could be less fearful of them...it interferes with some things I want to do. |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
5602 Posts |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 05:42:34 AM
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for all you SNAKE-LOVERS!! (NOT!!!!!!!!!)
From a friend in west Texas:
I always heard my Dad talk about the Blue Indigo Snakes (Black Racers or Cow Suckers here in KY) he used to know while ranching in the Brackettville/Spofford area before moving to the present ranch in about 1932. He always said, no one bothered them, because they killed and ate rattlesnakes. Of course I thought it was a tall tale, because I never saw one on the present ranch. But while working for the King Ranch down in deep South Texas, I saw several of these snakes. They were big, long and the color of Indigo or Blueing they use to use in dying clothes. Never saw one eat a rattler, but I guess the truth does come out now and then. Enjoy the attached photos. Send to all your friends in South Texas and those who hunt down that way to let them know there are good snakes out there.
NOTICE THE 'RATTLER' AT THE END OF THE TAIL!!
this oughta' give ya' the heebie-jeebies!
True Friends * Frannie
adopt a 'rag-chile'
http://sistermercysfoundlinhome.blogspot.com
treasures .. new and olde .. http://mudpiemanormercantile.blogspot.com
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moxieblossom
True Blue Farmgirl
121 Posts
USA
121 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 05:49:43 AM
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My first thought was "spiders", because I'm deathly afraid of them. But, I'm going to go a bit deeper than that.
I'd like to conquer my fear of people judging me based on my size or looks. Family and friends have told me that I have absolutely nothing to worry about, and that anybody who DOES judge me without knowing me personally doesn't matter... but it's still at times an almost paralyzing fear. Do I go into this store knowing that I can't wear the clothes but they have cute accessories? Will I be looked down upon by employees? Will the other customers be snickering behind my back? It really seems silly writing about it now, but I've had panic attacks because of this before.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
Farmgirl Sister #242
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Shi-anne
True Blue Farmgirl
596 Posts
Cheryl
Ada
OK
USA
596 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 06:36:07 AM
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I don't have any big "fears" ~ well none that hang on and leave me trying to remember to breathe.
I do have annoying thoughts that flash through my mind. Kind of the "what if" thing going on. Like what if a big truck pulls over in my lane? ~ type of thing. I usually, see this for what it is and who it is from. Then the verse, "No weapon formed against you shall prosper," comes to mind. It helps. And for those of you who worry about others judging you for whatever reason, the second part of that verse says, "and every tongue that rises in judgement, Thou shall condemn." When I have a flash of fear concerning one of my kids or dh, I usually see that as a reminder I need to be praying for them.
Farmgirls don't have hot flashes ~ They have power surges! |
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Shi-anne
True Blue Farmgirl
596 Posts
Cheryl
Ada
OK
USA
596 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 06:37:17 AM
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BTW, Frannie, I liked the snake pictures! That was pretty cool.
Farmgirls don't have hot flashes ~ They have power surges! |
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
1277 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 08:16:53 AM
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The constant challenge of financial security. I'm pretty much content with what we have, I'm just always afraid of 'the big one' crashing down and wiping us out. We aren't rich, we have a very little bit set aside, but any major catastrophe would put us in a tail spin.
from the hearts of paradise... |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 09:21:27 AM
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gurlfrenz .. always remember that 'buying into your 'fears' that someone is judging you because of how you look .. can be controlled by YOU! what others think of our size, shape, color or clothing, hairstyle, etc. etc. is THEIR BELIEF .. and therefore .. THEIR PROBLEM! do NOT buy into it .. or you give them the victory .. and besides .. i firmly believe that most of those fears are totally unfounded. the few that may 'judge' you that way .. well .. that says a lot more 'negative' about THEM than it does YOU!
you are PERFECT the way you are!!!
True Friends * Frannie
adopt a 'rag-chile'
http://sistermercysfoundlinhome.blogspot.com
treasures .. new and olde .. http://mudpiemanormercantile.blogspot.com
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 09:23:42 AM
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cheryl .. i liked the snake pics too. now this is NOT to say that i won't leap higher than a 'kangaroo on crack' if a snake gets too near me or surprizes me .. and mostly cuz' i don't know the difference between poison and not poison .. and i surely am NOT going to stand there long enough to measure the shape of the head to find out! but .. if there is enough distance tween me and IT .. it does not scare me. i haven't seen JAKE THE SNAKE this year so far .. but i'm sure he is livin' under the porch with all his kith and kin .. i am just 'usually' careful where i walk and put my hands in the garden!
True Friends * Frannie
adopt a 'rag-chile'
http://sistermercysfoundlinhome.blogspot.com
treasures .. new and olde .. http://mudpiemanormercantile.blogspot.com
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Moonsanity
True Blue Farmgirl
107 Posts
Brenda
Michigan
USA
107 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2008 : 09:55:39 AM
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My fear that my writing is not good enough to be published. I've been published in magazines, but I got burned a couple of times on "almost book deals", and so I have this fear that I stink at it. LOL I've been writing since I was 20 years old, and I'm 48, I think it's time to get over this fear.
I hate big spiders, deep water and heights but it's not crippling so I don't worry about it.
~Brenda, Farmgirl Sister #207
http://grace-whimsy.blogspot.com/
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